FabSwingers.com forum: Ooooh one of those messages...

By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

That really makes you upset!

The crude horrible ones I can shrug off, the rude FAF ones don't get opened.

But when someone tells you you are vain, conceited and arrogant it kind of hurts.

But it shouldn't as I've never spoken to them.

But it's really clouded my otherwise lovely day.

Not a rant.

Just a share

Know I'm not the only one but just made me feel really meh today.

Hope everyone else is having a good day

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are poopooheads Jo. I have run into a few this week.

They should poopoohead off elsewhere.

We will ignore them together xx

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"People are poopooheads Jo. I have run into a few this week.

They should poopoohead off elsewhere.

We will ignore them together xx"

Good term

Very restrained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are poopooheads Jo. I have run into a few this week.

They should poopoohead off elsewhere.

We will ignore them together xx

Good term

Very restrained

Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was a thoroughly polite response i feel. Well done that lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit other than that there are some dickheads out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shall be using the term poopoohead from now on

I know it's hard to just ignore a message like that but god bless the block button. People like that aren't worth your time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit other than that there are some dickheads out there. "

Are there?

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I shall be using the term poopoohead from now on

I know it's hard to just ignore a message like that but god bless the block button. People like that aren't worth your time x"

He blocked us first.

You have to laugh really.

Shouldn't let it get under my skin I know

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit other than that there are some dickheads out there.

Are there?

Believe you've called me it before

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I fail to understand why a comment from a complete stranger on the internet would affect people so, especially if it's one and not a torrent of several all saying the same thing.

If you know it's not true Op then it should be water off a duck's back. If you care nothing for the person in question it should mean f#&@ all to you.

He's just jealous he can't have a piece of your awesomeness

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By *91kMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"People are poopooheads Jo. I have run into a few this week.

They should poopoohead off elsewhere.

We will ignore them together xx"

Poopoohead

brilliant!

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"People are poopooheads Jo. I have run into a few this week.

They should poopoohead off elsewhere.

We will ignore them together xx"

Lois, I like the term poopoohead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I shall be using the term poopoohead from now on

I know it's hard to just ignore a message like that but god bless the block button. People like that aren't worth your time x

He blocked us first.

You have to laugh really.

Shouldn't let it get under my skin I know

Jo x"

Don't you hate it when they block you first. The poopooheads.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Ah Jo

Some people just have the need to hurt others, have a hug instead of thinking about it xxx

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I fail to understand why a comment from a complete stranger on the internet would affect people so, especially if it's one and not a torrent of several all saying the same thing.

If you know it's not true Op then it should be water off a duck's back. If you care nothing for the person in question it should mean f#&@ all to you.

He's just jealous he can't have a piece of your awesomeness

Maybe it affects you more if you are feeling a little low or less confident than usual, that's all I can think.

Thanks though

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Ah Jo

Some people just have the need to hurt others, have a hug instead of thinking about it xxx"

Makes you question other stuff though, grrrrr, annoyed I'm even overthinking this!!

But hug gratefully accepted xx

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Seems to be the week for it.

Chin up, boobs out and stomp their virtual balls on the way to the next good thing.

The poopooheads xx

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

"That really makes you upset!

The crude horrible ones I can shrug off, the rude FAF ones don't get opened.

But when someone tells you you are vain, conceited and arrogant it kind of hurts.

But it shouldn't as I've never spoken to them.

But it's really clouded my otherwise lovely day.

Not a rant.

Just a share

Know I'm not the only one but just made me feel really meh today.

Hope everyone else is having a good day

Jo x

Jo,

keep it real, for that 1 rude, obnoxious message, you have 100’s of messages that all want to worship and admire you. It’s his loss not yours. Don’t let messages like that get you down, they’re not worth it xxx

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"That really makes you upset!

The crude horrible ones I can shrug off, the rude FAF ones don't get opened.

But when someone tells you you are vain, conceited and arrogant it kind of hurts.

But it shouldn't as I've never spoken to them.

But it's really clouded my otherwise lovely day.

Not a rant.

Just a share

Know I'm not the only one but just made me feel really meh today.

Hope everyone else is having a good day

Jo x

Jo,

Thanks Peach, maybe not hundreds but hey.

Thanks x

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By *attooBBWWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I‘ve been talked to like a cheap prostitute on here so many times, I shrug those ones off.

The ones that upset me are the guys who are obviously very bitter and inexperienced with women in real life, ur they know how to really make a nasty dig. The ones that call me ugly and tell me nobody will want me, they eat away at me cos I always have a little voice in my head telling me that’s the case anyway. I was also called a racist cum bucket along with other niceities, by a guy becaus I politely said he wasn’t my type (tall, tattooed). So, he got reported.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Big hugs OP. Sometimes they accidentally get your weak spot, huh?

The strangers, they're just lashing out. It's them, not you.

I get why it can hurt sometimes though, I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve received them

I thank them for their input and wish them a good day - always with ‘kind regards’

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Big hugs OP. Sometimes they accidentally get your weak spot, huh?

The strangers, they're just lashing out. It's them, not you.

I get why it can hurt sometimes though, I do."

Thank you Swing, feeling better now!

I'm glad I posted, you ladies have made me feel better

Big hugs to all of you

And you lovely guys of course

Jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sorry this happened to you, and put a dampener on your day

people can be absolutely vile, especially on a site like this where they have a keyboard to protect them.

please know you aren't alone.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I got called a stuck up arrogant bitch the other day

I was gutted because he blocked me before I could thank him for being so observant

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Big hugs OP. Sometimes they accidentally get your weak spot, huh?

The strangers, they're just lashing out. It's them, not you.

I get why it can hurt sometimes though, I do.

Thank you Swing, feeling better now!

I'm glad I posted, you ladies have made me feel better

Big hugs to all of you

And you lovely guys of course

Jo xx"

Good. Anytime x

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I got called a stuck up arrogant bitch the other day

I was gutted because he blocked me before I could thank him for being so observant

That made me LOL,

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I got called a stuck up arrogant bitch the other day

I was gutted because he blocked me before I could thank him for being so observant

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"im sorry this happened to you, and put a dampener on your day

people can be absolutely vile, especially on a site like this where they have a keyboard to protect them.

please know you aren't alone.

Thank you

Appreciate the reply

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I’ve received them

I thank them for their input and wish them a good day - always with ‘kind regards’

Yes, as much as you feel it I believe it gets one over more if you are polite back.

I told him he was simply charming and wished him a good day

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, definitely not alone. And your feelings are valid X That's what I need to hear when things like this happen to me, anyway

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

It’s not nice being insulted especially by someone you’ve not even met. Don’t let them spoil your day just rise above it and be happy.

We think your profile is amazing, we almost wish we still lived in Wales

M&J xx

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Yeah, definitely not alone. And your feelings are valid X That's what I need to hear when things like this happen to me, anyway"

Yes, the Mr didn't get it, and I could hardly mention to anyone else

glad I posted now. You have a made me feel so much better and normal again!

Big thanks xx

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It’s not nice being insulted especially by someone you’ve not even met. Don’t let them spoil your day just rise above it and be happy.

We think your profile is amazing, we almost wish we still lived in Wales

M&J xx"

Thank you! You have some great pictures yourselves!

You wouldn't want to be here today, its blowing a bloody gale!

Jo xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yeah, definitely not alone. And your feelings are valid X That's what I need to hear when things like this happen to me, anyway

Yes, the Mr didn't get it, and I could hardly mention to anyone else

glad I posted now. You have a made me feel so much better and normal again!

Big thanks xx"

I think our experience online can be gendered in subtle ways. It's wrong, but it is.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Unfortunately that’s the balance you was going to get good ones and bad ones

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It’s an anonymous person Jo sending out negative vibes to make their day better.... don’t give them the satisfaction of it spoiling yours.

Chin up... smile..... think of something more uplifting! Said person certainly couldn’t enjoy all the hugs sent in these messages xx

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It’s an anonymous person Jo sending out negative vibes to make their day better.... don’t give them the satisfaction of it spoiling yours.

Chin up... smile..... think of something more uplifting! Said person certainly couldn’t enjoy all the hugs sent in these messages xx"

Thank you for your reply DC

Yes, I feel hugely better now.

A little positivity goes a very long way

Thank you and everyone who took time to comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really sure why someone would randomly do that, unless they were angry at being rejected (still not a reason).

I guess for some folk, they stoop to such acts to get a response.

Having spoken to you in person, you never struck me as any of those...far from it. And if you were, its quite possible it wouldn't have bothered you.

Mind boggles with a lot of behaviour!

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

It can be hard to ignore sometimes.

I find I am more sensitive some days than others depending on my mood.

If someone I don't know or have never spoken to decides to insult me I normally just block and forget but on occasion it does upset me.

I don't understand what they get out of it especially when they insult and then block you so you can't even reply.

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

" Not really sure why someone would randomly do that, unless they were angry at being rejected (still not a reason).

I guess for some folk, they stoop to such acts to get a response.

Having spoken to you in person, you never struck me as any of those...far from it. And if you were, its quite possible it wouldn't have bothered you.

Mind boggles with a lot of behaviour!"

He had sent two messages recently, admittedly I hadn't read, we had never had any dialogue but then I hadn't read any others from other people either, not sure why it hit a nerve. But I don't think I am any of those things he said. I think I'm more annoyed I let it annoy me to be honest.

Thanks for the reply

Jo xx

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It can be hard to ignore sometimes.

I find I am more sensitive some days than others depending on my mood.

If someone I don't know or have never spoken to decides to insult me I normally just block and forget but on occasion it does upset me.

I don't understand what they get out of it especially when they insult and then block you so you can't even reply. "

Exactly, its almost an involuntary reaction isn't it.

Anyway, I feel heaps better now.

Thanks for reply xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a bit of a crap situation today.

Been chatting away with someone and been getting on great. Even agreed to a social meet once lock down allows.

Then with no warning or a cross word, she blocked me.

But that's the Fab life I guess.

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I had a bit of a crap situation today.

Been chatting away with someone and been getting on great. Even agreed to a social meet once lock down allows.

Then with no warning or a cross word, she blocked me.

But that's the Fab life I guess."

It's odd isn't it, hate it when it just runs cold and you are left questioning why. Big hugs

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would only upset me if it was from someone I knew, not some keyboard warrior who i obviously gets their kicks from sending such messages...

I hope you reported them op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people can't get under your bed sheets then they will try to get under your skin - Supersonic Sam 2020.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very rare that a message upsets me all though some do make me feel annoyed.

It's more forum posts where people go out of their way to belittle or dismis.

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It's very rare that a message upsets me all though some do make me feel annoyed.

It's more forum posts where people go out of their way to belittle or dismis."

Think it was because I was having a confidence wobble anyway tbh. He just found a little chink and got through.

All sorted now.

But agreed, direct snipes and comments are far worse

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By *llaboutthewife OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"If people can't get under your bed sheets then they will try to get under your skin - Supersonic Sam 2020."

Good analogy Sam, but even better bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's very rare that a message upsets me all though some do make me feel annoyed.

It's more forum posts where people go out of their way to belittle or dismis.

Think it was because I was having a confidence wobble anyway tbh. He just found a little chink and got through.

All sorted now.

But agreed, direct snipes and comments are far worse

Xx"

I often think it depends what mood wearing as to how we react and feel.

Yes sometimes it's just a constant drip drip drip. X

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