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By *hezu OP   Man
over a year ago

East London

With where you are in life?

Im not tbh I should've done an apprenticeship instead of uni lol never was a reader writer type of person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it helps I've been a welder by trade for 33yrs and I wished I'd have used my brain instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every day is a new opportunity to turn your life around. We don't get it right all the time and the fact that you've realised you're not doing what you want to do is the first step on the road to change. Some people never realise but others do and yet do nothing about it. Don't be the latter. Speak to your uni about your concerns and they'll able to help you with finances etc.

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By *hezu OP   Man
over a year ago

East London


"If it helps I've been a welder by trade for 33yrs and I wished I'd have used my brain instead."

Welders make bank though right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it helps I've been a welder by trade for 33yrs and I wished I'd have used my brain instead.

Welders make bank though right"

We used to and still do in rare cases but its life shortening work. It got me into Australia to live for 10yrs so it's not all bad but theres not much opportunity here for welders as most the construction firms have shut.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Truly happy.. No not really (probably a bit of cabin fever thrown in at this point too) but my life could be a lot worse & others have things worse so I try to be greatful for what & who I have

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Truly happy.. No not really (probably a bit of cabin fever thrown in at this point too) but my life could be a lot worse & others have things worse so I try to be greatful for what & who I have "

Agree... onwards n upwards ??

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

The good news for you OP is that youve got years and years and years to change things around. Think about what you'd really enjoy and do something about it. Might take time but that time is going to pass anyway

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"Truly happy.. No not really (probably a bit of cabin fever thrown in at this point too) but my life could be a lot worse & others have things worse so I try to be greatful for what & who I have

Agree... onwards n upwards ??"

The only way is up right?

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Truly happy.. No not really (probably a bit of cabin fever thrown in at this point too) but my life could be a lot worse & others have things worse so I try to be greatful for what & who I have

Agree... onwards n upwards ??

The only way is up right? "

So they say

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I could be happier, but I also could be in a worse place as well. So if my life was to end tomorrow and I had a chance to reflect on what I’ve done and experienced, I’d be happy I’ve lived a life and done some things that I’m proud of and some not so proud.

I have an advantage over many though, I’m an optimist no matter how shit things are, I generally think it’ll get better..,eventually

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

There's definitely things I would change but the big things that matter I am happy with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally yes I'm happy. But I've been known to have my moments of unhappiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my personal life I'm not happy but it's nothing that the love of a good woman couldn't put right.

Maybe one day...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy in my normal life and very fulfilled, not happy in my personal life as something didn't work out and I'm wondering if I'll find someone decent one day!

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By *ut4fun6969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I'm happy to be a live and I have a loving family and friends but internal happiness happy with who I am I'm still working on that has taken a bash recently and it feels like a long road to find my inner happy.Every day is a new day always move forward never back.

Sorry that got a bit deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a good job and earn decent money, but do I enjoy it? No, not really, it's stressful and I work long hours. It's hard to decide whether to leave, learn a new career pathway, but take a big pay cut! Happiness vs money lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think if you had infinite money and had already travelled the world and had great houses and all materialistic things.

What then would you want? Often it is something we can achieve anyway we’re just distracted by life and the motions we go through.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m totally happy .... I’m employed in a job I love , live in a gorgeous village in a gorgeous part of the country , house paid off , proud of my 3 sons and my 2 grandaughters .... just acquired a dog too .... life is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult isn’t it to quantify being happy.

Overall I’m not happy, but am trying to find that balance of what’s right for me, what will work for those around me. The big question is what does it take to make you happy or at least content? Is less more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a good job and earn decent money, but do I enjoy it? No, not really, it's stressful and I work long hours. It's hard to decide whether to leave, learn a new career pathway, but take a big pay cut! Happiness vs money lol"

I lost my job due to Covid19

Other than the obvious being skint part- its the best thing that could have happened!

I was paid fairly well but woke up most mornings hating my life

It's just not worth it - life is too short to spend every day miserable just to pay bills and to buy stuff you don't need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’m content. Due to COVID I need to reinvent what I do and how I do it, but even at my age I’m enjoying the challenge. You’ve got your adult life ahead of you OP, just enjoy the University experience as much as you can, you can start an apprenticeship at 21 if you still feel that what you want. Live every moment to the full, you will never have that moment again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am but it took 52 years out of 55 to find it and myself...oh and one fk of a meltdown...but here I am..as happy as anyone can possibly be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Op, to and search out an apprenticeship. It might not be easy with how things are at the moment but you're of an age where you have options that aren't always open to older people.

Good luck

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We are.

We're mid 50's but don't quite look our ages,

We have two grown up daughters (one still at home) both well rounded,

We run a small but successful medieval reenactment group,

We attend lots of steampunk events,

We have very little spare money, but the bills get paid,

So it's all good.

Yes more money, bigger house, newer van etc. Would be nice, yes our best friend died at Christmas,

but we've more reasons to be happy than miserable.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"With where you are in life?

Im not tbh I should've done an apprenticeship instead of uni lol never was a reader writer type of person"

Lol you are 19. I left school at 15 with nothing went to uni at 30, and have run global businesses, give yourself a break

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Life is too damn short. Too many people put things off for another day & feel stuck in situations that are slowly draining the joy out of life. We get bogged down by financial commitments and responsibilities and put ourselves under immense pressure to conform with society's perception of success. There's far too much focus on materialistic things, how much you earn, what car you drive, where you're going on holiday. Those things have no value if your soul isn't happy.

None of us know what is around the corner, so it's really important to live your best life right now, and if there are things that you are not happy with then start to change them.

Am I happy? Yes, I am. Is life perfect? No, but it is filled with many perfect moments & I treasure every one.

K

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"With where you are in life?

Im not tbh I should've done an apprenticeship instead of uni lol never was a reader writer type of person"

Yes reasonably happy.

You can try to imagine where you want to be in 5 years and try and take steps to achieve it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"If it helps I've been a welder by trade for 33yrs and I wished I'd have used my brain instead.

Welders make bank though right

We used to and still do in rare cases but its life shortening work. It got me into Australia to live for 10yrs so it's not all bad but theres not much opportunity here for welders as most the construction firms have shut."

Where in Australia ? I used to work in Cloncurry, west Queensland building irrigation systems on the edge of the Deseret, we were desperate for welders out there , all the cattle ranches need good welders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy, but it's more by luck than judgement.

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By *picyrodMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Absolutely 3 business chasing the cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive decided its better to be happy than not, there's a lot I would have different but thats life.

You're only young plenty of time to decide where you need to be yet, do a bit of everything and see what clicks with you.

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By *picyrodMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It's a journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without all the other human experiences emotions and concerns of life then how do you decide whats happy for you OP....and how to achieve it.

All lives have a little rain sometimes, it makes the sunshine so much more when it comes. But chasing happy like chasing many things in life is probably not the best solution to finding anyones happy...

Its not a place its an ever changing journey.

Me, I'm content. Took me a long time to get there.

So go out and enjoy life OP, happy will find you without you searching for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes & no. I got married very late in life. Never got the chance to start a family as my hubby had already had the snip plus at over 40 I didnt think it was right to start a family seeing as he has 6 kids (grown up) already. I'm happy with life other than that. Couldnt wish for a better husband. Xx

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