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FLR (female led relationship)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is FLR (female led relationship) much of a thing in real life? Are there couples on here who practice it? I don't think I've seen it mentioned in the forum.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Unless it's her idea, it's not an FLR. IMO.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless it's her idea, it's not an FLR. IMO."

There's logic to that.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Unless it's her idea, it's not an FLR. IMO.

There's logic to that."

Often starts as a Male fantasy, therefore not female lead at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless it's her idea, it's not an FLR. IMO.

There's logic to that.

Often starts as a Male fantasy, therefore not female lead at all. "

I'm just curious if there are people on here who do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Given the silence, I guess there aren't many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does it entail?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What does it entail? "

It's a relationship where the lady is in charge. Beyond that, I get the impression things can vary a lot.

In some FLRs, it seems to be just a vanilla relationship where the lady is the more assertive partner.

In others, the lady may cage the cock of the man, deny him orgasms. She might peg him or cuckold him. Or do all sorts of kinky things where she is the one in charge.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If it's sexual or not, the key seems to be it's all about her desires coming first. From what I've read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a lot of terms used to describe sex and relationships, it makes me uncomfortable

But if a relationship naturally evolves into a dynamic at the less extreme end of this spectrum, then I think it can be a lovely thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like a lot of terms used to describe sex and relationships, it makes me uncomfortable

But if a relationship naturally evolves into a dynamic at the less extreme end of this spectrum, then I think it can be a lovely thing "

Why does the term make you uncomfortable? It's not offensive as far as I know. Is it because terms maybe simplify or distort things in your view?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like a lot of terms used to describe sex and relationships, it makes me uncomfortable

But if a relationship naturally evolves into a dynamic at the less extreme end of this spectrum, then I think it can be a lovely thing

Why does the term make you uncomfortable? It's not offensive as far as I know. Is it because terms maybe simplify or distort things in your view?"

I guess the connotation that the woman is somehow in charge rather than it being a mutually agreeable and rewarding relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like a lot of terms used to describe sex and relationships, it makes me uncomfortable

But if a relationship naturally evolves into a dynamic at the less extreme end of this spectrum, then I think it can be a lovely thing

Why does the term make you uncomfortable? It's not offensive as far as I know. Is it because terms maybe simplify or distort things in your view?

I guess the connotation that the woman is somehow in charge rather than it being a mutually agreeable and rewarding relationship "

I got the impression it was specifically about the woman being in charge in any ways she wishes. In a relationship, it makes sense the situation would be there to benefit both partners, though.

Have you tried such relationships before? If so, can you say anything about them?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Sorry but I may be a bit naive as I've not heard of this kind of dynamic before. But how does it differ from a D/s relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry but I may be a bit naive as I've not heard of this kind of dynamic before. But how does it differ from a D/s relationship? "

I'm no expert in this. Some people on here likely are. Hopefully one of them might pop up and share what they know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes right here, he just doesn't know about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes right here, he just doesn't know about it "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes right here, he just doesn't know about it "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are so many evil women on here! (And I love it lol.)

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"Sorry but I may be a bit naive as I've not heard of this kind of dynamic before. But how does it differ from a D/s relationship? "

D/S relationships (despite what some people say) do not come in one size fits all.

There are different types, the more common ones are DaddyDomLlittle girl, Alpha dom/me and obedient submissive (or even bratty submissive).

Female Led Relationships takes the Domme situation and makes it work in a domestic relationship (this does not mean being pegged at the drop of a hat) it involves protocols and agreed behaviours public and private.

In the opposite gender it can be described as 1950's Housewife or Surrendered Wife.

Broadly speaking in FLR the woman makes the decisions about the running of the household, the relationship and sex life. So it is just another form of D/S and like all kink it is has to be consensual, there needs to be trust, and it needs to performed without abuse.

There are a load of articles and stories online about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but I may be a bit naive as I've not heard of this kind of dynamic before. But how does it differ from a D/s relationship?

D/S relationships (despite what some people say) do not come in one size fits all.

There are different types, the more common ones are DaddyDomLlittle girl, Alpha dom/me and obedient submissive (or even bratty submissive).

Female Led Relationships takes the Domme situation and makes it work in a domestic relationship (this does not mean being pegged at the drop of a hat) it involves protocols and agreed behaviours public and private.

In the opposite gender it can be described as 1950's Housewife or Surrendered Wife.

Broadly speaking in FLR the woman makes the decisions about the running of the household, the relationship and sex life. So it is just another form of D/S and like all kink it is has to be consensual, there needs to be trust, and it needs to performed without abuse.

There are a load of articles and stories online about it.

"

All I keep thinking is Hyacinth Buckèt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a relationship where the lady is in charge."

Or as I like to call them: "relationships"

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"Sorry but I may be a bit naive as I've not heard of this kind of dynamic before. But how does it differ from a D/s relationship?

D/S relationships (despite what some people say) do not come in one size fits all.

There are different types, the more common ones are DaddyDomLlittle girl, Alpha dom/me and obedient submissive (or even bratty submissive).

Female Led Relationships takes the Domme situation and makes it work in a domestic relationship (this does not mean being pegged at the drop of a hat) it involves protocols and agreed behaviours public and private.

In the opposite gender it can be described as 1950's Housewife or Surrendered Wife.

Broadly speaking in FLR the woman makes the decisions about the running of the household, the relationship and sex life. So it is just another form of D/S and like all kink it is has to be consensual, there needs to be trust, and it needs to performed without abuse.

There are a load of articles and stories online about it.

All I keep thinking is Hyacinth Buckèt "

They imagine WonderWoman and Steve Trevor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hyacinth Bucket? That's a terrifying image lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but I may be a bit naive as I've not heard of this kind of dynamic before. But how does it differ from a D/s relationship?

D/S relationships (despite what some people say) do not come in one size fits all.

There are different types, the more common ones are DaddyDomLlittle girl, Alpha dom/me and obedient submissive (or even bratty submissive).

Female Led Relationships takes the Domme situation and makes it work in a domestic relationship (this does not mean being pegged at the drop of a hat) it involves protocols and agreed behaviours public and private.

In the opposite gender it can be described as 1950's Housewife or Surrendered Wife.

Broadly speaking in FLR the woman makes the decisions about the running of the household, the relationship and sex life. So it is just another form of D/S and like all kink it is has to be consensual, there needs to be trust, and it needs to performed without abuse.

There are a load of articles and stories online about it.

"

A normal marriage then?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hyacinth Bucket? That's a terrifying image lol."

Ah yes... super hot! I'd love Hyacinth to take me over her knee!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes right here, he just doesn't know about it "

Yeah ... he does

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral

As our name suggests, this is something we have an interest in. We’ve played around with it for some time now, at times more than others. Don’t profess to be any kind of expert on FLR’s but know it works for a lot of couples. Our relationship is just that, a relationship, but with an FLR aspect within it.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"It's a relationship where the lady is in charge.

Or as I like to call them: "relationships" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im in one best thing for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lot of interest in this, could we talk?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

There doesn't seem to have been much interest in the last year !

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

When a woman takes control of all aspects of a relationship.

My previous wife was totally in control and it was FLR. Not just a sex or SM thing. She controlled money, what we did, where we went everything. I made it my task to satisfy her everyday. She would regularly just tell me no to even the most simple things, denial was a big part for me. As for the swinging it just meant she chose if I was part of her sexual life or not.

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By *TG3Man
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

Women are always in control or so they think

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"Sorry but I may be a bit naive as I've not heard of this kind of dynamic before. But how does it differ from a D/s relationship?

D/S relationships (despite what some people say) do not come in one size fits all.

There are different types, the more common ones are DaddyDomLlittle girl, Alpha dom/me and obedient submissive (or even bratty submissive).

Female Led Relationships takes the Domme situation and makes it work in a domestic relationship (this does not mean being pegged at the drop of a hat) it involves protocols and agreed behaviours public and private.

In the opposite gender it can be described as 1950's Housewife or Surrendered Wife.

Broadly speaking in FLR the woman makes the decisions about the running of the household, the relationship and sex life. So it is just another form of D/S and like all kink it is has to be consensual, there needs to be trust, and it needs to performed without abuse.

There are a load of articles and stories online about it.

"

100%

A lot of relationships are female led just very subtly

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By *ex HolesMan
47 weeks ago

Up North

Commonly known as ‘Under the thumb’

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
47 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Commonly known as ‘Under the thumb’ "

I don’t mind when it’s such a pretty thumb.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
47 weeks ago

Central

It would suit me very much, to be in charge of a male partner

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

I’ve just started seeing someone fairly regularly and have asked if she’s interested in this style of relationship…I’m nervous waiting on an answer

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By *ornycougaWoman
44 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

This was my relationship with my ex - domestically not sexually. I wouldn't recommend it!

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