FabSwingers.com forum: Do veri’s put you off someone

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fabbers

Musing yet again.

So you are contacted by someone or a couple and all seems well with the message, then you check their veri’s. So does what you read put you off continuing contact with them?

I must admit to rejecting people because of veri’s.

Something on the lines of ‘he made me squirt like a garden hose’ was certainly off putting.

Bhubaysi x

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

I think a very large number of verifications can be off putting (although that is not black and white)

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

I dont understand the point of written verifications. Who on earth wants to know how when why and for how long they fucked the last meet?

I check box of, yes I met this person, yes I reccomend, would be plenty enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bed was soaking, nice

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don’t pass him by ladies puts my off too.....

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

..... "Fucked all night and had me squirting non stop for hours"......

Seriously??

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I no longer pay much attention to, nor care for veris. My decision to meet someone will be based on my interaction with them and resulting interest (or lack of) from said interaction. If the person seems polite, mature, fun and I feel we'd click in person, that's enough for me. The rest is just background noise as far as i'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might read them out of interest but they wouldn’t influence me; no-one is going to display a negative one, so it’s only going to be written backslapping exercise.

Not a criticism, but don’t get why people get so hung up on the content. So what if it is very explicit and in detail? What bearing is that going to have on any potential meet you have?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yes it does put me off if they proudly display veris from someone I know is a complete cunt. I take that as them being a pretty shocking judge of character or someone who will overlook ugly traits and that's enough for me to walk on by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comments about how massive his cock was, any hints about bare sex or getting high or dr**k, things like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, if I get a message or wink I'll check them out.

If their veris are mostly or all from guys with massive cocks I will ignore

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

I get put off if the woman has hundreds.

As regards the verifications themselves, I don't read them.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

It can depend on the veris as many can be from organised socials etc

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We do have some veris ourselves ..and we do have a peep at other peoples to get a gauge of if they are gonna be our types...prolific players tend to put us off tbh .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in quality not quantity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My decision to meet someone is based on that individual and my interactions with them not what others have thought or experienced. If I’ve enjoyed talking/messaging etc then why would I checkout their past performances? I wouldn’t do it to meeting someone under different circumstances.

I’ve never read a verification on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont understand the point of written verifications. Who on earth wants to know how when why and for how long they fucked the last meet?

I check box of, yes I met this person, yes I reccomend, would be plenty enough. "

If they have more than just a few showing it puts me right off and I won't meet them.

I hate the verification system.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I get put off if the woman has hundreds.

As regards the verifications themselves, I don't read them."

So those with say...five, be ok?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd like to say I'm not influenced by them but I am. BB or drug references in them are a no go. Also if they've met someone that I know creates drama I'll move on x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The ones I display are from organised socials. What I get up to on a private meet with someone is no-one else's business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a fair few and a lot are social and people we’ve met several times , if anyone was to write anything too graphic about us then I wouldn’t show them ! We’re keen to know if people are decent and respectful not off they’re heavy cummmers or have a massive dick !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ones I display are from organised socials. What I get up to on a private meet with someone is no-one else's business."

This is how I prefer them aswell. I look at verifications to find out about someone's personality. We can all fuck so why do you need to display 12 verifications telling us that?

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes, the veri trail can instantly change my thoughts on someone

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to leave not so sexual and humourous veri's for others.

I know from my own mixture of interactions each is very different, you can't judge someone by what they did with another person to suit THAT person's needs.

What I do take from veris is a look at who they're from. If they're all very different in body type to me I'll likely pass them by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get put off if the woman has hundreds.

As regards the verifications themselves, I don't read them.

So those with say...five, be ok?"

5 is too many for me.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

I got told the other day by a woman that I had too many!.

They do show that you are genuine and turn up, I guess some women will want to know how good you are?

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

They are much more likely to put me off the author than the person they’re verifying.

A gentleman should never tell too much.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I got told the other day by a woman that I had too many!.

They do show that you are genuine and turn up, I guess some women will want to know how good you are?

What is good for one woman may not be for another.

I don’t like too many veri’s on another profile.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I kind of just use them to check that they are who they say they are, that they won't murder me and that they will actually turn up.

Rather than actually reading the Shag advisor review and thinking if I will or won't meet them.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I don’t mind if they have Either none or a million.

So long as they are pleasant and we are enjoying our time together.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I get put off if the woman has hundreds.

As regards the verifications themselves, I don't read them.

So those with say...five, be ok?

5 is too many for me."

So if someone had two veris but actively snagged three different people a week for the past twenty years?

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I don't cast judgement on volume; the vast majority of my veris are from socials and any social butterfly will collect a lot over time.

I don't particularly want to read graphic details, much like I'm not into graphic pics. I appreciate, some like it.

If there's an indication of drama, or my hard limits, then I'll back off. Other than that, I care not for what is said, or by whom. Some don't display any veris, so I don't see how you can make distinctions. It's not usual to have a running history of someone's sexual encounters on public view afterall.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"I don’t mind if they have Either none or a million.

So long as they are pleasant and we are enjoying our time together. "

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I get put off if the woman has hundreds.

As regards the verifications themselves, I don't read them.

So those with say...five, be ok?"

Five is fine, six is too many. That’s the way when things are black or white

Better make number 6 count, I reckon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are a good insight but not at all fool proof, all information is useful to making a decision about anything. Veris add to that on here.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Yes it does put me off if they proudly display veris from someone I know is a complete cunt. I take that as them being a pretty shocking judge of character or someone who will overlook ugly traits and that's enough for me to walk on by."

Agree. Also if the veri is all about the person who verified them and how fabulous they were, how they made them squirt, how if they will come and beat them up if they don't treat the person right, all makes them look a bit of a knob. Bad judge of character can say alot about a person, but then again i've been around to know that alot of veris are utter BS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! Absolutely do in some cases

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"I get put off if the woman has hundreds.

As regards the verifications themselves, I don't read them.

So those with say...five, be ok?

5 is too many for me.

So if someone had two veris but actively snagged three different people a week for the past twenty years?"

I'd say they are lucky to find people they wanna have fun with on here. The quantity thing doesn't bother me.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Veri's I display are purely from initial social meets or group socials. It's enough to give an idea of my personality, and prove I'm real...anything else that happens is private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get put off if the woman has hundreds.

As regards the verifications themselves, I don't read them.

So those with say...five, be ok?

5 is too many for me.

So if someone had two veris but actively snagged three different people a week for the past twenty years?"

2 is less than 5.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Yes. Any mention of separate rooms, DP, fisting, gangbang puts us off. Each to their own, but not for us.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Not generally, as I prefer to evaluate them by my own standards and preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike graphic ones or too literal. But then again that's based on veris they give not receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not too pay much attention. Ive never read one that says the recipient is ‘horrible, unclean, or disrespectful’ and so on, so I don’t think they really amount to much other than, perhaps, they’re genuine and actually meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll read them by all means but I’d rather see if I get along with someone instead of go purely on their verifications. Plus they don’t always tell a true story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I read veris that are way OTT and then you read the veris they sent to others and they are exactly the same lol. Just words in my eyes. Oh and the "he/shes mine" .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, the veri trail can instantly change my thoughts on someone

Jo x

Definitely this

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By *eatrice BadinageWoman
over a year ago

In a Sparkly Dress

Veris are just for amusing reading

for me, quantity and quality wouldn't affect us having a conversation, once I've found out what I want to then I will make a decision on whether to meet them or not.

I don't show my sexual ones as they are for my private memories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dignity and decorum, I think.

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By *ljamMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Veris are pretty important for me - but the quality of interaction between me and whoever I'm chatting with is moreso. Quantity isn't a big deal as long as the quality is good.

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

Oh.... I read them!!

I maybe shouldn't admit this but I'm slightly a stalker about it too. If someone's telling me one thing but their veri's are telling me another-it's what I look for.

I don't care that someone is amazing in bed.... it's about mine and their connection and that could flop compared to others.

I also hate.... 'don't pass on this guy'... Jesus... he isn't a used car and you're not saleswoman of the year.

I must admit.... someone with LOTS of personal veri's may put me off.... ^ill go hang my head in shame at being judgey^

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Totnes

Dont forget if you go to a large organised social you can get lots of veris...dont just judge by the number of them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm such a rubbish swinger! I get really put off by reading about previous sexual conquests in detail, it's not really through insecurity, more just that it makes my experience with a person less intimate, personal and special. The only veris I leave are hilarious personal thank you's and always non-sexual, or at least nobody would guess they were....

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Don't read 'em.

Not my business.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It’s not TripAdvisor. They’re worthless to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't read 'em.

Not my business.

This!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Hardly ever look at them. None of my business is it really.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

They are good to determine if they will suit you. For instance if a guy has a DOM veri he will not be for me so I would keep my distance there.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Not all veri's tell us about the person in question as such, but by displaying some makes me question why on earth would you

At which point it's a no thankyou from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dignity and decorum, I think.

On here?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't read 'em.

Not my business.

Then why display them?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We've never been put off by verifications without being put off by their profile first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris... no.

Frowns... yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many things van put me off - veris being one of them.

Everyone says they don't judge - well they're fibbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris can put me off. Often it's because they confirm I'm clearly not their type.. Sometimes it's because of things that are written.

Lots of things put me off though. It's amazing I've ever met anyone.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Don't read 'em.

Not my business.

Then why display them? "

People ask to see, I'm fine with that.

But would I meet or not meet anyone based on anything but my own opinion of someone? Nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve hidden my one from meli.

Also... I always use condoms.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We like to make our own minds up about people so veris make no difference to us..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

If I’m looking to or intending to meet someone I will have a quick read through their Veris if displayed. Some treat them as a badge of honour in which case they’re not for me. As others have commented, I don’t see the need to include graphic details

Most of mine are social meetings at MLS

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’ve hidden my one from meli.

Also... I always use condoms."

Looking very rugged with the lockdown beard Sam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the verification is positive, that's good. The weird details are the person giving the verification. Its important to remember that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t read veris. Only thing I look at is if they Hace veri count listed

Couldn’t careless what others have to say about the meets tbh

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