FabSwingers.com forum: Message wink friend

By *ersnickety Pants OP Woman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

So folks you find someone you like, what's your go to strategy for contact?

Are you a winker & hope they notice & maybe wink back?

Do you slip them a message & hope you get a reply?

Or do you just chance a friend request?

Or are you one of those that likes to be seen & do all 3 at once?

If you're one of those who do all 3.. Why??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make them cum to me

Only because all other tactics fail

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By *indSeekerMan
over a year ago

Greater London

Defo a message, it's more personalised...winks sometimes seem lazy especially if it's a man winking a woman...where as if a woman winks a man...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I constantly look at their profile, perv

and fab their pics, Hot List them, and hope that one day they will get the courage to send me a PM or Wink or post on one of my threads or anything.

Please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll normally just wink but if there’s someone I really like I’ll message! Find I tend to message less people the longer I’m on, usually due to knockbacks, etc.

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I tend to send a wink or if I’m really interested then a message.

Doesn’t happen as often as I’d like though

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By *az080378Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

I'd send a message

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Always a message.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Message, usually only send a wink if it's a hot profile. Prefer to Fab some pics

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By *anielpiercedMan
over a year ago

by the seaside

I'd fully read their profile as some people like winks to show an interest but generally I'd message if I was interested.

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I send a wink and message

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By *ersnickety Pants OP Woman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"I constantly look at their profile, perv

and fab their pics, Hot List them, and hope that one day they will get the courage to send me a PM or Wink or post on one of my threads or anything.

Please.

I've noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I constantly look at their profile, perv

and fab their pics, Hot List them, and hope that one day they will get the courage to send me a PM or Wink or post on one of my threads or anything.

Please.

I've noticed

She spoke to me

I may need to lie down now, my heart is racing a bit too fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So folks you find someone you like, what's your go to strategy for contact?

Are you a winker & hope they notice & maybe wink back?

Do you slip them a message & hope you get a reply?

Or do you just chance a friend request?

Or are you one of those that likes to be seen & do all 3 at once?

If you're one of those who do all 3.. Why?? "

I wink & message if no response from wink in 7 days or so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a message

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I will fab pics and then send a message.

I don't look at my winks so I don't think of sending them often. I never send friend requests but accept them from people I enjoy chatting with. I do just delete the random requests though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother any more, there's no point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't bother any more, there's no point. "

That’s not the attitude my friend!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i only ever wink at men i like. too shy to start first message

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By *ersnickety Pants OP Woman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I send a wink or message, usually a crappy how are you starter. I find first messages a bit awkward unless I pick up something from their profile.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I make them cum to me

Only because all other tactics fail

i misread, Thought you said "cum on me" like they marked their territory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I send a wink or message, usually a crappy how are you starter. I find first messages a bit awkward unless I pick up something from their profile.

I think a lot of men struggle with this! Women will say to make an opener interesting but have blank profiles! It’s hard out there! Haha x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I don't bother any more, there's no point.

That’s not the attitude my friend! "

i sometimes feel that about men so i do understand

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By *tarbuck007Man
over a year ago

up2no good

I used to waste a lot of time messaging. Now I just give out a wink now and then if I get one back I will return with a facepic message. Not like I'm often here, lock down made me thinks twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't bother any more, there's no point.

That’s not the attitude my friend!

i sometimes feel that about men so i do understand "

There’ll always be a diamond in the rough, just gotta keep searching! X

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I send a wink or message, usually a crappy how are you starter. I find first messages a bit awkward unless I pick up something from their profile.

I think a lot of men struggle with this! Women will say to make an opener interesting but have blank profiles! It’s hard out there! Haha x"

then stroll onto another profile where they expressed themselves better if you need a prompt?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I don't bother any more, there's no point.

That’s not the attitude my friend!

i sometimes feel that about men so i do understand

There’ll always be a diamond in the rough, just gotta keep searching! X"

yes 11 months later I'm still hoping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am interested in someone I send them a message.

Her x

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By *ersnickety Pants OP Woman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"I make them cum to me

Only because all other tactics fail

i misread, Thought you said "cum on me" like they marked their territory

Howling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make them cum to me

Only because all other tactics fail

i misread, Thought you said "cum on me" like they marked their territory

That's impossible because I would have to make them cum

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I usually send a wink first. If they wink back then I send a message.

Or I just turn my message filters off for a while (usually after a few glasses) and see what I get.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I generally stalk them round the forums looking for an angle to message them from

Have only sent winks off the back of forum threads or in response to one sent to me if I like the look of the sender.

Never send random unsolicited friend requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had the courage to send any serious messages yet.

I'd be happy to receive anything but understand that my profile pics are not my 'best side'

(be nice if I had one)

Maybe I should just try my luck sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So folks you find someone you like, what's your go to strategy for contact?

Are you a winker & hope they notice & maybe wink back?

Do you slip them a message & hope you get a reply?

Or do you just chance a friend request?

Or are you one of those that likes to be seen & do all 3 at once?

If you're one of those who do all 3.. Why?? "

I never friend request, those pics and vids are hidden as people.dont want the world seeing.

I tend to message unless when I read the profile im not quite what they want, maybe I'm a year or two older or I'm a lute further than ideal.

I want to show im interested wit the wink but not hassle them with a mesaage.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I dont look at my winks or friend invites. If I'm interested in someone, I'll hotlist them then send them a message saying so and balls in their court whether they reply or not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't bother any more, there's no point.

That’s not the attitude my friend! "

The last 12 years says I'm right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't bother any more, there's no point.

That’s not the attitude my friend! "

The last 12 years says I'm right.

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By *tarbuck007Man
over a year ago

up2no good

I'd wink if I do get a wink back that means I will message them.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

I'll fab a few pics and then pray to the Fab Gods that I get a message back from them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why?

3 choices

I wink.

I wink and message.

I never friend request.

My preferences to engage with someone I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read their profile first and take a cue from that. Some block friend requests and ignore winks. If they don't say anything like that I'll either wink or message directly regarding something profile based. Not that either approach has been horribly successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely message first,I will sent a wink and if I get one back then all good

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Send a nice complimentary message and leave it at that. If they reply all good. If they dont then that's fine also. Very rarely wink, but have winked back after receiving a wink. Never get anything else which is a bit pointless as thought a wink was ment to be a way of showing interest.

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