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By *ohnjones3210 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

So, a few days ago, I just happened to start thinking about the past. For whatever reason, my childhood fears come to mind.

Most days, I remember going into school and sitting in the hall when I arrived. I remember having a constant fear that something would happen to my Mum on the way home from school. I never feared that something would happen to my Dad. I have no idea why this anxiety was there - but it was. I remember worrying about it considerably. I'd have been about 6 years old at this point and I'd say I worried about this same thing every morning until I was about 11 or so.

Infact, I've chatted to a few of my friends and it seems that this anxiety is common in little boys.

It's like as if males naturally have a subsided desire to protect their mothers, even at a young age. It's like as if we see women as vulnerable or something.

As sexist as it sounds, this fear was real and it seems to occur for no real reason.

What about you? Which fears did you have as a child? What interesting info can you gather from them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you ever tell your mum this? It's sweet.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Did you ever tell your mum this? It's sweet."

I've never told her no.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

That is sweet.

My big childhood fears involved abandonment, not being understood, and not being able to help people suffering.

The first two are very telling. The third I still suffer with.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I had this same fear everyday it’s terrible if she was even one minute late to collect me I was in tears I still to this day am an over worrier about my loved ones

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When my mum had one of her periods of depression I worried that my parents would get divorced.

When I was about 5 I picked up a red Smartie on a neighbour's floor and ate it. It tasted awful and was obviously wasn't be smartie. I worried for years that I would die . I didn't tell my mum because I thought I'd get in trouble.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*obviously wasn't a Smartie

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By *ohnjones3210 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester


"When my mum had one of her periods of depression I worried that my parents would get divorced.

When I was about 5 I picked up a red Smartie on a neighbour's floor and ate it. It tasted awful and was obviously wasn't be smartie. I worried for years that I would die . I didn't tell my mum because I thought I'd get in trouble."

Haha! Mad isn't it, the things which kids worry about.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"When my mum had one of her periods of depression I worried that my parents would get divorced.

When I was about 5 I picked up a red Smartie on a neighbour's floor and ate it. It tasted awful and was obviously wasn't be smartie. I worried for years that I would die . I didn't tell my mum because I thought I'd get in trouble.

Haha! Mad isn't it, the things which kids worry about."
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Yep. The smartie thing could have been easily solved too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Weirdly, the only time I worried about my mum dying was when she was in hospital when I was in preschool for (an eternity for the age I was). Every adult in my life told me a different story, she's fine, she might die, everything in between. I knew I couldn't ask for clarification and still feel I can't.

I think I suppressed that fear after that because it was pretty fucking traumatic. I still get teary thinking about it, and it was over 30 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell in the canal when I was a toddler and nearly drown. My whole early childhood was spent worrying about if the water from taps could suddenly pour upwards and into my nose... Still don’t like water today

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Weirdly, the only time I worried about my mum dying was when she was in hospital when I was in preschool for (an eternity for the age I was). Every adult in my life told me a different story, she's fine, she might die, everything in between. I knew I couldn't ask for clarification and still feel I can't.

I think I suppressed that fear after that because it was pretty fucking traumatic. I still get teary thinking about it, and it was over 30 years ago."

I wish adults would realise that children can handle the truth about a situation if it's explained to them properly.

Nowhere near as traumatic as your experience but when I was 7 I had my tonsils out. My mum kept telling me I'd be in hospital for two days, I knew it was a week I heard the doctor tell her. She went to elaborate extents to hide it from me.

I remember thinking she must be stupid to think I didn't know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I fell in the canal when I was a toddler and nearly drown. My whole early childhood was spent worrying about if the water from taps could suddenly pour upwards and into my nose... Still don’t like water today "

Awful .

Our son needed a blood test when he was 6 weeks old, I'm sure his needle phobia stems from the terror he obviously felt then

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Weirdly, the only time I worried about my mum dying was when she was in hospital when I was in preschool for (an eternity for the age I was). Every adult in my life told me a different story, she's fine, she might die, everything in between. I knew I couldn't ask for clarification and still feel I can't.

I think I suppressed that fear after that because it was pretty fucking traumatic. I still get teary thinking about it, and it was over 30 years ago.

I wish adults would realise that children can handle the truth about a situation if it's explained to them properly.

Nowhere near as traumatic as your experience but when I was 7 I had my tonsils out. My mum kept telling me I'd be in hospital for two days, I knew it was a week I heard the doctor tell her. She went to elaborate extents to hide it from me.

I remember thinking she must be stupid to think I didn't know"

Honestly if they'd just stopped at "mummy has to go to hospital" rather than the contradictory editorialising I think I would have been fine. I can piece together little bits from what I can remember but know the topic is still out of bounds. My preschooler understanding isn't enough to be able to figure out anything.

I don't think my family realise I remember anything.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Probably not at all sexist and just scared of losing the person that does everything for you.

At 6 you just don't know soooooooooo many things and are totally dependent

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

Getting lost. I used to panic about getting lost in shops or anywhere! It’s now a panic I have for our kids.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Weirdly, the only time I worried about my mum dying was when she was in hospital when I was in preschool for (an eternity for the age I was). Every adult in my life told me a different story, she's fine, she might die, everything in between. I knew I couldn't ask for clarification and still feel I can't.

I think I suppressed that fear after that because it was pretty fucking traumatic. I still get teary thinking about it, and it was over 30 years ago.

I wish adults would realise that children can handle the truth about a situation if it's explained to them properly.

Nowhere near as traumatic as your experience but when I was 7 I had my tonsils out. My mum kept telling me I'd be in hospital for two days, I knew it was a week I heard the doctor tell her. She went to elaborate extents to hide it from me.

I remember thinking she must be stupid to think I didn't know

Honestly if they'd just stopped at "mummy has to go to hospital" rather than the contradictory editorialising I think I would have been fine. I can piece together little bits from what I can remember but know the topic is still out of bounds. My preschooler understanding isn't enough to be able to figure out anything.

I don't think my family realise I remember anything."

yeah I should have qualified that the honesty should reflect the ability for a child to understand. I can identify with what you say though

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"Weirdly, the only time I worried about my mum dying was when she was in hospital when I was in preschool for (an eternity for the age I was). Every adult in my life told me a different story, she's fine, she might die, everything in between. I knew I couldn't ask for clarification and still feel I can't.

I think I suppressed that fear after that because it was pretty fucking traumatic. I still get teary thinking about it, and it was over 30 years ago.

I wish adults would realise that children can handle the truth about a situation if it's explained to them properly.

Nowhere near as traumatic as your experience but when I was 7 I had my tonsils out. My mum kept telling me I'd be in hospital for two days, I knew it was a week I heard the doctor tell her. She went to elaborate extents to hide it from me.

I remember thinking she must be stupid to think I didn't know

Honestly if they'd just stopped at "mummy has to go to hospital" rather than the contradictory editorialising I think I would have been fine. I can piece together little bits from what I can remember but know the topic is still out of bounds. My preschooler understanding isn't enough to be able to figure out anything.

I don't think my family realise I remember anything."

That sounds really scary and confusing xx Would you like to find out more about it now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, a few days ago, I just happened to start thinking about the past. For whatever reason, my childhood fears come to mind.

Most days, I remember going into school and sitting in the hall when I arrived. I remember having a constant fear that something would happen to my Mum on the way home from school. I never feared that something would happen to my Dad. I have no idea why this anxiety was there - but it was. I remember worrying about it considerably. I'd have been about 6 years old at this point and I'd say I worried about this same thing every morning until I was about 11 or so.

Infact, I've chatted to a few of my friends and it seems that this anxiety is common in little boys.

It's like as if males naturally have a subsided desire to protect their mothers, even at a young age. It's like as if we see women as vulnerable or something.

As sexist as it sounds, this fear was real and it seems to occur for no real reason.

What about you? Which fears did you have as a child? What interesting info can you gather from them?"

Its not necessarily unfounded. I was orphaned at 6, so my fears were real.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Weirdly, the only time I worried about my mum dying was when she was in hospital when I was in preschool for (an eternity for the age I was). Every adult in my life told me a different story, she's fine, she might die, everything in between. I knew I couldn't ask for clarification and still feel I can't.

I think I suppressed that fear after that because it was pretty fucking traumatic. I still get teary thinking about it, and it was over 30 years ago.

I wish adults would realise that children can handle the truth about a situation if it's explained to them properly.

Nowhere near as traumatic as your experience but when I was 7 I had my tonsils out. My mum kept telling me I'd be in hospital for two days, I knew it was a week I heard the doctor tell her. She went to elaborate extents to hide it from me.

I remember thinking she must be stupid to think I didn't know

Honestly if they'd just stopped at "mummy has to go to hospital" rather than the contradictory editorialising I think I would have been fine. I can piece together little bits from what I can remember but know the topic is still out of bounds. My preschooler understanding isn't enough to be able to figure out anything.

I don't think my family realise I remember anything.

That sounds really scary and confusing xx Would you like to find out more about it now? "

I think it would help to know. Mum was fine in the end, but it was sort of, packed off to grandparents for (felt like forever) plus every adult telling me something different and me feeling I had to shoulder all of that.

But I don't dare open that can of worms, you know?

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"So, a few days ago, I just happened to start thinking about the past. For whatever reason, my childhood fears come to mind.

Most days, I remember going into school and sitting in the hall when I arrived. I remember having a constant fear that something would happen to my Mum on the way home from school. I never feared that something would happen to my Dad. I have no idea why this anxiety was there - but it was. I remember worrying about it considerably. I'd have been about 6 years old at this point and I'd say I worried about this same thing every morning until I was about 11 or so.

Infact, I've chatted to a few of my friends and it seems that this anxiety is common in little boys.

It's like as if males naturally have a subsided desire to protect their mothers, even at a young age. It's like as if we see women as vulnerable or something.

As sexist as it sounds, this fear was real and it seems to occur for no real reason.

What about you? Which fears did you have as a child? What interesting info can you gather from them?

Its not necessarily unfounded. I was orphaned at 6, so my fears were real."

That’s one of the toughest cards to be dealt xx

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"Weirdly, the only time I worried about my mum dying was when she was in hospital when I was in preschool for (an eternity for the age I was). Every adult in my life told me a different story, she's fine, she might die, everything in between. I knew I couldn't ask for clarification and still feel I can't.

I think I suppressed that fear after that because it was pretty fucking traumatic. I still get teary thinking about it, and it was over 30 years ago.

I wish adults would realise that children can handle the truth about a situation if it's explained to them properly.

Nowhere near as traumatic as your experience but when I was 7 I had my tonsils out. My mum kept telling me I'd be in hospital for two days, I knew it was a week I heard the doctor tell her. She went to elaborate extents to hide it from me.

I remember thinking she must be stupid to think I didn't know

Honestly if they'd just stopped at "mummy has to go to hospital" rather than the contradictory editorialising I think I would have been fine. I can piece together little bits from what I can remember but know the topic is still out of bounds. My preschooler understanding isn't enough to be able to figure out anything.

I don't think my family realise I remember anything.

That sounds really scary and confusing xx Would you like to find out more about it now?

I think it would help to know. Mum was fine in the end, but it was sort of, packed off to grandparents for (felt like forever) plus every adult telling me something different and me feeling I had to shoulder all of that.

But I don't dare open that can of worms, you know?"

Totally...I get that. If it still makes you cry, maybe there’s some worms you’d be better of getting rid of. Have you ever done any inner child stuff?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have, yeah. For a lot of things it's useful. I think I bury this one.

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"So, a few days ago, I just happened to start thinking about the past. For whatever reason, my childhood fears come to mind.

Most days, I remember going into school and sitting in the hall when I arrived. I remember having a constant fear that something would happen to my Mum on the way home from school. I never feared that something would happen to my Dad. I have no idea why this anxiety was there - but it was. I remember worrying about it considerably. I'd have been about 6 years old at this point and I'd say I worried about this same thing every morning until I was about 11 or so.

Infact, I've chatted to a few of my friends and it seems that this anxiety is common in little boys.

It's like as if males naturally have a subsided desire to protect their mothers, even at a young age. It's like as if we see women as vulnerable or something.

As sexist as it sounds, this fear was real and it seems to occur for no real reason.

What about you? Which fears did you have as a child? What interesting info can you gather from them?"

Just some thoughts

What was your relationship with your mum like? (And you’re dad). If it was pretty good, I reckon your fears were pretty normal - secure happy attachment but at that age, you’re learning that it is possible to lose people you care about; if it was not so great, maybe your fears were from anxiety about being list without her.

I don’t really believe that young boys would have an inbuilt desire to protect women...

My worst fear was the dark...and the upstairs toilet! It had this crazy violent flush, so I always used to press the handle down at arms length and peg it out of there and be downstairs before the flush had taken hold...no idea why!

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"I have, yeah. For a lot of things it's useful. I think I bury this one."

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