FabSwingers.com forum: Weight and body image

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who is sick of worrying about it?

Whether your a few pounds overweight, underweight or stones either way.

At 45yrs old I'm tired of it.

Is it possible to just accept how we are?

I'm over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with this, just be you and do you! I keep threatening to get fat by 45 cos i love junk food!! I might do it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not as it is my hobby but yes just be you and dont worry about others

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with this, just be you and do you! I keep threatening to get fat by 45 cos i love junk food!! I might do it x"

Is being fat the worst thing that could happen to you?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm bloody fed up of wasting my life on it. And sometimes I'm all good and accept my body as it is. Then something will come along and I'm back to square one. At my age I should know flipping better but I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with this, just be you and do you! I keep threatening to get fat by 45 cos i love junk food!! I might do it x

Is being fat the worst thing that could happen to you?"

Exactly, its not, i really just have ingrained habits of eating and exercise, i dont enjoy it that much! I might start now.....

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Its a curse. Weight sticks to me like glue. I would have to starve myself to lose decent weight.

All I can do is tone up with weights. Love it though. I am never going to be a skinny malink.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never paid it any thought, it’s something other people do. I can get beach body ready instantly by not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about my body on the beach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm bloody fed up of wasting my life on it. And sometimes I'm all good and accept my body as it is. Then something will come along and I'm back to square one. At my age I should know flipping better but I don't "

I'm the same

I need to remember that my life is no different fat or thin.

I feel healthy enough - I'm probably not though

I like food and wine, I enjoy exercise too - but it's impossible to out exercise a poor diet.

I guess I'll have to be fat then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never put on weight though, I can eat what I like and I never go past 11.5 stone, unless my scales are knackered, but I don’t think they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never paid it any thought, it’s something other people do. I can get beach body ready instantly by not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about my body on the beach. "

That's my view, too. I'm aware of jelly belly, cellulite and lack of tone, but I'm content in my skin and still fit enough to walk 20miles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been overweight, I've been very underweight. And never fucking happy with the way I look.

As I'm getting older, I seem to care a little less about it. I'm more concerned with being healthy and enjoying my food these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve wasted a lot of energy worrying about my tiny penis though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm the same

I need to remember that my life is no different fat or thin.

I feel healthy enough - I'm probably not though

I like food and wine, I enjoy exercise too - but it's impossible to out exercise a poor diet.

I guess I'll have to be fat then

Exactly and half the time to others there's probably not much difference visibly. But my confidence takes a massive knock and I dress to hide everything. It's's not that I don't understand why I'm my size, it's just I like eating and drinking too much. Wish I'd just accept it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm the same

I need to remember that my life is no different fat or thin.

I feel healthy enough - I'm probably not though

I like food and wine, I enjoy exercise too - but it's impossible to out exercise a poor diet.

I guess I'll have to be fat then

I refuse to live life eating chicken and broccoli and counting macros.

Just no.

I'd rather be fat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve wasted a lot of energy worrying about my tiny penis though

Since I’ve posted this I’ve had more people look at my profile, than I’ve looked all week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt like that, never really gave a shit, until I lost alot of weight... Then put on a bit after severe back problems... Now it bothers me more than it ever has as I have noticed how much 2 stone has made a difference to my fitness levels and how much it can inhibit me... Now, trying to lose just a stone is so hard and it is really fucking with my confidence... So ya know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve wasted a lot of energy worrying about my tiny penis though

Since I’ve posted this I’ve had more people look at my profile, than I’ve looked all week

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I need to remember that my life is no different fat or thin."

That’s a good mantra to have. Of course there are benefits to being healthy but that’s not quite the same as being thin.

For what it’s worth, your pictures look great and I’m sure I’m not the only person to think that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're a good human and are capable of having orgasms, then everything in between is a lovely bonus. Not matter what you look like. All bodies are beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is sick of worrying about it?

Whether your a few pounds overweight, underweight or stones either way.

At 45yrs old I'm tired of it.

Is it possible to just accept how we are?

I'm over it.

I‘m really working on this and I’m seeing results in all aspects of my life. Friends have noticed I’m more outgoing. My confidence and self belief have increased at work. I am much more comfortable sexually and not ashamed of showing off my body. I don’t hide in baggy clothes and I genuinely feel happier. I still have the odd day where I wish my body was different, but they are happening less and less.

You are one sexy lady, with a beautiful body and great smile. Let’s all be kinder to ourselves.

Bliss xxx

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've been overweight, I've been very underweight. And never fucking happy with the way I look.

As I'm getting older, I seem to care a little less about it. I'm more concerned with being healthy and enjoying my food these days

This. When I was slim and muscular from dancing I fretted over my thighs not touching and feeling bandy legged and now as a curvier girl I love my thighs and bum but fret over belly and back fat. Can't have it both ways though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never paid it any thought, it’s something other people do. I can get beach body ready instantly by not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about my body on the beach. "

I love this attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is sick of worrying about it?

Whether your a few pounds overweight, underweight or stones either way.

At 45yrs old I'm tired of it.

Is it possible to just accept how we are?

I'm over it.

Me too, I've lost almost 14 years to an eating disorder and it's really about time I stopped letting my weight dictate my self worth and started living.

There are much more important things and life's too short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself, nothing can compare to being happy with yourself

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I feel overweight and that's why I will loose weight. Not because of anyone but my health.

Jo.Xx

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By *ustfulmusingCouple
over a year ago

ilpseich

Oh l am ,at 50 l still watch my weight constantly,never happy with it .would be so liberating not to worry about it or body image .

Love your profile pictures OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its great being in your 40's you can give a lot less shits about everything, balls to it all. Xx

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Not sounding overly confident. But I am me and only me. simple as that. just like fish and chips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t weigh myself anymore. I’m a fuck tonne heavier than people think I am because I’m strong and every time I weigh myself I freak out.

So I look at my body composition instead, and how my clothes fit.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I agree as I've got older I've cared less and less about other peoples opinion. I still worry occasionally and probably wouldn't drag my dad bod to a club (unless it's a proper club withe good music ha) but hey ho.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

After my kids were born i lost alot of weight and never put it on again. I do eat alot but weight gain does not happen. Sometimes think i am too thin but i have accepted myself now and am content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish it was so easy, seems it matters more to me than other people. Some days I do manage to think I’m ok, then someone makes a comment and I’m back to the beginning x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I wish it was so easy, seems it matters more to me than other people. Some days I do manage to think I’m ok, then someone makes a comment and I’m back to the beginning x "

Think lots of people struggle, I can literally end up as a heap on the floor crying because of how I look. And I'm with you one little comment or even a look can destroy what little confidence I had x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After years of worrying about my weight and how I look, i’m finally finding a level ground. Most of the time I accept how I look but there are still times I cannot bare to look at myself.

Though I no longer obsess over calories and exercise which i’m so grateful for.

I’m learning to love all myself the good and the bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish it was so easy, seems it matters more to me than other people. Some days I do manage to think I’m ok, then someone makes a comment and I’m back to the beginning x

Well I think you look great, I would say I’m envious of your figure, but that doesn’t help how you look at yourself x

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I lost 35 kilos fairly recently so now I've got to get over the body image and confidence problems that weren't weight related. Considering I'm in my early 40s, I actually feel better and healthier than I did a decade ago.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

It's a lifetimes work for lots of us, especially women, to learn to be indifferent or even appreciate how we look. It wont be achieved overnight because lots of the conditioning happened in our formative years. Let's change how it is for our sons and daughters. Embrace life phases and stop talking about weight, diets, image unless it's relevant to health and well being.

Im watching my body transition with age and the effects of life and experiences. It's equally fascinating and challenging. But I can climb mountains, have meaningful sexual and intimate relationships, cartwheel, splits, run, dance for hours, love, hug, touch and be touched, chop wood, breathe, sing, etc etc etc.

There is much more to celebrate than to restrict because of how I look.

I'd like my chin to stay where it is though.. Its a concern

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, I hear this. I'm back and forth on it.

I think we're often dealt a massive head fuck with this stuff, and when combined with other issues (which we all have to a degree), it can plague us despite knowing better.

I found working on myself made me care a whole lot less about my weight. Which helped me lose weight, because I was fine as I was and I didn't need to eat to compensate for my feelings.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah, I hear this. I'm back and forth on it.

I think we're often dealt a massive head fuck with this stuff, and when combined with other issues (which we all have to a degree), it can plague us despite knowing better.

I found working on myself made me care a whole lot less about my weight. Which helped me lose weight, because I was fine as I was and I didn't need to eat to compensate for my feelings."

Definitely can tell where I am emotionally by my weight. If I'm happy I'll eat better and exercise more. If I feel like crap I'll eat rubbish and become lethargic and it takes a lot to snap out of it.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Who is sick of worrying about it?

Whether your a few pounds overweight, underweight or stones either way.

At 45yrs old I'm tired of it.

Is it possible to just accept how we are?

I'm over it.

But you started a thread on it? Are you really over it ???

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