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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex

My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)

It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.

Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.

I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.

It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.

Sending fab hugs and I need them today too

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

How to like myself again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like men commenting on Mrs ass pics - turn on

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS trust your gut.

If he's your dream man..... he's probably already someone else's dream man and husband even though it states single on their profile

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By *voryforebonyMan
over a year ago

boogie town


"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)

It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.

Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.

I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.

It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.

Sending fab hugs and I need them today too "

That I'm uglier than an ugly person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Resilience, tolerance and respect & love for all people, even the ones I don't particularly agree with. I'm alright at sex stuff now too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today I've learned what ghosting is.

Honestly never heard of it before but can appreciate the anguish it would cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That it’s ok to switch off and that you don’t need to explain yourself unless they mean something to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To beware of the keyboard warriors and the ones who take it too seriously...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I hope you're feeling better soon OP and hope you managed to save your stuff. You're needed back at the office....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not normal

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West

This place can teach you many things. Behaviour is the no.1 thing ive noticed more.

People can and will get attached to you. As long as you set bounderies what you want and looking for, no one gets hurt.

Yet again the messages women get from here off men are truly disgusting..paints the guys who are actually decent with the same brush..

Respect goes out the window for many here, but being behind a keyboard with fake profiles ect for many are a big thing..pretending..

Keep your chin up OP..(Big virtual bear hug) always be yourself xx

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

1. Many people are full of shit

2. Trust your instincts

3. The 7 P's apply to swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you OP. I got ghosted completely by a guy I was meeting. We always had a good time together and could talk for hours and hours. He dropped off the face of the earth without telling me what went wrong, we were chatting everyday with the view to see each other again after lockdown

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Trust your gut

Be yourself

Know your strength and your worth

Deep and powerful friendships can be forged from the most unexpected places

Be compassionate, but also be ruthlessly defensive when necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that no one really gives a shit

life is to short-get on with it an enjoy

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

I've learned most people lose interest rapidly when you don't want penetrative sex.

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish

More than anything, I've learned patience! If it's worth doing, it's worth waiting, and doing well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to get my hopes up lol

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By *rre786Man
over a year ago

Reading

That, while undoubtedly there are some dubious people out there, there are also some wonderful ones. And it's worth trying to maintain the balance of caution for the first and openness to the latter.

Sorry you having a rough day OP, sending virtual hug. {hug}

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

Ive taught "fab"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that the biggest fab curse is the distance and that all the men on here are serious competition!

Hope you're well gobby?! Chin up and know that I'd never ghost ya!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naff all...

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Sending hugs and will gladly take one back.

It's taught me not everything us as it seems or as you would hope.

But on a more positive note it's helped me accept my body as it is scars and all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^^^ what Mr Bants said really

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"I agree with you OP. I got ghosted completely by a guy I was meeting. We always had a good time together and could talk for hours and hours. He dropped off the face of the earth without telling me what went wrong, we were chatting everyday with the view to see each other again after lockdown "
that's shite , goes to say u will never truly know someone, the only person u ever truly know is yourself , I always say trust your gut instinct

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By *voryforebonyMan
over a year ago

boogie town


"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)

It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.

Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.

I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.

It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.

Sending fab hugs and I need them today too "

That some people like bareback and some people don't and you'll never convince anyone to change their mind.

That guys get so hung up about whether having their ass touched makes them 1. Slightly bisexual 2. 100% bisexual 3. Ever so slightly gay 4. 100% gay 5. Just a normal bloke that enjoys the touch of another human being.

That having 65 different photos of your own cock on your profile just means you are a cock (especially when 53 of the photos are next to 1. The sky remote 2. A very cheap can't of lager

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

That a lot of people wear masks.

But also that there are wonderful people to be found in the most unlikely of places.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

That our age can be a bonus and not put people off as i imagined ,but again guys think because we are older we will be more desperate and grateful think skin has been grown ..

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By *voryforebonyMan
over a year ago

boogie town

*can of lager

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Taught me alot about human behaviour, my own personal kinks and enjoying chatting about taboo subjects

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Even when we all share healthy interest in sex but many are judgemental and too quick to judge on the things you said or haven't said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Taught me alot about human behaviour, my own personal kinks and enjoying chatting about taboo subjects"

Oh, I forgot. It taught me I don't want my arse shagging by a lovely but crazy lady with a pegging fetish....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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That our age can be a bonus and not put people off as i imagined ,but again guys think because we are older we will be more desperate and grateful think skin has been grown .."

Mad isn't it why people take on those assumptions I get because I am older I must want a young stud and don't know what I am missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That im not the only mad one on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people are up their own arses on here.

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By *91kMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Agree with what most are saying. Ghosting is highly popular on here as are attitudes!

But on the plus side... There are some really nice people too. Tbh I use this more for social engagement than sexual stuff now

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

That getting laid is hard. Well I kind of knew that already but fab has compounded it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That im not the only mad one on here "

This is just one big mental asylum at times!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of horny fuckers around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That getting laid is hard. Well I kind of knew that already but fab has compounded it. "

Again....only because of distance!

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

It’s taught me how big my ego was.. so it’s helped me bury my ego and give me a clear mind to want to experience real pleasures of intimacy and sex

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's also taught me just how much I have going for me. There's a lot of background noise I ignore and some incredible people who have helped me on my journey of self discovery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That if you shave your head, men will either find you insanely sexy, or insanely ugly.

There’s no in between.

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

sale

Have had amazing experiences via this site but sometimes you have to wade through a lot of ego, dishonesty and conceit. Never get hung up on poor behaviour or arrogance. One man said my 8" wasn't big enough for his wife. Good for them. Everyone has an ideal. Basic decency usually wins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That saying yes leads to some pretty good things

Aside from that, nothing I didn't already know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like men commenting on Mrs ass pics - turn on"
. nice Ass hun

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Just to be myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned through attending big socials that I can do socialising without anxiety. I've learned through attending swingers clubs that I can wear next to nothing in front of strangers without much anxiety. I've also learned that I can have sex.

None of these would have happened without fab.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I've learned through attending big socials that I can do socialising without anxiety. I've learned through attending swingers clubs that I can wear next to nothing in front of strangers without much anxiety. I've also learned that I can have sex.

None of these would have happened without fab. "

It's been great for my anxiety

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside


"That if you shave your head, men will either find you insanely sexy, or insanely ugly.

There’s no in between. "

I've got to agree with that tho it's been a long time since. I was so tempted during lockdown but like changing my hair colour too much to loose that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a gentleman, to be honest, I'd rather not say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that the real world is way more satisfying than the cyber world

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

That there's a lot of fun to be had, but thick skin is needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Gobbychick.. sorry to hear about your low mood and hope it isnt fab related.

I need to think more carefully about the answer but it taught me it's ok to feel spontaneous and act as such sometimes..

That it's hard to see through virtual fog of pretending.. so trust should be given sporadically and what people dont know they cannot ruin.

If I think of something else I will add it.

Look after yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly have a big hug from me Gobby, as lord knows after the week I had up until Tuesday, I know how much we all need them at the moment.

Fab has taught me that like in all walks of life you will come across the following

1) people who shine bright who really are beautiful inside.

2) people who have a brilliant window display but when you open the door and enter the shop the lights are set to low ( and I mean that in terms of their mannerisms not to coin the phrase the lights are on but nobody's home)

3) some people are just out to be as mean and horrid as they can.

I think it is extra hard at the moment because of the pressures that people are experiencing that they might never have encountered before.

However, it is not an excuse for poor behaviour that when they reflect upon it they know is wrong.

Finally I guess after 5 years I must figure the place is ok.

So have another big hug again.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve learned that some people are really nice

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I've learnt more than one thing from being on fab, the one that will surprise most has to be , although I'm a male my appendage doesn't do my thinking for me.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Fab’s proven that distance is a bitch but with patience the payoffs are very satisfying.

I’m more confident in bed, I feel sexy again and that it’s ok to explore your sexual desires. ( I’ve added a couple of things to my sex bucket list)

I’ve also got a great group of friends that support each other thru good and bad times that I wouldn’t have met if Fab hadn’t brought us together.

It’s also taught me to trust my gut.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

That some people are users...treat you like a toy then find something better...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taught me to not taking it seriously

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Trust your instincts.

Remember not everyone will like you, just as you won't like all of them.

Don't rush into things.

Don't let anyone tell you what you're worth.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who I thought wouldn't have the time of day for me on here have proved me wrong and been lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)

It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.

Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.

I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.

It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.

Sending fab hugs and I need them today too "

Sending you lots of love gorgeous girl, please look after yourself

Fab has taught me that there are some lovely people around, and through Fab I have met and mafe friends with some amazing people who I would never of met otherwise

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By *quirt1810Woman
over a year ago

Temple Bar

That I love sex, and that’s ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some sexy stuff and that I can't seem to click with anyone

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

That’s ok to be attracted to multiple ladies and not be guilty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab has taught me that there is a few diamonds in the rough

But it's also taught me that I'm nothing special and to be honest it's confirmed my low self worth

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"How to like myself again"

Plus sex is something i enjoy now at last ... happy asf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS trust your gut.

If he's your dream man..... he's probably already someone else's dream man and husband even though it states single on their profile "

I couldn't agree more with this ^ lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be me.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)

It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.

Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.

I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.

It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.

Sending fab hugs and I need them today too

Sending you lots of love gorgeous girl, please look after yourself

Fab has taught me that there are some lovely people around, and through Fab I have met and mafe friends with some amazing people who I would never of met otherwise "

You’re a wonderful person and I consider myself lucky to have met you.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

To stay positive and have a laugh along the way

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside


"People who I thought wouldn't have the time of day for me on here have proved me wrong and been lovely x "

So are you.

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby

That I’m a bit of a gay icon

And that FAB’s a welcome distraction in these times

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I've learned that when people post on the 'what would you like to do the the person above' threads they're lying to me. In fact, most just lie, period. But it's OK. It's just Internet.

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By *iggydog78Man
over a year ago

London

Hi _obbychick I'm Archie,

I've found fab puts everyone on a level playing field and seems to concentrate on the mind more than charm or look..

And to be honest has made me think in a different way and not rely on what I have done but try and improve on the aspects I dont use so much...

Bond... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who I thought wouldn't have the time of day for me on here have proved me wrong and been lovely x

So are you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the key

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I have learned that you look damn fine in a towel, Gobby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a low mood day hey. Hope all is cool. Fab has taught me not to judge others. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Some people’s first response is to unleash the dogs.. what does that say about them?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That a lot of people wear masks.

But also that there are wonderful people to be found in the most unlikely of places. "

This is my fav answer so far!

Still scrolling though

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't believe it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x"

Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x

Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying. "

Not love. I used to trust what people said was what they meant. Some have ulterior motives. I'm quite a direct person so assumed others were like that too. But, there are some absolute diamonds on here amongst the coal. I've made some lifelong friends from this site x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust no one

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

To believe nothing and question everything

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Reading this thread has been a bit surprising actually. A fair number have posted very candidly about how Fab has brought about some less positive lessons, more than I expected. Glancing roughly, maybe half or a shade under? Well good to know its not just me!

So what is it which makes us persist? Is it the hope of finding something positive at the end of it all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To believe nothing and question everything "

Nothing about checking you didn’t forget your undies before heading out? Gorgeous coat!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

That it's wise to take appropriate care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x

Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying.

Not love. I used to trust what people said was what they meant. Some have ulterior motives. I'm quite a direct person so assumed others were like that too. But, there are some absolute diamonds on here amongst the coal. I've made some lifelong friends from this site x"

Ah your must know spurs then

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"To believe nothing and question everything

Nothing about checking you didn’t forget your undies before heading out? Gorgeous coat!"

I thought I could feel a breeze

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside


"To believe nothing and question everything "

Still working on that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust your gut

Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers

Men can't handle rejection

Most people are just acquaintances

Life is too short to be nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust your gut

Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers

Men can't handle rejection

Most people are just acquaintances

Life is too short to be nasty "

Problem is I tell the truth and it still gets us nowhere. I envy those who can lie.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x

Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying.

Not love. I used to trust what people said was what they meant. Some have ulterior motives. I'm quite a direct person so assumed others were like that too. But, there are some absolute diamonds on here amongst the coal. I've made some lifelong friends from this site x"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Trust your gut

Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers

Men can't handle rejection

Most people are just acquaintances

Life is too short to be nasty "

It’s nice to be nice methinks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That people really can be awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy"

Yep pretty much fella

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

That I'm even less desirable than I'd feared!


"So what is it which makes us persist?"

Personally speaking, my desire for sex with attractive people. When it does happen, it's worth the absolute beating one's self-esteem takes in the pursuit of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy"

You missed that people (mainly males) judge and learn about profiles from pictures only. Writing a profile is meaningless to 90% of them as its rarely read and if it is read they believe they can change your desires and wants..

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Trust your gut

Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers

Men can't handle rejection

Most people are just acquaintances

Life is too short to be nasty

Problem is I tell the truth and it still gets us nowhere. I envy those who can lie. "

St least, you have a clear conscience and not spread bad karma through your lies. You will soon be rewarded greatly for that as you in turn attract the right person. I pray it will

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy

You missed that people (mainly males) judge and learn about profiles from pictures only. Writing a profile is meaningless to 90% of them as its rarely read and if it is read they believe they can change your desires and wants.."

I must add I still got messages when I had no photos. The fact I was just online gave them excuse to ask for sex. Possibly just picking first 5 people in their area.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

Nothing that I didn't already know. People come in all different shapes, sizes and a vast range of varying behavioral traits. Some good some not so. It's life

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By *unseeker100Man
over a year ago

batley

Never have any expectations cause if you do and whatever they may be this place will shatter them for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people just as interested in nsa sex as I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never judge a book by its cover

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

You can't please all the people all the time.

Don't even try...just do you.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Have a thick skin... dont waste time on people who show no interest...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the cliche and innuendo is seriously overused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a rollercoaster, and you're not the centre of the world despite you thinking you are whilst logged on.

Not responding, logging off and avoiding trolling will greatly enhance your enjoyment.

Theres some amazingly interesting and positive people amongst the non compatibles!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

That people on here will show me parts of their personality that they want me to see, not necessarily parts that I want to see

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just to be yourself, don’t play up for the crowd. Also, step away when it all gets a bit meh, it’ll still be here if you want it.

Sending (polar)bear hugs OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn’t taught us anything really, just backed up the fact that life has its fair share of dicks, even more so on social media.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

From these sites in general I've learnt.

* how to handle rejection

* patience wins the day

* just be yourself, be nice and you'll get there.

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex

It’s been so lovely reading what you all have learnt from the site.

I definitely have learnt to accept me more for myself and it’s either something that someone likes or isn’t fond of.

Like most of you have said. It’s taking care of one self and the rest just follows

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Sending hugs and will gladly take one back.

It's taught me not everything us as it seems or as you would hope.

But on a more positive note it's helped me accept my body as it is scars and all. "

Big hugs to you hun

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Just to be yourself, don’t play up for the crowd. Also, step away when it all gets a bit meh, it’ll still be here if you want it.

Sending (polar)bear hugs OP "

Awww I like fluffy polar hugs. Thank you hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That some people just aren’t what they seem

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Reading this thread has been a bit surprising actually. A fair number have posted very candidly about how Fab has brought about some less positive lessons, more than I expected. Glancing roughly, maybe half or a shade under? Well good to know its not just me!

So what is it which makes us persist? Is it the hope of finding something positive at the end of it all? "

Even if there’s less positive lessons I believe that you should always stay hopeful.

There is a lot more good on this site than bad.

Patience really does pay off in my eyes

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"I have learned that you look damn fine in a towel, Gobby. "

Now that’s just made me smile. Thank you very much you sexy pair x

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

That I am very good with both hands

Jo x

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"I am not normal"

Good!

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)

It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.

Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.

I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.

It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.

Sending fab hugs and I need them today too

Sending you lots of love gorgeous girl, please look after yourself

Fab has taught me that there are some lovely people around, and through Fab I have met and mafe friends with some amazing people who I would never of met otherwise "

Awww thank you my beautiful lady

I definitely agree with you and have come across some lovelies who have made this experience such a positive one.

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"This place can teach you many things. Behaviour is the no.1 thing ive noticed more.

People can and will get attached to you. As long as you set bounderies what you want and looking for, no one gets hurt.

Yet again the messages women get from here off men are truly disgusting..paints the guys who are actually decent with the same brush..

Respect goes out the window for many here, but being behind a keyboard with fake profiles ect for many are a big thing..pretending..

Keep your chin up OP..(Big virtual bear hug) always be yourself xx"

Awww that’s lovely. Big hugs back to you

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Taught me confidence to say no. That's it's not going to be the end of the world if I do, which is liberating

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm going to focus on the positives because the weather is rather dreary and it'll cheer me up.

I can love and am deserving of love.

Opening up can make you vulnerable but the connections I make make my life far richer for it.

I'm poly, not just ethically non-monogamous.

Friendships, the real friendships where you can be who you are, where they are there for you as much as you are for them and you can laugh and cry together are truly incredible and should be cherished for what they are.

There are some wonderful people in all walks of life, if you take the time to truly listen to them and let them be themselves.

I really love Playful Promises.

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Firstly have a big hug from me Gobby, as lord knows after the week I had up until Tuesday, I know how much we all need them at the moment.

Fab has taught me that like in all walks of life you will come across the following

1) people who shine bright who really are beautiful inside.

2) people who have a brilliant window display but when you open the door and enter the shop the lights are set to low ( and I mean that in terms of their mannerisms not to coin the phrase the lights are on but nobody's home)

3) some people are just out to be as mean and horrid as they can.

I think it is extra hard at the moment because of the pressures that people are experiencing that they might never have encountered before.

However, it is not an excuse for poor behaviour that when they reflect upon it they know is wrong.

Finally I guess after 5 years I must figure the place is ok.

So have another big hug again.

"

Aww even bigger hugs for you Lois, you’ve been the reason for a lot of smiles on fab recently and you are always trying to make others feel the warmth with doing lovely threads.

I think it’s due to people like you who have so much going on in life yet still have the strength to make others happy or feel good about themselves.

Lots and lots of hugs for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs chick x

I've learned good and bad from this site in all the years i've been on and off it. Learned to spot a keyboard bully from a mile off..... but I have also gained 2 lovely good best friends from here, in real life.

Hope you have an awesome friday xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's taught me the there's been a sharp rise and narcissistic behaviour in society.

And often feels like the worst thing a person can be is a middle-aged man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taught me a few things, how to wear a thicker skin, and not take myself to serious, i also thought i was quite experienced in sex and all that goes with it, but i certainly have learnt new things here, none i have tried, but certainly hope to before i pop my clogs,

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Taught me alot about human behaviour, my own personal kinks and enjoying chatting about taboo subjects

Oh, I forgot. It taught me I don't want my arse shagging by a lovely but crazy lady with a pegging fetish...."

That sounds like a painful lesson!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be thick skinned and not let others get to me when they feel they are entitled to be spiteful

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

That way too men have completely the wrong idea of how the site works. An expectancy that women on here sit around all day in their stockings and heels just waiting for anyone to message saying "where are you, am just passing through Notts so I can pop in and give you a seeing to" or words to that effect (often with not one single photo to be seen) and then when you delete or say no thanks you get abusive name calling from them!

I am always tempted for entertainment to reply with "yes sure, it's £500 per half hour" just to see what they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if I have been taught anything it's never trust a man with an eye each side of his nose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That way too men have completely the wrong idea of how the site works. An expectancy that women on here sit around all day in their stockings and heels just waiting for anyone to message saying "where are you, am just passing through Notts so I can pop in and give you a seeing to" or words to that effect (often with not one single photo to be seen) and then when you delete or say no thanks you get abusive name calling from them!

I am always tempted for entertainment to reply with "yes sure, it's £500 per half hour" just to see what they say "

Keep the messages, I guarantee most of those profiles will vanish within three weeks of being made.

The guys who understand that the chase and flirt is part of the fun will stick around and have no problem provin who they are.

But yeah there are some chancers out there

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"That way too men have completely the wrong idea of how the site works. An expectancy that women on here sit around all day in their stockings and heels just waiting for anyone to message saying "where are you, am just passing through Notts so I can pop in and give you a seeing to" or words to that effect (often with not one single photo to be seen) and then when you delete or say no thanks you get abusive name calling from them!

I am always tempted for entertainment to reply with "yes sure, it's £500 per half hour" just to see what they say

Keep the messages, I guarantee most of those profiles will vanish within three weeks of being made.

The guys who understand that the chase and flirt is part of the fun will stick around and have no problem provin who they are.

But yeah there are some chancers out there"

Oh yes, they usually vanish. Many are probably cheating on partners and just think they can grab a quick shag on the way home from work lol

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

That semen are cubes are liked by some.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

That I really am a swinger..albeit a single one

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"That semen are cubes are liked by some."

Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"That semen are cubes are liked by some.

Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen "

Yes. Just recently

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"That semen are cubes are liked by some.

Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen "

It sure was..I'll have a vodka, c*ke, slice and semen ice cubes and one for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That there are women who put me to shame when it comes to a filthy mind take knock backs graciously and not to take the site to heart . It’s all about the laughs and giggles cock pics and not appreciated unless asked for . And to be very careful about pic collectors and time wasters as they can be hard to spot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up Gobby you’ve got so much going for you lassie xx

Fab had taught us that not everyone loves Star Wars...7-1200 profile views a day during the week but no fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People in cities sometimes don't realise that too people in small towns 10/20 miles away is certainly a viable and often necessary travelling distance ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today - how to get the last word (IF I wanted it)...

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Today - how to get the last word (IF I wanted it)... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today - how to get the last word (IF I wanted it)...

"

IF....

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Today - how to get the last word (IF I wanted it)...

IF.... "

That’s a big IF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has taught me that they are too many married men here who are looking for free prostitutes and quick boring sex in cars or vans wtf..but the forums are good by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today - how to get the last word (IF I wanted it)...

IF....

That’s a big IF "

My IF is so much more than any if's you've had before my love....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it seems to good to be true..it probably is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it seems to good to be true..it probably is "

Lolol there is no truth, just opinion....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it seems to good to be true..it probably is

Lolol there is no truth, just opinion.... "

Opinions are like arseholes..everyone has one

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

sorry to be dramatic but I’ve learn that I am highly undesirable, unattractive and generally awful. I always suspected it but time after time fab confirms it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it seems to good to be true..it probably is

Lolol there is no truth, just opinion....

Opinions are like arseholes..everyone has one "

Bumholes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry to be dramatic but I’ve learn that I am highly undesirable, unattractive and generally awful. I always suspected it but time after time fab confirms it for me. "

Why do you think that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry to be dramatic but I’ve learn that I am highly undesirable, unattractive and generally awful. I always suspected it but time after time fab confirms it for me. "

2 verifications say otherwise

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"That semen are cubes are liked by some.

Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen

It sure was..I'll have a vodka, c*ke, slice and semen ice cubes and one for yourself "

Blurghhhh !

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"That semen are cubes are liked by some.

Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen

It sure was..I'll have a vodka, c*ke, slice and semen ice cubes and one for yourself

Blurghhhh !"

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Fab has taught me that i'm pretty good at this sex business and that i'm more desirable that I would have previously thought. It's shown me I have a talent for erotic writing and helped me rediscover how good I am at drawing.

Most importantly it's helped me purge feelings of jealousy and possessiveness from my system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many people have less maturity than primary school kids. The bitching, bullying. Open threats. Really nasty people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lie

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Here has taught me on one hand to trust no one!!! Lol

Also that you dont have to necessarily have too much in common with someone to click and naturally get on with each other, embrace your differences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I’m only seen as a “nice guy”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling "

I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That I’m only seen as a “nice guy” "

Swapsies plz?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be more open-minded

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling

I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting "

If the conversation is flowing and with a good vibe, why not continue it outside of fab so that doesn't happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling

I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting "

If I’m honest I don’t buy this, if you were genuinely interested you would find his message, that’s just my opinion not trying to cause upset for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling

I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting

If the conversation is flowing and with a good vibe, why not continue it outside of fab so that doesn't happen?"

Because sometimes it's just a nice conversation. Which, perhaps due to location, I know won't go anywhere further. I'm very open with my profile on here, so hence very strict with who I chat with outside of fab. I only move things off this site if there's a real connection or I'm planning a meet. Otherwise I just get swamped!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab has taught me to appreciate ladies of all shapes and sizes! They are all sexy in different ways!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling

I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting

If the conversation is flowing and with a good vibe, why not continue it outside of fab so that doesn't happen?

Because sometimes it's just a nice conversation. Which, perhaps due to location, I know won't go anywhere further. I'm very open with my profile on here, so hence very strict with who I chat with outside of fab. I only move things off this site if there's a real connection or I'm planning a meet. Otherwise I just get swamped!"

You're right to keep things on fab for as long as is comfortable for you. I've been way to easy offering ourt my other details in the past and then you end up with stalkers who see you online and won't leave you alone asking who you're talking to and why their ticks are still grey when you've been online for ten minutes etc. Keep the outside for outside ppl or the really special ones....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So many people have less maturity than primary school kids. The bitching, bullying. Open threats. Really nasty people. "

This too.

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