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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Or skinny, if you’re skinny?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just offended by fat people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And skinny people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, unless it’s used in an abusive way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And skinny people"

Yeah same

My husbands skinny

The prick

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will admit, I hate the word skinny!

I am slim, pure and simple I am not skinny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much the word, but the intonation behind how it’s said. Mostly because it’s used as a form of abuse. But that also goes for the term skinny. X

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"And skinny people"

I'm just offended by people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And skinny people

I'm just offended by people. "

This

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Not by the word no. I know I'm fat and it is what it is. The words surrounding it when used in a negative way can make me me dislike it as a whole.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm not offended by the term fat as such if it's used in a factual way and not as an insult.

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Nope doesn't offend me. I carry some timber yes.. but I'm still fit and active oh and I give great cuddles..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And skinny people

I'm just offended by people. "

I dont like people very much. Dogs are much better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I was speaking to my pal who mentioned my ‘Tummy’. I joked ‘you saying I’m fat?’ And got a huge telling off cause fat is such an awful word, why would I use the word fat, there’s better words etc etc

I then asked ‘you saying I’m obese?’ And got told off again

But anyway

Just reminded me of fab

Cause we have BBW, which, tends to be overweight women (although men have told me I’m BBW, which offends me )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been used against me so many times as an insult, I used to get upset, now I think I’d rather be fat than a twat x Viv x

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

HELP, I'm stuck on the wrong thread again, how do I get back to the one I intended to post on, is there a door here somewhere?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s been used against me so many times as an insult, I used to get upset, now I think I’d rather be fat than a twat x Viv x"

Good way at looking of it. When it’s used as an insult, it can be shitty x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

very few words offend me. I think I must be dead inside because I'm not offended very often at all. I get mighty fed up of people trying to compliment people by insulting others though but not offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like heat..85 she has a beautiful natural way with words and she has my vote and she has spunk, my spunk if she wants it....

Imitation and flattery and all...

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I have alot of Fat. But I'm not offended by it unless someone calls me fat aggressively.

If you know what I mean?!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s been used against me so many times as an insult, I used to get upset, now I think I’d rather be fat than a twat x Viv x

Good way at looking of it. When it’s used as an insult, it can be shitty x"

I had to get a thick skin as people were going on my public images and calling it me, or messaging me on here to tell me. So what! I’m not slim or toned, but there are worse things to be. It does still hurt at times though, spiteful comments will xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not personally, but it may upset some?

I was a skinny kid. I remember a girl laughing at my skinny legs in jeans and calling me names. I was really self conscious as a teenager and really uncomfortable around girls as I suddenly found out what impact others opinions of me could have.

Sometimes your opinion is just that...yours? So hold onto it?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would rather be called slim than skinny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, unless it’s used in an abusive way x"

This. Used as a descriptive, fine. An insult, not fine.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Fat is an offensive word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather be called slim than skinny."

This. My sister is a size 4-6, but she still has lovely curves, is toned and has athletic legs, but gets called skinny. She’s not, she’s slim xx

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

It’s been said to me many times from childhood in a negative way, I cannot associate a positive meaning to the word.

Amazing what bullies can do to you isn’t it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not offended by fat. I have a lot of fat. I’m not fat though I have fat it doesn’t define me as a person. Being called fat is offensive but someone saying you have a lot of fat isn’t in my opinion as that’s a fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’m not. It is an accurate description. However when a 15yo lad called me a fat cunt I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will admit, I hate the word skinny!

I am slim, pure and simple I am not skinny "

Why would someone call you skinny though?

You'd have to be almost bones to be skinny, which you are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s been said to me many times from childhood in a negative way, I cannot associate a positive meaning to the word.

Amazing what bullies can do to you isn’t it "

I always got (and still get) that I have a pretty face, just need to lose weight as I’m a bit fat, and that has been from my dads family to friends. I don’t get why not being as slim as them means they can call me fat and think it’s acceptable. The mind boggles at how some people behave, but something physical is the easiest thing to grab onto and use to bully xx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not by the word itself. It’s mostly used as an insult though, to try and make folk feel ashamed for the way they look. To try and make folk feel repulsive and insignificant because that’s how other folk think you should feel if you don’t fit in with society’s ideals of what is attractive.

It’s like “Urgh you’re FAT!” Not “Oh. You’re fat.”

But you learn to live with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because i am fat lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fat.

I want to blame it on 3 months of working from home/lockdown.

But i was gaining since Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only offended when it's used in a derogatory way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the word is used as a put down I hate it but end of the day I have fat just like I have skinny legs or blonde hair. I am a friendly, funny loyal gal so now it doesn't hurt as much as it used to. Cause you can change been fat you can't change been a nasty rude person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like heat..85 she has a beautiful natural way with words and she has my vote and she has spunk, my spunk if she wants it....

Imitation and flattery and all... "

What?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm fat.

I want to blame it on 3 months of working from home/lockdown.

But i was gaining since Christmas"

God I feel you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s been said to me many times from childhood in a negative way, I cannot associate a positive meaning to the word.

Amazing what bullies can do to you isn’t it "

hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fat is an offensive word "

How?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Fat is an offensive word

How?"

If said in a nasty way its horrid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fat is an offensive word

How?

If said in a nasty way its horrid "

And if I said ‘god I love to fuck my girlfriends fat ass?’ ( sorry I can’t take me seriously)

Or ‘I love fat men’

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Fat is an offensive word

How?

If said in a nasty way its horrid

And if I said ‘god I love to fuck my girlfriends fat ass?’ ( sorry I can’t take me seriously)

Or ‘I love fat men’"

Then that's ok because it's not meant to harm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fat is an offensive word

How?

If said in a nasty way its horrid

And if I said ‘god I love to fuck my girlfriends fat ass?’ ( sorry I can’t take me seriously)

Or ‘I love fat men’

Then that's ok because it's not meant to harm "

nice

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Fat is an offensive word

How?

If said in a nasty way its horrid

And if I said ‘god I love to fuck my girlfriends fat ass?’ ( sorry I can’t take me seriously)

Or ‘I love fat men’

Then that's ok because it's not meant to harm

nice"

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope... I'm a fat woman.... Fact!

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By *FcoupleCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It’s been used against me so many times as an insult, I used to get upset, now I think I’d rather be fat than a twat x Viv x

Good way at looking of it. When it’s used as an insult, it can be shitty x

I had to get a thick skin as people were going on my public images and calling it me, or messaging me on here to tell me. So what! I’m not slim or toned, but there are worse things to be. It does still hurt at times though, spiteful comments will xx"

How anyone can think you're fat is beyond me.

Your body is beautiful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?"

If used in a derogatory way it's an unbelievably nasty way of insulting a person...and usually said by an arrogant condescending prick or bitch...

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

I’m never offended people call me what they see...

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By *FcoupleCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Liverpool

I get told off by friends when I say I'm fat.

I'm used to it being used in a derogatory way but when it's factual it doesn't bother me.

D x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m never offended people call me what they see... "

You’re a hand holding genitals!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get told off by friends when I say I'm fat.

I'm used to it being used in a derogatory way but when it's factual it doesn't bother me.

D x"

I getcha

My profile says something about me being curvy and wobbly. Men message me telling me off

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By *FcoupleCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I get told off by friends when I say I'm fat.

I'm used to it being used in a derogatory way but when it's factual it doesn't bother me.

D x

I getcha

My profile says something about me being curvy and wobbly. Men message me telling me off "

No size 8 is the same as another size 8 etc.

We're all different. I have curves and I have wobbly bits but so does everyone else!

You have a gorgeous figure though..

D x

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By *urvesncurlsCouple
over a year ago

norwich


"So I was speaking to my pal who mentioned my ‘Tummy’. I joked ‘you saying I’m fat?’ And got a huge telling off cause fat is such an awful word, why would I use the word fat, there’s better words etc etc

I then asked ‘you saying I’m obese?’ And got told off again

But anyway

Just reminded me of fab

Cause we have BBW, which, tends to be overweight women (although men have told me I’m BBW, which offends me )"

As someone who is termed a bbw (even though the term grates on me) why would you be offended to be called one? Especially as it includes beautiful in the abbreviation?

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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago

Witney

Don't think that it bothers me when someone calls me fat, they are just stating the reality, I love my body therefore I have no issues.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Nope doesn't bother me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I was speaking to my pal who mentioned my ‘Tummy’. I joked ‘you saying I’m fat?’ And got a huge telling off cause fat is such an awful word, why would I use the word fat, there’s better words etc etc

I then asked ‘you saying I’m obese?’ And got told off again

But anyway

Just reminded me of fab

Cause we have BBW, which, tends to be overweight women (although men have told me I’m BBW, which offends me )

As someone who is termed a bbw (even though the term grates on me) why would you be offended to be called one? Especially as it includes beautiful in the abbreviation? "

I don’t see myself as big or beautiful. Feels like a lie to call me that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get told off by friends when I say I'm fat.

I'm used to it being used in a derogatory way but when it's factual it doesn't bother me.

D x

I getcha

My profile says something about me being curvy and wobbly. Men message me telling me off

No size 8 is the same as another size 8 etc.

We're all different. I have curves and I have wobbly bits but so does everyone else!

You have a gorgeous figure though..

D x"

Ah thank you x

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r


"I’m never offended people call me what they see...

You’re a hand holding genitals!"

Thank you

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Or skinny, if you’re skinny?"

Not offended per se, just isn’t the nicest description is it...

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"And skinny people

I'm just offended by people.

I dont like people very much. Dogs are much better"

Agreed

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r


"Or skinny, if you’re skinny?

Not offended per se, just isn’t the nicest description is it... "

I don’t like the word x

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Or skinny, if you’re skinny?

Not offended per se, just isn’t the nicest description is it...

I don’t like the word x"

I prefer slim / toned.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r


"Or skinny, if you’re skinny?

Not offended per se, just isn’t the nicest description is it...

I don’t like the word x

I prefer slim / toned. "

Yes that’s good, I like a good handful

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Not offended at all, because I am in fact fat.

It irritates me when I get a guy messaging me "Oh, you're not fat". I beg to differ. I have a lot of deficiencies but my eyesight doesn't count among them. I know exactly who and what I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not offended at all, because I am in fact fat.

It irritates me when I get a guy messaging me "Oh, you're not fat". I beg to differ. I have a lot of deficiencies but my eyesight doesn't count among them. I know exactly who and what I am."

Hopefully fuller figured doesn't offend, because I should go and hide now if it does.

It's difficult to know person to person who finds "fat" offensive and who doesn't. I certainly wouldn't use it as an insult, but wouldn't want to cause offence to anyone by saying it. For that reason I would avoid saying it whatsoever.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r


"Not offended at all, because I am in fact fat.

It irritates me when I get a guy messaging me "Oh, you're not fat". I beg to differ. I have a lot of deficiencies but my eyesight doesn't count among them. I know exactly who and what I am."

You are definitely gorgeous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now, as a fat bird I have no problem with the word fat. It's less clinical than morbidly obese...

However, I would never call someone fat or skinny, as people have their own labelling systems and that is just fine. Its a bloody minefield of how to address people really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now, as a fat bird I have no problem with the word fat. It's less clinical than morbidly obese...

However, I would never call someone fat or skinny, as people have their own labelling systems and that is just fine. Its a bloody minefield of how to address people really. "

100%, second guessing your every word.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Fat is something I have and it is not what I am. I think of it as a very offensive term and I wouldn’t dream if calling anyone that. There’s no need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why some people feel they have to tell me I'm not fat, when I say I am... I have a fat body, I am ok with how I am,shame they aren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely offended when people say I'm fat. Having recently recovered from a 10+ year battle with an eating disorder and gaining weight as part of the process, its a huge trigger for me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I don't get why some people feel they have to tell me I'm not fat, when I say I am... I have a fat body, I am ok with how I am,shame they aren't "

Maybe a close up inspection is required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?"

No. It's a descriptive word that means I have a higher portion of adipose tissue than is ideal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get why some people feel they have to tell me I'm not fat, when I say I am... I have a fat body, I am ok with how I am,shame they aren't

Maybe a close up inspection is required "

Haha cheeky! Wanna feel the flab, do ya?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not offended by the term fat as such if it's used in a factual way and not as an insult. "

This is where I struggle because I don't see how calling someone fat is factual.

Fat is something you have not something you are.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I would rather be called sugar , or olive oil, fat reminds of lard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was speaking to my pal who mentioned my ‘Tummy’. I joked ‘you saying I’m fat?’ And got a huge telling off cause fat is such an awful word, why would I use the word fat, there’s better words etc etc

I then asked ‘you saying I’m obese?’ And got told off again

But anyway

Just reminded me of fab

Cause we have BBW, which, tends to be overweight women (although men have told me I’m BBW, which offends me )"

I think BBW as obese to morbidly obese women. And obese is a medical label which should not offend.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream ! "

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals."

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Cant stand the word.

More pleasant words out there to say to people rather than fat or skinny. Both of those words to me seem to be an insult.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals."

This is the lie we have been told since the 1970s and the reason for so much obesity now. We also eat high contest fatty meat, lots of dairy , raw unpasteurised full fat milk , real butter etc , it helps us keep weight off not on. Anything that says low fat on it , is just full of sugar or carb, or cheap nasty rubbish

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I’m properly fat just now.

Spent lockdown working at home, snacking and not exercising.

Need to sort it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm definitely offended when people say I'm fat. Having recently recovered from a 10+ year battle with an eating disorder and gaining weight as part of the process, its a huge trigger for me. "

You look lovely xx you have got curves in all the right places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat? "

Because they are not bad for you at your age and stage in life. We all have varying hormonal and metabolic differences. The only time I can lose weight is by upping proteins and lowering carbs (polycystic ovaries).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?"

I guess it depends on the context

I'd be rather annoyed if a woman told me I had a skinny cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm definitely offended when people say I'm fat. Having recently recovered from a 10+ year battle with an eating disorder and gaining weight as part of the process, its a huge trigger for me.

You look lovely xx you have got curves in all the right places "

Thank you, that's kind of you to say. I just find it upsetting when people feel the need to message me about the fact that I'm a little overweight- as though I don't already know that.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?"

I'm not offended by any really, I am what I am, and what I am needs NO excuses. Plus, my own opinion of myself is much more important than anyone else's.

Cal

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

Because they are not bad for you at your age and stage in life. We all have varying hormonal and metabolic differences. The only time I can lose weight is by upping proteins and lowering carbs (polycystic ovaries). "

True. I wonder if there’ll come a point where I just pile the weight on with all the day crap I eat. People told me it would happen at 30... 35 and still dodging it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat? "

The same reason as why I can eat totally healthily with tight portion control, exercise regularly and still get fatter or just stay fat... We are all different and so are our bodies and how they do stuff.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I don't get why some people feel they have to tell me I'm not fat, when I say I am... I have a fat body, I am ok with how I am,shame they aren't

Maybe a close up inspection is required

Haha cheeky! Wanna feel the flab, do ya? "

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

The same reason as why I can eat totally healthily with tight portion control, exercise regularly and still get fatter or just stay fat... We are all different and so are our bodies and how they do stuff. "

Yeah I totally get that. Hence why I don’t understand these sweeping statements re how bad carbs are. It seems to come up a lot....

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I was bullied all through primary school and a bit in secondary school. I am immune to name calling and nothing offends me anymore. Especially when the person doesn't know me.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

The same reason as why I can eat totally healthily with tight portion control, exercise regularly and still get fatter or just stay fat... We are all different and so are our bodies and how they do stuff.

Yeah I totally get that. Hence why I don’t understand these sweeping statements re how bad carbs are. It seems to come up a lot....

"

Probably because mostly only people who have to even think much about their carb intake are those who have to limit them or at least find limiting them really helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm offended by skinny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm definitely offended when people say I'm fat. Having recently recovered from a 10+ year battle with an eating disorder and gaining weight as part of the process, its a huge trigger for me.

You look lovely xx you have got curves in all the right places

Thank you, that's kind of you to say. I just find it upsetting when people feel the need to message me about the fact that I'm a little overweight- as though I don't already know that. "

What, an ounce overweight? You have a lovely body. I'd swap in a heartbeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

Because they are not bad for you at your age and stage in life. We all have varying hormonal and metabolic differences. The only time I can lose weight is by upping proteins and lowering carbs (polycystic ovaries).

True. I wonder if there’ll come a point where I just pile the weight on with all the day crap I eat. People told me it would happen at 30... 35 and still dodging it! "

Maybe, or perhaps not. The age it may change is the menopause age, but not for every woman.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

The same reason as why I can eat totally healthily with tight portion control, exercise regularly and still get fatter or just stay fat... We are all different and so are our bodies and how they do stuff.

Yeah I totally get that. Hence why I don’t understand these sweeping statements re how bad carbs are. It seems to come up a lot....

Probably because mostly only people who have to even think much about their carb intake are those who have to limit them or at least find limiting them really helpful. "

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

The same reason as why I can eat totally healthily with tight portion control, exercise regularly and still get fatter or just stay fat... We are all different and so are our bodies and how they do stuff.

Yeah I totally get that. Hence why I don’t understand these sweeping statements re how bad carbs are. It seems to come up a lot....

"

The only carb that is "bad" is (refined) sugar, it is totally unnecessary as carbohydrates contain sugars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat?

The same reason as why I can eat totally healthily with tight portion control, exercise regularly and still get fatter or just stay fat... We are all different and so are our bodies and how they do stuff.

Yeah I totally get that. Hence why I don’t understand these sweeping statements re how bad carbs are. It seems to come up a lot....

"

Yeah, I get that... Low carb works well for me but I have pcos and that messes with all sorts but it doesn't work for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm definitely offended when people say I'm fat. Having recently recovered from a 10+ year battle with an eating disorder and gaining weight as part of the process, its a huge trigger for me.

You look lovely xx you have got curves in all the right places

Thank you, that's kind of you to say. I just find it upsetting when people feel the need to message me about the fact that I'm a little overweight- as though I don't already know that. "

I don't know what the people who message you are seeing when they say you're overweight. You're slim, peachy and you look so radiant and healthy! Please don't let people upset you by filling your head with lies.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Love the skin your in the end !

I’ve tried diets but I’m a chef and it just don’t work when I see that piece of beef or double cream !

Beef and cream don't make you fat, it's the carbs you eat with it.

I live on fatty meat and dairy, lost a huge amount of weight and kept it off for 12 years.

I can cook and do some catering occasionally but I'd love to have your knowledge to make some epic keto meals.

I always find the carb theory is an interesting one, as I’d say 80% of my diet is carbs and I’ve always been a healthy weight (at times in my 20s underweight). If carbs are so bad, why am I not fat? "
Choose either high carbs or high fat. A combination of the two where they are both high, which is what most people eat, is the option which leads to fat storage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm definitely offended when people say I'm fat. Having recently recovered from a 10+ year battle with an eating disorder and gaining weight as part of the process, its a huge trigger for me.

You look lovely xx you have got curves in all the right places

Thank you, that's kind of you to say. I just find it upsetting when people feel the need to message me about the fact that I'm a little overweight- as though I don't already know that.

I don't know what the people who message you are seeing when they say you're overweight. You're slim, peachy and you look so radiant and healthy! Please don't let people upset you by filling your head with lies. "

Thank you, that's so lovely of you to say

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

If anyone has a problem with me... then it's their problem not mine x

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By *FcoupleCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Liverpool

I get rather annoyed when people call other people names for the hell of it or feel that they can comment on something in a shitty way.

Nobody knows what anyone has or is going through at any stage of their life.

If you've nothing nice to say then keep it shut but people can't.

I'm coming to the conclusion thst some people are twats.

D x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?"

I'm offended by people using them as insults. No one ever had the right to comment on another person's size or weight. It's no one else business and something that gets right up my nose.

My size has changed recently and I've actually had messages pointing it out, as if I don't know???

Some people are just horrible and there's no need for it. I was always taught

"If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all"

#BeKind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fat, I don't get offended easily, so would not be "offended"

However, is someone chose that word amongst others to describe me, or try call me it as an insult, they would't exactly be on my fuck it list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if*

Would'nt*

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

nope

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

it is what it is. if i got fat bits i call them fat bits. I'm very black n white about these things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call myself fat as that's what I am. I get told off then by people for putting myself down.

I'm not putting myself down I'm saying it as it is.

If someone described themselves as skinny or slim no one would call them out for being too nice about themselves

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Bit of an eye opener for me. This thread shows what a broad spectrum 'fat' can cover. There are some I would never even consider using that word for but they see themselves differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words don't really bother me anymore. After being told daily how worthless, fat, useless I am it just fades into grey noise.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No not offended by a description.

If used as an insult, rather than a fact more vexed than offenended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Words don't really bother me anymore. After being told daily how worthless, fat, useless I am it just fades into grey noise. "

People said that to you? Think it says more about them. Why would they? Beggars belief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?

I'm offended by people using them as insults. No one ever had the right to comment on another person's size or weight. It's no one else business and something that gets right up my nose.

My size has changed recently and I've actually had messages pointing it out, as if I don't know???

Some people are just horrible and there's no need for it. I was always taught

"If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all"

#BeKind "

You say it's no-one else's business, well when I return to work I want to make it my business to help educate or refer people to make informed choices about their "fatness". I know many are defensive about their weight and will respond as though being approached is offensive. But I want to help those who want to be helped. I cannot exactly wear a neon sign on my head stating I come without judgement. Therefore, unintentionally I'm going to be putting peoples' noses out of joint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?

I'm offended by people using them as insults. No one ever had the right to comment on another person's size or weight. It's no one else business and something that gets right up my nose.

My size has changed recently and I've actually had messages pointing it out, as if I don't know???

Some people are just horrible and there's no need for it. I was always taught

"If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all"

#BeKind

You say it's no-one else's business, well when I return to work I want to make it my business to help educate or refer people to make informed choices about their "fatness". I know many are defensive about their weight and will respond as though being approached is offensive. But I want to help those who want to be helped. I cannot exactly wear a neon sign on my head stating I come without judgement. Therefore, unintentionally I'm going to be putting peoples' noses out of joint. "

If people asked for help with their weight one way or another, then it's different. People shouldn't be commenting on it freely though.

Is it okay for someone I didn't know to tell me I'm too skinny? I was sick and struggling as it was, it was the last thing I needed to hear. Is it okay for people who I've never met to point out I've gained weight or that I have wobbly bits? No, it's none of their business. Context is everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Queen!

I hate the word skinny. Slim is so much nicer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you offended by the word fat, if you are fat?

I'm offended by people using them as insults. No one ever had the right to comment on another person's size or weight. It's no one else business and something that gets right up my nose.

My size has changed recently and I've actually had messages pointing it out, as if I don't know???

Some people are just horrible and there's no need for it. I was always taught

"If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all"

#BeKind

You say it's no-one else's business, well when I return to work I want to make it my business to help educate or refer people to make informed choices about their "fatness". I know many are defensive about their weight and will respond as though being approached is offensive. But I want to help those who want to be helped. I cannot exactly wear a neon sign on my head stating I come without judgement. Therefore, unintentionally I'm going to be putting peoples' noses out of joint.

If people asked for help with their weight one way or another, then it's different. People shouldn't be commenting on it freely though.

Is it okay for someone I didn't know to tell me I'm too skinny? I was sick and struggling as it was, it was the last thing I needed to hear. Is it okay for people who I've never met to point out I've gained weight or that I have wobbly bits? No, it's none of their business. Context is everything. "

Absolutely agree to context. Also agree to person's level of knowledge also (such as the low level GPS have and are meant to advise).

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