FabSwingers.com forum: Does anyone chat anymore?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is so hard to find a lady to chat with?

I’m obviously doing something wrong!

Any suggestion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of red flags in your bio. I’d suggest updating that and see how you go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Couple of red flags in your bio. I’d suggest updating that and see how you go

Red flag?? How where ?

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Same, bio isn't great, got three red flags on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Same, bio isn't great, got three red flags on it. "

Can someone explain to me what the red flag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went away "

What does it mean?

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By *inkSwingCouple
over a year ago

Preston

We don't know what you do so can't really make any suggestions

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male to female ratio. More single men than single women. So women can afford to be picky. Imagine a room of a hundred men and 10 women get to pick who they want to go off with. What will make you stand out?

You could try starting a thread with what you use as your usual starting message and ask for criticism - but it could get brutal

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I went away "

And you will literally talk to anyone

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By *inkSwingCouple
over a year ago

Preston

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!"

He means there are things on your profile that are concerning or could put people off.

But you haven't asked for profile feedback so we can't really say

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Feel free to give me a feedback!

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

He means there are things on your profile that are concerning or could put people off.

But you haven't asked for profile feedback so we can't really say "

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!"

me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.

are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am messaging various people, it’s more the chat than the looking for me.

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.

are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I am messaging various people, it’s more the chat than the looking for me.

I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.

are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc?

Do you make that clear to the reciever?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!"

Yeah what flags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a chat x

How is everyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a chat x

How is everyone?

All good thank you but a tad on the hot side here at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Probably not!

"I am messaging various people, it’s more the chat than the looking for me.

I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.

are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc?

Do you make that clear to the reciever? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Very well, thanks

"I like a chat x

How is everyone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

Yeah what flags"

So you don’t see any flag too!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

Yeah what flags"

Bog rolls hanging the wrong way.

Huge no-no........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?"

accommodation isn't an issue for me as I live in a shared house and rather not host people... but discretion usually indicates a person is cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?

accommodation isn't an issue for me as I live in a shared house and rather not host people... but discretion usually indicates a person is cheating? "

That's why I'm asking OP to explain his situation. I know what it usually means..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?

accommodation isn't an issue for me as I live in a shared house and rather not host people... but discretion usually indicates a person is cheating?

That's why I'm asking OP to explain his situation. I know what it usually means.."

This OP cant accommodation coupled with discretion is a must = highly likely to be on fab to cheat on a wife / partner at home.

If you cant accommodate for genuine reasons then its better to say so in your profile. Also if your are cheating then be honest about it so potential meets can decide if they still want to meet you or not.

Thats 2 red flags covered above and im guessing the 3rd was your comments about not wanting men TV/TS come across as a little bit agressive.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And billy ocean comes on the radio

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"And billy ocean comes on the radio

That's sounds messy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And billy ocean comes on the radio

That's sounds messy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And billy ocean comes on the radio

That's sounds messy.

Yea he getting on a bit so shouldn’t short it out more hot air n dust probably

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"And billy ocean comes on the radio

That's sounds messy.

Yea he getting on a bit so shouldn’t short it out more hot air n dust probably

He's just brought out another album - i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His profile is no 'worse' at outlining what he does and doesn't want compared to female profiles I've seen.

But not everyone has time to chat, and females on here are, shall we say, in high demand.

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By *otstuffbabeCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I can see 2 red flags myself with a quick scan - also lots of people aren't here to chat, I'm one of them! I have plenty of friends and a good social life so am not here for chats - this is me and i'm sure there are loads of people who are here to chat and make friends - we all use Fab in different ways xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be honest mate I thought your bio was simple and straight to the point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Male to female ratio. More single men than single women. So women can afford to be picky. Imagine a room of a hundred men and 10 women get to pick who they want to go off with. What will make you stand out?

You could try starting a thread with what you use as your usual starting message and ask for criticism - but it could get brutal

True, very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is not that hard especially if you are into doing a monologue dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?"

Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ll be honest mate I thought your bio was simple and straight to the point "

Me too... not the others tho!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can see 2 red flags myself with a quick scan - also lots of people aren't here to chat, I'm one of them! I have plenty of friends and a good social life so am not here for chats - this is me and i'm sure there are loads of people who are here to chat and make friends - we all use Fab in different ways xx"

Totally correct, but how comes no one is willing to chat with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And billy ocean comes on the radio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?

Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad?"

Then mention that in your bio that you share you're apartment. I can't accom. and explain why on my bio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couple of red flags in your bio. I’d suggest updating that and see how you go

What he said^

Way too over thought and second guessy, and a bit butt hurt tbh.... Stay positive and light with your humour, avoid the dark for now....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?

Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad?

Then mention that in your bio that you share you're apartment. I can't accom. and explain why on my bio."

Good call!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I changed my bio as per your suggestions

Let’s see how it goes!

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By *ungRee4Man
over a year ago

falkirk

"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?

Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad?"

Ignore the ignorance and accusations of the those that conspire and have no respect for discretion. That’s a more than a little misguided. You stick to what you and your professional/personal life allows.

Maybe just tone down the bio slightly here n there as it may come across as potentially aggressive in places. That’s all. Then just be patient, be kind, be cool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Couple of red flags in your bio. I’d suggest updating that and see how you go

What he said^

Way too over thought and second guessy, and a bit butt hurt tbh.... Stay positive and light with your humour, avoid the dark for now....

Removed the dark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

Yeah what flags

Bog rolls hanging the wrong way.

Huge no-no........

Bog roll should always be hanging out not in! Good spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I changed my bio as per your suggestions

Let’s see how it goes!"

Looking better. Now add a few more photos and you’ll be good to go.

Go get em tiger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t do anything!

What are the red flags?

I don’t see any flag!

Yeah what flags

Bog rolls hanging the wrong way.

Huge no-no........

Bog roll should always be hanging out not in! Good spot.

I’ll quickly go to turn them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better bio. Add a few more photos. Hang out in the forums, start more threads, engage in conversation on here and see where it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be you no cock shots and patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone has the time to swap endless messages. The fact is there are a hell of a lot more single guys than girls. Initial messages count for a lot too. If it looks like a generic copy and paste then we women are less likely to respond. Take the time to read people's bio, pick out a couple of things that you can include in your first message as it shows you've taken the time to read it which in turn means you're more likely to treat us as actual people and not just something to get your rocks off to. I know personally, I do a weeks worth of message exchange and then ask for a social, you can tell a lot in them few days.

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Why is so hard to find a lady to chat with?

I’m obviously doing something wrong!

Any suggestion?"

Chat rooms seem to work

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