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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So this is a bit of an informative observation from my time on and off Fab as a single guy.

1. Do read profiles. The bio in the provide of a single lady is there is give you an idea of what they're looking for. If you're a white guys and they have explicated stated "BLACK GUYS ONLY" then is it worth the investment of your time to message them. You may be a sexual god in the bedroom, but just like you either like or hate marmite. Women's tastes are just the same. It has come from years of trials, errors and experience. So why not acknowledge them for it. Spend your time pursuing women who would have a higher chance of success with. Minimal effort, maximum gains.

2. Face to face interactions vs first messages. This is a mistake commonly made by guys, and women to be fair. If you were to meet a woman in the real world. Say, at a bar. You can pull off the word "Hey!". Because your body language does 80% of the work to express the intent behind that singular exclamation. But, simply stating "Hey" in your first message isn't going to work. You don't have the bbenefit of seeing their physical reactions to that word to decide what to do next. Nor is stating "I want to cum over those massive tits". Yes you are getting the intent across in a very "descriptive" way. But, you've also portrayed yourself as a one-track minded individual.

Online messaging is like writing a fictional novel. As in fiction, you can see the clear message and intent passed from the author to you the reader.

The best messages where women have replied back to me have all be curated based on their status updates. It's in the moment and off the cuff. And this is where the one-tracked mind is put to rest and creativity blossoms. Which follow to my next point.

3. Being original. There are at usually 30k people on Fab in the evening. Most of them are guys who have just finished work. You're tired, bored and frustrated as your dick hasn't been tended to during the day with your dominate hand (or non-dominate if you're in the mood for something freaky).

During this time you fall into your primitive state and just blast out the same message to every single lady as far away as the gas in your car will allow you (you forget about the return journey).

The down side of this is simple. Women can see this a million miles away. You've got approach your interactions with women on here as your were on a night out with your mates, stone cold sober whilst they're loosening up and chatting to every women entering their peripheral vision. And to be fair, succeeding and failing.

Your messages have to be someone relatable to your target audience and has to bring across your personality, when you're sober. Having sex d*unk isn't really fun or rememberable the morning after. So why not carry that energy throughout the interaction.

4. The meet. Now you are meeting some lady for the first time. Is she going to meet the online you or the physical you. Think about this carefully. You are no longer a picture on a computer screen, you are a tangible physical mass of skin and bones.

Yes, when the prospect of your dick getting touched by someone other than yourself is right in front of you. Don't jump the gun. This isn't the Olympics and you are not trying to set a world record here. You're only at the start line.

Be the person you are when you're by yourself, only now you're in the company of someone else this time. Don't lie or pretend to be someone else. There is not Clark Kent/Superman or Bruce Wayne/Batman here. Just you and a lady.

The chances of you fucking this meeting up is high. As now she can see if your words reflect who you are. So my advice, relax. Because she is in the same boat as you. She has taken a leap of faith to meet you. So as cliche as it sounds just be yourself.

I won't go into any more details after this as it's now pretty much depends on a person-by-person basis.

From here I focus on whether I want to carry on the interaction or leave it. Because one trick doesn't work on all. Reading this person and understanding them is key at this point so as to not embarrass yourself or them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please no one reply and quote the original comment, cause we will be scrolling all day otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha, yes. I didn't think about. I just started writing with an idea in mind and then it just kept on going and going till I didn't have much more to say for the time being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a bit of an informative observation from my time on and off Fab as a single guy.

1. Do read profiles. The bio in the provide of a single lady is there is give you an idea of what they're looking for. If you're a white guys and they have explicated stated "BLACK GUYS ONLY" then is it worth the investment of your time to message them. You may be a sexual god in the bedroom, but just like you either like or hate marmite. Women's tastes are just the same. It has come from years of trials, errors and experience. So why not acknowledge them for it. Spend your time pursuing women who would have a higher chance of success with. Minimal effort, maximum gains.

2. Face to face interactions vs first messages. This is a mistake commonly made by guys, and women to be fair. If you were to meet a woman in the real world. Say, at a bar. You can pull off the word "Hey!". Because your body language does 80% of the work to express the intent behind that singular exclamation. But, simply stating "Hey" in your first message isn't going to work. You don't have the bbenefit of seeing their physical reactions to that word to decide what to do next. Nor is stating "I want to cum over those massive tits". Yes you are getting the intent across in a very "descriptive" way. But, you've also portrayed yourself as a one-track minded individual.

Online messaging is like writing a fictional novel. As in fiction, you can see the clear message and intent passed from the author to you the reader.

The best messages where women have replied back to me have all be curated based on their status updates. It's in the moment and off the cuff. And this is where the one-tracked mind is put to rest and creativity blossoms. Which follow to my next point.

3. Being original. There are at usually 30k people on Fab in the evening. Most of them are guys who have just finished work. You're tired, bored and frustrated as your dick hasn't been tended to during the day with your dominate hand (or non-dominate if you're in the mood for something freaky).

During this time you fall into your primitive state and just blast out the same message to every single lady as far away as the gas in your car will allow you (you forget about the return journey).

The down side of this is simple. Women can see this a million miles away. You've got approach your interactions with women on here as your were on a night out with your mates, stone cold sober whilst they're loosening up and chatting to every women entering their peripheral vision. And to be fair, succeeding and failing.

Your messages have to be someone relatable to your target audience and has to bring across your personality, when you're sober. Having sex d*unk isn't really fun or rememberable the morning after. So why not carry that energy throughout the interaction.

4. The meet. Now you are meeting some lady for the first time. Is she going to meet the online you or the physical you. Think about this carefully. You are no longer a picture on a computer screen, you are a tangible physical mass of skin and bones.

Yes, when the prospect of your dick getting touched by someone other than yourself is right in front of you. Don't jump the gun. This isn't the Olympics and you are not trying to set a world record here. You're only at the start line.

Be the person you are when you're by yourself, only now you're in the company of someone else this time. Don't lie or pretend to be someone else. There is not Clark Kent/Superman or Bruce Wayne/Batman here. Just you and a lady.

The chances of you fucking this meeting up is high. As now she can see if your words reflect who you are. So my advice, relax. Because she is in the same boat as you. She has taken a leap of faith to meet you. So as cliche as it sounds just be yourself.

I won't go into any more details after this as it's now pretty much depends on a person-by-person basis.

From here I focus on whether I want to carry on the interaction or leave it. Because one trick doesn't work on all. Reading this person and understanding them is key at this point so as to not embarrass yourself or them.

Please no one reply and quote the original comment, cause we will be scrolling all day otherwise "

OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a bit of an informative observation from my time on and off Fab as a single guy.

1. Do read profiles. The bio in the provide of a single lady is there is give you an idea of what they're looking for. If you're a white guys and they have explicated stated "BLACK GUYS ONLY" then is it worth the investment of your time to message them. You may be a sexual god in the bedroom, but just like you either like or hate marmite. Women's tastes are just the same. It has come from years of trials, errors and experience. So why not acknowledge them for it. Spend your time pursuing women who would have a higher chance of success with. Minimal effort, maximum gains.

2. Face to face interactions vs first messages. This is a mistake commonly made by guys, and women to be fair. If you were to meet a woman in the real world. Say, at a bar. You can pull off the word "Hey!". Because your body language does 80% of the work to express the intent behind that singular exclamation. But, simply stating "Hey" in your first message isn't going to work. You don't have the bbenefit of seeing their physical reactions to that word to decide what to do next. Nor is stating "I want to cum over those massive tits". Yes you are getting the intent across in a very "descriptive" way. But, you've also portrayed yourself as a one-track minded individual.

Online messaging is like writing a fictional novel. As in fiction, you can see the clear message and intent passed from the author to you the reader.

The best messages where women have replied back to me have all be curated based on their status updates. It's in the moment and off the cuff. And this is where the one-tracked mind is put to rest and creativity blossoms. Which follow to my next point.

3. Being original. There are at usually 30k people on Fab in the evening. Most of them are guys who have just finished work. You're tired, bored and frustrated as your dick hasn't been tended to during the day with your dominate hand (or non-dominate if you're in the mood for something freaky).

During this time you fall into your primitive state and just blast out the same message to every single lady as far away as the gas in your car will allow you (you forget about the return journey).

The down side of this is simple. Women can see this a million miles away. You've got approach your interactions with women on here as your were on a night out with your mates, stone cold sober whilst they're loosening up and chatting to every women entering their peripheral vision. And to be fair, succeeding and failing.

Your messages have to be someone relatable to your target audience and has to bring across your personality, when you're sober. Having sex d*unk isn't really fun or rememberable the morning after. So why not carry that energy throughout the interaction.

4. The meet. Now you are meeting some lady for the first time. Is she going to meet the online you or the physical you. Think about this carefully. You are no longer a picture on a computer screen, you are a tangible physical mass of skin and bones.

Yes, when the prospect of your dick getting touched by someone other than yourself is right in front of you. Don't jump the gun. This isn't the Olympics and you are not trying to set a world record here. You're only at the start line.

Be the person you are when you're by yourself, only now you're in the company of someone else this time. Don't lie or pretend to be someone else. There is not Clark Kent/Superman or Bruce Wayne/Batman here. Just you and a lady.

The chances of you fucking this meeting up is high. As now she can see if your words reflect who you are. So my advice, relax. Because she is in the same boat as you. She has taken a leap of faith to meet you. So as cliche as it sounds just be yourself.

I won't go into any more details after this as it's now pretty much depends on a person-by-person basis.

From here I focus on whether I want to carry on the interaction or leave it. Because one trick doesn't work on all. Reading this person and understanding them is key at this point so as to not embarrass yourself or them.

Please no one reply and quote the original comment, cause we will be scrolling all day otherwise

OK. "

Predictable

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Conduct yourself as an equal, desperation is off putting and don't kiss ass......

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By *hedevilKTWoman
over a year ago

milton keynes

Sounds like sound advice to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Conduct yourself as an equal, desperation is off putting and don't kiss ass......

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Very much this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a bit of an informative observation from my time on and off Fab as a single guy.

1. Do read profiles. The bio in the provide of a single lady is there is give you an idea of what they're looking for. If you're a white guys and they have explicated stated "BLACK GUYS ONLY" then is it worth the investment of your time to message them. You may be a sexual god in the bedroom, but just like you either like or hate marmite. Women's tastes are just the same. It has come from years of trials, errors and experience. So why not acknowledge them for it. Spend your time pursuing women who would have a higher chance of success with. Minimal effort, maximum gains.

2. Face to face interactions vs first messages. This is a mistake commonly made by guys, and women to be fair. If you were to meet a woman in the real world. Say, at a bar. You can pull off the word "Hey!". Because your body language does 80% of the work to express the intent behind that singular exclamation. But, simply stating "Hey" in your first message isn't going to work. You don't have the bbenefit of seeing their physical reactions to that word to decide what to do next. Nor is stating "I want to cum over those massive tits". Yes you are getting the intent across in a very "descriptive" way. But, you've also portrayed yourself as a one-track minded individual.

Online messaging is like writing a fictional novel. As in fiction, you can see the clear message and intent passed from the author to you the reader.

The best messages where women have replied back to me have all be curated based on their status updates. It's in the moment and off the cuff. And this is where the one-tracked mind is put to rest and creativity blossoms. Which follow to my next point.

3. Being original. There are at usually 30k people on Fab in the evening. Most of them are guys who have just finished work. You're tired, bored and frustrated as your dick hasn't been tended to during the day with your dominate hand (or non-dominate if you're in the mood for something freaky).

During this time you fall into your primitive state and just blast out the same message to every single lady as far away as the gas in your car will allow you (you forget about the return journey).

The down side of this is simple. Women can see this a million miles away. You've got approach your interactions with women on here as your were on a night out with your mates, stone cold sober whilst they're loosening up and chatting to every women entering their peripheral vision. And to be fair, succeeding and failing.

Your messages have to be someone relatable to your target audience and has to bring across your personality, when you're sober. Having sex d*unk isn't really fun or rememberable the morning after. So why not carry that energy throughout the interaction.

4. The meet. Now you are meeting some lady for the first time. Is she going to meet the online you or the physical you. Think about this carefully. You are no longer a picture on a computer screen, you are a tangible physical mass of skin and bones.

Yes, when the prospect of your dick getting touched by someone other than yourself is right in front of you. Don't jump the gun. This isn't the Olympics and you are not trying to set a world record here. You're only at the start line.

Be the person you are when you're by yourself, only now you're in the company of someone else this time. Don't lie or pretend to be someone else. There is not Clark Kent/Superman or Bruce Wayne/Batman here. Just you and a lady.

The chances of you fucking this meeting up is high. As now she can see if your words reflect who you are. So my advice, relax. Because she is in the same boat as you. She has taken a leap of faith to meet you. So as cliche as it sounds just be yourself.

I won't go into any more details after this as it's now pretty much depends on a person-by-person basis.

From here I focus on whether I want to carry on the interaction or leave it. Because one trick doesn't work on all. Reading this person and understanding them is key at this point so as to not embarrass yourself or them.

Please no one reply and quote the original comment, cause we will be scrolling all day otherwise

OK.

Predictable "

Don't you roll your eyes at me young man.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

U don’t get laid .. that’s what I’ve learned

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats true. It can be difficult to get laid on here. But, the success is determined on the type of women you message and the effort you put into the conversation.

Sometimes, it best to end the conversation as things fizzle out. Timing wasn't on your side. But, there are plenty of other opportunities. You would have other things going on in your life to give character to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The summation of the post haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know single men existed here! (or is that just my luck) .... But if they do this is a great read

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It can be predictable. But, the unfortunate thing is that we don't remember the bad interactions to learn from them. We only focus on the successful ones.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"So this is a bit of an informative observation from my time on and off Fab as a single guy.

1. Do read profiles. The bio in the provide of a single lady is there is give you an idea of what they're looking for. If you're a white guys and they have explicated stated "BLACK GUYS ONLY" then is it worth the investment of your time to message them. You may be a sexual god in the bedroom, but just like you either like or hate marmite. Women's tastes are just the same. It has come from years of trials, errors and experience. So why not acknowledge them for it. Spend your time pursuing women who would have a higher chance of success with. Minimal effort, maximum gains.

2. Face to face interactions vs first messages. This is a mistake commonly made by guys, and women to be fair. If you were to meet a woman in the real world. Say, at a bar. You can pull off the word "Hey!". Because your body language does 80% of the work to express the intent behind that singular exclamation. But, simply stating "Hey" in your first message isn't going to work. You don't have the bbenefit of seeing their physical reactions to that word to decide what to do next. Nor is stating "I want to cum over those massive tits". Yes you are getting the intent across in a very "descriptive" way. But, you've also portrayed yourself as a one-track minded individual.

Online messaging is like writing a fictional novel. As in fiction, you can see the clear message and intent passed from the author to you the reader.

The best messages where women have replied back to me have all be curated based on their status updates. It's in the moment and off the cuff. And this is where the one-tracked mind is put to rest and creativity blossoms. Which follow to my next point.

3. Being original. There are at usually 30k people on Fab in the evening. Most of them are guys who have just finished work. You're tired, bored and frustrated as your dick hasn't been tended to during the day with your dominate hand (or non-dominate if you're in the mood for something freaky).

During this time you fall into your primitive state and just blast out the same message to every single lady as far away as the gas in your car will allow you (you forget about the return journey).

The down side of this is simple. Women can see this a million miles away. You've got approach your interactions with women on here as your were on a night out with your mates, stone cold sober whilst they're loosening up and chatting to every women entering their peripheral vision. And to be fair, succeeding and failing.

Your messages have to be someone relatable to your target audience and has to bring across your personality, when you're sober. Having sex d*unk isn't really fun or rememberable the morning after. So why not carry that energy throughout the interaction.

4. The meet. Now you are meeting some lady for the first time. Is she going to meet the online you or the physical you. Think about this carefully. You are no longer a picture on a computer screen, you are a tangible physical mass of skin and bones.

Yes, when the prospect of your dick getting touched by someone other than yourself is right in front of you. Don't jump the gun. This isn't the Olympics and you are not trying to set a world record here. You're only at the start line.

Be the person you are when you're by yourself, only now you're in the company of someone else this time. Don't lie or pretend to be someone else. There is not Clark Kent/Superman or Bruce Wayne/Batman here. Just you and a lady.

The chances of you fucking this meeting up is high. As now she can see if your words reflect who you are. So my advice, relax. Because she is in the same boat as you. She has taken a leap of faith to meet you. So as cliche as it sounds just be yourself.

I won't go into any more details after this as it's now pretty much depends on a person-by-person basis.

From here I focus on whether I want to carry on the interaction or leave it. Because one trick doesn't work on all. Reading this person and understanding them is key at this point so as to not embarrass yourself or them.

Please no one reply and quote the original comment, cause we will be scrolling all day otherwise

OK. "

Theres alway 1. Ok maybe 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Solid advice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm going to move this to the Support and Advice section of the forum.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Bang on advice there

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Brilliant Love it x

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Compliments are nice... but don't tell us much about you.

If every message is a compliment about every picture on our profile, that just tells us you have eyes and can see.

Let's find out if we'll click beyond the physical.

And YES to reading profiles!

Ours says specifically that anal is for Mr Racer's pleasure and privilege only, yet the messages we get about wanting to "pound that ass" is cringeworthy!

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby

Don’t lie - don’t give a list of all the things you are going to do if you can’t back them up. Don’t say you can breathe through your ears for 3 hours if you can’t.

Keep your pics updated - you may have been a Adonis 5 years ago on that holiday to Corfu but make sure they also represent you now.

Be yourself through your chat - don’t create an illusion that you don’t represent. Don’t say you are going to dominate someone and then all you do is spank their bum.

I see it as the initial meet is a continuation of your chat. If you’ve done the above the initial meet should just flow and therefore make it easier for you.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"So this is a bit of an informative observation from my time on and off Fab as a single guy.

1. Do read profiles. The bio in the provide of a single lady is there is give you an idea of what they're looking for. If you're a white guys and they have explicated stated "BLACK GUYS ONLY" then is it worth the investment of your time to message them. You may be a sexual god in the bedroom, but just like you either like or hate marmite. Women's tastes are just the same. It has come from years of trials, errors and experience. So why not acknowledge them for it. Spend your time pursuing women who would have a higher chance of success with. Minimal effort, maximum gains.

2. Face to face interactions vs first messages. This is a mistake commonly made by guys, and women to be fair. If you were to meet a woman in the real world. Say, at a bar. You can pull off the word "Hey!". Because your body language does 80% of the work to express the intent behind that singular exclamation. But, simply stating "Hey" in your first message isn't going to work. You don't have the bbenefit of seeing their physical reactions to that word to decide what to do next. Nor is stating "I want to cum over those massive tits". Yes you are getting the intent across in a very "descriptive" way. But, you've also portrayed yourself as a one-track minded individual.

Online messaging is like writing a fictional novel. As in fiction, you can see the clear message and intent passed from the author to you the reader.

The best messages where women have replied back to me have all be curated based on their status updates. It's in the moment and off the cuff. And this is where the one-tracked mind is put to rest and creativity blossoms. Which follow to my next point.

3. Being original. There are at usually 30k people on Fab in the evening. Most of them are guys who have just finished work. You're tired, bored and frustrated as your dick hasn't been tended to during the day with your dominate hand (or non-dominate if you're in the mood for something freaky).

During this time you fall into your primitive state and just blast out the same message to every single lady as far away as the gas in your car will allow you (you forget about the return journey).

The down side of this is simple. Women can see this a million miles away. You've got approach your interactions with women on here as your were on a night out with your mates, stone cold sober whilst they're loosening up and chatting to every women entering their peripheral vision. And to be fair, succeeding and failing.

Your messages have to be someone relatable to your target audience and has to bring across your personality, when you're sober. Having sex d*unk isn't really fun or rememberable the morning after. So why not carry that energy throughout the interaction.

4. The meet. Now you are meeting some lady for the first time. Is she going to meet the online you or the physical you. Think about this carefully. You are no longer a picture on a computer screen, you are a tangible physical mass of skin and bones.

Yes, when the prospect of your dick getting touched by someone other than yourself is right in front of you. Don't jump the gun. This isn't the Olympics and you are not trying to set a world record here. You're only at the start line.

Be the person you are when you're by yourself, only now you're in the company of someone else this time. Don't lie or pretend to be someone else. There is not Clark Kent/Superman or Bruce Wayne/Batman here. Just you and a lady.

The chances of you fucking this meeting up is high. As now she can see if your words reflect who you are. So my advice, relax. Because she is in the same boat as you. She has taken a leap of faith to meet you. So as cliche as it sounds just be yourself.

I won't go into any more details after this as it's now pretty much depends on a person-by-person basis.

From here I focus on whether I want to carry on the interaction or leave it. Because one trick doesn't work on all. Reading this person and understanding them is key at this point so as to not embarrass yourself or them.

Please no one reply and quote the original comment, cause we will be scrolling all day otherwise

OK. "

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