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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

How do you manage it?

Like I sit down prob once a fortnight and look at the messages. I’m here for the forums and event adverts really. I’m too busy with work/uni/kids to ‘chat’.

Do you Look at it all the time? Do you delete a message once it’s read?

I get called ignorant a lot but it’s not that I haven’t replied.. I just won’t have read their message.

I ought to hide my profile or something really but I do like to hear from friends if they are arranging anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooooo takes me all of about 3 seconds to open it and close it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only get one message every 2 weeks

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south

There's an inbox here? I've never noticed it.... must be because its always empty!

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm rubbish, promise myself to stay on top of it but never do.

I'm a poor fabber

Jo x

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By *attooBBWWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I like to think I keep on top of messages, but in reality, my inbox is a mess. I reply to people I like immediately, delete those that are rude or mingin straight away and occasionally have a few ‘unsure’ ones that tend to linger in my inbox. These are the ones causing the problem

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I tend to deal with messages as and when they come in and either reply or not dependent on the content - some I will delete straight away others will sit there until I have a clear out

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

I check mine every time I log on, but I like chatting with my friends on here on a daily basis

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

The message filters do a grand job of ensuring I don't get 200 mails per day. That and my biological lack of bosoms...

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'll go through them if I have time, did a bulk delete the other day as I hadn't read any for weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm in the mood - I'll look at the messages right away. If not - will leave them for later (could be a few days). Far too many message trying to catch you online and then every time you log in. Helps to filter those impatient, pushy ones.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

An inbox? What's that?

A question many a man asks around here

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My filters have been on full for ages. It's fantastic.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"An inbox? What's that?

A question many a man asks around here "

As if. I bet yours is fuller than a greedy kids pick and mix.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"An inbox? What's that?

A question many a man asks around here

As if. I bet yours is fuller than a greedy kids pick and mix. "

Wrong! Most of the time it's more barren than the Sahara. Single guy remember?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes if a message catches my eye, i'll read it.

most of the time i don't keep on top of it, and end up bulk deleting quite often.

like you OP, im called all the names under the sun for not reading/responding to a message (regardless of the reason/s why!)

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I click in it sometimes just so it doesn't feel lonely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I deal with mine straight away during waking hours. I guess that is because I am used to being all over the other inboxes in my life.

I reply even with a no thanks unless it is vile and then I delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of mine are black silhouettes so I mostly delete without opening them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's manages itself. No woman no cry.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric bikes

Unfortunate I don’t have that luck. I have a lot of unread messages or is that maybe I’m a guy on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t looked at it for a few days.

Apologies to those that have messaged but I just can’t be arsed.

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By *illowzWoman
over a year ago

Exeter


"I like to think I keep on top of messages, but in reality, my inbox is a mess. I reply to people I like immediately, delete those that are rude or mingin straight away and occasionally have a few ‘unsure’ ones that tend to linger in my inbox. These are the ones causing the problem "

I do this, seems to mostly work out OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I keep on top of messages, but in reality, my inbox is a mess. I reply to people I like immediately, delete those that are rude or mingin straight away and occasionally have a few ‘unsure’ ones that tend to linger in my inbox. These are the ones causing the problem

I do this, seems to mostly work out OK. "

Third this... on the odd occasion it gets overloaded I just take a nap with my phone screen open, then pooof a lot of it disappears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I employ a secretary to take care of my inbox...

She's on a zero hours contract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read all messages pretty much as soon as they drop in, then I respond if we are chatting or its from a friend and ignore if we're not..

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Abingdon

We only get about 8-10 new messages a week so easy to keep on top off especially as there are two of us. We try to reply to all even if it’s a no thank you and delete. However we have been known to just delete a hello message if we check the profile and there not much there.

Lily

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By *moothgentlemanMan
over a year ago

Wales

I reply ASAP usually and if I can’t send a well articulated message, I’ll let them know I will reply in due course and state I’m currently busy, as manners cost nothing.

Although, yesterday I had 148 and it took me hours to go through them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes me about a second to manage it, open and close it lol.

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By *ewsub4dommeMan
over a year ago

thirsk

I don't get that many messages tbh so I reply to most apart from ones that just continually, i just delete them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been single man it's rather easy

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We don't get that many messages so it does make it easy. When we log on we quickly reply to those we like and delete any that we don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two unread messages but I've had so many this week that I can't be arsed to go hunt for them, I feel a bit bad I'm not usually like that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of messages I get, I may as well look at xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look but I am more of a forum poster than inboxer. I read when I feel like I have energy to reply "properly" mostly. Sometimes I tackle it in instalments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look but I am more of a forum poster than inboxer. I read when I feel like I have energy to reply "properly" mostly. Sometimes I tackle it in instalments. "
check it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore it until it goes yellow....

Then I panic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My PA deals with mine, I'm just here to shit post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish, promise myself to stay on top of it but never do.

I'm a poor fabber

Jo x "

It's impossible to stay on top of it or ever get through it... my unread mail is automatically deleted by site system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody messages me, too scary apparently

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Nobody messages me, too scary apparently "

Nah. You're a pussycat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody messages me, too scary apparently

Nah. You're a pussycat. "

Welcome back

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I'm ocd. I hate having anything in my inbox. So I chat only to people I'm interested in. The rest I either delete or block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody messages me, too scary apparently

Nah. You're a pussycat. "

Oh CG, you charmer

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Nobody messages me, too scary apparently

Nah. You're a pussycat.

Welcome back "

Thank you.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Nobody messages me, too scary apparently

Nah. You're a pussycat.

Oh CG, you charmer "

I know. I bet you've missed my charm and wit.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We just about keep on top of it but there are two of us which helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tidy mine up whilst flicking through forums. But I use delete button a lot more now a days!!!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I tidy mine up whilst flicking through forums. But I use delete button a lot more now a days!!! "

Learning

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We don't get mail from single men, so ours is very manageable.. Don't know how many we'd get otherwise..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get one message every week and its normally telling me im not their type or something along them lines so my inbox is good haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tidy mine up whilst flicking through forums. But I use delete button a lot more now a days!!!

Learning "

I still kind of class myself as a newby but been on here 6 months now and that nice, kind, message everyone back Kat has almost disappeared xx

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I tidy mine up whilst flicking through forums. But I use delete button a lot more now a days!!!

Learning

I still kind of class myself as a newby but been on here 6 months now and that nice, kind, message everyone back Kat has almost disappeared xx"

That's simultaneously good and bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tidy mine up whilst flicking through forums. But I use delete button a lot more now a days!!!

Learning

I still kind of class myself as a newby but been on here 6 months now and that nice, kind, message everyone back Kat has almost disappeared xx

That's simultaneously good and bad."

Sounds like me half devil half angel

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I tidy mine up whilst flicking through forums. But I use delete button a lot more now a days!!!

Learning

I still kind of class myself as a newby but been on here 6 months now and that nice, kind, message everyone back Kat has almost disappeared xx

That's simultaneously good and bad.

Sounds like me half devil half angel "

That's putting an entertaining spin on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seriously don't get any, besides some from forum users about some threads, I don't get any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really got a message that was more than ‘hi how’s you’ so I just put my filters on. I only get messages from people that are friends and it’s so much more fun that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is easy to manage I get about 1 message a month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is easy to manage I get about 1 message a month "

I'll send you one no worries mate

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

Takes me longer to check which of the messages I've sent have been ignored or deleted than it does to check my inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never really got a message that was more than ‘hi how’s you’ so I just put my filters on. I only get messages from people that are friends and it’s so much more fun that way "

It must be difficult being delicious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines so dry I have to water it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never really got a message that was more than ‘hi how’s you’ so I just put my filters on. I only get messages from people that are friends and it’s so much more fun that way

It must be difficult being delicious "

stop it. You flatter me!

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just like the local coop - one in one out

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Wait till I can't take anymore then delete the lot in one go

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By *ntheshadows1975Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

Very easily... i don't get any

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