FabSwingers.com forum: Over ten years of ‘non-swinging’

By *olton_boss OP Man
over a year ago

London

Honest post alert.

I’m sure that there are a few like me - in a relationship but still on here. In my defence, I joined another site before I was in a relationship and then used that and this to flirt a little and check out pictures but nothing more (not saying that’s ok either). A fair few years ago, by GF said to me “look, if you want to be in a more open relationship then that’s fine but I don’t want to know and the condition is that you don’t fall for anyone”. Probably the most understanding person ever for accepting my fantasies and needs that she thought couldn’t be meet. So I carried on being on a couple of websites including this - once again, not saying that’s ok.

During this period, I never actually met anybody as I couldn’t bring myself to do so as it would’ve felt wrong - plus, not being able to accommodate rings alarm bells for everyone without me being able to explain the situation (who would believe that as so many on here say that sort of thing I’m sure).

Anyway, after ten years, the relationship has unfortunately (or fortunately for those judging) come to an end. I’m sure that a lot think that it’s for the best and you’re possibly right. I have always had a lot in my system that I probably needed to address before getting back into a relationship and this community has always been something that I turn to to get involved in rightly or wrongly.

This might seem like a boring post or what have you but being single and finally being able to properly get involved (COVID-19 dependant!) is a massive thing for me. It’s something that I’ve always wanted and never wanted to get on the apps like a lot of my friends as I genuinely think that this is a community in a way rather than ‘getting a shag’.

Anyway, I’m sure I’ve bored you all now but it was something that I feel that I needed to get off of my chest for myself rather than anyone commenting!