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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you use it

Do you think it's unfair

Do you know what it is?

Saira x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always in stealth me

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

Life isn't

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I like people to know I’m watching them. Never messaging. Just creeping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Never use it. If I'm looking, I'm looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I like people to know I’m watching them. Never messaging. Just creeping. "
do it all the time to me

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Never in stealth, I like them to know that I wanted to look at them

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By *akbearMan
over a year ago

Newbury

Don't use it, am aware of it. If I'm looking at a profile id rather the person knows.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

I rarely go ninja that way.

If someone sees me look at their profile more than once, then the deserve to know I've found it interesting or sexy. That for whatever reason the effort they put in has been noticed.

Also a good way to initiate things on occasion

I make no secret of the fact I openly revisit certain profiles. Theyre good profiles!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good range of answers

I'm always in stealth, just go case you're interested

Right I'm off to perve the latest new pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always in stealth, sometimes I'm not perving just being nosey and then it gives off the wrong impression

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By *angtidy42Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Have no idea about it so don't use it. Have a good hot list of who we want to meet thou

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Always in stealth. I’d be interested to know the % of people who are.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep, saves people messaging when they see you have looked

Plus I forget who I look at, so wouldn't want to appear stalkerish lol

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Always in stealth here

Jo x

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Do you use it

Yes.

Do you think it's unfair

No.

Do you know what it is?

Yes

Saira x"

I use it because I can and because I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it. I think it's a good thing!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

No.. Don't think there's any point to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never in stealth, what’s the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, saves people messaging when they see you have looked

Plus I forget who I look at, so wouldn't want to appear stalkerish lol"

This

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Yep. Always stealthy! Stops people thinking I'm actually stalking them when I'm really just clumsy and hit their name instead of message or anywhere else on the screen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always in stealth. I’d be interested to know the % of people who are. "

Looking hot Mr J

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep, saves people messaging when they see you have looked

Plus I forget who I look at, so wouldn't want to appear stalkerish lol"

I do this too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it saves life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but I like the fact ladies give me a peek at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,never used it, dint see the point for men at least

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By *airyChestedDaveMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I’m happy for people to know I’m enjoying there pics and statuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use stealth until I stumble across an interesting profile, then I look again without it!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Do you use it

Do you think it's unfair

Do you know what it is?

Saira x"

I use it I know what it is and I'm happy being on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use it because we're not always together when looking so sometimes multiple looks have received various messages with things like...

'You keep looking but not messaging, either message or you must be fake'

'You're obviously a perv hiding behind a couple profile. Keep looking but no moves? Wank over someone else's pics'

On the plus it gave us a good idea of them from the off so saved us the bother of messaging them; might switch it off again ...L x

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Always use it, I'm mainly just nosey though. There are a few profiles I regularly look at so don't want to appear stalkierish. If I want them to know I've looked then I fab their pics.

Mrs x

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By *nkedviolet69Woman
over a year ago

Twickenham


"No I like people to know I’m watching them. Never messaging. Just creeping. "

brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit silly considering the nature of the site. If we all applied such artifice as stealth and no profile views, blocking etc, it would be completely pointless being here.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes.

We occasionally need to check out profiles without wanting them to know

Plus if you don’t use it you get bombarded with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here to be noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren’t in stealth

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I’m happy for people to know I’m enjoying there pics and statuses "

Trouble is, there are some guys who will see that a woman has looked at their profile, and consider this an invitation to bombard them with unwanted attention.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes

No

Yes

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By *nkedviolet69Woman
over a year ago

Twickenham


"Yep, saves people messaging when they see you have looked

Plus I forget who I look at, so wouldn't want to appear stalkerish lol

I do this too!"

Me to... Plus if I've looked and there not for me then they message it's just awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m happy for people to know I’m enjoying there pics and statuses

Trouble is, there are some guys who will see that a woman has looked at their profile, and consider this an invitation to bombard them with unwanted attention."

I've only messaged a small number after theyviewedmy pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

No

Yes "
sparke that profile pic makes me want too look at your's for a long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always in stealth mode because otherwise I get loads of messages saying "want to meet"

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yes

No

Yes sparke that profile pic makes me want too look at your's for a long time "

You will go blind

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Only turned it on recently mainly because after we looked at someone we got a message say hey seen ya looking there fancy a chat etc etc. If we want to chat well send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

No

Yes sparke that profile pic makes me want too look at your's for a long time

You will go blind "
what away to go was that leather challenge ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In and Out if it all the time, so much so I wish it was a hot link on mobile home page - so I could toggle it quicker ...

Always Off - for Hot matches & hot profiles

Always On ( Stealth ) - for checking unsolicited non-matches or msgs etc.

I think it’s okay / ish - but if your not one of the guys who simply bulk spam messages - then one of your strategies might be about noticing people noticing you before you message them ...

So not sure if all ladies who might like my profile ( even if it’s just to appreciate it ) realise that there is no way I will know you like or might be interested if you’re in stealth ALL the time !

So lack of feedback is possibly a downside to Stealth Mode ...

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yes

No

Yes sparke that profile pic makes me want too look at your's for a long time

You will go blind what away to go was that leather challenge ?"

It was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

No

Yes sparke that profile pic makes me want too look at your's for a long time

You will go blind what away to go was that leather challenge ?

It was "
fabbed like mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always use it. Im nosey, but dont need the recipients of my noseyness to be aware

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes, no and yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only turned it on recently mainly because after we looked at someone we got a message say hey seen ya looking there fancy a chat etc etc. If we want to chat well send a message."

But most don’t message first - even if they like the profile ?? They’re way too busy ( or too gorgeous to make the first move ??

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Do you use it

Do you think it's unfair

Do you know what it is?

Saira x"

Yes.

No can't see why it would be unfair

Yes I know what it is.It stops me getting messages just because I looked at a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's stealth mode?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been in stealth mode for about a month, it’s made fab much better.

Can have have a good old perv, without receiving dozens of messages asking to meet when i’m just window shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im always in stealth or id not be able to perv anyone without them messaging me to thank me for looking at their profile .

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Always.

Otherwise there'd be countless restraining orders against me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

No

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always use it, I'm mainly just nosey though. There are a few profiles I regularly look at so don't want to appear stalkierish. If I want them to know I've looked then I fab their pics.

Mrs x "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you use it

Do you think it's unfair

Do you know what it is?

Saira x"

What is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is fab - Hide!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In and Out if it all the time, so much so I wish it was a hot link on mobile home page - so I could toggle it quicker ...

Always Off - for Hot matches & hot profiles

Always On ( Stealth ) - for checking unsolicited non-matches or msgs etc.

I think it’s okay / ish - but if your not one of the guys who simply bulk spam messages - then one of your strategies might be about noticing people noticing you before you message them ...

So not sure if all ladies who might like my profile ( even if it’s just to appreciate it ) realise that there is no way I will know you like or might be interested if you’re in stealth ALL the time !

So lack of feedback is possibly a downside to Stealth Mode ...

"

Stealth mode is so I can check profiles without receiving messages saying hey you looked at me!

If I'm interested I'll message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love stealth mode! I wish I could use it for real life!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always in stealth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Stealth mode is great!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"In and Out if it all the time, so much so I wish it was a hot link on mobile home page - so I could toggle it quicker ...

Always Off - for Hot matches & hot profiles

Always On ( Stealth ) - for checking unsolicited non-matches or msgs etc.

I think it’s okay / ish - but if your not one of the guys who simply bulk spam messages - then one of your strategies might be about noticing people noticing you before you message them ...

So not sure if all ladies who might like my profile ( even if it’s just to appreciate it ) realise that there is no way I will know you like or might be interested if you’re in stealth ALL the time !

So lack of feedback is possibly a downside to Stealth Mode ...

"

You do realise that when you come out of stealth any profiles you have looked at recently will see you have looked too? So your "Always Off" candidates would see if you had looked at them when you flip to an "Always On" one - if they'd not had anyone else look at them since you did?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my default mode.

Yes it is fair for us to keep our views private. Because some might treat it as a green light for contact when it was just a simple curiosity peek. Well at least that is my take on it.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I’m going to come out of it now and see if it makes any difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has its perks i guess...

Would be great if fab did a (stealth over stealth) option for members who have been on here for a year or so.

Meaning you can see if someone has viewed youre profile whever they are in stealth mode or not.

Just a thought...

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"Do you use it

Do you think it's unfair

Do you know what it is?

Saira x"

Use it always and don’t think it’s unfair. It stops any unsolicited messages from viewed profiles that become aggressive thinking they’re entitled to a reply.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it, but im going to try without and see what comes of it.

Will report back soon if i havent been reported myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do realise that when you come out of stealth any profiles you have looked at recently will see you have looked too? So your "Always Off" candidates would see if you had looked at them when you flip to an "Always On" one - if they'd not had anyone else look at them since you did? "

I did think about that very recently - and therefore invented the rule - that once I go Stealth - then I stay stealth for rest of the day .... ( since “looked at you” usually resets after 24 hours / Midnight ) ... or at least until I have completed any reconnaissance required

Seems to work - haven’t been blocked in ages?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish there was a “looked at me” counter ( ie just the numbers ) which include all stealth & normal looks - just for general feedback ...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"You do realise that when you come out of stealth any profiles you have looked at recently will see you have looked too? So your "Always Off" candidates would see if you had looked at them when you flip to an "Always On" one - if they'd not had anyone else look at them since you did?

I did think about that very recently - and therefore invented the rule - that once I go Stealth - then I stay stealth for rest of the day .... ( since “looked at you” usually resets after 24 hours / Midnight ) ... or at least until I have completed any reconnaissance required

Seems to work - haven’t been blocked in ages?!?

"

The number counter may reset - but the list doesn't

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We always use it ..We like to perv in peace ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

What is this stealth mode you speak of?

Is it magic or the work of the devil??

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Always stealth perve. Otherwise some people would freak out on how often I um....admire their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

No

Yes

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I use it just makes life simpler

I turned it off yesterday, but found myself holding back from looking at profiles, I didn’t like it so back on it went. Now I can peruse freely

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I hope I'm permanently in stealth mode. I don't want anybody to know how frequently I look at their boobs, because in some cases it's a lot. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is this stealth mode you speak of?

Is it magic or the work of the devil??"

Stealth Mode

Desktop -- My Account -- Privacy -- Hide on looked at me

Mobile -- Account -- Privacy Settings -- Hide on looked at me

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yeah I do. Some women don’t really need to know how often I admire their pics

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Not unfair and i use it all the time. Like to perv in private.x

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Love it and use it all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always stealth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always in stealth because I am just bloody nosey and doesn't mean I fancy the person.

If you view mens profiles, 70-80% message assuming you were interested

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...


"Do you use it

Do you think it's unfair

Do you know what it is?

Saira x"

Yes/sometimes

Yes/probably

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seems like we mostly agree them

Stealth mode it is

Perve to your hearts content

Saira x

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By *killsMan
over a year ago

Never Never Land

I don’t use it. I find that when someone’s sees you have looked at them 9 out of 10 times they will look at you. Sometimes it’s the start of something, other times not. It’s nice to know someone is checking you out at the end of the day

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I use it. I turn it off from time to time if there's something interactive the lounge, though mostly I forget it's on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always. Saves unwanted attention: "but you looked at me, you MUST want to shag me"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont use it, if I view a profile I dont mind that they know I looked...intact a probably prefer it. Saying that, I can see how it would be a useful thing for women as it might actually double their already massive message count.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly always use it..

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