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The look reply silent trick?

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By *sianManc OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

The age old fab magic trick performed by many females on this site.

They read your message, they read your profile, they reply in positive sparkles.

The stage is alight, as you reply back to them in the hope that this is the show to take you to vegas!

Suddenly from nowehere she reads the message, doesnt reply and remains silent.

You wonder why as the magic trick ceases to continue.

This age old fab magic show seems to have occurred to me this time once again.

So females out there why would you do this to someone so sweet as I lol

Why do the females here, read a message sent to them, read the profile, respond positively and in kind, but then once you reply they read and stay silent?

They dont delete but stay silent.

you write again but they stay silent.

any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best guess is because they don't wanna engage any further with you

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Guessing something in the reply put them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have the right to remain silent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do this all the time and its nothing personal

i maybe just cant be bothered chatting at that moment snd then in a few days when i go back to it i think nah im over it if there was a spark i would have replied at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an ego trip, there was a new report on it, women joining dating sights just to see if they could pull but never actually going on a date, men aren't far behind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say they reply, are they engaging in conversation, or just saying thank you to a compliment you originally sent?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Either the conversation died or something in the message put me off.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I am guilty of reading a message then getting distracted and forgetting to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause I don’t wanna chat

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By *sianManc OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"When you say they reply, are they engaging in conversation, or just saying thank you to a compliment you originally sent? "

Engaging for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of messages do you send in the first place?

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By *sianManc OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"What sort of messages do you send in the first place?

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A nice cordial message specific to the individual and their profile as I read all profiles anyway.

They or in this case "she" responded in kind complimenting me and my profile so I then replied (however 7hours later as life does happen) and since then ive had nothing but read and silence from her. Not even deleting to my messages, merely read and silence.

Just found that odd.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

People have lives outside FAB OP, it's easy to open a message and think yes I'll reply, then life gets in the way.

Don't read too much into it

If they are interested they will get back to you, in their own time

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably busy and or you're boring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're playing hard to get. I sent a lady 14 unanswered messages but I think we are starting to click

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By *lackCherry...Woman
over a year ago

North East


"When you say they reply, are they engaging in conversation, or just saying thank you to a compliment you originally sent? "

This ^^^^^ I often said polite replies and have a little chit chat but theres no real spark or connection so it runs cold. A lot of fellas seem to assume if we have a conversation I'll immediately meet up, even in the current lockdown, and that frustrates me so I stop talking. Or very quickly I get "what are you looking for" though I've answered on my profile or "what do you want to try" which always puts me off a little, talking so intimately with someone I've just met.

I'm a friendly lady, but I'm not going to go home with just anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got a reply, its a win

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By *sianManc OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"When you say they reply, are they engaging in conversation, or just saying thank you to a compliment you originally sent?

This ^^^^^ I often said polite replies and have a little chit chat but theres no real spark or connection so it runs cold. A lot of fellas seem to assume if we have a conversation I'll immediately meet up, even in the current lockdown, and that frustrates me so I stop talking. Or very quickly I get "what are you looking for" though I've answered on my profile or "what do you want to try" which always puts me off a little, talking so intimately with someone I've just met.

I'm a friendly lady, but I'm not going to go home with just anyone "

I replied it was engaging not polite.

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London

Because you are just realising (most) women are (usually) more emotionally driven?

look at the responses from women here.

Sounds as like you are expecting a logical response of...I messages her so of course she should message me back.

Tldr: emotionally intelligence improves your responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they haven't replied to a message, don't send them another one, school boy error. Just delete the message thread and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just women that do this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just women that do this...."

You haven't read the thread have you......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just women that do this....

You haven't read the thread have you...... "

I believe I have but feel free to correct me

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I've have that happen on occasions, I tend to assume that either she just lost interest, though it often seems odd to just lose interest in a conversation you were interested in, or she got distracted, went away, did something else, and when she comes back a while later 200 more messages have flooded into her inbox and drown out the conversation we'd managed to get going.

I'd like to think if I were having a conversation with someone that seemed to be going somewhere, then even amongst all the one-liners I'd remember it, and so I'm that easily forgotten then it's for the best anyway.

Best just not to overthink it though, move on and don't dwell on it.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I give it a couple of days, if I don't here anything at all, block and move on. Nothing personal, it just saved me trying them again and having the same outcome.

If the convo goes on over a few days back and fort then starts to Peter out, I'll probably give it more time but eventually, again, block and move on.

Don't fret about it, just remind yourself most women, couples an TV/TS ladies get swamped with messages. I have every sympathy with them. Honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or perhaps just not feeling it that moment that day. Perhaps taking time to get into right reply mood?

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby

I was sort of agreeing with you for some and then you said they don’t reply and so you send another message!.....Erm no, if they don’t reply then just accept it and move on, don’t think sending another message is going to endear yourself to them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The age old fab magic trick performed by many females on this site.

They read your message, they read your profile, they reply in positive sparkles.

The stage is alight, as you reply back to them in the hope that this is the show to take you to vegas!

Suddenly from nowehere she reads the message, doesnt reply and remains silent.

You wonder why as the magic trick ceases to continue.

This age old fab magic show seems to have occurred to me this time once again.

So females out there why would you do this to someone so sweet as I lol

Why do the females here, read a message sent to them, read the profile, respond positively and in kind, but then once you reply they read and stay silent?

They dont delete but stay silent.

you write again but they stay silent.

any thoughts?"

You are picking the wrong girls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its because there wife or partner has walked in and nearly caught them chatting to other men pretending to be a woman .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have this problem.

Honest guvnor!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some men get it and stop replying. Others don't and they keep on wondering.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Guessing something in the reply put them off."

This

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire


"i do this all the time and its nothing personal

i maybe just cant be bothered chatting at that moment snd then in a few days when i go back to it i think nah im over it if there was a spark i would have replied at the time "
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What,and you weren't even blocked?

That seriously embarrassing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or perhaps they saw something shiny and forgot

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Or perhaps they saw something shiny and forgot "

D.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Perhaps there was a lull of incoming mail when you first made contact, so they replied positively to you and perhaps to some others to encourage some flow. Once the deluge re-started, your contribution wasn't needed anymore. Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not contact one of your 13 veeified meets and chat with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps they saw something shiny and forgot "

Now this makes total sense....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps they saw something shiny and forgot

Now this makes total sense.... "

It's totally a thing, well it is in my world anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps they saw something shiny and forgot

Now this makes total sense....

It's totally a thing, well it is in my world anyway "

Njfflers, the lot of you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nifflers even....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just a no.

If and when that happens just move along.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Or perhaps they saw something shiny and forgot "

Or they remembered the kettle was boiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What sort of messages do you send in the first place?

A nice cordial message specific to the individual and their profile as I read all profiles anyway.

They or in this case "she" responded in kind complimenting me and my profile so I then replied (however 7hours later as life does happen) and since then ive had nothing but read and silence from her. Not even deleting to my messages, merely read and silence.

Just found that odd."

So your life happens

Perhaps hers did too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have the right to remain silent. "

And he is left feeling guilty of what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure we've all been there. Recently had his with a couple. She/they did not reply so I've got rid. If they're interested they can message me. You've just got to learn to accept this scenario.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Sometimes you might mean to reply but get side tracked, the momentum can be lost. Or, you don't want to offer encouragement.

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