FabSwingers.com forum: Deflated

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

(Yes, it’s another attention seeking post.)

I’m feeling so deflated. I’m lying in the bed livid at the world. I’m going through some shit, my sister is suffering, my friends are going through shit...

I’m just deflated. Wish I didn’t have feelings/emotions. Mehhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dunno what I’m hoping to achieve with this post.

Not sympathy. I’m just moaning

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Currently feel the same ....

Fuck'em all attitude here at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling. It will hopefully achieve you getting it off your chest and feeling better

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By *eavenlyWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Moan away, sometimes it's better out than in, just venting can help

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

You already know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you'll also realise you're not alone struggling with those feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you need to just say it. Not for anyone to fix everything, but just to feel acknowledged and heard.

Little steps hey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its as unnatural to feel happy all the time as it is sad. Have a cuddle with your baby, a bubble bath and some rest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dunno what I’m hoping to achieve with this post.

Not sympathy. I’m just moaning "
Sometimes it just helps to write it down, and get it out

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Life can be tough and cruel at times but it is always the little things in life that make us happy.x

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes just typing it out and venting is what's needed.

It's never nice when you're going through crap times but you do come through them.

Nothing wrong in having a meh moment.

I haven't got wonderful advice to share with you, that will come from the other people's posts as they are an awesome bunch of peeps who will lift your spirits in no time at all.

Just take care of yourself

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of us are feeling the same and struggling.. Sometimes it just helps to know you are not alone

I have a brilliant article that i can send to you if you are interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to moan than hide it away.

Here’s hoping that you wake up in a better place tomorrow.

Good luck.

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By *picyrodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Having a rant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having a rant

Where’s my rant?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

I do appreciate it. Just feeling so low. Wish life was easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to let it out then eat you up inside. Everyone’s entitled to do so. Sometimes just saying (or in this case typing) and sharing it is all you need to make you feel better. Hope you feel more positive soon. Sending hugs xx

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Thank you everyone

I do appreciate it. Just feeling so low. Wish life was easier "

I'm feeling a little low too. (hugs) without out the lows we can never appreciate the highs.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"(Yes, it’s another attention seeking post.)

I’m feeling so deflated. I’m lying in the bed livid at the world. I’m going through some shit, my sister is suffering, my friends are going through shit...

I’m just deflated. Wish I didn’t have feelings/emotions. Mehhhhhh"

If we, you didn't have feeings you would have have the joy and love for your baby and hubby, you will never feel the pleasure of the small things that make you happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling. Screaming into the void of the internet is a good way to get it off your chest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(Yes, it’s another attention seeking post.)

I’m feeling so deflated. I’m lying in the bed livid at the world. I’m going through some shit, my sister is suffering, my friends are going through shit...

I’m just deflated. Wish I didn’t have feelings/emotions. Mehhhhhh"

Come sit on my cloud, lets chat shit cry and eat cake!

You are braver than you think

You got this! Love you pickle xx

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sending hugs queenie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know the feeling. Screaming into the void of the internet is a good way to get it off your chest"

Come and join our cloud...Screaming with friends is fun

Sending love

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

I know this feeling well. Everything has felt like an uphill struggle recently. Sending hugs x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Life is arse sometimes.

Hug of support to you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending you strength. I hope lots good things happen for you soon. You're not alone. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not in this alone OP. It will get easier.

I cried in front of one of my company directors on a ZOOM meeting today. Not great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's what fab forums are for

(keeps me sane)

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

A life without emotions and feelings would be horrendous, but it's also not good when you're feeling the way you are.

Keep taking a day at a time. Life will get better.

Have a big cuddle with your husband and try and have a good night's sleep.

Hope you feel a little brighter soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are pirates called pirates?....

Because they ARRRRRRRRRRR!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(Yes, it’s another attention seeking post.)

I’m feeling so deflated. I’m lying in the bed livid at the world. I’m going through some shit, my sister is suffering, my friends are going through shit...

I’m just deflated. Wish I didn’t have feelings/emotions. Mehhhhhh"

I hear ya. It'd be good to turn them off occasionally. Tomorrow's a new day and hopefully a better one - hugs.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"(Yes, it’s another attention seeking post.)

I’m feeling so deflated. I’m lying in the bed livid at the world. I’m going through some shit, my sister is suffering, my friends are going through shit...

I’m just deflated. Wish I didn’t have feelings/emotions. Mehhhhhh"

Hope it gets better. Remember every little good thing and good feeling will help in the long run

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Thank you everyone

Xxxxxxxx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Oh no Queenie I'm sorry you are going through it . Not been a great few days has it

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Feeling better today Queenie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(Yes, it’s another attention seeking post.)

I’m feeling so deflated. I’m lying in the bed livid at the world. I’m going through some shit, my sister is suffering, my friends are going through shit...

I’m just deflated. Wish I didn’t have feelings/emotions. Mehhhhhh"

I get it some days it feels that no matter what you do someone or something s going to bring you down. People will day it’ll get better or someone has it worse....does that make a difference to you in that moment? No cause it is crappy and sucks.

Here’s to hoping that round the corner things will get easier even if just for a while.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feeling better today Queenie?"

Wish I was

Wee sister tried to commit suicide, my PND is in the shitter, my parents are woefully ignorant to mental health issues and when I asked my mum for support I got ‘I’m not a psychiatrist I can’t support you’. I told her ‘you’re a mum, you could at least try’ and she’s not speaking to me. Her and my dad love us, they just have never had to deal with anything like this before and don’t know how to...

My little sister has had a chat with her though and my mum is trying hard to support her, as is my dad. They’re in way over their head, I was hoping to try and help educate them but mums not speaking to me. Ah well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling better today Queenie?

Wish I was

Is your sister with the local crisis team? Are they any good?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feeling better today Queenie?

Wish I was

Is your sister with the local crisis team? Are they any good?"

She had a head injury when it happened so she was taken to hospital, checked over and monitored then moved to the psychiatric ward. They’re assessing her for a personality disorder, most likely split personality disorder. She’s back home, she’s staying with my mum and dad at the moment (she’s 16)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feeling better today Queenie?

Wish I was

Is your sister with the local crisis team? Are they any good?

And she has a doctors appointment with the GP today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you and your sister going through this

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By *atJWMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Speaking from experience GP’s are too overwhelmed and not equipped to deal with people with psychiatric or mental problems. As your sister is 16 she needs to be referred to the local CAMHS team ASAP.

As unfortunately she has already attempted self harm she should be treated as a priority, however like most health service departments they are inundated and over worked trying to deal with all the cases on their workloads so you must ensure that your sister doesn’t get lost in the masses, find a contact within the CAMHS team and keep phoning and contacting them until she is assessed and put in a treatment program.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speaking from experience GP’s are too overwhelmed and not equipped to deal with people with psychiatric or mental problems. As your sister is 16 she needs to be referred to the local CAMHS team ASAP.

Good Luck"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear you and your sister going through this

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Update; dad told my sister to stop googling stuff, there’s nothing wrong with her and it’s probably lockdown making her feel shit. My sisters told my mum that if my dad can’t take responsibility for things he’s done, she doesn’t want him being involved at all.

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough

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By *atJWMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Update; dad told my sister to stop googling stuff, there’s nothing wrong with her and it’s probably lockdown making her feel shit. My sisters told my mum that if my dad can’t take responsibility for things he’s done, she doesn’t want him being involved at all.

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough"

If your dad has that attitude and your mum sounds like she is struggling it may be best to get your sister away from their negativity. Could see stay with another member of your family? One who is less judgemental and more sympathetic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough"

I’m so sorry lovely, this is so awful for you.

Your sister is lucky to have you fighting her corner, but make sure you’re looking after yourself too.

Sending you massive hugs xx

Hippy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough

She can come stay with me, or my granny and grandads. Don’t know what she wants to do (she’s currently at the beach with her friends and her family)

She spoke to the GP today and she’s going in to the GP on Monday for a face to face appointment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough

I’m so sorry lovely, this is so awful for you.

Your sister is lucky to have you fighting her corner, but make sure you’re looking after yourself too.

Sending you massive hugs xx

Hippy "

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By *atJWMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough

She can come stay with me, or my granny and grandads. Don’t know what she wants to do (she’s currently at the beach with her friends and her family)

She spoke to the GP today and she’s going in to the GP on Monday for a face to face appointment "

I hope you don’t mind my comments but in my experience your sister my be feeling confused and guilty about what she did and may not relate how she truly feels when she sees her GP. I would suggest you try and talk with her and gauge her true feelings and intentions prior to her seeing the doctor, than offer to go with her to the appointment for morale support, that way you can encourage her to be honest and open with the doctor, otherwise she may play down her true feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love you Queenie

Your sister is lucky to have you.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough

She can come stay with me, or my granny and grandads. Don’t know what she wants to do (she’s currently at the beach with her friends and her family)

She spoke to the GP today and she’s going in to the GP on Monday for a face to face appointment

Excellent advice right there QL. People who are potentially suicidal are very good at hiding their true feelings.

Hope things improve for you all RQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling better today Queenie?

Wish I was

You are going through a very tough time and it's difficult and sad that your parents aren't able to offer much support so make sure you get support elsewhere, I'm sure your hubby is helping and hopefully other family and friends are too. Keep in touch with your local MH team and hopefully they are being supportive too.

Plus look after yourself, do things you enjoy, spend lots of time with your baby, do fun things as a family, have relaxing time for you, work out what makes you happy and give yourself time to do that.

I have serious MH issues, i also have awful problems with part of my family but I've learnt to step back a bit and look after myself, i love music, reading, watching sport and i make sure i have time to enjoy them. Also (this really shows my age) i love sitting in my garden, listening to the sounds of my neighbours, children playing, lawn mowers, birds etc, it calms me, makes me feel happy.

I hope things look better for you soon x

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Cannot tell you enough how proud of you I am through this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cannot tell you enough how proud of you I am through this.

I adore you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone, I can’t express how much this has helped me and made me feel. I really appreciate it xxxx

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Huge hug from me you gorgeous, smart, lovely woman you. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you everyone, I can’t express how much this has helped me and made me feel. I really appreciate it xxxx"

Hope today is brighter. Record some baby giggles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(Yes, it’s another attention seeking post.)

I’m feeling so deflated. I’m lying in the bed livid at the world. I’m going through some shit, my sister is suffering, my friends are going through shit...

I’m just deflated. Wish I didn’t have feelings/emotions. Mehhhhhh"

If nothing else, I will provide cuddles pretty lady! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough"

Its so hard isn't it.. I hope you can reach her

O e of my friends has attempted suicide twice this year... I'm terrified to leave her on her own.. We've taken all the knives out of the house. She now has 1:1 counsellor that she can call anytime, GP and mental health nurse. Every day I'm frightened that this could be it and i should have done more to support her.

One thing i do know is that to help others, you've really got to take care of yourself and build your resillience, because you drain your resources really fast.

Wishing you all the best x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough

Its so hard isn't it.. I hope you can reach her

One thing i do know is that to help others, you've really got to take care of yourself and build your resillience, because you drain your resources really fast.

Wishing you all the best x"

God I feel for you, I really do

My sister is 16, works 50+ hours a week and she lives in a flat with one of her friends, who she works with as well. Her and another work friend found my sister, phoned the ambulance etc.

They have a wee outhouse and they hid anything that could be a danger, including the kettle. My sister got home from hospital at 5am and wanted toast and a cup of tea but obviously couldn’t. The fact they hid the kettle made me smile

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I sent a very huge text message into the family group chat, telling them exactly how we all feel. I had wrote a lovely one last night, but fuck it. This one was rough

Its so hard isn't it.. I hope you can reach her

One thing i do know is that to help others, you've really got to take care of yourself and build your resillience, because you drain your resources really fast.

Wishing you all the best x

God I feel for you, I really do

My sister is 16, works 50+ hours a week and she lives in a flat with one of her friends, who she works with as well. Her and another work friend found my sister, phoned the ambulance etc.

xxxx"

Omg we had a discussion about a bottle opener.. I think the neighbour took it in the end just in case. Christ knows how she will cook any veg that needs chopping up

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