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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Asking for a friend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Famously a wink has never worked on here, never. Hope this helps X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Asking for a friend x"

When I send them...rarely.

When I receive one...absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh wait a minute, there was a time when a woman replied to man who winked in 2004, but he just had something in his eye

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By *MattyMan
over a year ago

Naked coffee house near you - Wiltshire - Swindon

Very rarely does a wink do anything in my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh wait a minute, there was a time when a woman replied to man who winked in 2004, but he just had something in his eye "

They laugh about it now, great times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get them occassionally and I respond to them so yes, if you wink then you ll get my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couples just winked at me, they might be doing it ironically

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I tend to just wink back. The rest is up to them

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yep a wink I sent has lead to some amazing fun and friendship. So ye they can.

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

No

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

I reply if they catch my eye. But when I send them I don't get much of anything at all back

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be fair I don’t send them either at all or very rare.. if the woman/man likes the look of you they’ll talk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some great conversations which started with either me winking or receiving one myself.

Couple of friends and meets have been made from them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us no winks don’t work but for others they might and seeing as there are 30,000+ people on here the odds should be in your favor op.

T

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yeah I’ve met a few women where our first interaction was a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, our very first fmf started with a wink

D.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I dont look at my winks ....maybe I should lol

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

If we like a profile we used words to say so

Usually when we get winked, like the other profile so wink back, and then nothing...

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By *ull2getherMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I think they can work. I've found, if a guy (normally straight or bicurious) can't pluck up the courage to send a message, they'll wink. It's a small step that I can then choose to repay by sending a message if I'm interested. I've met (or chatted to) many guys who started off by sending me a wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tested ours and all 4 in good working order..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone sends me a wink I'll send a messsge to say thanks for the wink & see if it goes any further,though in my experience it rareley does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J here

Nothing wrong with a wink, Will send one back or message if we are interested, just gave to keep checking :/

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

Just north of Bristol

My most favourite fab friend ever came from a wink

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I get winks but only once has it been from someone that I have met.The rest of the winks I have had have been from guys , bi , tv/ts , who I am not interested in normally I just send back a message saying thanks for the wink but I am straight

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By *omeo1stMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

If someone smiles and winks at you when you are out in a pub, you’d quickly strike up a conversation... that’s not gonna happen anytime soon tho ... so why not on here ? Try it and see what happens ... you may be surprised

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Yes.

Definitely.

Hope that helps.

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By *ustfun1000Man
over a year ago

hanwell

A wink can start conversations and it’s way to break ice if unsure .

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

Yes they can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

Definitely.

Hope that helps.

"

I'd be winking if the distance wasn't so big

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

They can work. However we only respond about 5%, and that's with filters on. We would guess single guys have to do a hell of a lot of winking to get a reponse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are good for us, a good way of letting people see your profile and decide if they like what they see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who don't check them could be missing out on some great potential meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I think its a good way to Mabey start something, its a hello i see you, the annoying ones for me is when you may want to message back to say thanks, and you are out of there age range

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I very rarely check them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did get a wink once...I had to message them as I

thought she may have sent it by mistake.

But never had much luck sending them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did send a wink once, and it was reciprocated very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete them straight away so not for me.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I don’t think anything has ever come of a wink.

I got a wink yesterday from a “single female”. I sent her a message back thanking her. She sent me one back thanking me and saying she liked my pictures then nothing. Lol.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Face pic Friday worked better for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they dont and also messages don’t either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes , we’ve met some lovely people on here from a wink , can break the ice . Some people like them some don’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink if we are just having a quick browse and someone catches our eye. If someone winks us we look at the profile and if we like what we see we ping them a message xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, they can do

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By *itch74Woman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Sometimes

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

I winked at myself and ignored it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremely rately.

I wouldn't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Extremely rately.

I wouldn't bother."

I never reply to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would turn them off if it was an option on a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my conversations have started off the back of winks. Either me sending them or receiving them.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

I ignore them tbh

But I wish you luck OP

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

We've been on here for around 10 years and in all that time have only replied to around half a dozen winks. I wouldn't care to guess from how many thousand.

We do look at most profiles but if there is nothing related to our area or we just don't fancy him/her/them.

Our criteria is as follows.

No pic = ignore/delete.

Crappy heading = ignore/delete.

Thumbnail pic does nothing for us = ignore/delete.

From there on we will look at the profile then:

No mention of our area = ignore/delete.

Profiles that are too cock orientated = ignore/delete.

One or two line profiles = ignore/delete.

A decent profile that mentions that he/she/they are in or visit our area = interested.

Once interested if we like what we see we will probably fire off a thanks for the wink message.

In all the years we have met and played with only one guy that started with a wink on here.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I don’t think anything has ever come of a wink.

I got a wink yesterday from a “single female”. I sent her a message back thanking her. She sent me one back thanking me and saying she liked my pictures then nothing. Lol. "

Hold the front page. I’ve had another message lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 of my meets have come about after a wink, so yes they do work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Not for me.

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By *agnar1980Man
over a year ago

Poole

I like to get a wink as it shows some interest & then I would message back. I rarely get a response from one I’ve sent.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes, if I think they’re interesting I’ll message back or send a friend request if they’re a Tgirl.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I never even look at winks.

I may occasionally send one though - I know guys look and respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 1 woman wink me and we'll be meeting post-COVID (assuming she doesn't get bored of me before then ) - 100% success rate

I've winked a fair few women in the past and have had no responses! - 100% fail rate

So I guess winks probably work better for women than men based on my extensive research.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do look at winks, but if you're not in the category we're looking for and we think theres a chance of a decent connection and conversation, you might just get deleted

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We generally like to use the wink system as it states on our bio. Sometimes it saves time on messaging someone if they aren't interested. Obviously if they wink back we will drop them a message of if we receive a wink and we like them then we normally go straight for a message rather than wink back.

If we read on someone's bio that they do not respond to winks then if we like the look of them we will inbox them. Each to the own weather they like using the system or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it’s worked for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a wink I will always look a the profile and if I like the tone of what I am reading and the profile suggests they are the kind of person I am interested in meeting I will always send a reply.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

Once I would have said no, but recently I have been responding to wink of profiles I like and got chatting to some great people

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I live in hope of a wink.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've had meets off the back of winks so I'd say yes they can do

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

Yes they work, I prefer them to messages but not everyone uses them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We generally like to use the wink system as it states on our bio. Sometimes it saves time on messaging someone if they aren't interested. Obviously if they wink back we will drop them a message of if we receive a wink and we like them then we normally go straight for a message rather than wink back.

If we read on someone's bio that they do not respond to winks then if we like the look of them we will inbox them. Each to the own weather they like using the system or not. "

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

I've had a few over the weekend that may prove to work when we're over this virus. And my first ever fab meet came from receiving a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah they can work,

I leave a wink if there profile as a whole catches my eye

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I rarely look at winks to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. One of the guys I speak to most regularly (and will definitely by meeting after lockdown ) winked at me first, then I messaged him.

But I only glance at my winks about once a week if I’m honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply no! I have never had a reply from a wink! Perhaps I’m just an ugly bastard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess no I got a wink once and out of courtesy I winked back then nothing why wink when a hello is better IMHO

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Whether they work or not totally depends on what you hope to achieve with one.

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By *slite1Man
over a year ago

ludgershall

I like a wink. Sometimes it's easier to reply to a wink. Have replied if I like profile

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By *ymguy1966Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

I'll wink

IMO it gives the person/couple an opportunity to message IF interested.

Sometimes I like to message just to compliment if I see or read, not bothered if I get a reply really

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Sometimes works

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By *ymguy1966Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot


"I'll wink

IMO it gives the person/couple an opportunity to message IF interested.

Sometimes I like to message just to compliment if I see or read, not bothered if I get a reply really "

Dippy I meant if I see something I LIKE or read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get response to winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the 3 I sent in the last 48 hours I would say no...

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (her) don't pay any attention to our winks. Mr went through them last night and told me that we have had a lot from couples recently. I would much rather receive a little intro message.

I totally understand that sending a wink is often just a nice indication of interest. It's just the function doesn't get used by me or us.

Her x

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I dont send and I rarely reply

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West

Has worked for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If of course its followed up with something more than 15 dick pics and fancy a bit haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like recieving them.

I am sure a fabbed picture is better well it is better received well I don't mind anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely check winks. And when I do, I don't action anything.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I don’t know, I think mine is broke, cuz ain’t one for ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who you are winking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I take a trip down memory lane and share the power of a wink OP...

Two things...


"I did send a wink once, and it was reciprocated very well "

First is your status updates are killing me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only profiles that catch the eye work for winks... blank profiles or lack of just get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never "

Your 7th May pic...

Oh my lordy lord... are you kidding me!? Fuck !! Fellow kinky fruit lovers... check the edible treat from all natural woman

Taking "it's in the name" to a whole new level... ooooooft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before I take a trip down memory lane and share the power of a wink OP...

Two things...

I did send a wink once, and it was reciprocated very well

First is your status updates are killing me "

As in, they are soooo Bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before I take a trip down memory lane and share the power of a wink OP...

Two things...

I did send a wink once, and it was reciprocated very well

First is your status updates are killing me

As in, they are soooo Bad "

Yeah! Making my cheeks hurt kinda bad

An example - Trip down memory lane...

Doooooook! OP I have shared this in similar past threads so for all the new winkers out there...

Years ago as a newbie (don't laugh we were all newbies once) I used to be one of those trigger happy winkers! Couldn't get enough. Wasn't like I was expecting anything in return it was more like just a fun thing to do. If I liked something they wrote or something caught my eye or anything that just made me smile I will be winking... here there and everywhere...

Wink! Wink!

Ooooh look at that forum post! Winked!

I winked a woman... I know, right! Something to do with she was not happy with guys mistreating her etc so I thought a wink from me would sort that out... pffffft ! At that time my profile was even more basic than now... she just looked at my profile, but did not respond for 3 days... when she did I went off on one... 3 days... I been waiting 3 feckin days... literally full blown venting frustration as to why it took so long... (Hey! I was a newbie and didn't know how things work on here. Still don't to be honest )

I was like winking takes effort. Not easy you know! She was having non of it, but conversation flowed... not going into details again, but to do with clubs. Ended up with her telling me to prove it... show her if I was telling her the truth... show her I am the real deal or to good to be true! I know, how cheeky was she ffs

So...

We met! Yes Fab miracles do happen. She knew my love of food. For some reason pretty much all of my interactions/conversations have had food themes over the years... strange, but kinky! Many happy memories with her on our regular adventures we used to go on. A wink led to her making pancakes... breakfast in her bed

Winks are fun and can lead to real pleasurable moments. For the record I have not been part of the proud winking society for a long time. Because not much of a winker now, but have recieved some lovely, unexpected winks in recent times... so who knows! Winks could be making a come back haha

Please not. This is important. Serious cap is on:

There are Fabbers that don't like winks. They hate it so much to the point they edit profile to say things like "wink and get blocked" "don't bother winking" "winks ignored" etc please read profiles and respect others wishes. Don't pester.

In other words...

Be a responsible winker!

Have fun and happy #

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

Yes

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By *lint94Man
over a year ago

NW

Sometimes winks work, it just depends on the people of course, i got some great fun and great people as well by starting to wink at them!

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