FabSwingers.com forum: 6 weeks in and in need of tips

By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

So... enjoying my time on fab but thought about leaving as 1 out of maybe 50 women reply, bringing me onto my question. Do any of you Ladies have any tips and maybe point me in the right direction? I've always been polite and not just sent a dick pic as I'd imagine this must get pretty dull after awhile. Maybe change my pics? Any advice would would be gratefully received. Many thanks to whoever answers. Here's hoping. Andy

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Nothing wrong with your profile maybe add a bit more to the text, but the pictures are good.

With the lockdown, chances of meeting will have gone down dramatically since March. But the clubs, hotel meets and socials are starting to appear on the site again, so just give it time.

Good luck Op

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hi Andy,

I think one in fifty is pretty good but it does make me wonder how many messages you're sending. Do you really fit with what hundreds of women are looking for?

Maybe concentrate on the profiles you're compatible with.

There isn't a magic formula that guarantees a response, it really is down to sheer weight of numbers of men compared to women.

It does help a bit to join in the forum in a positive and friendly way too but there are no guarantees.

Good luck

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

It's maybe not your profile at all, it's more exposure (no,not naked)

Get yourself seen more, post on the forums more, use the chat rooms ... get people knowing you for you and not just pics and some words may work far better for you

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read a profile, check you match what they want and be polite.

You are new, that will put alot off, so just give it time.

Profile looks fine to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most receive that many messages they bulk delete .. I don’t message people but my mail box is open so to speak .. like the field of dreams movie if you build it they will come

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

I'm not like a blanket sender this is over the course of a few days lol. Not like in an hour. F*** that. My thumbs would kill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not a bad profile, except the toothbrush pic, that’s a bit odd.

Maybe some bum pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's maybe not your profile at all, it's more exposure (no,not naked)

Get yourself seen more, post on the forums more, use the chat rooms ... get people knowing you for you and not just pics and some words may work far better for you

Good luck

Definitely this , pics are good like someone else said maybe a bit more text , mentioning the dog is a cute touch

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

this is to ensure the person viewing understands i take oral hygiene seriously

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"It’s not a bad profile, except the toothbrush pic, that’s a bit odd.

Maybe some bum pics

Note to OP ... Hippy does like a bum pic

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"this is to ensure the person viewing understands i take oral hygiene seriously

OP ... use the reply+quote button (right hand button) if you want to respond to a specific message

OP = original poster ie ... you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is to ensure the person viewing understands i take oral hygiene seriously

Op if you click reply and quote on the right it shows who you’re replying to.

I understand, it’s just a bit odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not a bad profile, except the toothbrush pic, that’s a bit odd.

Maybe some bum pics

Note to OP ... Hippy does like a bum pic

I do

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"I'm not like a blanket sender this is over the course of a few days lol. Not like in an hour. F*** that. My thumbs would kill

You have to remember that women get inundated with messages. If they go online to reply they just end up with more than when they started.

It is difficult even to get a message read never mind replied to.

Keep trying and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is to ensure the person viewing understands i take oral hygiene seriously

Op if you click reply and quote on the right it shows who you’re replying to.

I understand, it’s just a bit odd

Agree the toothbrush pic is strange.

Profile looks good otherwise OP. Make sure you're reading profiles before you message and as said above, the fact your new will out a lot of people off. The forum is a great place to get to know people and vise versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So... enjoying my time on fab but thought about leaving as 1 out of maybe 50 women reply, bringing me onto my question. Do any of you Ladies have any tips and maybe point me in the right direction? I've always been polite and not just sent a dick pic as I'd imagine this must get pretty dull after awhile. Maybe change my pics? Any advice would would be gratefully received. Many thanks to whoever answers. Here's hoping. Andy

It seems like you have passed the initiation process and you have been crazy enough to post on the forum.

Now have a Tip-Top and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not a bad profile, except the toothbrush pic, that’s a bit odd.

Maybe some bum pics

Note to OP ... Hippy does like a bum pic

I do

I do too

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"It’s not a bad profile, except the toothbrush pic, that’s a bit odd.

Maybe some bum pics

Note to OP ... Hippy does like a bum pic

I do

I do too

OK ... generally, the ladies like a bum pic

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

Tooth brush pic has now left the building

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Good profile with great pics. Just be yourself and good things may happen.

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

You have a great profile and nice photos! Be patient I suppose. 6 weeks isn’t that long. Maybe try the chatrooms.

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"You have a great profile and nice photos! Be patient I suppose. 6 weeks isn’t that long. Maybe try the chatrooms.

Ty very much

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The last few months here haven't permitted users to meet until recently and this only for socials. People have had their main life be a priority - family, friends, health, jobs, finances etc

It's an irregular time here with clubs closed for action, where some choose to meet socially and for sex.

Every new man here struggles to get established and active. The people in your area and their tastes etc influence how you get on.

A high quality profile is a big winner. Your photos are good. As with others, I'd suggest more information in the text. You have to sell yourself via that pagem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile is pretty good. Unfortunately it’s a bit of a numbers game.. there are sooooo many single men on here these days that sometimes it’s difficult to see the wood for the trees... so to speak.

If I were you I’d only message couples or females where you match what they are looking for, remember to read their profiles fully and don’t take it to heart if you get ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not a bad profile, except the toothbrush pic, that’s a bit odd.

Maybe some bum pics

Note to OP ... Hippy does like a bum pic

I do

I do too

OK ... generally, the ladies like a bum pic

You have a nice bum Monkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Excellent now show us all your bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Andy,

I think one in fifty is pretty good but it does make me wonder how many messages you're sending. Do you really fit with what hundreds of women are looking for?

Maybe concentrate on the profiles you're compatible with.

There isn't a magic formula that guarantees a response, it really is down to sheer weight of numbers of men compared to women.

It does help a bit to join in the forum in a positive and friendly way too but there are no guarantees.

Good luck

This

All the best OP, definitely look to message those that you’re compatible with

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Excellent now show us all your bum

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im on my own, taking an arse shot would be tricky i reckom, unless I train my dog. Lol

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Nice profile and pics OP.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Excellent now show us all your bum

im on my own, taking an arse shot would be tricky i reckom, unless I train my dog. Lol "

It could be a real smart arse (the dog)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Excellent now show us all your bum

im on my own, taking an arse shot would be tricky i reckom, unless I train my dog. Lol "

Where's there's a will.... I did my own arse shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Excellent now show us all your bum

im on my own, taking an arse shot would be tricky i reckom, unless I train my dog. Lol "

Get a stand for your phone OP, it makes arse shots easier. I took pretty much all my arse pics myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cake you need cakes

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"Cake you need cakes

Cakes? Am I missing something? (Apart from cakes) lol

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Cake you need cakes

Cakes? Am I missing something? (Apart from cakes) lol "

Get a picture of cake on your profile, the ladies will flock to you ..honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cake you need cakes

Cakes? Am I missing something? (Apart from cakes) lol "

Everyone loves cake here - especially the ladies....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"Cake you need cakes

Cakes? Am I missing something? (Apart from cakes) lol

Get a picture of cake on your profile, the ladies will flock to you ..honest

Yup .. it's true... you'll be beating them off with a stick!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (mr) being a Michelin trained chef wooed the Mrs with food porn!

Get your apron on lads and get cooking! Btw ladies love cake free tip !

Today is her bday so it's lemon drizzle x 2 ,warm lobster salad and pickled sides, Brazilian sirloin done in a sweet Japanese glaze on Jasmine rice ,lemon drizzle with creme anglaise, champagne, then hide the sausage anyway she wants!

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I really like your profile and photos.

Shame you’re quite far!

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"I (mr) being a Michelin trained chef wooed the Mrs with food porn!

Get your apron on lads and get cooking! Btw ladies love cake free tip !

Well that makes 2 of us (chefs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Excellent now show us all your bum

im on my own, taking an arse shot would be tricky i reckom, unless I train my dog. Lol "

Just prop your phone up somewhere and use the timer? I do all my pics myself.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Excellent now show us all your bum

im on my own, taking an arse shot would be tricky i reckom, unless I train my dog. Lol

Just prop your phone up somewhere and use the timer? I do all my pics myself."

Can get a cheap gorilla pod off amazing for £10 too

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Tooth brush pic has now left the building

Didn’t see it sadly but I think you look very nice and smiley!

If you were local to me, sent an articulate message and were looking for the same as me - I’d reply!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Looks fine apart from the verification. I thought phone veris aren't allowed anymore? Like some have said, 7 weeks isn't very long on fab, just make sure you read profiles and make sure you are what they are looking for before messaging. Good luck. X

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By *urlyCatzWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Cake you need cakes

Cakes? Am I missing something? (Apart from cakes) lol "

Cake???

Who said cake??

Yum

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

So basically Cake n Arse is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So basically Cake n Arse is the key

You've got it

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

I had to chuckle when my pic of me brushing my teeth was considered 'Weird' weird? On here? Really? Not weird enough maybe

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

I think it’s a good profile. Maybe a little more text about you? But the pics are nice and far better than many guy profiles on here!

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"So basically Cake n Arse is the key

Cheesecake .

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

right.... im off to take some pics of my arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think it's because he's a class act and that is why he doesn't have an ass piv

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"Do you think it's because he's a class act and that is why he doesn't have an ass piv"

clARSEact

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

Arse sbot is taken and up on my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arse sbot is taken and up on my profile

Cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arse sbot is taken and up on my profile

So it is

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Arse sbot is taken and up on my profile

Nice arse

Yes agree with what has been said. You look like a nice happy guy. Stick around the forums, get to know people and good luck!

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By *bt96Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

Im in the same situation atm.. any advice would be appreciated massively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im in the same situation atm.. any advice would be appreciated massively "

Same advice as in the rest of the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with your profile maybe add a bit more to the text, but the pictures are good.

With the lockdown, chances of meeting will have gone down dramatically since March. But the clubs, hotel meets and socials are starting to appear on the site again, so just give it time.

Good luck Op

Covid... kills everything.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Im in the same situation atm.. any advice would be appreciated massively "

Please start your own thread as comments can get confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're doing ok fella, when it happens it'll happen, enjoy the lead up to that.....

Show as much personality in your messages as you can. Don't necessarily take too much notice of the angry demands and shopping lists requested in in some profiles, better usually to avoid those hardened ones and find someone fresh and open to chat with and just be yourself.

Profile looks good to me. It's probably already been said but just bear in mind the billions of ppl you're competing with. The lucky ladies have a lot to choose from so stay positive and try not to take any rejection to heart....

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"I think you're doing ok fella, when it happens it'll happen, enjoy the lead up to that.....

Thanks for that bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some fantastic advice within this thread OP.

Welcome to the forum and I hope that you have an awesome Fab journey

Her x

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