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Princesses and gentlemen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just been on tinder and seen This A LOT.

Single girls wanting a ‘gentleman’

I’ve asked a few if they could define a gentleman and they said, someone who looks after, takes me out, make sure they get home safe and expect nothing in return (and I don’t mean just sexual) I mean, all take take take. And I do take women out for meals, pay for it and go from there. I treat women with respect, but it seems not returned.

Are princesses like this for real?? They expect all that because why?

Sorry love, if you’re after a mug, keep looking.

Or am I being harsh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t go near a princess type of person if I were a man too high maintenance!

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I wouldnt want to be a princess ,I'm a strong independent woman and that's the way it's going to stay

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t go near a princess type of person if I were a man too high maintenance! "

Exactly!!

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Sounds rather selfish and lazy to me..

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I see gentleman as non pushy, great manners, polite, considerate lover. Being from Asia, it's culturally very accepted that the man offers genourous gestures in a non pushy manner, like NOT expecting sex from taking out her out and paying for dinner. He had the honour of spending quality time with her and getting to know eachother instead of just caring about transactional sex.

As for Princesses, my friend is one. She is very submissive in and out of bed. She prefers others to make decisions, lead the conversation. She wouldn't do anything that could possibly ruin her clothes, makeup or nails. She enjoys being spoilt but doesn't mean she's not generous person or lover.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

On first dates I've always split the bill, precisely because so many men expext something in particular in return if I let them pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally prefer to split a bill. Then the other person won't feel entitled to anything more.

Though if someone insists on paying for me, I'd let them.

I think it's a very individual thing. The people on tinder you're talking about must be having some sucess with their approach so food for them I suppose =)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been on tinder and seen This A LOT.

Single girls wanting a ‘gentleman’

I’ve asked a few if they could define a gentleman and they said, someone who looks after, takes me out, make sure they get home safe and expect nothing in return (and I don’t mean just sexual) I mean, all take take take. And I do take women out for meals, pay for it and go from there. I treat women with respect, but it seems not returned.

Are princesses like this for real?? They expect all that because why?

Sorry love, if you’re after a mug, keep looking.

Or am I being harsh? "

I agree.

Sounds like what I would term "high maintenence" if I am being polite.

Its hard because I like being "treated", occasionally, but then I also like to "treat" too! If it is a mainly sexual relationship, it could sometimes take on a transactional quality though, which I am wary of.

So on here, I pay my way and am not indebted. It doesnt stop a gentleman being gentlemanly though, does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been on tinder and seen This A LOT.

Single girls wanting a ‘gentleman’

I’ve asked a few if they could define a gentleman and they said, someone who looks after, takes me out, make sure they get home safe and expect nothing in return (and I don’t mean just sexual) I mean, all take take take. And I do take women out for meals, pay for it and go from there. I treat women with respect, but it seems not returned.

Are princesses like this for real?? They expect all that because why?

Sorry love, if you’re after a mug, keep looking.

Or am I being harsh? "

Don't know if it's all that dark.

I like to be looked after - if we're in a pub in the evening, prevent d*unken ones groping me. I like being taken out, but will pay for my food and drinks myself. I like a gentleman to make sure I get home safe - walk me home late in the evening or get me a taxi (for which I'll pay myself) and wait with me till it arrives. I'd assume we both had a good time, but if the gentleman is expecting something more - not exactly a gentleman then (in my eyes).

Oh, and I don't see myself as a princess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a total misinterpretation to me, manipulated to try and make a point!

Sounds to me like they are actually looking to date, after all that's what tinder is supposed to be, a DATING site. They're not looking to meet and fuck, hook ups or ons.

Nothing at all "princessie" about that! Maybe just old fashioned values. If a guy can take you out for a meal and have a lovely evening and not expect sex on a first date then maybe he is actually a gentleman!!

Just because you're looking to meet and fuck, doesnt mean that everyone else is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a total misinterpretation to me, manipulated to try and make a point!

Sounds to me like they are actually looking to date, after all that's what tinder is supposed to be, a DATING site. They're not looking to meet and fuck, hook ups or ons.

Nothing at all "princessie" about that! Maybe just old fashioned values. If a guy can take you out for a meal and have a lovely evening and not expect sex on a first date then maybe he is actually a gentleman!!

Just because you're looking to meet and fuck, doesnt mean that everyone else is! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy wants to lavish me with gifts on my birthday or christmas then bring it on!

I'd never go looking for that kind of thing relationship, on somewhere like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders* "

Allo Princess

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

There are lots of men who like doing that though and seek ladies purposely for that reason...

I am far away from being an entitled princess, but have accompanied men for a wine me dine me evening.

It all depends on whether the ladies are going for the treats or for the company of the man. Imo

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess "

And here come those with a throat punching fetish

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I wouldnt want to be a princess ,I'm a strong independent woman and that's the way it's going to stay "

This for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expect a guy to be gentleman as standard in regards to manners and respect, because it is reciprocated.

As for gifts etc hell no, I want his company and his time, it never sits well when a guy brags about what he has or what he does I am not interested in money or status, who exactly are they trying to attract?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been on tinder and seen This A LOT.

Single girls wanting a ‘gentleman’

I’ve asked a few if they could define a gentleman and they said, someone who looks after, takes me out, make sure they get home safe and expect nothing in return (and I don’t mean just sexual) I mean, all take take take. And I do take women out for meals, pay for it and go from there. I treat women with respect, but it seems not returned.

Are princesses like this for real?? They expect all that because why?

Sorry love, if you’re after a mug, keep looking.

Or am I being harsh? "

Users. Thats wjat they are. Cant be ared to go earn themselves so want someone to 'keep' them. More hassle than their worth stay well clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds "

Perhaps that's your experience. But I've met some real gentlemen in my time and I'd say they're rare breed. I'd rather spend quality time with a gent than the other type of chap you described.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess "

Careful, I'm bigger than you!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Women like that definately exist. To me though, if i let the man pay fir everything, it would feel like he was trying to buy me, and im not for sale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds "

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it a bit different to be honest. I’m a bit of a princess at times, I have very old fashioned values.

I like a man to be a man, a gentleman, I like my door being open for me, him to walk on the road side of the path etc. But I’ll always pay my own way. If he pays for the meal, I would pay the next time or suggest cooking for him or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess

And here come those with a throat punching fetish "

Maaan I hate that eye roll emoji!

It really stings, makes me wanna grow up and post sensible stuff about walking in comfortable brogues and the share prices of blue chip companies whilst sipping a large brandy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return "

Nope not to just get somewhere I will open a door for any woman off any age but like I sed very rarely will one take me up on a date then you see 3 weeks later they out on a date with some ass hole then 4 weeks after that crying that sed ass hole cheat on them or beat them up and crying why they can’t find a good man sorry but the good man asked and you passed him up one chance one shot

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It’s very common i think, Particularly on a fetish site i know of.

And folk obviously go for it as there wouldn’t be so many “Princesses”.

At least they’re open about it i guess.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess

And here come those with a throat punching fetish

Maaan I hate that eye roll emoji!

It really stings, makes me wanna grow up and post sensible stuff about walking in comfortable brogues and the share prices of blue chip companies whilst sipping a large brandy."

Grow up and post sensible stuff!? The horror!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess

Careful, I'm bigger than you! "

Only because your sat up there in your tower....

You’ll have to let down your hair so I can climb up for a kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess

Careful, I'm bigger than you!

Only because your sat up there in your tower....

You’ll have to let down your hair so I can climb up for a kiss "

Fuck, he's good...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like a total misinterpretation to me, manipulated to try and make a point!

Sounds to me like they are actually looking to date, after all that's what tinder is supposed to be, a DATING site. They're not looking to meet and fuck, hook ups or ons.

Nothing at all "princessie" about that! Maybe just old fashioned values. If a guy can take you out for a meal and have a lovely evening and not expect sex on a first date then maybe he is actually a gentleman!!

Just because you're looking to meet and fuck, doesnt mean that everyone else is! "

No, I’m on there to fuck hot girls

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Just been on tinder and seen This A LOT.

Single girls wanting a ‘gentleman’

I’ve asked a few if they could define a gentleman and they said, someone who looks after, takes me out, make sure they get home safe and expect nothing in return (and I don’t mean just sexual) I mean, all take take take. And I do take women out for meals, pay for it and go from there. I treat women with respect, but it seems not returned.

Are princesses like this for real?? They expect all that because why?

Sorry love, if you’re after a mug, keep looking.

Or am I being harsh? "

I'd consider myself a gentleman but a Barbie doll type princess isn't for me.

I want a woman who will join me in playing "grand national" with me when we come out of the pub, someone who will climb a tree (and fall out) spontaneously go skinny dipping if the opportunity arrives, be fun in bed and just love life with a smile.

My local has a Barbie princess who comes in teetering on heels with that duck faced selfie look and most of the guys are all over her.

A nurse friend is often in the pub and we sit together and giggle at the scene as it unfolds, it's like a David Attenborough documentary with animals fighting over a mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return

Nope not to just get somewhere I will open a door for any woman off any age but like I sed very rarely will one take me up on a date then you see 3 weeks later they out on a date with some ass hole then 4 weeks after that crying that sed ass hole cheat on them or beat them up and crying why they can’t find a good man sorry but the good man asked and you passed him up one chance one shot "

People can't help who they are attracted to... And even arseholes can behave like gentlemen, to get what they want... Do you not hold the door for men aswell?! And not that gentlemanly if you are stalking the women that aren't interested in you, eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess

Careful, I'm bigger than you!

Only because your sat up there in your tower....

You’ll have to let down your hair so I can climb up for a kiss

Fuck, he's good..."

I may have to let down my hair n see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return

Nope not to just get somewhere I will open a door for any woman off any age but like I sed very rarely will one take me up on a date then you see 3 weeks later they out on a date with some ass hole then 4 weeks after that crying that sed ass hole cheat on them or beat them up and crying why they can’t find a good man sorry but the good man asked and you passed him up one chance one shot

People can't help who they are attracted to... And even arseholes can behave like gentlemen, to get what they want... Do you not hold the door for men aswell?! And not that gentlemanly if you are stalking the women that aren't interested in you, eh? "

Well depends if it’s a old age pencher then I will but the truth is nope and stalking really lol ha ha far from it to be honest with you if they turn me down that’s they loose to be honest with you

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds "

I think you're expectations are wrong, it comes across that a woman should want to be with a man "just" because he's a gentleman.

You've got to understand that women don't just want a gentleman 24/7 as it can be seen to be boring.(my opinion for what it's worth)

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Be that bad boy on occasions to keep that fire and passion burning but combine it with old skool gentlemanly acts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return

Nope not to just get somewhere I will open a door for any woman off any age but like I sed very rarely will one take me up on a date then you see 3 weeks later they out on a date with some ass hole then 4 weeks after that crying that sed ass hole cheat on them or beat them up and crying why they can’t find a good man sorry but the good man asked and you passed him up one chance one shot

People can't help who they are attracted to... And even arseholes can behave like gentlemen, to get what they want... Do you not hold the door for men aswell?! And not that gentlemanly if you are stalking the women that aren't interested in you, eh?

Well depends if it’s a old age pencher then I will but the truth is nope and stalking really lol ha ha far from it to be honest with you if they turn me down that’s they loose to be honest with you "

Not really, if they didn't want you in the first place... So how do you know about their relationships with arseholes? And you are only a gentleman or show manners when it suits you.. When you are in the company of a female?!

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Everyone wants to be treated like they are special (and if that isnt by a partner then who else?)

Guess it depends on how the word princess is arrived at. Are you a princess like Snow white and people WANT to treat you well or just acting the part for the reward until you can say " I am a diva, shut the fuck up you are staff". Kate vs Ms Meghan...

Gentlemen? Treat *everyone* with the same kindness and mutual respect at the outset. Some people will want it some will rapidly enlighten you they don't. How you respond and adapt to that is the mark of a true gent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

"

Don't do this...it's naff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return

Nope not to just get somewhere I will open a door for any woman off any age but like I sed very rarely will one take me up on a date then you see 3 weeks later they out on a date with some ass hole then 4 weeks after that crying that sed ass hole cheat on them or beat them up and crying why they can’t find a good man sorry but the good man asked and you passed him up one chance one shot

People can't help who they are attracted to... And even arseholes can behave like gentlemen, to get what they want... Do you not hold the door for men aswell?! And not that gentlemanly if you are stalking the women that aren't interested in you, eh?

Well depends if it’s a old age pencher then I will but the truth is nope and stalking really lol ha ha far from it to be honest with you if they turn me down that’s they loose to be honest with you

Not really, if they didn't want you in the first place... So how do you know about their relationships with arseholes? And you are only a gentleman or show manners when it suits you.. When you are in the company of a female?! "

Stay in a very rural area ie everone knows everyone business pritty much people talk ie heard Jenny and her boyfriend fighting agen last night I am sick off them fighting apparel Jenny boyfriends cheat and when she told him to leave he hit her was talking to her this morning she was saying they were done and she’s done with ass holes she just wants a good man

Me standing being told chuckling well Jenny got asked on a date 4 weeks ago turned me down ooo did she

Next thing you know Jenny asking for you she wants that date nope sorry she had that chance

And no I am not but seems like ur trying to pick things I say part make me wonder have I struck a nerve somewhere that you ur self were in fact Jenny at one point and turned the nice guy down for some a hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return

Nope not to just get somewhere I will open a door for any woman off any age but like I sed very rarely will one take me up on a date then you see 3 weeks later they out on a date with some ass hole then 4 weeks after that crying that sed ass hole cheat on them or beat them up and crying why they can’t find a good man sorry but the good man asked and you passed him up one chance one shot

People can't help who they are attracted to... And even arseholes can behave like gentlemen, to get what they want... Do you not hold the door for men aswell?! And not that gentlemanly if you are stalking the women that aren't interested in you, eh?

Well depends if it’s a old age pencher then I will but the truth is nope and stalking really lol ha ha far from it to be honest with you if they turn me down that’s they loose to be honest with you

Not really, if they didn't want you in the first place... So how do you know about their relationships with arseholes? And you are only a gentleman or show manners when it suits you.. When you are in the company of a female?!

Stay in a very rural area ie everone knows everyone business pritty much people talk ie heard Jenny and her boyfriend fighting agen last night I am sick off them fighting apparel Jenny boyfriends cheat and when she told him to leave he hit her was talking to her this morning she was saying they were done and she’s done with ass holes she just wants a good man

Me standing being told chuckling well Jenny got asked on a date 4 weeks ago turned me down ooo did she

Next thing you know Jenny asking for you she wants that date nope sorry she had that chance

And no I am not but seems like ur trying to pick things I say part make me wonder have I struck a nerve somewhere that you ur self were in fact Jenny at one point and turned the nice guy down for some a hole "

No... I just don't think you are the gentleman you think you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, just no.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff"

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a total misinterpretation to me, manipulated to try and make a point!

Sounds to me like they are actually looking to date, after all that's what tinder is supposed to be, a DATING site. They're not looking to meet and fuck, hook ups or ons.

Nothing at all "princessie" about that! Maybe just old fashioned values. If a guy can take you out for a meal and have a lovely evening and not expect sex on a first date then maybe he is actually a gentleman!!

Just because you're looking to meet and fuck, doesnt mean that everyone else is! "

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a gentleman gets you know whare trust me as I say this I was brought up in the old ways like hold a door open for a woman carry Heavy things for them pay for a meal put down ur coat In a puddle so they can walk though it without geting they shows wet

Pull a chare out for them before sitting down and trust me it gets me no whare very rarely will I get a date with woman and I mean it’s not as if they know I dress as I talking everyday life they rather go with the dick head who uses them as a punch bag and cheats on them ever chance they get woman’s always wounder whare all the gentleman are let me tell you you probably all ready blown him off for some dick head and we gentleman don’t want sed dick heads seconds

So you're not actually a gentleman, you just do those things to 'get somewhere'? Manners should be a given, with the door opening, not because I am female, I am definitely strong enough to open a door and carry things, I don't need or want a man to do it for me... Paying for stuff is a half and half thing unless I see someone regularly then I am ok with alternating... But the guy payimg is a no as it creeps me out and even 'gentlemen' expect something in return

Nope not to just get somewhere I will open a door for any woman off any age but like I sed very rarely will one take me up on a date then you see 3 weeks later they out on a date with some ass hole then 4 weeks after that crying that sed ass hole cheat on them or beat them up and crying why they can’t find a good man sorry but the good man asked and you passed him up one chance one shot

People can't help who they are attracted to... And even arseholes can behave like gentlemen, to get what they want... Do you not hold the door for men aswell?! And not that gentlemanly if you are stalking the women that aren't interested in you, eh?

Well depends if it’s a old age pencher then I will but the truth is nope and stalking really lol ha ha far from it to be honest with you if they turn me down that’s they loose to be honest with you

Not really, if they didn't want you in the first place... So how do you know about their relationships with arseholes? And you are only a gentleman or show manners when it suits you.. When you are in the company of a female?!

Stay in a very rural area ie everone knows everyone business pritty much people talk ie heard Jenny and her boyfriend fighting agen last night I am sick off them fighting apparel Jenny boyfriends cheat and when she told him to leave he hit her was talking to her this morning she was saying they were done and she’s done with ass holes she just wants a good man

Me standing being told chuckling well Jenny got asked on a date 4 weeks ago turned me down ooo did she

Next thing you know Jenny asking for you she wants that date nope sorry she had that chance

And no I am not but seems like ur trying to pick things I say part make me wonder have I struck a nerve somewhere that you ur self were in fact Jenny at one point and turned the nice guy down for some a hole

No... I just don't think you are the gentleman you think you are"

That’s fine we all in titled to or own opinion but till you meet me in every day life don’t just assume things but it was very lovely and nice to chat even if we have a difference off opinions I can always respect someone own thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though "

It's naff because it's a bit 1970s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One reason why I want to throat punch anyone that calls me 'Princess' *shudders*

Allo Princess

And here come those with a throat punching fetish

Maaan I hate that eye roll emoji!

It really stings, makes me wanna grow up and post sensible stuff about walking in comfortable brogues and the share prices of blue chip companies whilst sipping a large brandy."

There, there pet, have a boobie hug!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though

It's naff because it's a bit 1970s"

Some great memories of growing up in the 70's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gentlemanly conduct is respectful and polite. I'd anticipate that everyone wants that in a date, regardless of gender, so I don't disagree with the Tinder girl.

The 'princess' behaviour you've described, OP, is not respectful; it's selfish, lazy and entitled. But I think you've made an unnecessary conceptual leap between the two.

Just be decent. That'll do for anyone.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though

It's naff because it's a bit 1970s"

Can also get you arrested nowadays if the woman isnt keen on bottom slapping.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I wouldnt want to be a princess ,I'm a strong independent woman and that's the way it's going to stay

This for me too "

Me three

My other half treats me like a “princess” in the way a man in love treats a woman. But my definition of what this consists of is way different to the above description. Do I want to be paid for on a first date - hell no. I still get slightly offended now 5 years in if he offers me his money ....

Do I want someone to compliment me, hold my hand, and make me feel safe and like the most special person in the world? Yes. That’s my definition of feeling like a princess.

Obviously I’m talking about an established relationship rather than a first date - but I still wouldn’t ever want to be “paid for”, first date or not. It’s just not comfortable to me...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Gentlemanly conduct is respectful and polite. I'd anticipate that everyone wants that in a date, regardless of gender, so I don't disagree with the Tinder girl.

The 'princess' behaviour you've described, OP, is not respectful; it's selfish, lazy and entitled. But I think you've made an unnecessary conceptual leap between the two.

Just be decent. That'll do for anyone. "

Beat me to it

I thought much the same and this is where context is key - "as described" I don't see anything wrong with what the Tinder lady is asking - *IF* however that then transpired to be spoiled princess-like expectations then that would be a different matter.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though

It's naff because it's a bit 1970s

Can also get you arrested nowadays if the woman isnt keen on bottom slapping."

I'm not talking about bottom slapping a random woman in the street

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Nothing I find more uncomfortable with than someone paying for my meal and drinks, I pay my way and always will

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though

It's naff because it's a bit 1970s

Can also get you arrested nowadays if the woman isnt keen on bottom slapping.

I'm not talking about bottom slapping a random woman in the street"

Im on about a woman you dont know in a pub or club, obviously different if you know them

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though "

I have slapped a couple of

bottoms in my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's bit for me either, but just scroll past, move on, let folk do what they like in a free society, no need to shame them to make yourself feel better about your own values. I'm sure everyone on this thread does at least one thing or has a kink that at least one other person on this thread wouldn't enjoy. Why write a thread about it or judge them.....? Have a great weekend folks!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though

I have slapped a couple of

bottoms in my time."

Apparently it's from the 70's, naff and will get you arrested

I wonder if you saying the same as me will get the same responses ? Lol

Want to be naff together ?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"

Try holding a door open but occasionally slapping her bottom as she walks through.

Don't do this...it's naff

I've done it in the right situation and it's been well received with a giggle and a wink so it's not always naff.

Never understand why people say that an act is naff as if it's one size fits all.

Ps fully appreciate that you might find it naff though

I have slapped a couple of

bottoms in my time.

Apparently it's from the 70's, naff and will get you arrested

I wonder if you saying the same as me will get the same responses ? Lol

Want to be naff together ? "

Sam...we have never met, yet! You can be sure of one thing, I'm definitely slap your arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's bit for me either, but just scroll past, move on, let folk do what they like in a free society, no need to shame them to make yourself feel better about your own values. I'm sure everyone on this thread does at least one thing or has a kink that at least one other person on this thread wouldn't enjoy. Why write a thread about it or judge them.....? Have a great weekend folks! "

It's not*

Ffs, fat fingers

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I love to feel like a princess but definitely not the way you mentioned OP ,not even close...they sound like looking for a young sugar daddy

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

In this day and age who cares who pays for what? I have a mate who refuses to let me pay for food each time we meet up and they always make sure I get in a taxi or my car ok and I have to message when I get in ok. There's no ulterior motive it's just something they do because they are nice. We did discuss it ages ago because I didn't want to take advantage, and their response was I know and I wouldn't do it if I didn't want to but it makes me happy. So what does it matter as long as all parties are happy?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that as long as everyone knows the dynamic of a relationship and it's what they all want there isn't a problem.

There are loads of combinations when it comes to human interaction we should be careful of believing our particular model is the only right onr.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I'm a princess

My rule on dating is if you ask me out then you pay and vice-versa.

I don't date though so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a gentleman pervert. You know he is filth through and through, but he has charm and respect and self control. I do like the whole thing of being treated and made to feel a bit special, and not particulary a meal out or anything, but I am as far removed from a princess as you could expect to find. I am like a cat, If I feel loved I will leave little offerings on your doorstep in return and wrap all around your legs and scratch your belly.

People find their place, if they like to treat these women then let them, if they start to feel used then they know what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely a princess in some ways but it's almost like the DD/LG thing. I'm fiercely independent in my day to day life and I enjoy that. With someone I'm comfortable with it's being able to relax...

I wouldn't say I was high maintinence but a scroll through the thread; I get my nails done, have lash extensions, maybe even hair extensions from time to time. I wear a fuck tonne of makeup and I may look high maintenance from the outside but these are things I do for me to make me feel better and tmi don't expect anyone to 'maintain' it. Maybe just be patient while I do get ready (I try never to be late) and appreciate that I've put effort in.

I would say I'm one of those who is after a gentleman because I've met plenty of men who are *not*. Lad culture exists and they're not bothered about how they behave. I very much find men either are gentlemen or they're not. It's not a case of take, take, take for me. It's just a preference of a personality type I like.

For me being a little bit of a princess has nothing to do with you submitting to all my demands because I want you to. I'm sorta on the submissive side and it's just a dynamic. Its not my lifestyle more just something I'm into. As a person I give plenty back and don't expect anything from anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try 90 day fiance anfisa and jorge

On ytube

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nah, treat me like a Queen and I'll treat you like a King!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as she takes it up in the ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does going on a date and expecting manners and respect equal you have to have sex with that person?

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I wouldn’t go near a princess type of person if I were a man too high maintenance! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who pays has more to do with who choose where you were going for the date... usually the man.

If I've just won the lottery and take a woman out to a ridiculously expensive restaurant it's not fair to ask her to pay half the bill. You choose somewhere you can afford so that you can pay for the date and avoid awkwardness if there is a difference in your financial circumstances.

That said, I have been on some dates where I felt the woman had no interested in me and just wanted a free meal. I will only meet internet dates for a drink or something simple now until I have some idea what they're like and if they're worth taking somewhere nice.

If you are only after a hookup, and you've not been honest about it, then that's the game you've chosen to play.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

so would it be fair to start the possible relationship with just drinks? I went on first dinner dates where I think the guy just loves going out socially eating and generous to treat me.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Nah, treat me like a Queen and I'll treat you like a King!

Jo.Xx "

lucky lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go for something to eat on a first date. I'd rather go for a coffee or a drink and wouldn't make a fuss about who buys the first one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's a minefield. Some men are genuinely offended if a woman offers to pay on a date . Some women are genuinely offended if a man doesn't pay on a date . I've seen lots of men on here say that they will always pay the bill if they meet a woman from fab and will also take chocolates, flowers, wine or all three.

If it was me Mrs on a date (highly unlikely ) I would go halves. If the guy insisted on paying for whatever reason I'd gracefully accept but it wouldn't make me more likely to have sex with him.

If he suggested going somewhere I knew I wouldn't be able to afford I'd say so.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i been offered money for a range of things... not good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so would it be fair to start the possible relationship with just drinks? I went on first dinner dates where I think the guy just loves going out socially eating and generous to treat me. "

Why would it not be fair? Not sure I understand the question.

Some women might expect more, I think that's my point, I'm filtering out the ones who judge people on things I don't think should be important in a long term relationship.

The other approach, maybe easier when there's more time at the weekend, is to go somewhere I know I'll enjoy anyway, so even if nothing comes of the date I've still had a good day out

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"so would it be fair to start the possible relationship with just drinks? I went on first dinner dates where I think the guy just loves going out socially eating and generous to treat me. "

Why not?

Personally I like to eat out but it can be excruciating if you don't know the person well or its clear from the start that you're not going to get on.

Mind you it's so long since I dated that I wouldn't know what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't want to be a princess. I like to be treated well & spoilt (not always with material things) but I'm a strong independent woman who is more than capable of looking after myself.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's a minefield. Some men are genuinely offended if a woman offers to pay on a date . Some women are genuinely offended if a man doesn't pay on a date . I've seen lots of men on here say that they will always pay the bill if they meet a woman from fab and will also take chocolates, flowers, wine or all three.

If it was me Mrs on a date (highly unlikely ) I would go halves. If the guy insisted on paying for whatever reason I'd gracefully accept but it wouldn't make me more likely to have sex with him.

If he suggested going somewhere I knew I wouldn't be able to afford I'd say so. "

This is where I am. It's a delicate balance of competing values and expectations

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's a minefield. Some men are genuinely offended if a woman offers to pay on a date . Some women are genuinely offended if a man doesn't pay on a date . I've seen lots of men on here say that they will always pay the bill if they meet a woman from fab and will also take chocolates, flowers, wine or all three.

If it was me Mrs on a date (highly unlikely ) I would go halves. If the guy insisted on paying for whatever reason I'd gracefully accept but it wouldn't make me more likely to have sex with him.

If he suggested going somewhere I knew I wouldn't be able to afford I'd say so.

This is where I am. It's a delicate balance of competing values and expectations"

I think it boils down to being clear from the start. I like to know where I stand. I'd hate to sit through an expensive meal wondering if I had enough in the bank to pay my half

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's a minefield. Some men are genuinely offended if a woman offers to pay on a date . Some women are genuinely offended if a man doesn't pay on a date . I've seen lots of men on here say that they will always pay the bill if they meet a woman from fab and will also take chocolates, flowers, wine or all three.

If it was me Mrs on a date (highly unlikely ) I would go halves. If the guy insisted on paying for whatever reason I'd gracefully accept but it wouldn't make me more likely to have sex with him.

If he suggested going somewhere I knew I wouldn't be able to afford I'd say so.

This is where I am. It's a delicate balance of competing values and expectations

I think it boils down to being clear from the start. I like to know where I stand. I'd hate to sit through an expensive meal wondering if I had enough in the bank to pay my half "

I assume I'm paying my way or half. I offer. I prod once, because it's important to me. But so is not making a scene, so I compromise.

I also tend to order cheaply if I think they might try to pay.

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