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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If you where going on a proper date, nothing to do with swinging. When would you sleep with the person? Would you sleep with them on the first date, leave it a couple of dates or weeks later

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

after the starter and before the main....

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"after the starter and before the main...."

But not everyone is a tart

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id leave it a couple of weeks as wouldnt want to scare them off straight away

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"after the starter and before the main....

But not everyone is a tart"

yeah ok...

after I had asked her father for the fanny of his daughter in marriage......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as soon as d seen if they were fuckable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the time I agree to meet the person, he would have ticked many boxes on the list.

Therefore, if meeting him face to face ticks off the remaining boxes, then I would jump him for certain!

Why be coy and wait for the inevitable?!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"after the starter and before the main...."

Tart!

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well this is a hyperthetical question, but when i was younger, id pull a guy take him home and shag him. But if i started "dating" someone i always waited a little while.

Maybe im just odd

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"after the starter and before the main....

But not everyone is a tart"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the time I would agree to meet the person, I would have felt comfortable enough to inform him about being on FAB, so that there will be no surprises.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and for holding a single fem membership to Chams too!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I never slept with any boyfriend I was dating. Too scared as my parents would have killed me. I was a virgin when I married at 20.

The first guy I dated after my husband we didn't finish our first round of drinks we found a local hotel and banged each others brains out. In my defense I'd not had sex in five years.

We were together 18 glorious months. Only twice I've shagged on the first date, the second...four years later we're still together.

If I were dating now I think I'd wait a couple of weeks, but in fairness who knows.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Actually ive just remembered, i met my ex husband at a friends party, went back to his house and didnt leave for a week. So guess thats blow what ive said out the window

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Actually ive just remembered, i met my ex husband at a friends party, went back to his house and didnt leave for a week. So guess thats blow what ive said out the window"

yup

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Actually ive just remembered, i met my ex husband at a friends party, went back to his house and didnt leave for a week. So guess thats blow what ive said out the window

yup "

in fairness he did marry me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on who the date was with! When Luke and myself started dating, we slept together on the first date! Although we didn't get much sleep if you get what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends on who the date was with! When Luke and myself started dating, we slept together on the first date! Although we didn't get much sleep if you get what i mean "

Umm no.... Was it noisy outside and keeping you awake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't remember the last time I had a 'proper' date. Possibly never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

havnt been on a date since i got divorced 8 years ago so i have no idea??? i guess it depends on the chemistry ????

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was a teenager my mum used to say to me, i shouldnt have sex with the men i met on a first date, but i did anyway.

I might just leave it for a week.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Think the swinging life style has changed my outlook a little bit. Before I would have said probably about 4 weeks or so, depending on how well I got to know them. Now I would say it could be sooner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As boring as it sounds, just when it feels right. Depends how well you hit it off and the chemistry with you date I suppose.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

What's a date???

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

a date,what ees this date you speak of

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I've done it within minutes of meeting n I've waited Weeks it depends what feels right........

There's a little dilemma going on too soon he/she wants a fuck too late he/she's gay or not interested.

carpe diem

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

If that chemistry for a fuck is not there on a first date it may never be for me

All my long term relationships have been sex on the first night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you hold off ,,,,,,,, having sex and lust after each other when you do its mind blowing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would do it when the time is right and that could be anytime, there are not rules!!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I would do it when the time is right and that could be anytime, there are not rules!!!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when the right time comes along, no rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the spark ignites the flames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had a first date that lasted a few days lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are not rules!!!"

There are if you read all this crap they spout on dating advice sites on the tinterweb lol...rules about texting, rules about shagging, rules about topics of conversation...i say fuck the rules and do it when you want to do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my younger days I never slept with a guy on a first date. I expect that if I were to date again then I wouls still be the same and wait a while.

Who knows though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a age thing, in my younger days I held out and did not want to be looked at like I was a slut, etc. Where as now I think fuck it (well him).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh good question, not been on a date in over 20 years so have no idea, tho have to say if i did go on a date and the guy tried to fuck me that night i would feel thats all he was after so maybe not the first date incase they felt the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating these days is horrid...not like it used to be at all...mobile phones and internet have totally ruined the art in my opinion - people are far too accessable, the whole thing cant be natural anymore and is speeded up because of things like msn, texting etc, and you dont get to know a person properly before they are off and onto the next shiny pretty thing that inboxes them...sad but true, we are disposable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dating these days is horrid...not like it used to be at all...mobile phones and internet have totally ruined the art in my opinion - people are far too accessable, the whole thing cant be natural anymore and is speeded up because of things like msn, texting etc, and you dont get to know a person properly before they are off and onto the next shiny pretty thing that inboxes them...sad but true, we are disposable "

..... and I was holding out for the happy ever after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when it was right to do so.

if its someone you really like and want a relationship with then why rush it?

ok you cannot wait forever but you'll know if its right or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we click and the chemistry is there then the moment we both want to. If I felt the women was artificially holding back in an attempt to manipulate or try and make me more keen, it would have the opposite effect.

The right women for me would be confident enough to follow her instincts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dating these days is horrid...not like it used to be at all...mobile phones and internet have totally ruined the art in my opinion - people are far too accessable, the whole thing cant be natural anymore and is speeded up because of things like msn, texting etc, and you dont get to know a person properly before they are off and onto the next shiny pretty thing that inboxes them...sad but true, we are disposable "

See I disagree... My master and I got to know each other first and actually he courted me for over 6 months before we had kissed... We took our time to get to know one another.. yes we used emails, text and msn but it enhanced what me have. I think people are quick to blame modern life... But if you want to make something work, it will...

We still have dates now...

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never been on a date in my life

anyone i've been in a relationship with is someone i have known already and things have just 'developed'

i tell you when i got really nervous though, when i went on holiday with 'someone special' for the first time

in the event, it rained all week, we bonked all week, yet strangely i still found time (and a break in the cloud) to come back with sun stroke !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you hold off ,,,,,,,, having sex and lust after each other when you do its mind blowing x"

Agree, make it special.

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