FabSwingers.com forum: Girls advice needed for ffm or ffmm

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As a couple we are always keen to meet females or couples but do find it hard. Being a women for me its all about attraction and being on same sexual level.

Can I ask what do other women look for in ffmm of ffm meets.

Be great to understand why its so hard to find!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction.

Multiple people trying to find mutual attraction is difficult.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Attraction.

Multiple people trying to find mutual attraction is difficult. "

This. And you want to feel on equal terms which is difficult with couples. Also there's the worry of potential jealousies or causing offence so there's a lot to unpick.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

When I was part of a couple on here we found that chatting quite a bit beforehand in a group chat helped to see whether there was any real chemistry or spark, and helped to build the trust etc. We’d always meet for drinks and chat first, before anything else. Again this helped on the trust front, but also to establish whether there was any real sexual connection in person.

We not only had a lot of naughty fun this way but also made friends, and we remain platonic friends with one of those couples now. It was all about the relationship you build before the sex, for us.

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester

"As a couple we are always keen to meet females or couples but do find it hard. Being a women for me its all about attraction and being on same sexual level.

Can I ask what do other women look for in ffmm of ffm meets.

Be great to understand why its so hard to find! "

Timing , connection , location, compatibility... it’s all got to be there and fall into place which isn’t straightforward. Its like an eclipse - it all has to align for it to work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like a fare bit of chat first to make sure we are compatible. Even when we aren't we've remained friends and still have some good chats and a laugh.

Relax, enjoy the social side as much as anything, what's meant to be will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard sometimes to be attracted to both partners, I personally like all in and joining unless a couple wanted to use me as a toy

. The main thing as a single fem is that we get lots of couples asking and no one can fuck them all or fancy them all. So stand out from the crowd and make the fem feel comfortable

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Timing , connection , location, compatibility... it’s all got to be there and fall into place which isn’t straightforward. Its like an eclipse - it all has to align for it to work out

Exactly that

and has to be a three way attraction. I don’t meet or play if I just like the Mrs or just the Mr.

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

We've found other couples were both halves are happy to play seperate a great way to find ffm or mmf threesomes. It's just sometimes a challenge finding couples that are happy to enjoy all possible convo's. Don't really bother looking for single ladies anymore, no offence to those lovely single ladies out there but too many fakes and self centred ones. We want equal 3 way fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be great to understand why its so hard to find! "

OP women are hard to get, they need a lot of chasing. All the times I've joined a couple, it has been because the couple (actually the man) talked&talked (ie. we got on but also gave me focus) but also the couple (the man) was very straight-forward -if not pressing- about arranging to meet. Sounds like you may need a crash course on hitting on people! Esp. if it's the woman of the couple managing the account and you've never gone after women, it's just a different ball game to attracting men. (I have some rants&raves about what couples do that make them unsuitable but they don't apply to you from what I can see so I'll spare you :D )

I have limited experience of foursomes but what I've seen is that with couple-couple communications there is often some complacency/inertia, both parties are "sorted" so to speak and scheduling gets complicated, so it's a harder meet to pin down. If attraction is there, compliments and stating intention helps to get the ball rolling - I found couples were very tame, I guess for fear of offending? But it comes across as uninterested. If you like someone tell them, and lots

I guess what I'm saying is if you want this happening you gotta prioritise it and go after it in a focused way. It doesn't sound very organic but this is the reality of it.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Hubby jumping in. For us attraction is inportant. Simply because we've been together forever, no other sexual partners for last 30 yrs, so has to be some thing to pull us in.. As not here to rack up numbers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your thoughts, any tips you think that could improve our profile? X

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