FabSwingers.com forum: Now,, im gonna do one of those really annoying posts

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had 23 confirmed for a gangbang last year. 6 messaged well ahead of time to pull out (fair do) none of the rest showed. Lots of blocking that day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None???? fecking hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had 23 confirmed for a gangbang last year. 6 messaged well ahead of time to pull out (fair do) none of the rest showed. Lots of blocking that day."

Had a similar experience....the drop out rate is like 8 out off 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sakes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yet they are all in here winging about not getting meets... offer it on a plate and they dont freaking want it... lol reality hits you hard apparently ( lol if you have seen that video - if not youtube)

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There's plenty on here will meet, but try and get them together for a gangbang and its like herding cats!

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon

That is very bloody annoying and spoils it for the rest of us who actually take the time and effort to turn up.

I am not really sure why people do it, but guess there could be a 101 reasons, but blocking them is the best ting and maybe name and shame.....ohhhh a name and shame wall for everyone who does not turn up...what do you think?

I personally don't understand it, and never have and never will not to turn up for anything I have arranged, one is out of respect and two is missing out on all the sexy ladies......not a chance.

Keep me posted if you have anymore coming up....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yet they are all in here winging about not getting meets... offer it on a plate and they dont freaking want it... "

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon

what video?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Human nature innit if you think there are going to be another 9 you say you will and as you are not the centre of attention you dont feel bad if you blob.

It all depends on how you talk to a gu and if you make the effort for phone calls and build up a friendship before. If its wam bam message, turn up with no emotion you dont feel the same commitment.

You might not like this answer but there is a lot of truth in it.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Yet they are all in here winging about not getting meets... offer it on a plate and they dont freaking want it... lol reality hits you hard apparently ( lol if you have seen that video - if not youtube)"

Cough cough there are a few on here whinging - the majority just get on with things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth!

Sorry but he isnt my type...;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

madness, can't find a good man for love nor money when you need one!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Human nature innit if you think there are going to be another 9 you say you will and as you are not the centre of attention you dont feel bad if you blob.

It all depends on how you talk to a gu and if you make the effort for phone calls and build up a friendship before. If its wam bam message, turn up with no emotion you dont feel the same commitment.

You might not like this answer but there is a lot of truth in it.

To wimp out of a GB because you aren't the centre of attention is rude. Why respond to the request in the first place?

Also, its a GB, not a marriage. I agree there should be contact before the date, but build up a relationship? For a one off meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" .... its like herding cats! "

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

A lot like the idea of a gang bang but bottle when reality sets in... Being naked with other guys, them maybe being bigger, better or can perform longer...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

there are gonna be 15 couples, a free cocktail bar, hot tub. if you think your gonna be the centre of attention with these tits in the house then your sorely mistaken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Human nature innit if you think there are going to be another 9 you say you will and as you are not the centre of attention you dont feel bad if you blob.

It all depends on how you talk to a gu and if you make the effort for phone calls and build up a friendship before. If its wam bam message, turn up with no emotion you dont feel the same commitment.

You might not like this answer but there is a lot of truth in it.

To wimp out of a GB because you aren't the centre of attention is rude. Why respond to the request in the first place?

Also, its a GB, not a marriage. I agree there should be contact before the date, but build up a relationship? For a one off meet? "

And with that attitude you wonder why they blob? If you come across as arrogant a guy wont respect and may or may not turn up. Do you want them to turn up or not? Well do you? Cos if you do you have to get your arse into gear and put something in if you expect respect and a guy to turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are gonna be 15 couples, a free cocktail bar, hot tub. if you think your gonna be the centre of attention with these tits in the house then your sorely mistaken

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LOL.. Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are gonna be 15 couples, a free cocktail bar, hot tub. if you think your gonna be the centre of attention with these tits in the house then your sorely mistaken

That's not what i was responding to and I wouldn't be interested so no point flogging it. I was on about guys not turning up to a GB not a party. Same goes with attitude though its not rocket science.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"And with that attitude you wonder why they blob? If you come across as arrogant a guy wont respect and may or may not turn up. Do you want them to turn up or not? Well do you? Cos if you do you have to get your arse into gear and put something in if you expect respect and a guy to turn up.

If a guy says he will turn up, I'd expect him to turn up. It's not 'attitude', its manners and honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem getting people to turn up to a party or a gangbang and neither have friends. Its all how you chat to people and build it up and make everyone feel part of it.

Biggest turn off for a guy in my experience is when a woman goes....Its all about me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"there are gonna be 15 couples, a free cocktail bar, hot tub. if you think your gonna be the centre of attention with these tits in the house then your sorely mistaken

But this isnt about gang bangs... its about parties... and i was making a light hearted comment no need to get your knickers in a twist dude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy says he will turn up, I'd expect him to turn up. It's not 'attitude', its manners and honesty."

On a one on one yeh but as a bit part player you are dreaming if you think it will run smoothly without putting in the legwork with all the guys.

If a guy thinks he is an add on and he gets a better offer then he will go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would want to turn just in case the rest of the pussies didn't decide to!

Being the only guy at a gangbang sounds like special treatment if you ask me.....

And a sore cock the next day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are gonna be 15 couples, a free cocktail bar, hot tub. if you think your gonna be the centre of attention with these tits in the house then your sorely mistaken

But this isnt about gang bangs... its about parties... and i was making a light hearted comment no need to get your knickers in a twist dude! "

Best read again my first comments went to you but to one of the others. Threads deviate keep up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite wiltsfit to all your partys ladies... his a gentleman and will leave you with a smile

honey x

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

When ever I meet up with a couple I hear stories of countless guys who promise everything and then just don't turn up?

Ok I get that sometimes there is n nervousness and apprehension if you are fairly new to this but come on. What is the point of making an arrangement for something that is going to be really good fun and then just not show? I know of at least one couple who no longer entertain single guys because of it. I wonder how many others have stopped meeting single guys as a result?

I think the sad fact is there are a lot of fantasists, mostly men but has to be said there are couple and ladies as well, Who love the idea of it but haven't got what it takes to do it. Maybe I am being over simplistic but that is just my _iew

I have never made an arrangement and not shown up. If that situation arises there will have to be a dam good reason and be sure I would let them know.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If a guy says he will turn up, I'd expect him to turn up. It's not 'attitude', its manners and honesty.

On a one on one yeh but as a bit part player you are dreaming if you think it will run smoothly without putting in the legwork with all the guys.

If a guy thinks he is an add on and he gets a better offer then he will go for it. "

Oh, I am well aware of that!

Just sympathising with the OP as I know how she feels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refusd to attend a GB,as there was to be no pussy playing, just fucking.

I got a better offer for another, where it should be more friendlier and in company I know.

too be honest, there are some who tr setting rules up that go beyond the common sense ones.I've never been to a bad GB(or whatvere u wanna call it yet), but think I've managed to avoid all the 'mechanical' ones...I like having a chat a laugh with all...not a getINthere and fuck off home after uve came.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

"I refusd to attend a GB,as there was to be no pussy playing, just fucking.

I got a better offer for another, where it should be more friendlier and in company I know.

I've only been to a couple of GB's and have to agree I enjoyed the social aspect as much if not more then the GB itself

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Arrange a party in the vanilla world I feel you might have similar results. A lot of people seem keen at the time but depending on how far ahead you actually plan your fun, then some people will have other options open to them or may not actually feel like playing at that time.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I refusd to attend a GB,as there was to be no pussy playing, just fucking.

I got a better offer for another, where it should be more friendlier and in company I know.

I'm sure you have no problems getting invites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy says he will turn up, I'd expect him to turn up. It's not 'attitude', its manners and honesty.

On a one on one yeh but as a bit part player you are dreaming if you think it will run smoothly without putting in the legwork with all the guys.

If a guy thinks he is an add on and he gets a better offer then he will go for it.

Oh, I am well aware of that!

Just sympathising with the OP as I know how she feels."

Im not unsympathetic with chipnwolf but there is a reason for people not turning up. You either want to know or you don't but if you dont have the right attitude people wont turn up. Take your pick be arsy and people may not turn up. Put some effort in make people feel welcome wanted.. no needed and a higher turn out. There is no fucking point people asking questions and moaning at people not turning up if they flatly refuse to take on board what is pointed out to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refusd to attend a GB,as there was to be no pussy playing, just fucking.

I got a better offer for another, where it should be more friendlier and in company I know.

You are not the first who I have come across look at things that way and I think you have a good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well with those boobs you can make whatever kind of thread you like!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I wouldv been thr the day before lol unbelievable tht thy didn't turn up would love get an invite to something like tht wat a turn on

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We had the same thing last year - and that's with lots of messaging, exchanging numbers etc beforehand, checking all ok that morning.... then admitting after that they bottled it. And these were ones that approached us - it's not as though we made the running.

That's not me moaning, by the way, just stating the facts!

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By *ems YeovilCouple
over a year ago

Nr Yeovil

Its not just private meets either,

we Run Gems, and trying to get a balance right is very difficult with all the No shows and let downs,

Both couples and singles,

seems there are a lot of wanna bees on here

spoiling it for the rest

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth!

maybe the good ones need more that 4 days notice... I know.. its radical... we do have lives as well.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

on the GB subject... they are not for me.. so I don't go... and don't put my name down for them!...

tried them in the past and they don't work for me as I know I prefer the social side and a good laugh... and the type of people they tend to attract tend not to be the type of people I get along with....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth!

maybe the good ones need more that 4 days notice... I know.. its radical... we do have lives as well.....

Hmmm so you worked out by a post from yesterday that the op had only given the guys 4 days notice now that is radical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refusd to attend a GB,as there was to be no pussy playing, just fucking.

I got a better offer for another, where it should be more friendlier and in company I know.

You have it in one there

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth!

maybe the good ones need more that 4 days notice... I know.. its radical... we do have lives as well.....

Hmmm so you worked out by a post from yesterday that the op had only given the guys 4 days notice now that is radical

no... the post was yesterday.... she was now trying to find more single guys to take their place.... on.... okay..5 days to go before a party...

point still stands.... we do have lives as well... good guys make plans!! these things happen just like the rest of the population......

if it was the other way round... the conversation would not have ended up like this...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth!

maybe the good ones need more that 4 days notice... I know.. its radical... we do have lives as well.....

Your right,, people do have lives,, and often times the good ones do need notice,, but that doesn't necessarily mean that there aren't people looking for a party to go to at the weekend.. some people don't like to make plans long in advance... just a thought...

and my friend invited these guys about a month ago, at their own request, all of them dropped out over the weekend, and she has been looking for the past few days,,

i offered to try and help because i am usually inundated by messages and pms in chat from guys and now there is nothing..

so i thought i would make a funny/ironic post about the lack of single guys to meet...

obviously that went wrong somewhere between people being cranky because they are tired from being up late, and the internet being a bad place without a sarcastic smiley!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't sign up to a pre-organised gang bang, as hand on heart, I think my nerves would get the better of me before I got there.

I have however been involved in (and throroughly enjoyed) group situations / gang bangs, where it has started as 2 or 3 people playing publically in an open room and then other people joined in.

So it is infact the over thinking about it where a lot of guys get 'cold feet' and quite a few think it will affect their masculinity / swing status to say so upfront.

It is easier to not show and say nothing or get rid of the profile and get a new one.

Good on them who did have the politeness to say they weren't coming.

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

I tend to find that I am more Likely to go to a gang on short notice rather then plan ahead for it. If I'm planning ahead I want something a little more intimate with a couple or 4some. I find GB's a little impersonal but good for a bit of lite relief. I also see it as an opportunity to meet new people though as has been observed most just cum and go.

My observations are if it is free or requires no real commitment then people have nothing invested in it so are a lot more casual about not bothering. I'm not just talking about meets here but have seen the same thing with half empty cinemas for free screenings. I would imagine that everyone who doesn't go thinks well there will be plenty of others going so they are not going to miss me. Personally think they should as a matter of courtesy at least let you know they are not going but then that's just me and what I would do. Don't like being messed about so try not to do it myself.

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"Invite wiltsfit to all your partys ladies... his a gentleman and will leave you with a smile

honey x"

Thank you x x but they can't invite me without you x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth!

Sounds familiar!! I posted a similar thing a little while ago, only it was 3 meets arranged on 3 different days and none showed up or had the common decency to call to cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Invite wiltsfit to all your partys ladies... his a gentleman and will leave you with a smile

honey x

Thank you x x but they can't invite me without you x x

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Jesus,, how hard is it to find single blokes when you want them??

My friend had 3 confirmed for her party on saturday, now all have dropped out and trying to find more... it appears they have all dissapeared off the face of the earth! most single men on here seem to be all mouth

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