FabSwingers.com forum: A dilemma for the guys

By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

I was discussing the morals and some of the mightier than thow attitudes of the forum recently with a friend and we wondered what would be the reaction of the guys on here, given the following dilemma....

You find yourself on a meet with the most beautiful and stunningly attractive woman you have ever had the pleasure to meet, within a very short time things move on very quickly and it is very obvious that the both of you want to make something of the evening and have sex, you're now well horny when the woman you desire so much makes the running and presents herself to you naked and fingering her pussy, inviting you to join with her...

Just finally, she asks you to wear a condom for both of yours protection, and then tells you that she is married.......

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would stop, dress and leave.

if she didn't think it important enough to tell in advance, I would consider us not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to be able to say that I'd make my excuses and leave, being against cheating myself...

but in all honesty I think by that point hormones would be ruling my actions

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's her choice for the married thing, I'm not forcing her. And I'd be ripping open a condom anyway so that's not applicable!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

How do you define "mightier than thou?"

Just because people have differing attitudes/moral compasses doesn't mean they're not allowed to air them without been seen as "mightier than thou".

As to your hypothetical question: I'm guessing the vast majority would go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was discussing the morals and some of the mightier than thow attitudes of the forum recently with a friend and we wondered what would be the reaction of the guys on here, given the following dilemma....

Just finally, she asks you to wear a condom for both of yours protection, and then tells you that she is married.......

Shoot first ask questions later!

At that point my cock will be doing the thinking, it would be very difficult to get dressed and go

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By *eenonfun2Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If she is on the swingers site alone, that is her choice. You both wanted a similar outcome for the evening? We dont see a dilemma at all. Would be different if you met on a dating site and she was married. X

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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

"How do you define "mightier than thou?"

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In the same way that defining conformity and good societal behaviour is hard to define, what is right for one could well be wrong for another, and that goes for labels too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No dilema...

Condoms...? Yes...

Married...?? Nothing judgemental, each to their own, But...Im outta there...

(Had it done on me... and wont be part of doing it to someone else)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be a monumental moment. Idhave to go down and lick her out.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I think it would be a monumental moment. Idhave to go down and lick her out."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a dilemma. You know exactly what you should do, only problem is that many of us probably lack the constitution to do what we should do.

What I don't understand is why there are so many attempts to justify cheating on here - this thread essentially boils down to the OP saying "well, you would probably do it too if the circumstances were different"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you define "mightier than thou?"

Just because people have differing attitudes/moral compasses doesn't mean they're not allowed to air them without been seen as "mightier than thou".

As to your hypothetical question: I'm guessing the vast majority would go for it. "

It's actually pretty funny when you think about it, the way some of these people judgementally accuse the rest of us of being judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just finally, she asks you to wear a condom for both of yours protection, and then tells you that she is married.......

I'd reply, "Yes dear, I know, I married you 4 years ago."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You either stand by your convictions or you fall when you give in to your weaknesses. We all have weaknesses but the real test of your loyalty to your partner is not to find yourself in sich a situation in the first place. Having said that, if you are single and she is married you have a bit of leeway there. Her marriage is not your concern as you cannot possibly know the intricacies of her relationship with her husband. He might like sending his wife out to meet strangers and at the moment of intercourse they lay that dilemma on you to see what you'd do.

Personally, I nail the shit out of her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dilemma? What dilemma? In like Flint.

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

You meet ....... good chemistry ...... have sex ........ say goodbye ........ it's a swingers site!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would probably by that point discover the weakness of my convictions....shag and feel disappointed in my lack of self control afterwards.

... and to be fair, he probably wouldn't have to be THAT incredibly handsome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would probably by that point discover the weakness of my convictions....shag and feel disappointed in my lack of self control afterwards.

... and to be fair, he probably wouldn't have to be THAT incredibly handsome

So, when do ya want me then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would probably by that point discover the weakness of my convictions....shag and feel disappointed in my lack of self control afterwards.

... and to be fair, he probably wouldn't have to be THAT incredibly handsome

So, when do ya want me then?

Noooooo, I'd have to NOT know in advance, you've missed the point

...and possibly yer chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would probably by that point discover the weakness of my convictions....shag and feel disappointed in my lack of self control afterwards.

... and to be fair, he probably wouldn't have to be THAT incredibly handsome

So, when do ya want me then?

Noooooo, I'd have to NOT know in advance, you've missed the point

...and possibly yer chance

Stick ya blindfold on Fia and then u wont know ...............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would probably by that point discover the weakness of my convictions....shag and feel disappointed in my lack of self control afterwards.

... and to be fair, he probably wouldn't have to be THAT incredibly handsome

So, when do ya want me then?

Noooooo, I'd have to NOT know in advance, you've missed the point

...and possibly yer chance

Stick ya blindfold on Fia and then u wont know ...............

A plan!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would probably by that point discover the weakness of my convictions....shag and feel disappointed in my lack of self control afterwards.

... and to be fair, he probably wouldn't have to be THAT incredibly handsome

So, when do ya want me then?

Noooooo, I'd have to NOT know in advance, you've missed the point

...and possibly yer chance

Stick ya blindfold on Fia and then u wont know ...............

A plan!

go for it - u can work out the flaws later .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just finally, she asks you to wear a condom for both of yours protection, and then tells you that she is married.......

so you meet up and your chatting away and you never once noticed the ring on her finger or the tan line that shows there was a ring there not long ago and as most married women who play away dont bother taking that ring off why didnt you notice it in the first place

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Just finally, she asks you to wear a condom for both of yours protection, and then tells you that she is married.......

actually i would have found out those things before getting in that position of agreeing to the meet......

and then if I found out I had been lied to on the meet... I would walk.... no ifs..no buts...

my conscience is clear... are yours????

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By *acktilMan
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

I always like to meet socially first, so no doubt would have covered the relationship question whilst chatting. So there would have been no play, or anything but a second social had we really hit it off.

The only deviation from this is when I'm in a club, as if invited into a group scene I really don't think it's appropriate to stop and ask if everyone is unattached or has permission for their partner to be there.

I read somewhere recently that in "matters of the heart most men are lead by their cocks".

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

Yeah, she'd get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so you meet up and your chatting away and you never once noticed the ring on her finger or the tan line that shows there was a ring there not long ago and as most married women who play away dont bother taking that ring off why didnt you notice it in the first place"

I don't wear my wedding ring 24/7. It stems from the type of work that I do where a ring could be a hazard and if it got caught in intricate places I'd lose my finger trying to get it out. You would never know I am married by looking at my left hand, so whether this hypothetical women is wearing a wedding ring or not should be conclusive proof of whether she's actually married or not. Some single women wear wedding rings to put hordes of single men off when out and about.

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

The _iew from the "moral high ground" is not always as it seems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many jobs where you have to remove all rings (and necklaces, Bling, ties etc) for safety reasons. So tan lines ?

OK as to the OP: As I would have met socially first and asked all the right questions I doubt I would have had that surprise. But if I had ? She would have got very well pleasured indeed and I would have felt very happy and guilty after ...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

True, I do. I've removed the engagement and eternity ring but I've been wearing it for 31 years. Daresay I'll take it off one day...when a new one replaces it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The _iew from the "moral high ground" is not always as it seems "

Yeah, but it's neat seeing all the ants scurrying about below.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would say is he joining later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the table is turned, I too would say no and leave, then block the person as soon as I can, as I considered him as not being particularly honest about his circumstances, and I do not like dishonest people, whether he is built like a Greek God or not!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"The _iew from the "moral high ground" is not always as it seems "

I didn't post from the moral high ground, I posted from my perspective of my approach to swinging.

Honesty on a profile and within communication to allow informed choices to be made.

Sexuality

Single or Couple

Age

Photos are of you

Preferences: Bareback etc

and the OP wrote it was at the very last minute the information was shared and for that reason I would leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest we both would bone the hell out of her then go home and spank each other for being naughty

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

Oh the dilemma....

I'd love to be a moral bastion of society an say I would walk away.......

On the other hand I very much doubt I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that can also work the other way around some guys and im not talking guys off here but some find married wome a chalenge so single girls have been know to ware a wedding ring to atract attenshion sorry having a realy bad day whan it comes to spelling brians fried

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Ooooh...you can't fry Brian...capital punishment has been abolished don't you know!

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

"I would stop, dress and leave.

if she didn't think it important enough to tell in advance, I would consider us not compatible.

lol, yeah ofcourse you would

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I would stop, dress and leave.

if she didn't think it important enough to tell in advance, I would consider us not compatible.

lol, yeah ofcourse you would

and what would you do?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"to be honest we both would bone the hell out of her then go home and spank each other for being naughty

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I can't answer this thread as I am not a man and Mr ruggers can't answer as he doesn't meet women....but.....

I don't think people having their own personal _iews on marrieds or BB have a "mightier than thow " attitude. I think sometimes those _iews are brought up when not even relevant to a thread and a lot of "relate" type advice goes on when not asked for....but, I can also at times understand when it happens as it is normally preceded by people justifying why they are cheating.

I think if people didn't do that the reactions might ( hopefully ) be different.

I would also like to ask the people who said they wouldn't be in the OP position as they would ask relevant questions before even meeting.....hhhmmmm what if, a radical thought I know, but what if they lied and told you what you wanted to hear when asked the question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex is a given anyway so there is no issue there for me. The marriage thing, well it's her choice to be there, I would not be forcing her. I agree with the OP thy there have been a few moral issues on recent threads and I've actually take quite a bit of stick on one in particular. With that in mind I have to say the marriage thing would not stop me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just fuck the lady! Its a 'meet' so its not like I'm gonna start a relationship lol!

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