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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where to start...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would've got a VCR earlier. My dad didn't think they were a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where to start..."

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a good up-bringing with plenty of love..wouldn't change a thing.

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By *uckerfuckerMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Less corporal punishment and more nurturing

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By *arracksCouple
over a year ago

Deal

Different parents!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Nothing. I was blessed. Although I come from what is described as a “broken home” I can honestly say that there was always love, food and shelter. We might not have had much else but I have learnt that those things mean very little.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

my parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would change all the factors that lead to me having to have counselling!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I'd have been an only child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a tough one, if I made changes retrospectively based on what I know, would I be the same person now?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Where to start..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but only if I could change it for everyone else that grew up with the negative experiences I had too. Otherwise, I'm determined to use them positively.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Nothing. because I survived everything that happened and became the person I am today and I love who that is

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

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I wouldn't change anything about my childhood because I was lucky to have a very happy home.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It wasn’t a walk in the park, I certainly wouldn’t have allowed myself to be caught in my Mother’s nightie and the beating I got afterwards, to ‘cure me’ #failed

But like others have said, I’m the person I am now because of it, I do appreciate silence as much as I enjoy company. My Children now are reaping the benefits of a Dad who won’t put them through some of the crap he had to endure. Just waffle on about it when I’m older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My mother's depression

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex. "

Oh it's complex. I like who I am.

For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing... those challenges really do make you who you are and I quite like who I am.

I’d rather be a survivor then not have “lived” even with the pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.

Oh it's complex. I like who I am.

For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no."

Fair enough...everyone deals differently with shit...I have my ways and my thoughts and they work for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex. "

Exactly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.

Oh it's complex. I like who I am.

For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no.

Fair enough...everyone deals differently with shit...I have my ways and my thoughts and they work for me.."

Oh I deal. I've overcome a lot. But it's been fucking hard.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I would have liked older brothers or sisters.

Most of my friends have really close relationships with their siblings and I’d have liked that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different parents

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Nothing as I could have turned out different, it was the start of who I am.

A larger family would have been nice but you can’t pick your family

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Nothing and see my parents at least twice a week because of it. They are just great.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Nothing. I was very blessed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.

Oh it's complex. I like who I am.

For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no.

Fair enough...everyone deals differently with shit...I have my ways and my thoughts and they work for me..

Oh I deal. I've overcome a lot. But it's been fucking hard."

I hear what you re saying..mine will go to the grave folding me in a corner in the night in tears but I can t change it so I ve found ways of dealing with it as have you. Keep dealing but enjoy this life...my greatest respect and best wishes to you and all those struggling with darkness n demons. x

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

Having recently got divorced myself, I guess I wish my parents had divorced and both found individual happiness rather than combined misery. But I don’t think they would have necessarily risen to the challenge!

Maybe to have taken a year out and then done the degree that my heart wanted me to.

I used to think ‘if only’, but I don’t often now because I’m making my own life what I want.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nothing......other than having a pony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id have listened and got myself to college and learnt a trade but i think ive done ok

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"Nothing. I was blessed. Although I come from what is described as a “broken home” I can honestly say that there was always love, food and shelter. We might not have had much else but I have learnt that those things mean very little. "

As a single mum, it’s really good to hear that

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Only where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing......other than having a pony

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Nice tail

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Nothing.

It wasn't perfect and we had little money when was young.

But I had wonderfully loving, caring and supportive parents.

I lost family members who I loved very much as a teenager. In many ways I was more "adult" than my peers, but that has shaped who I am and I hope am a better person as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mother selfish cow ran off when i was a kid, talked to her once in forty years and she had no remorse about what happened

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Nothing, although it was brutal and I wouldn't wish it on anyone else. It's made me who I currently am. And what I've learnt has made me a pretty ok Mam to my boys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My lovely Mother pretty much raised us and it was a brilliant childhood full of magic and adventure ànd non conformity. I'd swap out the father figure for someone more suited to the role.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it probably sounds cheesy and atypical of a forumite trying to please everyone but I am grateful for my parents and grandparents guidance to make me who I am today. It wasn't all plain sailing like when my biological father decided he wanted additional relationships. He left us with nothing except for a mortgage on 18% interest (80s). But I have a man in my life now who I call dad and he's amazing. I'm lucky.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Less violence would have been helpful

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I wish my grandparents lived longer.

I wish I appreciated how bloody lucky I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing about how I was raised...there's stuff outside the home I'd change if I could, but I was blessed with awesome parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

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Parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.

Oh it's complex. I like who I am.

For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no."

I can totally relate. For the most part I like who I am but I do have my insecurities and def not worth what I went through.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I was raised really well and would not change anything. I was very fortunate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say that I wouldn’t change a single thing about my upbringing and my parents, just wished I’d figured some shit out far earlier than I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

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I generally think I had a really good upbringing and I think both parents of alive would be very happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the result of all the decisions I have made in my life. Good or bad, therefore I would change nothing as I would not be who I am now :

A person who makes no mistakes in their life .... makes nothing xxx

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I ,Jason, am who I ame because of my upbringing. Belfast was a hard place but the people in general are good.

I would change the way I treated some of my partners in the past. I wasn't always a good guy. I look back on some of those times with shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have taken bolder steps

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I wouldn’t change a thing about my childhood, it wasn’t always sunshine and lollipops but we made the most of what we had. My heart goes out to the people that didn’t and don’t have that, not all people are cut out to be parents unfortunately no one realises that until the children are already here, I know my words won’t mean much to some people but I mean it sincerely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More money, intelligence and awareness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't have a very happy childhood at all but I also wouldn't go back and change anything as my life experiences and my own personal decisions have contributed towards me being the person I am today with my independence, strength, determination intermingled with a kindness toward others, a desire to be loved and a vulnerability that's endearing.

I am just me and I wouldn't change who I have become because of the negativity I have experienced during my childhood.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing. I had a good childhood. Any problematic aspects I’ve worked through and learned from. I always felt safe, secure, loved and esteemed And my development and enjoyment of my young life was a priority for my parents. I feel blessed and very fortunate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its fine as it is. I don't think anyone has a perfect childhood. We realise our parents were human and subject to the same troubles and strife we endure.

I suppose my first bike was a bit shit and I had to wear flares with elastic waist, but hey I could have been subjected to all sorts of brain washing by fanatical activist parents. Luckily I was allowed to be me.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Although I had a lovely childhood with many friends and kind parents, think I would have focused more at school instead of daydreaming..who knows what my profession could have eventually been.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Two things. My mum did everything in the house and when I left I didn't know how to cook, iron or clean. It was all about of a shock, I made sure my son could do all three.

The second is that my family are emotionally distant, no hugging and very little praise. Quite cold in retrospect, they still are it's just how my mum and dad are, my sister is the same.

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