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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time it’s a facade or people just bragging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like soft, slow and sensual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it’s a facade or people just bragging "

Just f@#k me already

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I like soft slow and sensual to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

"

Soft, slow and sensual is all very well if you're in a relationship but if you're squeezing someone in between taking the bins out and getting down the pub to watch the match then it's wham, bam thankyou ma'am I'm afraid

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Sensual is the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, that's a very interesting point. Personally, I like a mixture of both, slow and sensual, building up, and some fooling around and foreplay. Find this helps build energy and tension, then lead up to, as you say, fuck like bunnies

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I sometimes write beautiful descriptions of prolonged sensuality, the thrill of taking one's time to explore a person physically and the delicious sensory reactions that come with a deeper, more prolonged intimacy.

But my phone always autocorrects it to FAF.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

Soft, slow and sensual is all very well if you're in a relationship but if you're squeezing someone in between taking the bins out and getting down the pub to watch the match then it's wham, bam thankyou ma'am I'm afraid "

Yes I don't do quick sessions for that reason

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Would it be men want fuck hard and women want slow and sensual

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I sometimes write beautiful descriptions of prolonged sensuality, the thrill of taking one's time to explore a person physically and the delicious sensory reactions that come with a deeper, more prolonged intimacy.

But my phone always autocorrects it to FAF. "

I'll fix them for you if you send me them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would it be men want fuck hard and women want slow and sensual "

I don't even think it's just men.

I just find a lot of it mechanical and boring and actually lacking in any way to properly satisfy me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it’s a facade or people just bragging

Just f@#k me already "

It has to be slow and sensual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

I like soft slow and sensual but I’m also keen to show lust and give it thrust I think it depends on the chemistry of the moment a combination of the two is ideal but to be sure I like soft slow and sensual

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well, that's a very interesting point. Personally, I like a mixture of both, slow and sensual, building up, and some fooling around and foreplay. Find this helps build energy and tension, then lead up to, as you say, fuck like bunnies "

Of course there is a time for both but it seems like only one is focused on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had some lovely sensual experiences from on here, but they are with people I’ve built a sexual relationship with, rather than one off meets. I enjoy both

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby

I can’t do wham bam.

Sex has to be with feeling. I don’t mean that in a soppy way but sensual sex has so much more passion than fucking hard and fast

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We are soft and sensual with each other and that's how we'd be with anybody else. Long lingering kisses. Sensual love-making. Aah.

When we get approached by anybody who looks like they just want to get down to business we always decline. A gallery that shows lots of sexual activity is guaranteed the put us off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can’t do wham bam.

Sex has to be with feeling. I don’t mean that in a soppy way but sensual sex has so much more passion than fucking hard and fast "

Agreed.. I like imagination, creativity and everything to be done with feeling. Not as in love but like they actually mean it.

Otherwise what is the point?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Would it be men want fuck hard and women want slow and sensual

I don't even think it's just men.

I just find a lot of it mechanical and boring and actually lacking in any way to properly satisfy me.

"

Mechanical - good description

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I can’t do wham bam.

Sex has to be with feeling. I don’t mean that in a soppy way but sensual sex has so much more passion than fucking hard and fast "

A temporary, intense emotional investment ...

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I like both - it depends on the mood and the chemistry with the person I'm with

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

...

Lockdown seems to be getting blamed for everything at the moment but I think it has played a part in it. I like sensual and passionate, the build up and taking of time but at the moment I just want a really good fucking. Slow and sensual can happen later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sensual is the way "

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

Wicklow


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

"

Soft, sensual, easy, slow, intimate, erotic. Its the only way.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

"

Really like slow and sensual sometimes. I get this , I often do one thing but the other person gets too excited and turns it into something else. I don’t think it’s about emotion but just control or lust taking over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like both - it depends on the mood and the chemistry with the person I'm with "

Yes... 50/50

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

"

Possibly also that you can fuck like a bunny without too much thought. The good thing about this world is there is something for everyone, though it always surprises me the number of status updates and meet mes for women demanding to be ruined and pounded. To each their own.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

Soft, sensual and erotic encounters are what we prefer as we feel there is a greater connection leading to genuine stimulation and more satisfying organisms. Maybe people are concerned that the emotional effects could impact on their personal relationships and raise trust issues. We are complex creatures

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Slow ..sensual...saucy ....only way for us ....no rough stuff ...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

There’s a time for both and I don’t think it’s especially a man / woman preference. However if a bloke writes a message when he’s horny, chances are it’s going to be the quick relief version rather than the sensual build up.

Maybe there should be an advisory on the messages like when someone is out of your age range, but it says “have a wank before writing and sending this”

Whatever type of sex you want, it’s part of the enjoyment. Reading the signs, communicating and opening yourself to another person’s feelings is part of having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would it be men want fuck hard and women want slow and sensual

I don't even think it's just men.

I just find a lot of it mechanical and boring and actually lacking in any way to properly satisfy me.

"

Totally agree with this. It's not a contest or a race lol... I think lots of people who think that way believe it's 'manly'... There are of course times when the situation is right for that. If I had to choose though, sensual all the way. Massages, caresses, longer sessions kissing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it’s a facade or people just bragging "

Yeah, I think a lot of men think women want it hard and fast all the time, possibly because a lot of porn perpetuates that myth.

Personally I love slowing it right down and spending some time teasing with sensual strokes and lingering kisses, and have had meets from here where that was the basis for the meet

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I'm a very sensual person and always end up slow and intense at some point, though from comments made by onlookers at a party, I'm guessing this isn't so common on the scene. I also love a good hard seeing to, when my mood dictates. Sometimes the dynamics between two people will wholly determine which way that goes. Horses for courses

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Would it be men want fuck hard and women want slow and sensual "

That’s definitely not my experience. Thinking about it more I reckon it’s to do with experience and lust. Lovers are generally sensual, intimate or lustful but not often more than one type. I can do the lustful and sometimes the odd quickie is good, but it’s my least favourite. When I was younger and less experienced it was definitely my favourite !

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby


"I can’t do wham bam.

Sex has to be with feeling. I don’t mean that in a soppy way but sensual sex has so much more passion than fucking hard and fast

A temporary, intense emotional investment ..."

Exactly...I develop a connection with someone first then when I meet its just a continuation from there...two minds connecting and an intense sensual experience

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

It’s very rare you would get sensual from a Fab man....I said rare.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I like both but we can plan a slow and sensual playtime but when he walks in the door and the urge sweeps over you then hard and fast against the wall just has to be done, slow and sensual will wait for round 2

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Most of the time it’s a facade or people just bragging

Yeah, I think a lot of men think women want it hard and fast all the time, possibly because a lot of porn perpetuates that myth.

Personally I love slowing it right down and spending some time teasing with sensual strokes and lingering kisses, and have had meets from here where that was the basis for the meet"

Exactly that and a bit of tease/denial ... like getting to point they literally can’t bear it anymore and start manoeuvring into position to try and take control and speed up , then a firm hand on the throat or hair pulled... be a good girl , I’m in control still lol

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By *randMrsCambridgeCouple
over a year ago

Stansted (Herts/Essex)

We adore slow and sensual taking time touching, kissing, licking, undressing...but usually the pace quickens and slows depending on the mood and dynamic.

The best plays have the most diversity and the people who are sensual, passionate, funny and filthy on the same evening are the ones we have enjoyed most...we’d hope those we’ve played with would say the same about us xxx

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Being sensual and passionate when having sex brings a whole different energy.

All sex is different...

Sensual sex for me is where you are more intimate, more kissing involved.. you feel more in to each other...

The straight sex and foreplay is more of routine kind of sex... mutual oral.. then just switching positions which in the end the goal in mind is just to cum.. just isn’t good for a women if that guy shoots his load too quick lol but being sensual she would feel more satisfied as there is much more of a build up but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, that's a very interesting point. Personally, I like a mixture of both, slow and sensual, building up, and some fooling around and foreplay. Find this helps build energy and tension, then lead up to, as you say, fuck like bunnies

Of course there is a time for both but it seems like only one is focused on "

It depends on a few things namely mood if she says fuck me hard or harder I’ll happily adjust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s definitely a time and a place for both for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s definitely a time and a place for both for me "

A time, a place and a mood and this is exactly what I was about to say.

Sometimes alternating the 2 is also needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s definitely a time and a place for both for me

A time, a place and a mood and this is exactly what I was about to say.

Sometimes alternating the 2 is also needed. "

Oh yes. Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just find it extremely boring. I don't do it with my husband, so any guy looking to "make love" isn't for me.

But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re all about the slow and low...it’s what makes it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just find it extremely boring. I don't do it with my husband, so any guy looking to "make love" isn't for me.

But each to their own. "

It baffles me that anyone can view eye contact, intense chemistry and passionate pleasing as boring but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being sensual and passionate when having sex brings a whole different energy.

All sex is different...

Sensual sex for me is where you are more intimate, more kissing involved.. you feel more in to each other...

The straight sex and foreplay is more of routine kind of sex... mutual oral.. then just switching positions which in the end the goal in mind is just to cum.. just isn’t good for a women if that guy shoots his load too quick lol but being sensual she would feel more satisfied as there is much more of a build up but each to their own. "

I agree with this in part but I also think it's more about taking the time to understand their responses and being in tune with them. It's not necessarily about love or feelings and it's sad that people see those things in a boring or negative way.

I'd bet money on the fact that many crave intimacy, touch and closeness from another person and they use sex as a way to get it

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Being sensual and passionate when having sex brings a whole different energy.

All sex is different...

Sensual sex for me is where you are more intimate, more kissing involved.. you feel more in to each other...

The straight sex and foreplay is more of routine kind of sex... mutual oral.. then just switching positions which in the end the goal in mind is just to cum.. just isn’t good for a women if that guy shoots his load too quick lol but being sensual she would feel more satisfied as there is much more of a build up but each to their own.

I agree with this in part but I also think it's more about taking the time to understand their responses and being in tune with them. It's not necessarily about love or feelings and it's sad that people see those things in a boring or negative way.

I'd bet money on the fact that many crave intimacy, touch and closeness from another person and they use sex as a way to get it "
thats why we use massage to enhance the meets and slow things down ....x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I like both but we can plan a slow and sensual playtime but when he walks in the door and the urge sweeps over you then hard and fast against the wall just has to be done, slow and sensual will wait for round 2"

Hell yes.

For me hard and fast scratches an itch. It's like one of those monstrous sundaes that's probably got like a million calories. It's amazing, my taste buds explode, all the orgasms, etc.

That doesn't mean I don't like a hearty home cooked meal.

Different benefits. (And I certainly don't just talk about hard and fast)

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I'm contemplating..

Sometimes I look at this site and think this concept of passion and sensuality is quite alien to some. Everyone seems to want to fuck hard and fast. The art of gentle touch and sensual seduction seems to be frowned upon or even seen as a bit boring.

Why is that?

Is it because you can fuck like a bunny with less risk of emotion?

"

I disagree. I've seen many people state preferences for this type of activity, though to be fair, they tend to be women. Slow, soft and sensual has its place, as does the opposite. Often times mood can dictate where things lead. I enjoy both, and most sessions will combine the two. The change of tempo and interplay makes for a far better experience. Whichever one people do, I fell it should be passionate driven and lust laden; otherwise what's the point?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Maybe there's something else, too?

Breaking free of this idea that sex, for women, is just an act of love and emotion. Yes, we are allowed to love it filthy and rough (have you seen the "for women" section on some porn sites? Boring!).

It's becoming less liberating, more normal, but there is still something liberating about being able to say "I'm a woman and I crave filthy sex"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it’s a facade or people just bragging

Yeah, I think a lot of men think women want it hard and fast all the time, possibly because a lot of porn perpetuates that myth.

Personally I love slowing it right down and spending some time teasing with sensual strokes and lingering kisses, and have had meets from here where that was the basis for the meet

Exactly that and a bit of tease/denial ... like getting to point they literally can’t bear it anymore and start manoeuvring into position to try and take control and speed up , then a firm hand on the throat or hair pulled... be a good girl , I’m in control still lol "

You've hit the nail on the head here. I love to tease because I want my partner to not be able to stand it, and NEED more. The thrill is in getting her to break first and demand a good fucking

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I love slow soft and sensual sex. I love that feeling of intimacy and closeness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes write beautiful descriptions of prolonged sensuality, the thrill of taking one's time to explore a person physically and the delicious sensory reactions that come with a deeper, more prolonged intimacy.

But my phone always autocorrects it to FAF. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just find it extremely boring. I don't do it with my husband, so any guy looking to "make love" isn't for me.

But each to their own.

It baffles me that anyone can view eye contact, intense chemistry and passionate pleasing as boring but each to their own "

I once had a woman say 'make love to me' I literally laughed so hard I wanted to vomit! I told her there and then it wasn't going to happen and never saw her again.

So im definitely with Mrs Cherry and prefer a good hard fuck.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

From my experiences on this site, and another site, i have found that a lot of folk tend to big up their sex game. Make themselves sound like a pornstar.

Now whilst some folk are top shaggers, the likelihood of them ALL being gathered in one place like Fab etc., is rare.

So i just take everything folk say with regard to their sexual needs wants and ability with a huge pinch of salt.

The proof is in the fucking.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Even when we both with another woman we much prefer it to be sensual rather than just fucking. The only time we really actually "FUCK" is when he has been working away. Nothing better than a wild session that first night he's back

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Bunnies can be soft and sensual too I’ve never swept away from it and believe me there are more people here who are into it than you can imagine

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

I have hubby for sensual and gentle ,he isnt really a hard fast sex person ,so being taken in a meet with a guy who knows what my desires are ticks all my boxes ..

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Slow, sensual, hands exploring, passionate kisses that take your breath away and make your knees weak sex.

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

Slowly softly deeply bodies merged as one fingers intertwined the touch of skin on skin fingers tracing and exploring another shivers of pleasure as each new touch unlocks yet more powerful physical and mind expanding sensations that make muscles tremble bodies wrapped in mutual harmony...

And eyes locked together sparkling with each new delight shared as lips fingers limbs are all melded into one....

And through half closed eyes fires glow creating new memories that stay in the mind forever....

Something like that perhaps OP?

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

I love both ways. Depends on my mood, the setting partner etc. Both can be satisfying in different ways. Can even be used in same session. It adds more spice to have as many options as possible available. I find slow and sensual so erotic and a real build up. But then animalistic tearing at each other is so dammed hot too

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I like a mix of both

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

We like both depends what mood we're in

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