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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " I agree Hippy. We are all unique, that's what makes the world an interesting place. | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love I agree Hippy. We are all unique, that's what makes the world an interesting place. " Staying here | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " I agree completely. There is some positivity that can come from it but also a lot of negativity to anyone big or small who doesn’t fit into the consensus. Would be different if it wasn’t used as a comparison but more a celebration. For example the mum tum thread would’ve done wonders for a few women who really don’t like theirs but if it was ‘I prefer a mum tum to a slim woman’ it would only breed negativity and normally wind up with conflicting posts. | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " Yes! I get that it’s a topic that’s going to be discussed, because pretty much everyone is naked in here! And I’m up for those conversations. But I’d rather have ‘what do we appreciate about characteristic x’, than whether people prefer x or y. Then the people with x, or who like x can comment; and the people without x or who don’t like x, or who prefer y or z can start another thread. I rarely comment on the preference threads because it’s hard to respond without coming across as judgemental. Appreciate...don’t compare  | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " I love you  | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love I love you "And I love you, you scrummy man | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " Exactly this | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love True "You’ve just commented on the other thread that the ‘poster type’ women are uptight? | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love True
You’ve just commented on the other thread that the ‘poster type’ women are uptight? "Yes he did... | |||
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"To be honest I’m on the fence with this. I see things where people are accused of body shaming and personally I don’t think what they said is body shaming. Yes I’ve seen a thread today which I don’t see a need for. There’s all sorts of threads where offence can be taken ie circumcised or not? Hairy chest or not? Who prefers tall men? etc etc. There’s a BBW thread , no reason there can’t be a thread for people who like curvy, a thread for people who like slim etc. I do think people take offence sometimes where none is intended. Just my 2p worth! x " I get what you’re saying, but to quote the other thread, certain types of women are up themselves, they are uptight, they are no fun to take out because they won’t eat? I agree offence can be taken where none is intended, but if I’m honest those comments have offended me, and I’m not easily offended | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " Completly agree with you hippy we are all beautiful in our own ways and should always embrace ourselves and be happy with who we are Xx | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Yes! I get that it’s a topic that’s going to be discussed, because pretty much everyone is naked in here! And I’m up for those conversations. But I’d rather have ‘what do we appreciate about characteristic x’, than whether people prefer x or y. Then the people with x, or who like x can comment; and the people without x or who don’t like x, or who prefer y or z can start another thread. I rarely comment on the preference threads because it’s hard to respond without coming across as judgemental. Appreciate...don’t compare "To be fair, that's usually what happens - threads start with someone saying "I like X", and invariably someone will comment "but I'm Y, does that mean that Y isn't attractive". Then it just gets twisted to be body shaming when it usually wasn't started as anything of the sort. So to stop it people either need to stop having preferences (which isn't going to happen), or people need to stop being offended when people have preferences that they don't fit into. Granted, some people sometimes don't word things in the best way possible, but not everyone is a wordsmith. | |||
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"Can't stand em myself. It's fair enough to have preferences, less fair when someone feels the need to slag another person's preferences off. I find it worse when a woman body shames other women. Stinks of insecurity to me." Or immaturity as well as insecurity | |||
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"To be honest I’m on the fence with this. I see things where people are accused of body shaming and personally I don’t think what they said is body shaming. Yes I’ve seen a thread today which I don’t see a need for. There’s all sorts of threads where offence can be taken ie circumcised or not? Hairy chest or not? Who prefers tall men? etc etc. There’s a BBW thread , no reason there can’t be a thread for people who like curvy, a thread for people who like slim etc. I do think people take offence sometimes where none is intended. Just my 2p worth! x I get what you’re saying, but to quote the other thread, certain types of women are up themselves, they are uptight, they are no fun to take out because they won’t eat? I agree offence can be taken where none is intended, but if I’m honest those comments have offended me, and I’m not easily offended " Yeah I saw that and that’s the thread I didn’t like but there was another one which I thought was fine. There’s plenty of big cock threads. I know for a fact some men get upset and feel inadequate with some of those threads. If everyone takes everything to heart or is offended there will be no discussion threads at all. I think there are words and phrases which people should have the bloody common sense not to use though! | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love I agree Hippy. We are all unique, that's what makes the world an interesting place. " It’s human nature! And most are bullies! | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Yes! I get that it’s a topic that’s going to be discussed, because pretty much everyone is naked in here! And I’m up for those conversations. But I’d rather have ‘what do we appreciate about characteristic x’, than whether people prefer x or y. Then the people with x, or who like x can comment; and the people without x or who don’t like x, or who prefer y or z can start another thread. I rarely comment on the preference threads because it’s hard to respond without coming across as judgemental. Appreciate...don’t compare
To be fair, that's usually what happens - threads start with someone saying "I like X", and invariably someone will comment "but I'm Y, does that mean that Y isn't attractive". Then it just gets twisted to be body shaming when it usually wasn't started as anything of the sort. So to stop it people either need to stop having preferences (which isn't going to happen), or people need to stop being offended when people have preferences that they don't fit into. Granted, some people sometimes don't word things in the best way possible, but not everyone is a wordsmith. "Yes | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Yes! I get that it’s a topic that’s going to be discussed, because pretty much everyone is naked in here! And I’m up for those conversations. But I’d rather have ‘what do we appreciate about characteristic x’, than whether people prefer x or y. Then the people with x, or who like x can comment; and the people without x or who don’t like x, or who prefer y or z can start another thread. I rarely comment on the preference threads because it’s hard to respond without coming across as judgemental. Appreciate...don’t compare
To be fair, that's usually what happens - threads start with someone saying "I like X", and invariably someone will comment "but I'm Y, does that mean that Y isn't attractive". Then it just gets twisted to be body shaming when it usually wasn't started as anything of the sort. So to stop it people either need to stop having preferences (which isn't going to happen), or people need to stop being offended when people have preferences that they don't fit into. Granted, some people sometimes don't word things in the best way possible, but not everyone is a wordsmith. "I do agree, but some of the comments on the other thread were not nice at all. | |||
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"To be honest I’m on the fence with this. I see things where people are accused of body shaming and personally I don’t think what they said is body shaming. Yes I’ve seen a thread today which I don’t see a need for. There’s all sorts of threads where offence can be taken ie circumcised or not? Hairy chest or not? Who prefers tall men? etc etc. There’s a BBW thread , no reason there can’t be a thread for people who like curvy, a thread for people who like slim etc. I do think people take offence sometimes where none is intended. Just my 2p worth! x I get what you’re saying, but to quote the other thread, certain types of women are up themselves, they are uptight, they are no fun to take out because they won’t eat? I agree offence can be taken where none is intended, but if I’m honest those comments have offended me, and I’m not easily offended Yeah I saw that and that’s the thread I didn’t like but there was another one which I thought was fine. There’s plenty of big cock threads. I know for a fact some men get upset and feel inadequate with some of those threads. If everyone takes everything to heart or is offended there will be no discussion threads at all. I think there are words and phrases which people should have the bloody common sense not to use though!" | |||
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"To be honest I’m on the fence with this. I see things where people are accused of body shaming and personally I don’t think what they said is body shaming. Yes I’ve seen a thread today which I don’t see a need for. There’s all sorts of threads where offence can be taken ie circumcised or not? Hairy chest or not? Who prefers tall men? etc etc. There’s a BBW thread , no reason there can’t be a thread for people who like curvy, a thread for people who like slim etc. I do think people take offence sometimes where none is intended. Just my 2p worth! x I get what you’re saying, but to quote the other thread, certain types of women are up themselves, they are uptight, they are no fun to take out because they won’t eat? I agree offence can be taken where none is intended, but if I’m honest those comments have offended me, and I’m not easily offended Yeah I saw that and that’s the thread I didn’t like but there was another one which I thought was fine. There’s plenty of big cock threads. I know for a fact some men get upset and feel inadequate with some of those threads. If everyone takes everything to heart or is offended there will be no discussion threads at all. I think there are words and phrases which people should have the bloody common sense not to use though! "Yeah of course there has to be some common sense taken place and frankly my _iew is that the vast majority of threads and post are fine. But I have seen one or two lately that probably take it a little far. Normally it’s comments over threads that just don’t need to be said or are said by people without thinking | |||
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"To be fair, that's usually what happens - threads start with someone saying "I like X", and invariably someone will comment "but I'm Y, does that mean that Y isn't attractive". Then it just gets twisted to be body shaming when it usually wasn't started as anything of the sort. So to stop it people either need to stop having preferences (which isn't going to happen), or people need to stop being offended when people have preferences that they don't fit into. Granted, some people sometimes don't word things in the best way possible, but not everyone is a wordsmith. " Yes I agree with this. Do I agree with the unnecessarily cruel and cutting comments that can be posted on those sorts of threads? No. I think it's like life outside of fab - people judge because of size. People make comments and assumptions about someone because of size. Men and women do it frequently. It doesn't make it right but it happens. In an utopian society no shaming of any sort would go on but sadly the fora are faaaar removed from being one. | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Yes! I get that it’s a topic that’s going to be discussed, because pretty much everyone is naked in here! And I’m up for those conversations. But I’d rather have ‘what do we appreciate about characteristic x’, than whether people prefer x or y. Then the people with x, or who like x can comment; and the people without x or who don’t like x, or who prefer y or z can start another thread. I rarely comment on the preference threads because it’s hard to respond without coming across as judgemental. Appreciate...don’t compare
To be fair, that's usually what happens - threads start with someone saying "I like X", and invariably someone will comment "but I'm Y, does that mean that Y isn't attractive". Then it just gets twisted to be body shaming when it usually wasn't started as anything of the sort. So to stop it people either need to stop having preferences (which isn't going to happen), or people need to stop being offended when people have preferences that they don't fit into. Granted, some people sometimes don't word things in the best way possible, but not everyone is a wordsmith. "Agreed...that is how they often start...! | |||
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"It makes them feel better about themselves" yep projecting own insecurities onto others to feel superior | |||
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"To be honest I’m on the fence with this. I see things where people are accused of body shaming and personally I don’t think what they said is body shaming. Yes I’ve seen a thread today which I don’t see a need for. There’s all sorts of threads where offence can be taken ie circumcised or not? Hairy chest or not? Who prefers tall men? etc etc. There’s a BBW thread , no reason there can’t be a thread for people who like curvy, a thread for people who like slim etc. I do think people take offence sometimes where none is intended. Just my 2p worth! x " I agree. Everyone is too easily offended. I personally don't care if someone says something negative on a thread about my body shape etc .. None of us have any control of what other people say on an Internet forum. In an ideal fluffy world we would all accept each other and not put each other down. But its never going to happen. If someone says something derogatory about something that applies to you - try not to take it to heart. It's the Internet! Try being a big woman in the real world  | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " This 100% | |||
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"Women should be lifting women up! End of! " Who lifts the men up? | |||
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"Women should be lifting women up! End of! Who lifts the men up?" | |||
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"Women should be lifting women up! End of! Who lifts the men up?" Josh Groban ?! | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love True
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " Where are they? Can’t say I’ve seen ‘a lot’ of shaming threads, just stupid posts by some individuals and they’re usually picked up on quickly. | |||
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"To be fair, that's usually what happens - threads start with someone saying "I like X", and invariably someone will comment "but I'm Y, does that mean that Y isn't attractive". Then it just gets twisted to be body shaming when it usually wasn't started as anything of the sort. So to stop it people either need to stop having preferences (which isn't going to happen), or people need to stop being offended when people have preferences that they don't fit into. Granted, some people sometimes don't word things in the best way possible, but not everyone is a wordsmith. Yes I agree with this. Do I agree with the unnecessarily cruel and cutting comments that can be posted on those sorts of threads? No. I think it's like life outside of fab - people judge because of size. People make comments and assumptions about someone because of size. Men and women do it frequently. It doesn't make it right but it happens. In an utopian society no shaming of any sort would go on but sadly the fora are faaaar removed from being one. "But the insensitive comments usually only come after someone who is the opposite of what the thread was started about comments - I think people must feel that they need to justify their personal preference because somebody that doesn't fit into it is questioning it. To me, that's insensitive to the people with that preference in a way...if I saw a thread celebrating athletic women I'd just skip past, not go in and start questioning why the people on there don't like plumpsters like me because that would make people feel awkward and I really have no right to question someone's personal preference. | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " Tbh I think most of them start out as ‘appreciation’ threads for a particular look or body type (most often curvy or bbw) but they often go awry as many people seem incapable of admiring one body type without insulting another! Works well for me though! On joining fab I was a size 10 ‘skinny Minnie’ who, according to most forum threads, nobody wanted. Now - thanks to the ****ing menopause I’m a size 14 with 36D boobies for the first time ever so officially quality as ‘curvy’ (I have a certificate and everything!) Therefore - according to forum posts I’ve read - I’m now a better shag and a nicer person to boot! Go me! | |||
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"In the heat of group sex, body shape or size doesn't come into the equation for us, it's the sexy and dirty minds that do it for us. " Meat | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Tbh I think most of them start out as ‘appreciation’ threads for a particular look or body type (most often curvy or bbw) but they often go awry as many people seem incapable of admiring one body type without insulting another! Works well for me though! On joining fab I was a size 10 ‘skinny Minnie’ who, according to most forum threads, nobody wanted. Now - thanks to the ****ing menopause I’m a size 14 with 36D boobies for the first time ever so officially quality as ‘curvy’ (I have a certificate and everything!) Therefore - according to forum posts I’ve read - I’m now a better shag and a nicer person to boot! Go me! "Completely agree with this. It’s when people are incapable of appreciation without comparison and use of derogatory phrases to boot. I’m glad I can at least look forward to being “curvy and attractive” when I hit the menopause though - just another 10-15 years ish and I might get my certificate too...  | |||
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"I usually think it's because people are jealous or insecure. I try to let it wash over me but I agree HC some things offend. I still struggle to understand that people think "fat" is offensive but "skinny" isn't. However where's the person who thinks slim women are boring and don't eat? Send them my way providing they're paying "I can also confirm that slim women indeed do eat. Especially when hormonal and bored. I mean, who eats pizza for tea then 2 packets of crisps straight after? Asking for a friend ....  | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Where are they? Can’t say I’ve seen ‘a lot’ of shaming threads, just stupid posts by some individuals and they’re usually picked up on quickly. "It was comments along the lines of Skinny women are uptight They are up themselves They are no fun to go out with, they are watching what they eat Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home. You’re completely right in saying it’s stupid posts/comments by individuals, but sometimes it hurts, and I know I wasn’t the only one upset by the thread in question. | |||
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"I usually think it's because people are jealous or insecure. I try to let it wash over me but I agree HC some things offend. I still struggle to understand that people think "fat" is offensive but "skinny" isn't. However where's the person who thinks slim women are boring and don't eat? Send them my way providing they're paying
I can also confirm that slim women indeed do eat. Especially when hormonal and bored. I mean, who eats pizza for tea then 2 packets of crisps straight after? Asking for a friend .... "I've got a Fab friend who's become my bubble buddy. He's taller than me 3st heavier and solid. He eats like a bird in comparison. I think I have hollow legs .
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"Body shaming, kink shaming, slut shaming... It's all pretty rife on here. " | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Tbh I think most of them start out as ‘appreciation’ threads for a particular look or body type (most often curvy or bbw) but they often go awry as many people seem incapable of admiring one body type without insulting another! Works well for me though! On joining fab I was a size 10 ‘skinny Minnie’ who, according to most forum threads, nobody wanted. Now - thanks to the ****ing menopause I’m a size 14 with 36D boobies for the first time ever so officially quality as ‘curvy’ (I have a certificate and everything!) Therefore - according to forum posts I’ve read - I’m now a better shag and a nicer person to boot! Go me!
Completely agree with this. It’s when people are incapable of appreciation without comparison and use of derogatory phrases to boot.
I’m glad I can at least look forward to being “curvy and attractive” when I hit the menopause though - just another 10-15 years ish and I might get my certificate too... "In my opinion you have a great figure. Being serious - seeing your body completely transform in a short period and being able to do very little about it is hugely frustrating and upsetting to an extent. I’m still trying very hard to get used to it - and to at least tone these ‘extra curves’ a little! X | |||
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"I usually think it's because people are jealous or insecure. I try to let it wash over me but I agree HC some things offend. I still struggle to understand that people think "fat" is offensive but "skinny" isn't. However where's the person who thinks slim women are boring and don't eat? Send them my way providing they're paying
I can also confirm that slim women indeed do eat. Especially when hormonal and bored. I mean, who eats pizza for tea then 2 packets of crisps straight after? Asking for a friend ....
I've got a Fab friend who's become my bubble buddy. He's taller than me 3st heavier and solid. He eats like a bird in comparison. I think I have hollow legs .
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Where are they? Can’t say I’ve seen ‘a lot’ of shaming threads, just stupid posts by some individuals and they’re usually picked up on quickly.
It was comments along the lines of
Skinny women are uptight
They are up themselves
They are no fun to go out with, they are watching what they eat
Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we
are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home.
You’re completely right in saying it’s stupid posts/comments by individuals, but sometimes it hurts, and I know I wasn’t the only one upset by the thread in question.
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Where are they? Can’t say I’ve seen ‘a lot’ of shaming threads, just stupid posts by some individuals and they’re usually picked up on quickly.
It was comments along the lines of
Skinny women are uptight
They are up themselves
They are no fun to go out with, they are watching what they eat
Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we
are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home.
You’re completely right in saying it’s stupid posts/comments by individuals, but sometimes it hurts, and I know I wasn’t the only one upset by the thread in question.
Hugs x"Thank you
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love Tbh I think most of them start out as ‘appreciation’ threads for a particular look or body type (most often curvy or bbw) but they often go awry as many people seem incapable of admiring one body type without insulting another! Works well for me though! On joining fab I was a size 10 ‘skinny Minnie’ who, according to most forum threads, nobody wanted. Now - thanks to the ****ing menopause I’m a size 14 with 36D boobies for the first time ever so officially quality as ‘curvy’ (I have a certificate and everything!) Therefore - according to forum posts I’ve read - I’m now a better shag and a nicer person to boot! Go me!
Completely agree with this. It’s when people are incapable of appreciation without comparison and use of derogatory phrases to boot.
I’m glad I can at least look forward to being “curvy and attractive” when I hit the menopause though - just another 10-15 years ish and I might get my certificate too...
In my opinion you have a great figure. Being serious - seeing your body completely transform in a short period and being able to do very little about it is hugely frustrating and upsetting to an extent. I’m still trying very hard to get used to it - and to at least tone these ‘extra curves’ a little! X"Aw thank you, as do you. I can only imagine how upsetting that would be. I’ve always been a size 8. People told me it would all change when I hit 30 and it didn’t, but I imagine if I either have another baby or go through the menopause (whichever comes first!), I may no longer be... | |||
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" Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home. " I understand those days when you take everything to heart x But we live in a world where most women aspire to have your figure - and you're constantly on page 1 of the top fabbed pictures on here OP - which paints a clear picture of what the majority find attractive. The reason there are constant BBW threads is because you know as well as I do being fat in the real world doesn't recieve compliments. Even though it's a site full of horny men that want to get laid - it's nice to feel appreciated. Slim women are always appreciated. X | |||
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" Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home. I understand those days when you take everything to heart x But we live in a world where most women aspire to have your figure - and you're constantly on page 1 of the top fabbed pictures on here OP - which paints a clear picture of what the majority find attractive. The reason there are constant BBW threads is because you know as well as I do being fat in the real world doesn't recieve compliments. Even though it's a site full of horny men that want to get laid - it's nice to feel appreciated. Slim women are always appreciated. X " You can have a figure that most other women aspire to have, and you be in the majority of what others see as attractive. And you can still look in the mirror on some days and hate what you see. What others aspire to and see in you doesn’t equate to what you see yourself. All it takes sometimes is that one comment to make you feel like shit. I just don’t think anyone, of any shape or size, deserves to be made to feel shamed. It’s completely unnecessary. | |||
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" Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home. I understand those days when you take everything to heart x But we live in a world where most women aspire to have your figure - and you're constantly on page 1 of the top fabbed pictures on here OP - which paints a clear picture of what the majority find attractive. The reason there are constant BBW threads is because you know as well as I do being fat in the real world doesn't recieve compliments. Even though it's a site full of horny men that want to get laid - it's nice to feel appreciated. Slim women are always appreciated. X You can have a figure that most other women aspire to have, and you be in the majority of what others see as attractive. And you can still look in the mirror on some days and hate what you see. What others aspire to and see in you doesn’t equate to what you see yourself. All it takes sometimes is that one comment to make you feel like shit. I just don’t think anyone, of any shape or size, deserves to be made to feel shamed. It’s completely unnecessary. " Agreed x | |||
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There’s a difference between empowering others, and putting others down to feel better about yourself. Don’t worry "im glad that difference is seen thank you I just like helping see the best in themselves because its something I've always failed to achieve in myself | |||
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" Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home. I understand those days when you take everything to heart x But we live in a world where most women aspire to have your figure - and you're constantly on page 1 of the top fabbed pictures on here OP - which paints a clear picture of what the majority find attractive. The reason there are constant BBW threads is because you know as well as I do being fat in the real world doesn't recieve compliments. Even though it's a site full of horny men that want to get laid - it's nice to feel appreciated. Slim women are always appreciated. X " I’m actually not constantly on page 1, I’ve scraped into the bottom of page 1 for 5 mins 2/3 times .
I don’t want people to think this is purely about slim women, this is about all people, men and women, whatever size or shape they are, being accepted and not pulled down.
We are all different, and we are all attracted to different sizes, shapes etc and we should all be celebrated for who and what we are | |||
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" Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home. I understand those days when you take everything to heart x But we live in a world where most women aspire to have your figure - and you're constantly on page 1 of the top fabbed pictures on here OP - which paints a clear picture of what the majority find attractive. The reason there are constant BBW threads is because you know as well as I do being fat in the real world doesn't recieve compliments. Even though it's a site full of horny men that want to get laid - it's nice to feel appreciated. Slim women are always appreciated. X You can have a figure that most other women aspire to have, and you be in the majority of what others see as attractive. And you can still look in the mirror on some days and hate what you see. What others aspire to and see in you doesn’t equate to what you see yourself. All it takes sometimes is that one comment to make you feel like shit. I just don’t think anyone, of any shape or size, deserves to be made to feel shamed. It’s completely unnecessary. " Yes of course. And at the beginning of my post I said that. I don’t agree with body shaming of any sort - that's not what I was implying at all. | |||
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" Add to that people saying we’re are too easily offended, we all have our days where we are feeling vulnerable/less resilient/in confident for whatever reason and sometimes comments like this can hit home. I understand those days when you take everything to heart x But we live in a world where most women aspire to have your figure - and you're constantly on page 1 of the top fabbed pictures on here OP - which paints a clear picture of what the majority find attractive. The reason there are constant BBW threads is because you know as well as I do being fat in the real world doesn't recieve compliments. Even though it's a site full of horny men that want to get laid - it's nice to feel appreciated. Slim women are always appreciated. X I’m actually not constantly on page 1, I’ve scraped into the bottom of page 1 for 5 mins 2/3 times .
I don’t want people to think this is purely about slim women, this is about all people, men and women, whatever size or shape they are, being accepted and not pulled down.
We are all different, and we are all attracted to different sizes, shapes etc and we should all be celebrated for who and what we are "Ok | |||
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"Are you including the poster girl / girl next door thread in this? I didn't take it as body shaming else I wouldn't have commented. I'm interested to be taught how that upset people. What it made people feel. 'Cause I came back from a meeting and it had escalated wildly. Teach me... it really didn't seem defamatory to me. No more than the BBW appreciation thread or the Big cock threads or similar. I had a girlfriend, size 8, who was upset by the "real women have curves" campaign. I get it. I really do. But here people list things that they like, skin colour, sexuality, cock size etc. I wonder where the lines are drawn and how that thread stepped over them..." Exactly. The profiles are basically tick boxes of what people do and don't want. It reduces them to sex meat. Verifications about sex acts does the same. Sex pics. | |||
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"Are you including the poster girl / girl next door thread in this? I didn't take it as body shaming else I wouldn't have commented. I'm interested to be taught how that upset people. What it made people feel. 'Cause I came back from a meeting and it had escalated wildly. Teach me... it really didn't seem defamatory to me. No more than the BBW appreciation thread or the Big cock threads or similar. I had a girlfriend, size 8, who was upset by the "real women have curves" campaign. I get it. I really do. But here people list things that they like, skin colour, sexuality, cock size etc. I wonder where the lines are drawn and how that thread stepped over them... Exactly. The profiles are basically tick boxes of what people do and don't want. It reduces them to sex meat. Verifications about sex acts does the same. Sex pics. " Ultimately this is a swinging site where people may look for new sexual partners. If you know what you're attracted to, I don't see the harm in being clear about it on your bio. It helps people not waste their time. I don't meet up with guys who are shorter than me for example because it's my preference, but I'm not judging men who are shorter, just saying they aren't my type. | |||
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"Are you including the poster girl / girl next door thread in this? I didn't take it as body shaming else I wouldn't have commented. I'm interested to be taught how that upset people. What it made people feel. 'Cause I came back from a meeting and it had escalated wildly. Teach me... it really didn't seem defamatory to me. No more than the BBW appreciation thread or the Big cock threads or similar. I had a girlfriend, size 8, who was upset by the "real women have curves" campaign. I get it. I really do. But here people list things that they like, skin colour, sexuality, cock size etc. I wonder where the lines are drawn and how that thread stepped over them... Exactly. The profiles are basically tick boxes of what people do and don't want. It reduces them to sex meat. Verifications about sex acts does the same. Sex pics. Ultimately this is a swinging site where people may look for new sexual partners. If you know what you're attracted to, I don't see the harm in being clear about it on your bio. It helps people not waste their time. I don't meet up with guys who are shorter than me for example because it's my preference, but I'm not judging men who are shorter, just saying they aren't my type." | |||
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"Are you including the poster girl / girl next door thread in this? I didn't take it as body shaming else I wouldn't have commented. I'm interested to be taught how that upset people. What it made people feel. 'Cause I came back from a meeting and it had escalated wildly. Teach me... it really didn't seem defamatory to me. No more than the BBW appreciation thread or the Big cock threads or similar. I had a girlfriend, size 8, who was upset by the "real women have curves" campaign. I get it. I really do. But here people list things that they like, skin colour, sexuality, cock size etc. I wonder where the lines are drawn and how that thread stepped over them... Exactly. The profiles are basically tick boxes of what people do and don't want. It reduces them to sex meat. Verifications about sex acts does the same. Sex pics. Ultimately this is a swinging site where people may look for new sexual partners. If you know what you're attracted to, I don't see the harm in being clear about it on your bio. It helps people not waste their time. I don't meet up with guys who are shorter than me for example because it's my preference, but I'm not judging men who are shorter, just saying they aren't my type." I think there is a difference between stating on your profile what your preferences are and starting a thread in a public forum inviting men to choose a “category” of woman, in which one category is clearly shamed through use of derogatory words such as “boney”. I personally was not offended by this but I can see, taking my own emotion out of it, how others would _iew it as offensive and unnecessary. | |||
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"Are you including the poster girl / girl next door thread in this? I didn't take it as body shaming else I wouldn't have commented. I'm interested to be taught how that upset people. What it made people feel. 'Cause I came back from a meeting and it had escalated wildly. Teach me... it really didn't seem defamatory to me. No more than the BBW appreciation thread or the Big cock threads or similar. I had a girlfriend, size 8, who was upset by the "real women have curves" campaign. I get it. I really do. But here people list things that they like, skin colour, sexuality, cock size etc. I wonder where the lines are drawn and how that thread stepped over them... Exactly. The profiles are basically tick boxes of what people do and don't want. It reduces them to sex meat. Verifications about sex acts does the same. Sex pics. Ultimately this is a swinging site where people may look for new sexual partners. If you know what you're attracted to, I don't see the harm in being clear about it on your bio. It helps people not waste their time. I don't meet up with guys who are shorter than me for example because it's my preference, but I'm not judging men who are shorter, just saying they aren't my type. I think there is a difference between stating on your profile what your preferences are and starting a thread in a public forum inviting men to choose a “category” of woman, in which one category is clearly shamed through use of derogatory words such as “boney”. I personally was not offended by this but I can see, taking my own emotion out of it, how others would _iew it as offensive and unnecessary. " I was offended by the implication that no one over a size 16, or under a 6, even exists.... | |||
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"Are you including the poster girl / girl next door thread in this? I didn't take it as body shaming else I wouldn't have commented. I'm interested to be taught how that upset people. What it made people feel. 'Cause I came back from a meeting and it had escalated wildly. Teach me... it really didn't seem defamatory to me. No more than the BBW appreciation thread or the Big cock threads or similar. I had a girlfriend, size 8, who was upset by the "real women have curves" campaign. I get it. I really do. But here people list things that they like, skin colour, sexuality, cock size etc. I wonder where the lines are drawn and how that thread stepped over them... Exactly. The profiles are basically tick boxes of what people do and don't want. It reduces them to sex meat. Verifications about sex acts does the same. Sex pics. Ultimately this is a swinging site where people may look for new sexual partners. If you know what you're attracted to, I don't see the harm in being clear about it on your bio. It helps people not waste their time. I don't meet up with guys who are shorter than me for example because it's my preference, but I'm not judging men who are shorter, just saying they aren't my type. I think there is a difference between stating on your profile what your preferences are and starting a thread in a public forum inviting men to choose a “category” of woman, in which one category is clearly shamed through use of derogatory words such as “boney”. I personally was not offended by this but I can see, taking my own emotion out of it, how others would _iew it as offensive and unnecessary. I was offended by the implication that no one over a size 16, or under a 6, even exists.... " And this! | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " I totally agree with that. I am me and only me. If you don’t like it. Well there’s literally millions of us  | |||
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"Those threads are a bit of a minefield. I got a negative comment today when I said why I like curvy women. Thing is, I didn't criticise any other type of woman in my post. Also, I don't JUST like curvy women anyway. I always say I'm an equal opportunities perv. Some people just think larger when they hear curvy, but you can be a size 12 and be curvy and a size 26 and be curvy. My taste in women goes from fitness models to larger women and everyone in between, my attraction is not dependent on size. I'm not the tallest, I'd say average, some might say small! There's plenty of threads stating women like tall guys. There's the cut or uncut ones. Big or small penises. The attracted to certain race ones, I don't like them. I think people bring in their own baggage to these threads and transfer it, when often they are just an innocent comment that needs to be given some leeway. That being said, it's still not excuse to be rude about another type when stating what you like. Sorry for the meandering essay. " I white knighted for you bro | |||
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"Those threads are a bit of a minefield. I got a negative comment today when I said why I like curvy women. Thing is, I didn't criticise any other type of woman in my post. Also, I don't JUST like curvy women anyway. I always say I'm an equal opportunities perv. Some people just think larger when they hear curvy, but you can be a size 12 and be curvy and a size 26 and be curvy. My taste in women goes from fitness models to larger women and everyone in between, my attraction is not dependent on size. I'm not the tallest, I'd say average, some might say small! There's plenty of threads stating women like tall guys. There's the cut or uncut ones. Big or small penises. The attracted to certain race ones, I don't like them. I think people bring in their own baggage to these threads and transfer it, when often they are just an innocent comment that needs to be given some leeway. That being said, it's still not excuse to be rude about another type when stating what you like. Sorry for the meandering essay. I white knighted for you bro " I did notice, thanks, fist bump bro. | |||
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Hint … Of course you do realise who the true enemy is … MEN … ?!
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"Are you including the poster girl / girl next door thread in this? I didn't take it as body shaming else I wouldn't have commented. I'm interested to be taught how that upset people. What it made people feel. 'Cause I came back from a meeting and it had escalated wildly. Teach me... it really didn't seem defamatory to me. No more than the BBW appreciation thread or the Big cock threads or similar. I had a girlfriend, size 8, who was upset by the "real women have curves" campaign. I get it. I really do. But here people list things that they like, skin colour, sexuality, cock size etc. I wonder where the lines are drawn and how that thread stepped over them... Exactly. The profiles are basically tick boxes of what people do and don't want. It reduces them to sex meat. Verifications about sex acts does the same. Sex pics. Ultimately this is a swinging site where people may look for new sexual partners. If you know what you're attracted to, I don't see the harm in being clear about it on your bio. It helps people not waste their time. I don't meet up with guys who are shorter than me for example because it's my preference, but I'm not judging men who are shorter, just saying they aren't my type. I think there is a difference between stating on your profile what your preferences are and starting a thread in a public forum inviting men to choose a “category” of woman, in which one category is clearly shamed through use of derogatory words such as “boney”. I personally was not offended by this but I can see, taking my own emotion out of it, how others would _iew it as offensive and unnecessary. So it was the choice of language? Boney / jiggly? I guess I missed that. If the language had been different would it have been acceptable to ask if you preferred pne to the other? I'm assuming not... " Yeah, probably. Use of language is always important, isn’t it. Makes the difference between offensive or not. I think there’s two aspects that would have improved it - 1. Ask the question without use of derogatory phrases, and 2. Answer your preference without slagging off / offending the opposite to your preference. | |||
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"It's about presentation. I'm no pin up model that's for sure. But... Because I'm curvy size 14 doesn't mean I'm less appealing.... Does it?! After all, are we all not still learning?! Jo.Xx " No it certainly does not mean that - you’re lovely.  . I’m also hoping that being a size 8 doesn’t mean I don’t “feel good”. I mean, I’ve never had any complaints in that respect....  | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " Not every shoe fits ...if a person's body shape isn't your cup of tea then you don't have to engage in conversation with them ..NOR feel the need to critize or insult them over it either...l have absolutely no time for anyone that feels they need to try and dim someone else's light so theirs looks brighter. | |||
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"So it was the choice of language? Boney / jiggly? I guess I missed that. If the language had been different would it have been acceptable to ask if you preferred pne to the other? I'm assuming not... " ...or is it that people then make assumptions about a person's character or personality based on their body type? I'm sure most people on here if presented with a poster girl and a girl next door type would choose a threesome.  | |||
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"It's about presentation. I'm no pin up model that's for sure. But... Because I'm curvy size 14 doesn't mean I'm less appealing.... Does it?! After all, are we all not still learning?! Jo.Xx No it certainly does not mean that - you’re lovely. . I’m also hoping that being a size 8 doesn’t mean I don’t “feel good”. I mean, I’ve never had any complaints in that respect.... "Thank you. It wasn't a fishing statement. Honestly.
But in your comment I have seen that my. Own comment on the other thread could appear 'offensive'.!
But it wasn't meant in disrespect.
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"It's about presentation. I'm no pin up model that's for sure. But... Because I'm curvy size 14 doesn't mean I'm less appealing.... Does it?! After all, are we all not still learning?! Jo.Xx No it certainly does not mean that - you’re lovely. . I’m also hoping that being a size 8 doesn’t mean I don’t “feel good”. I mean, I’ve never had any complaints in that respect....
Thank you.
It wasn't a fishing statement. Honestly.
But in your comment I have seen that my. Own comment on the other thread could appear 'offensive'.!
But it wasn't meant in disrespect.
Just that my bumps and lumps feel good against others.
I'm certain you do feel good.
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"It's about presentation. I'm no pin up model that's for sure. But... Because I'm curvy size 14 doesn't mean I'm less appealing.... Does it?! After all, are we all not still learning?! Jo.Xx No it certainly does not mean that - you’re lovely. . I’m also hoping that being a size 8 doesn’t mean I don’t “feel good”. I mean, I’ve never had any complaints in that respect....
Thank you.
It wasn't a fishing statement. Honestly.
But in your comment I have seen that my. Own comment on the other thread could appear 'offensive'.!
But it wasn't meant in disrespect.
Just that my bumps and lumps feel good against others.
I'm certain you do feel good.
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Jo you are honestly the least likely to offend me! "
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"So theres a lot of talk about body shaming..if you make nasty comments about someone's weight (whether your fat shaming or skinny shaming) then your rightly called out as an arsehole...but as a man who is very aware of having an ugly face I see a lot less of a stigma when it comes to how people treat those of us considered "ugly" " I'd never thought of it like that.... but you are right | |||
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"So theres a lot of talk about body shaming..if you make nasty comments about someone's weight (whether your fat shaming or skinny shaming) then your rightly called out as an arsehole...but as a man who is very aware of having an ugly face I see a lot less of a stigma when it comes to how people treat those of us considered "ugly" I'd never thought of it like that.... but you are right " i notice it at.. people will casually make horrible comments about a persons face if it doesn't live up to societies standards and not a single person defends this person.. perfect example being on Facebook with the "tag "insert name here" he/she met me in a club, accompanied by a lic of an "ugly" person for everyone to ridicule | |||
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"God we are all supposed to be adults and should be capable of having a conversation without actually shaming. Am I wrong to say I prefer athletic guys? Is that making guys with a dad bod offended? I do however, agree that words can have a huge impact on self esteem, and constantly talking negatively about our body preferences can reinforce the idea that there is only one type of body shape that is beautiful? " | |||
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"So theres a lot of talk about body shaming..if you make nasty comments about someone's weight (whether your fat shaming or skinny shaming) then your rightly called out as an arsehole...but as a man who is very aware of having an ugly face I see a lot less of a stigma when it comes to how people treat those of us considered "ugly" I'd never thought of it like that.... but you are right i notice it at.. people will casually make horrible comments about a persons face if it doesn't live up to societies standards and not a single person defends this person.. perfect example being on Facebook with the "tag "insert name here" he/she met me in a club, accompanied by a lic of an "ugly" person for everyone to ridicule" | |||
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"So theres a lot of talk about body shaming..if you make nasty comments about someone's weight (whether your fat shaming or skinny shaming) then your rightly called out as an arsehole...but as a man who is very aware of having an ugly face I see a lot less of a stigma when it comes to how people treat those of us considered "ugly" I'd never thought of it like that.... but you are right i notice it at.. people will casually make horrible comments about a persons face if it doesn't live up to societies standards and not a single person defends this person.. perfect example being on Facebook with the "tag "insert name here" he/she met me in a club, accompanied by a lic of an "ugly" person for everyone to ridicule" This is fucking awful behaviour. What’s wrong with people? | |||
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"Why are there so many? What does it matter if men and women are slim/curvy or whatever. We’re all different and we all like different things. Live and let live/love " Agreed | |||
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