FabSwingers.com forum: Block.....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ...........

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Oh god, I can barely manage one. Who has time and energy for that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh a woman scorned eh

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

"Oh god, I can barely manage one. Who has time and energy for that?

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much time on their hands obviously!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont block anyone unless they're super dooper ugly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont block anyone unless they're super dooper ugly!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I have two but then ones for organising parties/socials and only use it when I’ve something in arrangement. It’s not just two of ‘me’.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think you are being a tad impatient OP, if they want to reply they might not do it there and then, they might be in the supermarket having a cheeky browse, or sat on the sofa with their mum!

But the two profile thing sounds bizarre, can't get my head round that

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I dont block anyone unless they're super dooper ugly!

Went to Check then and everything lol

Op - also some ladies (some ladies bring me) read them at work and leave the ones they want to reply to in their inbox. You might be doing it prematurely in some instances xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a lucky escape, don't worry about it OP. If they are abusive report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have started to do the same, but give it a few days first

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ........... "

I do something similar

Iv not had anyone rejoin and block me

I have known a fair number of the same pics return

Sometimes under the same name sometimes totally different

Iv even known some where iv suspicion the profile is not as it claims

Chatted, highlighted their hoax

Blocked or been blocked

The same pic returns and I've chatted again to a different person , blocked or been blocked again then yet again

Some profile pics seem to be operating where a number of different people undertake the character

Oh fab is certainly entertaining

I'm actually chatting to one now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont block anyone unless they're super dooper ugly!

Went to Check then and everything lol

Kicking myself for never actually looking at your profile before now!!

Welcome to my hotlist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't read or reply to my message I wouldn't block them because of it. Women get a lot of attention and they can't possibly chat with everyone at once.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"If they don't read or reply to my message I wouldn't block them because of it. Women get a lot of attention and they can't possibly chat with everyone at once.

How on earth do you manage your searches

Gosh if I did not block then each time I search I'd have to trawl through 1 to 3 hundred profiles 99 percent of whom I either have no interest in or not interested in me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they don't read or reply to my message I wouldn't block them because of it. Women get a lot of attention and they can't possibly chat with everyone at once.

I have left message for a few days to see if I get a reply but I dont.....I'm way down the list by that stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is going to admit to that extra profile

The one they use to spy ....

I have sixteen of them

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By *untimes11Man
over a year ago

cardiff

"I think you are being a tad impatient OP, if they want to reply they might not do it there and then, they might be in the supermarket having a cheeky browse, or sat on the sofa with their mum!

But the two profile thing sounds bizarre, can't get my head round that

My experience has been that if women don't reply back after reading the message there's slim to no chance they will reply back later.

The only exception to this is if you alreadly have a good rapport with the girl you are chatting to. Otherwise i think they have too many messages and it just gets buried under all the other ones.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

"Ooh a woman scorned eh

seems it was the male scorned and getting sore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do the same OP and have done for years but normally give 3 or 4 days. If they delete then definitely in the block bin. I've heard all the arrangements from as to why you shouldn't but reality is they generally aren't interested. Those who are respond.

Now the question is do you keep looking at the same ones in vain or focus on those who show interest? You can't have a conversation with those who don't reply, so chances of it going further are limiting.

Works well as a filter as you say you can spend a lot of time going through so many that aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ooh a woman scorned eh

seems it was the male scorned and getting sore

No not at all....I don't mind the no replies...I take as a no thank you....i just use the block as i dont want to message them again....it wastes both our time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats very weird!

I imagine it would be absolute hell to manage two female profiles!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Ooh a woman scorned eh

seems it was the male scorned and getting sore

No not at all....I don't mind the no replies...I take as a no thank you....i just use the block as i dont want to message them again....it wastes both our time."

Seems a sensible way of doing things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had 2 a while back. I used one just for speaking to women and had all males blocked on it. I think it’s only not allowed if you use it for other reasons or use both on the forums. Not sure though. Ones enough now

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Who is going to admit to that extra profile

The one they use to spy ....

I have sixteen of them

Lol no you don’t!

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

Don't you just feel deceived when you find out about a 2nd profile. I had suspicions once so I did some detective work and found they had got a 2nd one. But I was blocked on it. I only knew as I felt suspicious so set a fake one up and it was there. Same pretty much as the other but not just looking for one sex but both.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I can't manage more than one profile, duno why people bother with more than one profile. As for not replying straight away to messages. Sometimes I quickly check, then when I have quality time to read, I re-read then reply to the people who interest me. So it might be abit too hasty to block women straight away?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Thats very weird!

I imagine it would be absolute hell to manage two female profiles!

Seems to me you have two lovely ladies you manage quite perfectly

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Sometimes I totally dismiss a profile because its new, no information. Then later down the line, when they improved, they send me a message and I reply

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By *nkedviolet69Woman
over a year ago

Twickenham

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ........... "

Ummm.. see I think blocking them if they don't read or don't reply straight away is going to leave you with alot of missed opportunities... For instance if I get a message I might read or or view the profile.. whilst at work.. thinking I'll reply when I can give it more of my attention.. if I thought that then went to message back and you'd blocked me I wouldn't get it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ...........

I agree. I often come on here and dont even look at messages. Or I’ll read and reply when I’ve more time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ...........

But my message would have way down your list and you wont remember mine when you.look at your inbox......

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ........... "

OP.

Are you for real??

Honestly, you mail out messages in bulk, but when you don't get a response, you block them??

Just how much time are you giving them to respond? Five minutes? 30 minutes? An hour? A day?

Just because you are online, doesn't mean they are plus are automatically waiting for just your message!!

Put it this way, ladies on here get swamped with messages. One I know, recently posted a couple of new pics, and within 24 hours, had just over 600 messages!

What if in a similar scenario, your message was the 599th? How long do you think it would take her to wade through all of them to reach yours? Does she give up her life, her job, maybe her family, just because you're gagging for a response in ultra quick time?

Yes, it can occur when some females will be online when you send a message, but it can happen, they log out almost as quick as you have mailed them. It happens. Get over it.

You've only been on here by a few months so you have to learn to adopt Patience, more Patience & Perseverance for this site to work in your favour.

Good luck.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ...........

OP.

Are you for real??

Honestly, you mail out messages in bulk, but when you don't get a response, you block them??

Just how much time are you giving them to respond? Five minutes? 30 minutes? An hour? A day?

Just because you are online, doesn't mean they are plus are automatically waiting for just your message!!

Put it this way, ladies on here get swamped with messages. One I know, recently posted a couple of new pics, and within 24 hours, had just over 600 messages!

Yes, it can occur when some females will be online when you send a message, but it can happen, they log out almost as quick as you have mailed them. It happens. Get over it.

You've only been on here by a few months so you have to learn to adopt Patience, more Patience & Perseverance for this site to work in your favour.

Good luck."

I give a week and two messages

Works perfect for me thank you

How many times do you message a profile

How many needless profile do you have in a 30 mile search ?

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By *untimes11Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Put it this way, ladies on here get swamped with messages. One I know, recently posted a couple of new pics, and within 24 hours, had just over 600 messages!

What if in a similar scenario, your message was the 599th?"

Let's be realistic here, if a woman has 600 messages and yours is number 600, it's an incredibly slim chance that she will see, or even be interested by the time she gets to read your message.

It could be the most entertaining message on Fab, but apathy would sink in long before she get's to read it.

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By *untimes11Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Out of Curiosity, what happens when you block someone?

Do the dissapear from the search results or are they just unable to send you a message?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Out of Curiosity, what happens when you block someone?

Do the dissapear from the search results or are they just unable to send you a message?"

Disappear from searches

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Wow..I couldn't be arsed to go to that much effort just to block someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block me please

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Block me please"

No way..I'm going to haunt you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block me please

No way..I'm going to haunt you "

Can someone block me ?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Block me please

No way..I'm going to haunt you

Can someone block me ? "

Where would the fun in that me

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Wow..I couldn't be arsed to go to that much effort just to block someone "

Blocking requires zero effort

Trawling though pointless profiles on a search does

Very easy decision

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Wow..I couldn't be arsed to go to that much effort just to block someone

Blocking requires zero effort

Trawling though pointless profiles on a search does

Very easy decision

I meant messages from a different account. As was mentioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did it upset you op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block me please

No way..I'm going to haunt you

Can someone block me ?

Where would the fun in that me

I get off by being blocked by ppl I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely message anyone but if they haven't atleast read it with 2 days I usually block them.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Wow..I couldn't be arsed to go to that much effort just to block someone

Blocking requires zero effort

Trawling though pointless profiles on a search does

Very easy decision

I meant messages from a different account. As was mentioned

Ha ha oh gosh no

Genuinely I've only ever held one account

I own a fab phone but have no desire for multiple accounts

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Block me please"

Sure I add you to my long list if you wana get a hard on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block me please

Sure I add you to my long list if you wana get a hard on

Thank you ! Love a good listener

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Wow..I couldn't be arsed to go to that much effort just to block someone

Blocking requires zero effort

Trawling though pointless profiles on a search does

Very easy decision

I meant messages from a different account. As was mentioned

Ha ha oh gosh no

Genuinely I've only ever held one account

I own a fab phone but have no desire for multiple accounts

You have a fab phone..a phone for fab alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry i meant to send in here... fat fingers..

You could just use the notes function

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"sorry i meant to send in here... fat fingers..

You could just use the notes function "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block me please"

I only block ppl within a 30 mile radius so then I truly know the ones who reply are committed to bum fun. Plus you're far too handsome...

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"sorry i meant to send in here... fat fingers..

You could just use the notes function "

Who said that

No that really is a faf not the acronym x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Block me please

Sure I add you to my long list if you wana get a hard on

Jas, completely off topic but wow, what a great profile pic.

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By *untimes11Man
over a year ago

cardiff

"Out of Curiosity, what happens when you block someone?

Do they dissapear from the search results or are they just unable to send you a message?

Disappear from searches "

In light of this, i'm going to start doing the same thing.

It's a bit pointless clicking on profiles to discover that you've already previously messaged them with no response.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

153 women blocked......didnt reply or didnt read my email.

Still over 300+ in my search area though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell you what, OP.... you try fielding 1000-1900 mails per day and then write the status!

Welcome to mine and almost every single females profile on this site!!

And I am saying it thru gritted teeth!! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep I can understand that.....that's why I only email when someone is online and only block when, either,they have read my message and not replied or not read my message and gone offline.

I'm not doing out of spite.....just out of the need not to keep emailing the same people several times.

Either way it seems that real people will never get a chance to find each other on here.....one genuine email drowned in a sea of thousands is impossible to find and to write.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

200+ women blocked with in a 30 mile radius......all of them blocked as they read my message and didn't reply or didn't even read the email....and yes I give them time to respond.on the flip side I have had six women who emailed once or twice and one who emailed several times.....but absolutely no chance of meeting.....covid19 or not.

So 3% response rate. 0% meet.

Your thoughts.......

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"200+ women blocked with in a 30 mile radius......all of them blocked as they read my message and didn't reply or didn't even read the email....and yes I give them time to respond.on the flip side I have had six women who emailed once or twice and one who emailed several times.....but absolutely no chance of meeting.....covid19 or not.

So 3% response rate. 0% meet.

Your thoughts......."

We have days where we get too many mails to answer them all, this isn’t our full time job and can’t afford an assistant to make sure that we answer every single message we receive. I can only imagine that it is ten times worse for the single ladies on here.

We tend to prioritise replies to those we are already chatting with and get back to the others when we can. We genuinely feel bad if we leave it a while to reply but when people get impatient with us it makes us not want to chat with them at all.

How long do you leave it between sending and blocking?

What if a lady who genuinely hasn’t read your message because she’s inundated reads it, likes the sound of you and then can’t view your profile or send a reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One accounts enough for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I leave a good 24hrs...if not longer.

I understand that women get inundated and thats my point....if she is interested then reply...a few words will do...not just leave it til later. By that time my email is way down this list out of sight as she is inundated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I leave a good 24hrs...if not longer.

Go get her!

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

I can see the logic as I do something similar, if the deleted the text that’s a good indicator they are not interested, as some ladies change the username and photos I might contact them again so I block but if they read and not deleted then i will hold out ... noting person just don’t want to make the same mistake twice

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

OP, if you're sending hundreds of messages 'fishing', then you are one of the reasons women's inboxes are so full!

I may come online to engage in the forums and not touch my inbox.

I may have time to look at only a few messages, and clear out the ones I don't want. As goodnight girl said, I also leave the ones I'm interested in, for an opportunity when I have proper time to reply - which may be some days later.

Admin fatigue on here is a real thing.

Even if I'm interested, I may reply and delete (knowing the message thread will reappear if we correspond) - or I'll never get my inbox down to get to that message I briefly saw from a friend before it disappeared from view.

I find Fab is often about good timing. There have been many occasions where a guy may tick all of my boxes but circumstances just don't work at that time. A few weeks later, the situation may be entirely different, so it's always work another message unless you've received a 'no'.

Also, should I at some point later have reason to prowl and say, notice you on a forum or through a search, and I've been blocked, then you will never know what you missed. Guys receiving messages is less common I know, yet has a massively high success rate and you're stopping women from contacting you.

Your choice - I'd be less keen with the block button, and perhaps use Private Notes instead and take it easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So been in chat rooms too.....

There is a general attitude that this site is not for people who want to meet...just a social site to chat........and there was me expecting to.meet for sex....

You have to laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So been in chat rooms too.....

There is a general attitude that this site is not for people who want to meet...just a social site to chat........and there was me expecting to.meet for sex....

You have to laugh

There are many people want to meet op, just not at the minute. I think maybe you're being hasty deleting and blocking those women that havent replied, they likely have lots of messages and might still be intending to get back to you. Write a little something in the notes section instead so that if you look at a profile you'll know you've messaged them already

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"So been in chat rooms too.....

There is a general attitude that this site is not for people who want to meet...just a social site to chat........and there was me expecting to.meet for sex....

You have to laugh

To be fair. That’s exactly what I use this site for. Simply keeping in touch. I have lots of sex but then I go to a lot of events and private meets. I think that ironically you’ve hit a good point on the head. Not everyone is here to arrange a meet via the chatrooms x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have blocked over 250 because they delete or dont reply and I give plenty of time.....clearly they don't want to meet or meet me....

In that time I have not received one opening message from anyone....

So what is this site for or what are the women on here for?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

So what is this site for or what are the women on here for?

To meet those people they like.

Feel free to block. 251 has a nice ring to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So been in chat rooms too.....

There is a general attitude that this site is not for people who want to meet...just a social site to chat........and there was me expecting to.meet for sex....

You have to laugh

Often ppl confuse "don't want to meet" with "don't want to meet me". Usually I find in the forum and chat rooms an approach of not trying so hard and just enjoying nthem for what they are to begin with carries greater reward if that's what you're seeking....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, we’re on it to use it as we see fit, and that’s ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is interesting at the very least to see what happens.....my expectations have fallen considerably since joining.

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We receive dozens of messages a day, that can become hundreds if we add a new picture or video. Not only can it be overwhelming but it also becomes a chore when going through them all. We have our requirements in our bio, if we see people don't meet them we don't reply. Why should we? Because it's rude not to? It's rude to ignore someone's requests in favour of your own first.

Plenty of times we come on here just to look at the hot pics section, the chat rooms or to see who's local at that time.

This reads as a rant, I guess it is to a degree. I hate spam and plenty of the guys on here use copy and paste and it's incredibly transparent so goes ignored.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus, I just read your profile. I think that should be your starting point fella. If you're not getting any replies I'm honestly not surprised, it definitely needs attention imho. Also I don't think it's wise to tell ppl you'll pay followed by anything even remotely sexual tbh.....

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

OP you come across as being bitter when women don’t behave in the way you want and within an unrealistic timescale that you have dictated.

You have massively depleted your pool of possible future meets because you have unrealistic expectations from a site such as this, especially during a pandemic.

What are you planning to do once there are no women left in your search area that you haven’t blocked already?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No bitterness...just stating what has happened.

In answer to your last point.....

Have a wank!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't read or reply to my message I wouldn't block them because of it. Women get a lot of attention and they can't possibly chat with everyone at once.

Absolutely this I had a guy message after half an hour the other day and have a go at me for reading n not replying!!!

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

See that quick to block I dont always read my messages when I come on depends how much time I have if I haven't got time to reply I dont read that's a bit harsh what you do but each to there own, your the one that probably missing out anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im not quick to block.....2 to 3 days min.....usually leave it a week...

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Im not quick to block.....2 to 3 days min.....usually leave it a week... "

You’ve upped your time limit then? Two weeks ago you said a good 24 hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use it as you will, but sounds extreme

Sometimes messages just get missed or you're busy? I don't log off so I show online?

As an example, I messaged someone 7 years ago and got no response. A few weeks ago I made a comment to them and they've responded and suggested a social? Don't be too demanding!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep.....took the advice....no difference in the outcome though..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

7 years!!!!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"So been in chat rooms too.....

There is a general attitude that this site is not for people who want to meet...just a social site to chat........and there was me expecting to.meet for sex....

You have to laugh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just over 300 now blocked. 6 months of writing suitable emails just to get a response.

Replies 25 and they didn't last more than 4 or 5 more messages.

1 woman was happy to chat but didn't want to meet me.

So thats it. I tried, I really tried, but there is only ao much rejection I can tolerate......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just over 300 now blocked. 6 months of writing suitable emails just to get a response.

Replies 25 and they didn't last more than 4 or 5 more messages.

1 woman was happy to chat but didn't want to meet me.

So thats it. I tried, I really tried, but there is only ao much rejection I can tolerate......"

Do you not think that lots aren’t going to want to meet at present? Not just you, but anyone from here.

Why don’t you just stay and chat on the forums and get to know people that way and when meets start happening again, hopefully you’ll be already chatting to a few.

I’m curious too, if you chat to someone on WhatsApp and they don’t immediately reply, do you block them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m curious too, if you chat to someone on WhatsApp and they don’t immediately reply, do you block them?"

Well since I only got 25 replies getting someone's phone number is even less likely.....but no.i wouldn't. Blocking was for my use some didn't keep emailing the same people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you not think that lots aren’t going to want to meet at present? Not just you, but anyone from here.

I suggested meeting for a coffee or just meeting outside...but noone wanted to.....even as recently as last Friday.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ........... "

Why on earth would you block someone just because they don’t read your message first time op?

You must block a LOT of people. Many women, I imagine, wouldn’t open a message from someone who doesn’t have a profile pic! Xx

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Personally I block people whose criteria don't meet mine or vica versa, eg, not looking for men, bisexual men only, don't want married men, etc, so they don't appear whenever I do a search. I've also blocked a few people with rude or pushy profiles for the same reason. However I'd never block someone for not responding to a message. I'll ignore it and maybe in a few months time send them a wink in case things have changed. People's circumstances or needs change so keep all your options open.

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over a year ago

"Personally I block people whose criteria don't meet mine or vica versa, eg, not looking for men, bisexual men only, don't want married men, etc, so they don't appear whenever I do a search. I've also blocked a few people with rude or pushy profiles for the same reason. However I'd never block someone for not responding to a message. I'll ignore it and maybe in a few months time send them a wink in case things have changed. People's circumstances or needs change so keep all your options open."

This

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Obviously you don't realise just how many messages some women get on here!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ...........

Why on earth would you block someone just because they don’t read your message first time op?

You must block a LOT of people. Many women, I imagine, wouldn’t open a message from someone who doesn’t have a profile pic! Xx"

i get blocked alot

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

"So I have been messaging women within a 20mile radius when they are online.....I figure they are more likely to see my message.

If they dont read it or read it and dont reply and then go off-line I block them and delete the message.

The only reason I do this is that I believe they are not interested and do not want to message them again and waste theirs and my time....

I have subsequently had messages from different accounts from women I have already blocked......just to block me!

So how many women have more than one profile?

Your thoughts ...........

Why on earth would you block someone just because they don’t read your message first time op?

You must block a LOT of people. Many women, I imagine, wouldn’t open a message from someone who doesn’t have a profile pic! Xx

i get blocked alot

Can't think why!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m curious too, if you chat to someone on WhatsApp and they don’t immediately reply, do you block them?

Well since I only got 25 replies getting someone's phone number is even less likely.....but no.i wouldn't. Blocking was for my use some didn't keep emailing the same people."

I’m pretty sure if you mail someone and don’t get a reply, and mail them again it comes up with an automated message telling you so.

It would annoy the hell out of me if I was expected to reply to someone (if my profile was looking for people to message me) just because I was online at a particular time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously you don't realise just how many messages some women get on here!"

Those women WANT to get a lot of messages. There’s absolutely no need to if you don’t want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously you don't realise just how many messages some women get on here!

Those women WANT to get a lot of messages. There’s absolutely no need to if you don’t want to."

But.....

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

He deleted his profile. There's a surprise.

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over a year ago

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"He deleted his profile. There's a surprise.

I think he blocked himself!

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"He deleted his profile. There's a surprise.

I think he blocked himself!

He will be back soon enough, he may be more flexible next time though. Maybe he will up the search radius to 30 miles and give those lucky ladies a bit more time to respond (or not).

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

St Austell

"He deleted his profile. There's a surprise.

I think he blocked himself!

He will be back soon enough, he may be more flexible next time though. Maybe he will up the search radius to 30 miles and give those lucky ladies a bit more time to respond (or not).

Yeah - he may up the permitted response time to 30mins!

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

LOL

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