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 there goes my interest running away.
Can folk not hold conversations that don't revolve around their genitals?
Ladies what turns you right off when guys message (aside from the usual bog standard dick pics)?
I am far from a prude but my mind needs stimulating first & those messages from randoms detailing what you want to do... Doesn't really have the effect you are hoping for.
There are some absolutely amazing guys on here however that sure do the men proud  | |||
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"Someone contacts you, check their profile.. They look alright, you reply, exchange pleasantries then comes the third message... There we go already insinuating sex there goes my interest running away.
Can folk not hold conversations that don't revolve around their genitals?
Ladies what turns you right off when guys message (aside from the usual bog standard dick pics)?
I am far from a prude but my mind needs stimulating first & those messages from randoms detailing what you want to do... Doesn't really have the effect you are hoping for.
There are some absolutely amazing guys on here however that sure do the men proud "100%...surely there should always be an element of seduction and stimulation. I’ve never understood the dick pic mentality even as a profile picture. Say something about yourself with that first glimpse otherwise you just look like a bit of a dick  | |||
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"I’m reading the thread title to Sex Bomb’s tune."  cheers, its in my head now lol | |||
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" The way I see it is no different to how I'd approach any random stranger I might meet in the street and start chatting to, I wouldn't tell them what sexual things interested me. " This. I never initiate any sort of sex talk until the lady starts to make comments of such nature. Even then I'm not the full on graphic type. | |||
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"Ladies don’t end up a ranty twat like me with a stupid long profile, guys back up and let the ladies breathe and you’ll get happier responses "My profile fluctuates, its been ranty, blunt & as negative as I can make it. Rarely do they read x | |||
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"Someone contacts you, check their profile.. They look alright, you reply, exchange pleasantries then comes the third message... There we go already insinuating sex there goes my interest running away.
Can folk not hold conversations that don't revolve around their genitals?
Ladies what turns you right off when guys message (aside from the usual bog standard dick pics)?
I am far from a prude but my mind needs stimulating first & those messages from randoms detailing what you want to do... Doesn't really have the effect you are hoping for.
There are some absolutely amazing guys on here however that sure do the men proud "Definitely this | |||
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"Someone contacts you, check their profile.. They look alright, you reply, exchange pleasantries then comes the third message... There we go already insinuating sex there goes my interest running away.
Can folk not hold conversations that don't revolve around their genitals?
Ladies what turns you right off when guys message (aside from the usual bog standard dick pics)?
I am far from a prude but my mind needs stimulating first & those messages from randoms detailing what you want to do... Doesn't really have the effect you are hoping for.
There are some absolutely amazing guys on here however that sure do the men proud "Agree! | |||
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"I don’t think I’ve mentioned sex with most of the women I have met prior to meeting. " You must be a gentleman then  | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. " Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals "Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same. | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same. " but its a sex site! That line gets me the most | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same.
but its a sex site! That line gets me the most "So you’re not here just to facilitate my needs for free and when I want it? | |||
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"Im afraid I can be a bit guilty of initiating the rude talk. It can feel like the elephant in the room so if I am the one who starts it, it can almost be a relief for them to know if wont faint dead away at talk of cocks "Well that told me | |||
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"Someone contacts you, check their profile.. They look alright, you reply, exchange pleasantries then comes the third message... There we go already insinuating sex there goes my interest running away.
Can folk not hold conversations that don't revolve around their genitals?
Ladies what turns you right off when guys message (aside from the usual bog standard dick pics)?
I am far from a prude but my mind needs stimulating first & those messages from randoms detailing what you want to do... Doesn't really have the effect you are hoping for.
There are some absolutely amazing guys on here however that sure do the men proud "I'll just flutter my eyes your way Op. That usually gets your attention  | |||
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"Im afraid I can be a bit guilty of initiating the rude talk. It can feel like the elephant in the room so if I am the one who starts it, it can almost be a relief for them to know if wont faint dead away at talk of cocks "I'm guilty of initiating it too at times, I'm certainly no innocent lol | |||
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"Someone contacts you, check their profile.. They look alright, you reply, exchange pleasantries then comes the third message... There we go already insinuating sex there goes my interest running away.
Can folk not hold conversations that don't revolve around their genitals?
Ladies what turns you right off when guys message (aside from the usual bog standard dick pics)?
I am far from a prude but my mind needs stimulating first & those messages from randoms detailing what you want to do... Doesn't really have the effect you are hoping for.
There are some absolutely amazing guys on here however that sure do the men proud
I'll just flutter my eyes your way Op. That usually gets your attention "Shhh Chill, don't let everyone know  | |||
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"Speaking as a guy, I would personally find it very awkward to be sexual in that way with someone I hadn't already established a level of connection and chemistry with, and where things hadn't flowed that way naturally and mutually agreeably. The way I see it is no different to how I'd approach any random stranger I might meet in the street and start chatting to, I wouldn't tell them what sexual things interested me. I appreciate that this is a "sex site" so sex and sexuality are bound to be topics of interest, but all the same it doesn't immediately mean that everyone I talk to here wants to have sex with me or me them." 100% I don't get the sexting with someone I haven't met and just sending me a dick pic or asking did I look at your dick pic. I can't tell from a photo of I want you to bend me over and fuck me. Now if we have a social meet and had a wee kiss and than have a few days etc before we meet, no issue whatsoever us chatting about the fun we will have. | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same.
but its a sex site! That line gets me the most
So you’re not here just to facilitate my needs for free and when I want it? "Absolutely not, I'll let you facilitate mine & not bill you tho | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same.
but its a sex site! That line gets me the most
So you’re not here just to facilitate my needs for free and when I want it?
Absolutely not, I'll let you facilitate mine & not bill you tho "Bollocks to that I’m not cheap | |||
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"I don’t think I’ve mentioned sex with most of the women I have met prior to meeting. You must be a gentleman then "I am. | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same.
but its a sex site! That line gets me the most
So you’re not here just to facilitate my needs for free and when I want it?
Absolutely not, I'll let you facilitate mine & not bill you tho
Bollocks to that I’m not cheap "That's true, you're free tho right?! | |||
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"I very rarely will sext first and even then may only do so after enough familiarity has been established with that person. I can usually pick up if it's something they might enjoy even if they don't specifically mention it. Then there's the quality of the sexting; it can often be done with some double meanings without it be too crude or graphic. Women tend to appreciate some creativity...even with this activity "You, Mr Chill don't have a crude bone in your body. A lot could be learnt from you & the other good respectful guys on here | |||
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"I very rarely will sext first and even then may only do so after enough familiarity has been established with that person. I can usually pick up if it's something they might enjoy even if they don't specifically mention it. Then there's the quality of the sexting; it can often be done with some double meanings without it be too crude or graphic. Women tend to appreciate some creativity...even with this activity
You, Mr Chill don't have a crude bone in your body. A lot could be learnt from you & the other good respectful guys on here "I do have plenty of naughty ones though  | |||
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"I very rarely will sext first and even then may only do so after enough familiarity has been established with that person. I can usually pick up if it's something they might enjoy even if they don't specifically mention it. Then there's the quality of the sexting; it can often be done with some double meanings without it be too crude or graphic. Women tend to appreciate some creativity...even with this activity
You, Mr Chill don't have a crude bone in your body. A lot could be learnt from you & the other good respectful guys on here
I do have plenty of naughty ones though "I wouldn't know, Its not like I walk around the club being a pervy little vouyeur | |||
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"I very rarely will sext first and even then may only do so after enough familiarity has been established with that person. I can usually pick up if it's something they might enjoy even if they don't specifically mention it. Then there's the quality of the sexting; it can often be done with some double meanings without it be too crude or graphic. Women tend to appreciate some creativity...even with this activity "Totally this...it's actually quite possible to create a picture and arousal without descending into crudity...and usually a lot more stimulating a one too... ....you often see people asking here how to refer to women's genitals - my answer usually is you don't need to directly name them at all...you can create an essence of them without actually referring to them. It's often said a picture paints a thousand words, well a thousand words can create a pretty vivid picture too if done right | |||
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"I very rarely will sext first and even then may only do so after enough familiarity has been established with that person. I can usually pick up if it's something they might enjoy even if they don't specifically mention it. Then there's the quality of the sexting; it can often be done with some double meanings without it be too crude or graphic. Women tend to appreciate some creativity...even with this activity
Totally this...it's actually quite possible to create a picture and arousal without descending into crudity...and usually a lot more stimulating a one too...
....you often see people asking here how to refer to women's genitals - my answer usually is you don't need to directly name them at all...you can create an essence of them without actually referring to them.
It's often said a picture paints a thousand words, well a thousand words can create a pretty vivid picture too if done right "I hope there are some guys reading this & taking note! | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same.
but its a sex site! That line gets me the most
So you’re not here just to facilitate my needs for free and when I want it?
Absolutely not, I'll let you facilitate mine & not bill you tho
Bollocks to that I’m not cheap
That's true, you're free tho right?! "Depends on what you’re asking for x | |||
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"Not that I'm condoning his actions, but your profile doesn't exactly have much info to help inform conversation topics. Anyhow, I am upfront with people I message that I'm looking for fun. That's what Fab is to me, whereas if I'm looking for good conversation and something more 'real' I would look at a dating app like Tinder." But that comes back to a thread earlier in the week and whether profile text is actually needed to stimulate a conversation with someone - it of course depends on your approach and how you use the site as an individual but personally whilst I might read someone's profile and occasionally may even refer to something on it, I tend to rely on being able to hold a conversation with someone without the need for prompts or a crib sheet, and if the conversation falters or fizzles out take it as a sign of incompatibility | |||
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"Not that I'm condoning his actions, but your profile doesn't exactly have much info to help inform conversation topics. Anyhow, I am upfront with people I message that I'm looking for fun. That's what Fab is to me, whereas if I'm looking for good conversation and something more 'real' I would look at a dating app like Tinder." Tried tinder, I think I'm a bit too x happy on there, it told me to try looking globally 
You are right, my profile is quite purposefully blank, it will be filled out again once clubs open & the world starts moving again. | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same.
but its a sex site! That line gets me the most
So you’re not here just to facilitate my needs for free and when I want it?
Absolutely not, I'll let you facilitate mine & not bill you tho
Bollocks to that I’m not cheap
That's true, you're free tho right?!
Depends on what you’re asking for x"Haha you know | |||
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"I very rarely will sext first and even then may only do so after enough familiarity has been established with that person. I can usually pick up if it's something they might enjoy even if they don't specifically mention it. Then there's the quality of the sexting; it can often be done with some double meanings without it be too crude or graphic. Women tend to appreciate some creativity...even with this activity "This is exactly it, a nice tactile flirt and getting to know one another leads to a lot better quality times later on. I don’t sext first, it’s also why there’s very little actual nudity on my profile. That comes later. | |||
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"I find it's getting less frequent that a good first message worth replying too drops in my inbox. Maybe your filters ? Seeking Neanderthals
Sadly not, seems a lot of men on here these days seem to think women are free sex workers and I know a number of other women on here feel the same.
but its a sex site! That line gets me the most
So you’re not here just to facilitate my needs for free and when I want it?
Absolutely not, I'll let you facilitate mine & not bill you tho
Bollocks to that I’m not cheap
That's true, you're free tho right?!
Depends on what you’re asking for x
Haha you know "May need reminding... it’s been a long day | |||
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"I very rarely will sext first and even then may only do so after enough familiarity has been established with that person. I can usually pick up if it's something they might enjoy even if they don't specifically mention it. Then there's the quality of the sexting; it can often be done with some double meanings without it be too crude or graphic. Women tend to appreciate some creativity...even with this activity
This is exactly it, a nice tactile flirt and getting to know one another leads to a lot better quality times later on. I don’t sext first, it’s also why there’s very little actual nudity on my profile. That comes later. "Someone who also knows how to play the game | |||
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