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"You never know what someone has to face every day  "Exactly, have a fab day OP Pass on the positivity | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "Too true , just be nice or nothing at all, it’s not hard! | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "I hope you have a great day OP, this is a lovely reminder to always treat people how you like to be treated. | |||
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Mrs"I'm a big believer in it too. But always find it easier to throw sarcastic attempts at humour out there than a bit of care and compassion. A lovely reminder op... Thanks and bought a smile to my face. Hugs to everyone (at a distance of course) | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "Sending you love 
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"Nicely said OP "From one of the really lovely ones  | |||
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"If anyone needs a cute kitten picture, I can send?" Send away, come say hi. Goes for all on the thread, even if we only speak for a day, it'll be great to hear from anyone needing positivity  | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" Don’t get that attitude, if you don’t like what you see why feel the need to go out of your way to tell someone that! Speak volumes about the person in that case | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" Keyboard warriors are really unhappy people - the Internet is full of them. It's clearly jealousy as you're beautiful x | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x Don’t get that attitude, if you don’t like what you see why feel the need to go out of your way to tell someone that! Speak volumes about the person in that case " Exactly! They started off being so nice, asked how I was, and then decided to say they were messaging me to tell me I was fat, sent edited pics of me to back it up, as my mirror is deceiving me. Haha, just thanked them for being so thoughtful as to letting me know- if they hadn’t I’d have carried on being delusional xx | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" But if we're taking the advice given in the op we should be wondering what this person is going through to make them so nasty. Being kind is not easy or even always possible unless we're the Dalai Lama | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x Don’t get that attitude, if you don’t like what you see why feel the need to go out of your way to tell someone that! Speak volumes about the person in that case Exactly! They started off being so nice, asked how I was, and then decided to say they were messaging me to tell me I was fat, sent edited pics of me to back it up, as my mirror is deceiving me. Haha, just thanked them for being so thoughtful as to letting me know- if they hadn’t I’d have carried on being delusional xx" Silly people! Thankfully you can see past that and not take it personally
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x Keyboard warriors are really unhappy people - the Internet is full of them. It's clearly jealousy as you're beautiful x" Thank you, they must be unhappy to be so cruel. I battled for many years with a friend that deceives you into thinking you’re bigger than you are, and actually like me now, so I just laughed it off xx | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x But if we're taking the advice given in the op we should be wondering what this person is going through to make them so nasty. Being kind is not easy or even always possible unless we're the Dalai Lama " Who knows, it’s not easy to converse with someone who has contacted you simply to abuse you. I didn’t insult them back, as what would that achieve, but didn’t want to continue the conversation, just to receive more abuse. They may not be going through anything, other than boredom and have the sort of narcissistic personality that makes them try to hurt others. Whatever the reason, I would never dream of being cruel just to alleviate my issues, but we’re not all made the same. I just hope that they find a more constructive way to get over it xx | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x Don’t get that attitude, if you don’t like what you see why feel the need to go out of your way to tell someone that! Speak volumes about the person in that case Exactly! They started off being so nice, asked how I was, and then decided to say they were messaging me to tell me I was fat, sent edited pics of me to back it up, as my mirror is deceiving me. Haha, just thanked them for being so thoughtful as to letting me know- if they hadn’t I’d have carried on being delusional xx Silly people! Thankfully you can see past that and not take it personally
I think your pics are great, with a lovely figure! x"Thank you. Hopefully they will feel better about themselves soon and not have to behave in such a way xx | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "This is so very true. Good thread OP xx | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" 'Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person!' I think that is spot on. Glad your feeling strong. I have my own old friend and it's not a friend I want to revisit. You are one of the most beautiful on here and I'm not just talking about appearances. Your beauty shines through xx | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x 'Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person!' I think that is spot on. Glad your feeling strong. I have my own old friend and it's not a friend I want to revisit. You are one of the most beautiful on here and I'm not just talking about appearances. Your beauty shines through xx "Thank you x I have to admit, having Inked give me support and helping me see me through his eyes, has helped. Please don’t visit your old friend, no matter what life throws at you, some friendships are meant to be broken. You’re far too lovely to be anything but as you are now x One thing I’ve learned since joining the forums, is that for every mean person, there are many many more who are supportive and beautiful people xx | |||
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"I don't have time for cruel or abusive people. I was shocked to come across so many on the site and have had a few hurtful comments thrown my way, which sometimes had me in tears and questioning myself as to why I am on a site like this x" The question should be, why are they, not why are you lovely x The number of kind people far outweighs the cruel- they’re the true reflection of this place, not them. Sending you hugs xx | |||
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"I don't have time for cruel or abusive people. I was shocked to come across so many on the site and have had a few hurtful comments thrown my way, which sometimes had me in tears and questioning myself as to why I am on a site like this x" Kittens sent! Don't let it spoil your fun xx | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" That's awful! I despair of some people...You are a stunning lady, not just in looks but how you come across in your posts. Jealousy is an ugly trait I recently found out someone has been chatting shit about me in these behind the scenes chat groups...I'd rather distance myself than call them out because their attention seeking personality would love playing the victim. Grown adults being pathetic, I'm 45 not 14. Keep being you! Bollox to them. | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" Wtf you are not fat and certainly not ugly fuck the haters...,. And not in a nice way xx | |||
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"I applaud this attitude but its mighty difficult to maintain in the face of unkindness directed towards you. Being kind to someone who is nice, friendly and smiley is easy. Being kind to a spitting, snarling bundle of hurt, discontent and unhappiness who is horrible to you is way more difficult. " Especially if your own reserves are empty, because of stress in your own life. Taking on the pain of others and trying to help them is empathetic, but shouldn’t be at your own cost. Ive learned that the hard way, in my real life, so on a public forum where you are not face to face, may be attacked straight away, so don’t have the background info or the time to get to the bottom of the anger, isn’t always possible, or sensible. We can all only take so much. Not being horrible in the first place is the answer. Repairing damage isn’t always easy, so better not to cause it in the first place x (idealistic, I know) x | |||
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"I applaud this attitude but its mighty difficult to maintain in the face of unkindness directed towards you. Being kind to someone who is nice, friendly and smiley is easy. Being kind to a spitting, snarling bundle of hurt, discontent and unhappiness who is horrible to you is way more difficult. Especially if your own reserves are empty, because of stress in your own life. Taking on the pain of others and trying to help them is empathetic, but shouldn’t be at your own cost. Ive learned that the hard way, in my real life, so on a public forum where you are not face to face, may be attacked straight away, so don’t have the background info or the time to get to the bottom of the anger, isn’t always possible, or sensible. We can all only take so much. Not being horrible in the first place is the answer. Repairing damage isn’t always easy, so better not to cause it in the first place x (idealistic, I know) x" Yep. I tend to ignore nastiness directed at me while acknowledging that I have days when I'm less than charitable. I leave being kind towards serial killers and violent criminals to better people than me. | |||
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"Jolly well said my lovely friend . Kindness cost nothing. It can brighten some ones day . Making people smile is so much better than making them glum . It makes you smile too " | |||
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"Every week i wait for the refuse workers. I give them soft drinks and biscuits and sometimes chocolate. My neighbour had a dig at me for being kind. but i ignored him." We used to live next door to a woman who was kind like that. On the day we moved she came out with cold drinks for the removal men. She was always trying to give me a glass of wine at 10:30 in the morning  | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "Definitely this OP, lovely thread | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "Absolutely, love this | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" Oh darling I'm so sorry  no one deserves that and it's awful that people do this stuff just fir the sake of it.
Can tell you now, you are neither of those things. You are beautiful inside and out, kind, caring and a wonderful person
Screw them and their nasty comments, they don't deserve your time or headspace.
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "My kind of human being xxx | |||
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"Genuinely, any gender, if anyone wants to bend my ear, you can inbox me. I know id appreciate that in tough times, i find it easier to open up to someone neutral " That's lovely | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" This makes me so angry. How dare people believe they can take out their own problems/insecurities/evilness on others through pretty much anonymous messaging! We need to be talking about this a whole lot more so when that vulnerable person does get one, they realise they are one of many and don’t (hopefully) feel too down about it. | |||
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"Genuinely, any gender, if anyone wants to bend my ear, you can inbox me. I know id appreciate that in tough times, i find it easier to open up to someone neutral " I agree, always said my door is always open if i can help anyone when ever they need someone to talk to | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x This makes me so angry. How dare people believe they can take out their own problems/insecurities/evilness on others through pretty much anonymous messaging! We need to be talking about this a whole lot more so when that vulnerable person does get one, they realise they are one of many and don’t (hopefully) feel too down about it." Agreed but talking about the crap message's and the abuse often lands the wrong one on the naughty step unfortunately  | |||
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"Genuinely, any gender, if anyone wants to bend my ear, you can inbox me. I know id appreciate that in tough times, i find it easier to open up to someone neutral " It's always nice when you have someone to talk too x | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day "I wish everyone thought like this. | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x This makes me so angry. How dare people believe they can take out their own problems/insecurities/evilness on others through pretty much anonymous messaging! We need to be talking about this a whole lot more so when that vulnerable person does get one, they realise they are one of many and don’t (hopefully) feel too down about it. Agreed but talking about the crap message's and the abuse often lands the wrong one on the naughty step unfortunately "I thought the rules were not to name names? Isn’t it important that we all know that virtually all of us have received unkind messages? Welcome to the real world. | |||
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"Ive had so many mental health issues in the past few years, still struggle now, but people dont realise how much, even just a smile, can change someones day. A compliment, a smile, even a hello can perk a persons mood up very easily. " A message i can relate to. Also suffered over the years, it's amazing what a small bit of kindness can do for improving your day. But unfortunately the negative comments last far longer. In a world where you can be anything, be kind. (my friends t-shirt says this) | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x This makes me so angry. How dare people believe they can take out their own problems/insecurities/evilness on others through pretty much anonymous messaging! We need to be talking about this a whole lot more so when that vulnerable person does get one, they realise they are one of many and don’t (hopefully) feel too down about it. Agreed but talking about the crap message's and the abuse often lands the wrong one on the naughty step unfortunately
I thought the rules were not to name names? Isn’t it important that we all know that virtually all of us have received unkind messages? Welcome to the real world."It definitely is. Makes such a difference knowing it can happen to anyone. Those kind of messages can do a lot of damage. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? " Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind "Neither can I. I'm no saint. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? " Kindness brings kindness. . If people want to be nasty then why do they deserve our kindness? | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind "But we don't know what the knowingly unkind people are facing or have been through. I know that a lot of people suffering from depression can be horribly unkind. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind
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But but you pickle vegetables and grow stuff
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Kindness brings kindness. . If people want to be nasty then why do they deserve our kindness? "Because maybe they are hurting more? We’ve all reacted badly at one time or another, and sometimes maybe it needs a bit of compassion and understanding | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind
Neither can I. I'm no saint.
But but you pickle vegetables and grow stuff
Only to stop me from killing people
I need to start then.."Don't! You'll end up like me and if nothing else that should be a terrible warning 
On a serious note "be understanding" might be my motto because even when I can't be kind i can try and understand | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Kindness brings kindness. . If people want to be nasty then why do they deserve our kindness? "Do people have to deserve it? | |||
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"But we don't know what the knowingly unkind people are facing or have been through. I know that a lot of people suffering from depression can be horribly unkind. " Been there done that. In the early days of the web had a massive melt down on a couple of forums where I ended up being really nasty. It all got out of hand. Looking back over it it was because I was entering a major depression. This is the first forum I've posted to in years because of that. I have learnt to walk away if I notice the signs appearing. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Kindness brings kindness. . If people want to be nasty then why do they deserve our kindness?
Do people have to deserve it? "I've tried to be nice and understanding with people and had it thrown back in my face. I try to be nice to everyone. | |||
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"But we don't know what the knowingly unkind people are facing or have been through. I know that a lot of people suffering from depression can be horribly unkind. Been there done that. In the early days of the web had a massive melt down on a couple of forums where I ended up being really nasty. It all got out of hand. Looking back over it it was because I was entering a major depression. This is the first forum I've posted to in years because of that. I have learnt to walk away if I notice the signs appearing."
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Kindness brings kindness. . If people want to be nasty then why do they deserve our kindness?
Do people have to deserve it?
I've tried to be nice and understanding with people and had it thrown back in my face.
I try to be nice to everyone. "Me too. I'm nice to a point, then walk away. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Kindness brings kindness. . If people want to be nasty then why do they deserve our kindness?
Do people have to deserve it? "Generally, no. We should be able to rise above it and be nice to everyone but that is an ideal world and it's also depends on how much you've taken from that person before you have to say enough is enough. Personally I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but that's bitten me in the arse more than once and I have a limit. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Kindness brings kindness. . If people want to be nasty then why do they deserve our kindness?
Do people have to deserve it?
Generally, no. We should be able to rise above it and be nice to everyone but that is an ideal world and it's also depends on how much you've taken from that person before you have to say enough is enough.
Personally I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but that's bitten me in the arse more than once and I have a limit. "Yeah, we all do except, as I mentioned earlier the Dalai Lama. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind
Neither can I. I'm no saint.
But but you pickle vegetables and grow stuff
Only to stop me from killing people
I need to start then..
Don't! You'll end up like me and if nothing else that should be a terrible warning
On a serious note "be understanding" might be my motto because even when I can't be kind i can try and understand "Understanding works up to a point and then some see it as a weakness. Manipulators work with all tricks and no, I don’t believe they should be able to rely on the good will and understanding of others to do what they want. | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" I often look at your profile (because i’m a nosey trout and quite like your forum posts) and i have always thought you were very pretty. You have a lovely figure and beautiful eyes. I don’t know why someone would send you such a horrible message, but take no notice. You’re a beaut. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? Alas I’m not an angel. I try to be kind but can’t make it when it comes to those that have knowingly been unkind
Neither can I. I'm no saint.
But but you pickle vegetables and grow stuff
Only to stop me from killing people
I need to start then..
Don't! You'll end up like me and if nothing else that should be a terrible warning
On a serious note "be understanding" might be my motto because even when I can't be kind i can try and understand
Understanding works up to a point and then some see it as a weakness. Manipulators work with all tricks and no, I don’t believe they should be able to rely on the good will and understanding of others to do what they want."A very good point. | |||
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"Is there not a certain irony here with people being spoken about in derogatory terms? If we're going to be kind shouldn't we be kind to everybody? " This^ No further explanation needed.... | |||
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Obv not this thread Tes, it's a genuinely nice thread, I think you're lovely. Just there's so many internally ugly ppl around at the moment wanting to level the beautiful ones - it makes me sad..... Just be kind regardless and then it'll come back to you, innit.... | |||
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"So true. Received abuse off a stranger on here the other night, just decided they wanted to point out I’m unattractive and fat. Silly woman! Like I haven’t been called that before, haha. However, what if I was in a vulnerable place and it sent me back to my old friend, I can’t afford to be ill again- I have two dependents, one severely autistic. My life is so stressful, this year, in particular, has been horrible at times. Being cruel, just for the sake of it, speaks of a weakness of character and a rather pathetic attitude. I’d hate to be that person! I’d rather look in my apparently deceptive mirror and see a fat me, than look in it and see an ugly personality x Viv x" I’m sorry to hear this fab May be a snake pit of jealousy at times but that’s just not playing ball. I hope you reported it | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day " this
This is one of the reasons that when out walking or just out I always smile at people going by | |||
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"You never know what someone has to face every day
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This is one of the reasons that when out walking or just out I always smile at people going by "that's rather lovely I'm sure you make many people's day brighter | |||
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