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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So today I bumped into my ex , we used to have a good sex life and often talked about swinging but it never happened when we were chatting she asked if I still liked the idea because her and her new partner are into it , she asked me to join them 1 night for some fun . But here's the thing I'm in a bit of a pickle , do I go and have fun or not , what if it opens old feelings for her and it might seem strange fucking her again . Some advice would help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds like my worst nightmare. Personally I'd avoid it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if it opens feelings for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sounds like my worst nightmare. Personally I'd avoid it "

THIS!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want a threesome, there are other couples out there.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nonesense. What could possibly go wrong? You go for it! Keep us up updated

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Have you ever heard the phrase Ex's are Ex's for a reason'

stay away !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What does her current partner think about the idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So today I bumped into my ex , we used to have a good sex life and often talked about swinging but it never happened when we were chatting she asked if I still liked the idea because her and her new partner are into it , she asked me to join them 1 night for some fun . But here's the thing I'm in a bit of a pickle , do I go and have fun or not , what if it opens old feelings for her and it might seem strange fucking her again . Some advice would help "

Personally if I were you I’d go for it.

I think the sex would be amazing given the connection you’ve had.

I think it’s really beautiful.

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south


"So today I bumped into my ex , we used to have a good sex life and often talked about swinging but it never happened when we were chatting she asked if I still liked the idea because her and her new partner are into it , she asked me to join them 1 night for some fun . But here's the thing I'm in a bit of a pickle , do I go and have fun or not , what if it opens old feelings for her and it might seem strange fucking her again . Some advice would help "

It might open up old feelings for her as well..... it could be the start of a new couples account for you both!!!

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

It’s safe for her as she knows that you are open minded..

But risky x

Did you both part amicably?

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Sounds like a recipe for disaster with all the feelings floating about.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Why did your relationship with her end?

I’d be in the avoid camp too... generally an ex is an ex for a reason and if I were in a relationship and my new partner suggested we have a threesome with his ex I would tell him to do one.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

If I started dating sunshine and they suggested a 3some with their ex I'd be quite cheesed off.

I'd stay away if you're not sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What does her current partner think about the idea?"
apparently he's up for it

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"What does her current partner think about the idea?"

This is very important ^

Also, if you fear it might spark feelings again then I’d surmise you probably already know it will as perhaps you’ve still actually got them, or are aware there’s _mbers there that could be fanned aflame. The question (if all others are consenting) is will you be comfortable knowing you can’t have more than play with her as she’s ultimately with someone else and in doing so is that going to be healthy and fun for you or a form of self harm? Only you know the answer, and if your gut feeling is caution - then heed it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s safe for her as she knows that you are open minded..

But risky x

Did you both part amicably?"
yes we just went our separate ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why did your relationship with her end?

I’d be in the avoid camp too... generally an ex is an ex for a reason and if I were in a relationship and my new partner suggested we have a threesome with his ex I would tell him to do one. "
we just realised we wanted different things and split as friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would decline politely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What if it opens feelings for you?"
this is my main concern

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you want a threesome, there are other couples out there....."
I keep trying but dont get any luck in meeting couples

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Trying to imagine this and came to the conclusion I wouldn't with any significant ex, but could with some of the more insignificant ex's.

Only you know the answer op, probably a lot depends on how the relationship was, the reason for the break up and how the break up was.

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border


"So today I bumped into my ex , we used to have a good sex life and often talked about swinging but it never happened when we were chatting she asked if I still liked the idea because her and her new partner are into it , she asked me to join them 1 night for some fun . But here's the thing I'm in a bit of a pickle , do I go and have fun or not , what if it opens old feelings for her and it might seem strange fucking her again . Some advice would help "

Don’t be soft lad go get her fucked what’s up with ya

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