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"Discreet" what does it mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do people _iew others that seek discretion as people that are cheating, or just people that prefer to keep details of their sex lives quiet from the wider world? Do you assume cheating, or just desire for some privacy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means what it means to the person it's meant for....

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends on the circumstances and the conversation you are having with the other person.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

discretion means the same thing whether the person is attached or not......

I think you are mixing up actions and definitions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to keep things discreet simply because of my job, it’s not the sort of job in which I could be seen full face naked on the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't want a arsehole shouting their gob off about swinging in the wetherspoons

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It means they’re dirty cheating scoundrels

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

I'd take it to mean, "keep it etween you and me" and that goes for everyday life not just fab

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily no. I won’t show sexual veris or leave them either. I don’t want it discussed anywhere with anyone who I meet or what I do, especially on the forums. So if that person isn’t of similar thinking then they’re not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s privacy you know don’t go bragging to ur pals down the pub and what not or if say passing by in the street don’t stop me to talk kind off thing

Had something like this happen before felt really sorry for the wife to be host with and for the life off me couldn’t understand why hubby was stepping out on wife as she was a complete smoke show bomb shell total knock out beautiful in every way and was really awkward meet a guy ones on the Monday afternoon and then went shopping on the wenday in man mode and I see the guy and his wife walking passed he completely stoped and started talking to me like how are you and all this stuff felt really bad sins wife had no idear that hubby was in my bed on the Monday x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to keep things discreet simply because of my job, it’s not the sort of job in which I could be seen full face naked on the internet"

Same here plus I do it to protect the couples or females I am with as they may not want their business open to all

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

What goes on in the room, stays in the room. Unless you blab it in detail in verifications.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I assume they arrive in plain packaging.

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By *w79Man
over a year ago

Stalbridge

Privacy for me.

= my sex life is my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas'

Keeping private life exactly that, private

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me it’s very simple, my business is my business. What I do, who I see or who I talk to is between me and that other person. If someone can’t respect that, then they aren’t for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always found discretion to be the better part of valour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope they mean privacy and discretion. In reality it probably means they will blab to anyone who will listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it’s very simple, my business is my business. What I do, who I see or who I talk to is between me and that other person. If someone can’t respect that, then they aren’t for me "

BIG

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. I put it on my profile as I don't want people asking me on the street how my last hookup or gangbang was while standing next to my mother in law, or saying anything at work or in front of the neighbors, etc. But didn't want people to think I was cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I assume they arrive in plain packaging. "

Lol, I assure you, I do not!

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It means I won't knock on your door just wearing a thong with a rose between my teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as discretion due to position of job. I imagine there are those from certain government positions that don't wish to be known in the public eye.

If someone is cheating then it's their choice, and their consequences.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Not necessarily no. I won’t show sexual veris or leave them either. I don’t want it discussed anywhere with anyone who I meet or what I do, especially on the forums. So if that person isn’t of similar thinking then they’re not for me. "

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"They don't want a arsehole shouting their gob off about swinging in the wetherspoons"

This is one of the reasons we don’t meet single guys , overheard a guy telling his mates in the pub once about a married woman he was fucking and showing pictures.

There are degrees of discretion, we’ve met a few Asian couples and they tend to be super discreet, often won’t meet outside of the house or hotel room, park a few doors down etc

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"Not necessarily no. I won’t show sexual veris or leave them either. I don’t want it discussed anywhere with anyone who I meet or what I do, especially on the forums. So if that person isn’t of similar thinking then they’re not for me. "

This. There are far too many people on here that like to gossip, and far too much unpleasant behaviour when people don't like you meeting someone for whatever reason. What I get up to is no concern of anyones apart from mine and whoever I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone. I put it on my profile as I don't want people asking me on the street how my last hookup or gangbang was while standing next to my mother in law, or saying anything at work or in front of the neighbors, etc. But didn't want people to think I was cheating."

That won't stop the clueless idiots. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ask for discretion as would never want anyone we know (outside of fab friends) to know what we’re upto lol

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By *anned n TonedMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Shouldn't everything on here... Stay on here tho? Isn't it or shouldnt that be a given.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people _iew others that seek discretion as people that are cheating, or just people that prefer to keep details of their sex lives quiet from the wider world? Do you assume cheating, or just desire for some privacy?"

Right or wrong, I assume cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people _iew others that seek discretion as people that are cheating, or just people that prefer to keep details of their sex lives quiet from the wider world? Do you assume cheating, or just desire for some privacy?"

What goes on with Fab stays with Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't everything on here... Stay on here tho? Isn't it or shouldnt that be a given.? "

I'm pretty much of that mind which is why I don't publish descreet/discretion on my profile.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I'm open to a point, but naming names is a no-no. My private life is private, end of conversation. Besides, I like having dirty secrets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not necessarily no. I won’t show sexual veris or leave them either. I don’t want it discussed anywhere with anyone who I meet or what I do, especially on the forums. So if that person isn’t of similar thinking then they’re not for me.

This. There are far too many people on here that like to gossip, and far too much unpleasant behaviour when people don't like you meeting someone for whatever reason. What I get up to is no concern of anyones apart from mine and whoever I meet. "

Far too many! Jealousy and unpleasant behaviour?? Say what?!! Noooooooo!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


" There are far too many people on here that like to gossip, and far too much unpleasant behaviour when people don't like you meeting someone for whatever reason. What I get up to is no concern of anyones apart from mine and whoever I meet. "

I’ll never know why some users feel it necessary to ... “oops! Was I showing my latest veri” .... just to stick two fingers up in victory... it’s smacks of jealous drama types. It’s nsa for godsake it’s not a badge of honour to score points by. It’s getting silly here I agree

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Not necessarily no. I won’t show sexual veris or leave them either. I don’t want it discussed anywhere with anyone who I meet or what I do, especially on the forums. So if that person isn’t of similar thinking then they’re not for me.

This. There are far too many people on here that like to gossip, and far too much unpleasant behaviour when people don't like you meeting someone for whatever reason. What I get up to is no concern of anyones apart from mine and whoever I meet.

Far too many! Jealousy and unpleasant behaviour?? Say what?!! Noooooooo! "

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on a few things from their profile I'll either think cheating or they want people who aren't going to announce to lie whole street that they're swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people _iew others that seek discretion as people that are cheating, or just people that prefer to keep details of their sex lives quiet from the wider world? Do you assume cheating, or just desire for some privacy?"

Some people seek discretion for different reasons..even though this is the site it is some married people have no issue or problems fucking other married people but do not want anyone else to find out ...others just want privacy in their sex lives ..what always amazes me is that you could be standing beside a lady at a bus stop...in a shop .. anywhere..and you have absolutely no idea of what she's after doing sexually ....going to do sexually...what's on her mind sexually..she may be returning from an orgy... heading to an orgy ..and ya wouldn't have a clue ...so that would have to be another form of discretion... Would'nt it .. personal discretion ?...yes ?...no ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means they won't display each other's veris but will make wee jokey references to the time they met at every opportunity in the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It means they won't display each other's veris but will make wee jokey references to the time they met at every opportunity in the forum "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Discretion *shouldn't* be something you have to ask for in your profile it's something that you *should* be able to expect from those you meet, those you interact with on the forums and in messages or groups etc.

Sadly experience has proved that there are some who don't know the meaning of the word and over time I've seen some extreme examples of that (some from people who have a "butter wouldn't melt" presence and persona) to know that unless I really know and trust that person they get to know very little about me.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I like to think I'm discreet which I mostly am.

Except if I'm being abused in front of a crowd at a dogging spot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Discretion *shouldn't* be something you have to ask for in your profile it's something that you *should* be able to expect from those you meet, those you interact with on the forums and in messages or groups etc.

Sadly experience has proved that there are some who don't know the meaning of the word and over time I've seen some extreme examples of that (some from people who have a "butter wouldn't melt" presence and persona) to know that unless I really know and trust that person they get to know very little about me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It means they won't display each other's veris but will make wee jokey references to the time they met at every opportunity in the forum "

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"Do people _iew others that seek discretion as people that are cheating, or just people that prefer to keep details of their sex lives quiet from the wider world? Do you assume cheating, or just desire for some privacy?"

Just means not a blabbermouth, talking about other people and their business.

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By *pl83mfCouple
over a year ago

Montreal

Agree

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING


"Do people _iew others that seek discretion as people that are cheating, or just people that prefer to keep details of their sex lives quiet from the wider world? Do you assume cheating, or just desire for some privacy?"

I think the desire for some level of privacy. For many their family, work, etc don’t know about this side of their life and want that to continue. Some of us want this to be and remain separate.

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By *exydoctorsCouple
over a year ago

Galway/Clare

I guess there are a few levels of discretion.... One is just not blabbing about it.

But another, especially when you have teenage kids with unlimited internet access, is ensuring that any randommer with a phone couldnt recognise you or find you out. So when we say discreet this is what we mean.

When people say they are discreet and then their primary profile photo is a face pic, we pass on by because we clearly mean different things when we say discreet

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

It means it will be our secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't want a arsehole shouting their gob off about swinging in the wetherspoons

This is one of the reasons we don’t meet single guys , overheard a guy telling his mates in the pub once about a married woman he was fucking and showing pictures.

There are degrees of discretion, we’ve met a few Asian couples and they tend to be super discreet, often won’t meet outside of the house or hotel room, park a few doors down etc "

I was at work on a door and this tipsy lady who came out for a smoke starts hitting on me and her fella is inside, she tells me he likes guys around her and I said do you mean swinging so she starts .

I made the schoolboy error of saying my bird and me are into swinging, ten mins later my colleague runs up the stairs and says that the d*unk scatty piss head downstairs has just told him I'm into swinging !!

Quick as a flash I said fuck off I told her Singing ,me and my bird are into live acoustic singing.

He instantly just looks like ohh yehh haha and I said throw them out asap eh I cba with this.

So that's my experience and now I keep total shtum cos of big gob trollops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I upload photos of women sucking my cock, I’ll scribble all over their face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discreet and discrete are homophones. They sound the same but they have different definitions. Discreet means careful or intentionally unobtrusive. Discrete means distinct or unconnected.

Now that’s cleared up I am officially a constable of the grammar police.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Normally means they're married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normally means they're married."

Or in a job or position that that demands discreetness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normally means they're married.

Or in a job or position that that demands discreetness?"

Discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normally means they're married.

Or in a job or position that that demands discreetness?

Discretion "

Ah, you make a grammatical error! Come quietly with your hands up!

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

It means if I saw you in the supermarket or a bar I wouldn't shout I've fucked her at the top of my lungs, in fact I would ignore you, not in a nasty way.

It also means that I wouldn't show any pics or vids that had been sent between us.

It's a sad fact some people on here are not discreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people _iew others that seek discretion as people that are cheating, or just people that prefer to keep details of their sex lives quiet from the wider world? Do you assume cheating, or just desire for some privacy?"
It means don’t tell the world about your last meeting on fab and how it’s the school teacher from down the road !!!

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