FabSwingers.com forum: Is it just me?

By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

Now then I’m a newbie.

So is it just me who is having trouble making contact with prospective mates.

I’ve mailed numerous couples, singles and only had three bother to reply.

I’ve introduced my self and and described my self, I’ve been witty and I’ve been topical.

As I say I’ve had reply’s from 3 members

I’ve had one block me because I dared to ask if they found my profile interesting after they looked at me.

I’ve made sure that I fit with their requirements as best as possible.

So what am I doing wrong?

Or is it that I’m one of thousands of single males am I sending out the wrong message or is just a FAB thing.

Anyone I’ve messaged, I would appreciate your feed back please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not what they are looking for. Simple as that.

What exactly did you expect to achieve in 3 weeks of being on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its swings and roundabouts mate. Give it more time. I'm here a while and have had a few meets and socials, but I couldn't get a dog to bark at me atm never mind trying to get a chat with someone. Things will hopefully change again at some point soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to Fab as a single guy! I'm in the same boat but i guess its because a single guy is very much in the majority (i reckon fab is probably 20% single females and couples, 80% single males). It is a bit demoralising when you put the effort in and see a message read and immediately deleted but its a fact of life. Just as a indicator, a know a female who had over 200 emails in 24hrs so they have to manage it somehow.

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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago

Witney

Think of it as going fishing...

The more you try, the higher the chances! Also, don't go after the obvious targets, chances are that you will be let down...

And always read their profile, be original when you text.

If you get rejected, just move on and that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the idea of a mate

Put down all your expected ideas about rules of engagement, everyone has their own and plays to their own. Its a long old haul and not for the faint hearted, good luck!

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

I was kinda hoping for some common curtesy but then maybe that’s not the fab thing.

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

Well that kind puts it into perspective

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

I know what your saying but I’m trying to be selective myself by only texting the fem/cpl that I think I meet their profile. And there really is only a small pool of profiles in my search area that I’m attracted too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was kinda hoping for some common curtesy but then maybe that’s not the fab thing. "

I'll be honest, I currently have 712 unread mails and I've read/deleted without replying. Would I say I was a rude person? Nope. It's personal preference. I'm also here to chat/flirt and maybe meet. If I spent time replying to every single message I wouldn't be enjoying myself or doing the flirting I came here to do.

I reply to those who make me laugh, whose photos I find attractive, their message happens to be at the top etc.. It really just depends. It's nothing personal to those others.

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

Thanks for the advice.

Would you mind looking at my profile and giving me some feedback ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take this the wrong way but do you think a name change might be in order?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's standard for all new single men to get 95% plus messages inanswered at good timesm

As it's currently a crisis point, people concerned about health, money, jobs, family, kids in or out of school etc, with sex meets not permitted here, the odds are stacked very firmly against you.

People will have others that they are waiting to meet since before lockdown and it can take time to get to know others well enough to meet. There's a backlog for people. All whilst it's a low priority for people.

Users arranging to meet now can have their site use terminated. They won't want that.

Overall, all single men have to adjust to this climate here. It's unique. Some make it, others give up, before they do. It mainly depends on expectations, which we set for ourselves

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By *siancouplehantsCouple
over a year ago

K-PAX

"Think of it as going fishing...

The more you try, the higher the chances! Also, don't go after the obvious targets, chances are that you will be let down...

And always read their profile, be original when you text.

If you get rejected, just move on and that's it.

Good advice

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Thanks for the advice.

Would you mind looking at my profile and giving me some feedback ??"

Remove the Sydney University stuff. It's meaningless nonsense.

I'd reword or remove the point about your finding a no reply to be rude. People are free to not reply or to block, as the site FAQ states.

People generally like to know what you are going to bring to the party, so to speak. It's your sales pitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice.

Would you mind looking at my profile and giving me some feedback ??"

I'd possibly start with a username change, a variety of photos and be more suggestive as opposed to nudes. Make sure the profile is grammatically correct and stand out a little. Don't tell me not to block you... I will if I want and I'd probably just skip over the profile. Tell people a little about yourself.

Also I personally prefer not to have a list of preferences as you can get to know someone. But I know people like them.

I'd also get rid of the disclaimer.

You did ask for honest advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the cannot accommodate thing. I personally don't often reply to guys who have that. Yes, I know I do. Yes it probably is a double standard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice.

Would you mind looking at my profile and giving me some feedback ??"

What does your profile name mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice.

Would you mind looking at my profile and giving me some feedback ??

What does your profile name mean?"

I thought that. Youre not exactly selling yourself with that name OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your username floppydick suggests your willy might not be up for swinging and fucking? Maybe consider changing it if it works without issue.

Remove the complaining in your profile now that you know women can deal with 100s of messages every day so would it would be a part time job just to answer them all.

Also the sydney university shite was a bad joke thats gone on for way to long now get rid of it as its meaningless.

Good luck x

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was kinda hoping for some common curtesy but then maybe that’s not the fab thing. "

What you've got to understand is that girls get 100's if not in some cases 1000' of messages from guys. If they took the time to respond with a "no thank you" that's all they'd do all day. I'm afraid we out number the girls greatly so dont take it personally.

Try to be as imaginative as you can with a little humour too and be patient.

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

Take it as a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually ive looked at you properly. Your profile text is terrible, it basically says im not interested in socials unless there may be a shag.

Your pics are poor, no real thought to them.

Your username is dreadful, it says i cant get hard.

If youre serious then you really must have a rethink about how youre presenting yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take it as a challenge "

If you use the 'Reply + quote' button we will know which post you are replying to.

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By *attooBBWWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If anyone has a ‘demand’ to reply even if not interested, I do not read and do not reply. Talk about manners costing nothing, you are not entitled to make such demands.

It’s be a hard no from me.

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

I’ll tell you but only in private.

But ahhh can’t message you.

Bugger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here for a few months and had little engagement from couple and singles. It's not a seperate thing, loads of single guys on here get ignored, rejected or blocked.

Yes there are some who will take a moment to say "Thank you but you're not my type, good luck, happy Fabbing", but again they are few and far between.

Some won't even get to opening your message without just deleting it.

What I've come to understand and to acknowledge is that there's too many single guys in here, not anyones fault its just the way it is. But with that comes some outright pig ignorent rude, aggressive, pushy, dick pic'ing imbeciles that will ruin it for the genuine single male swingers.

Just head to a nearest club or social gathering once Covid is done and meet people there. That's my aim!

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

Oops. Sorry have been replying on here and not using reply & quote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe profile name is putting couples or ladies off .Not sure I'd be interested in a floppy dick .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually ive looked at you properly. Your profile text is terrible, it basically says im not interested in socials unless there may be a shag.

Your pics are poor, no real thought to them.

Your username is dreadful, it says i cant get hard.

If youre serious then you really must have a rethink about how youre presenting yourself."

this

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice.

Would you mind looking at my profile and giving me some feedback ??

Remove the Sydney University stuff. It's meaningless nonsense.

I'd reword or remove the point about your finding a no reply to be rude. People are free to not reply or to block, as the site FAQ states.

People generally like to know what you are going to bring to the party, so to speak. It's your sales pitch. "

It's like you read my mind and have written it down for me

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By *unylinguist OP Man
over a year ago

aldershot

So.

New profile name

re vamped profile

What do ya think.

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