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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees

I’ve only been a fab member a couple of months and it’s so difficult to get a woman to even read the first message. What am I doing wrong. I’m tall handsome and have a fantastic sense of humour it’s so easy for women, us blokes are tripping over each to get to meet you and I’m getting nowhere . It must be the social distancing because I’m such a good catch!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see your tongue in cheek OP - good luck

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Let's ask you a question.

In what way do you stand out on here? Consider your profile text, gallery and introduction messages. What do you think are the points about you that you convey with those that would lead women to want to reply?

That's a serious question. You may be a great guy, but what do Fabbers see in you from what you share?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Here's another piece of advice you almost certainly won't take because I've only ever known one person who has.

Post an example message of yours to establish contact. Most of the messages we get are absolutely awful. You need to make sure your messages are worth replying to. We'll give you some feedback if you give us an example.

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees

I’ve been told before I’m handsome I like to think I’m fun to be around.. Oh and I’m a devil in the bedroom department!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been told before I’m handsome I like to think I’m fun to be around.. Oh and I’m a devil in the bedroom department!! "

Aren't we all? Except me I've been told I'm not fun to be around

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees

I’m going to have to come up with a cunning plan to get the local ladies to invite me into their boudoir’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A cunning stunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A cunning stunt "

A stunning c... wait...

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"A cunning stunt "

I laughed too much then

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Oh and I’m a devil in the bedroom department!! "

I have pre cum in my trollies

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)

how strange I'm hit every branch falling out that damn ugly tree and I'm swimming it clunge. It just don't figure

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees

Indeed !! I’ve noticed a few cunning stunts when I’ve been looking through the profile’s on FAB !!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I’ve been told before I’m handsome I like to think I’m fun to be around.. Oh and I’m a devil in the bedroom department!! "

So how are you conveying that on here? How will people know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's ask you a question.

In what way do you stand out on here? "

I think that's where a lot go wrong...they try far too hard for this

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees


"Let's ask you a question.

In what way do you stand out on here?

I think that's where a lot go wrong...they try far too hard for this "

My point is most of times my first message isn’t even read . I don’t even get chance to charm the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And it's really not ok, it's really not ok...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to have a cock pic as your profile pic then the ladies will be literally fighting over you x

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees


"You need to have a cock pic as your profile pic then the ladies will be literally fighting over you x"

I have a dick pic in my friends only photo’s . It’s my dick getting devoured by a lady friend I have. Personally I think it’s rude to send a pic of my pork sword unless I’m asked!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

It takes time o/p for us single guys it could seem like forever lol. Just be patient and enjoy making new friends. Anything else is a bonus really. Join in with the forum posts and cam room chats. Be polite. Good luck!

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

I don't suppose you realalise their is a lock down for covid19 at the mo and no meets are happening at present. Not much point in reading messages all day long when you cannot meet at the mo. You have one picture that when clicked on is so small you cannot make anything out too so think you need to upload a few more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lifes not fair dont worry always someone worse off than yourself i havent met yet dont worry me

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees


"I don't suppose you realalise their is a lock down for covid19 at the mo and no meets are happening at present. Not much point in reading messages all day long when you cannot meet at the mo. You have one picture that when clicked on is so small you cannot make anything out too so think you need to upload a few more. "

I always send a clear face pic with a introductory message. I’m just not getting the message read in the first place. The ladies are not giving me chance to weave my web of charm !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't suppose you realalise their is a lock down for covid19 at the mo and no meets are happening at present. Not much point in reading messages all day long when you cannot meet at the mo. You have one picture that when clicked on is so small you cannot make anything out too so think you need to upload a few more.

I always send a clear face pic with a introductory message. I’m just not getting the message read in the first place. The ladies are not giving me chance to weave my web of charm ! "
too many single men on here women and couples can pick and choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't suppose you realalise their is a lock down for covid19 at the mo and no meets are happening at present. Not much point in reading messages all day long when you cannot meet at the mo. You have one picture that when clicked on is so small you cannot make anything out too so think you need to upload a few more.

I always send a clear face pic with a introductory message. I’m just not getting the message read in the first place. The ladies are not giving me chance to weave my web of charm ! "

I have 197 unread messages, so it takes a while for ladies to read through, more so if you get caught up in a conversation thread with someone (or two....three....). Half the time I don't even see messages pop in if i'm chatting with someone.

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees


"I don't suppose you realalise their is a lock down for covid19 at the mo and no meets are happening at present. Not much point in reading messages all day long when you cannot meet at the mo. You have one picture that when clicked on is so small you cannot make anything out too so think you need to upload a few more.

I always send a clear face pic with a introductory message. I’m just not getting the message read in the first place. The ladies are not giving me chance to weave my web of charm !

I have 197 unread messages, so it takes a while for ladies to read through, more so if you get caught up in a conversation thread with someone (or two....three....). Half the time I don't even see messages pop in if i'm chatting with someone. "

Wow 197 unread messages!!! I think I’m wasting time on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't suppose you realalise their is a lock down for covid19 at the mo and no meets are happening at present. Not much point in reading messages all day long when you cannot meet at the mo. You have one picture that when clicked on is so small you cannot make anything out too so think you need to upload a few more.

I always send a clear face pic with a introductory message. I’m just not getting the message read in the first place. The ladies are not giving me chance to weave my web of charm ! "

....and I look at the profile first, so if it doesn't pique my interest, I won't read the message and i'll discreetly delete it a few weeks later when the sender has forgotten he's messaged me

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Most ladies will click on the profile first before opening the message.

If they don't like what they see and don't have their interest piqued, message will probably go unread and be deleted. Next.

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By *apsloc OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees


"Most ladies will click on the profile first before opening the message.

If they don't like what they see and don't have their interest piqued, message will probably go unread and be deleted. Next."

I’ve checked on whose looked at me and it’s blank most days. It must be a combination of social distancing and to many single males on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't suppose you realalise their is a lock down for covid19 at the mo and no meets are happening at present. Not much point in reading messages all day long when you cannot meet at the mo. You have one picture that when clicked on is so small you cannot make anything out too so think you need to upload a few more.

I always send a clear face pic with a introductory message. I’m just not getting the message read in the first place. The ladies are not giving me chance to weave my web of charm !

I have 197 unread messages, so it takes a while for ladies to read through, more so if you get caught up in a conversation thread with someone (or two....three....). Half the time I don't even see messages pop in if i'm chatting with someone.

Wow 197 unread messages!!! I think I’m wasting time on here . "

No, you just need to stand out to someone looking at your profile. No point hiding your face with a pixilated image, show a photo of your clothed torso instead, or whatever - get creative!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Most ladies will click on the profile first before opening the message.

If they don't like what they see and don't have their interest piqued, message will probably go unread and be deleted. Next.

I’ve checked on whose looked at me and it’s blank most days. It must be a combination of social distancing and to many single males on the site. "

Many messages are so short that we can see all of them without opening them. I don't know if that's you or not but it's a mistake many people make. If somebody write "Hi hru?" to us then it will get binned without opening it.

Many people (us included) switch off the function that tells people we've looked at their profile. Your list being blank definitely does not mean nobody has looked at you.

So what will people see about you that could get them interested in finding out more about you when they view your profile? Do you think you present yourself well in your photos and text?

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