FabSwingers.com forum: Soothers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you do any ‘weird’ things to calm yourself down when anxious?

One of mine is chewing my clothes.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Breathing deeply

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *risky businessMan
over a year ago

APharaohWay

Non stop pacing always need new carpets

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pull/fiddle with my earlobe.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Breathing deeply "

Not weird at all

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Non stop pacing always need new carpets "

And I hope you don’t shock yourself too often?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Breathing deeply "

Yes. And grounding exercises.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I pull/fiddle with my earlobe."

I’ve seen people do similar things.

I also clench my jaw

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Coping with anxiety doesn't have to be weird

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Breathing deeply

Yes. And grounding exercises. "

I can do them for others, not myself though. They’re good though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Coping with anxiety doesn't have to be weird "

No not at all. I’m just curious about ‘weird’ coping mechanisms people have. I have healthy ones, but I’ve also got ‘weird’ tells

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking about Halls Menthol?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Coping with anxiety doesn't have to be weird

No not at all. I’m just curious about ‘weird’ coping mechanisms people have. I have healthy ones, but I’ve also got ‘weird’ tells "

Cleaning over and over

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Esctasy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tap myself mainly on my forehead or shake my legs and feet.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Esctasy "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also sometimes pinch my forearm or literally bite my tongue.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Esctasy "

Your a bit old

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Coping with anxiety doesn't have to be weird

No not at all. I’m just curious about ‘weird’ coping mechanisms people have. I have healthy ones, but I’ve also got ‘weird’ tells

Cleaning over and over"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Coping with anxiety doesn't have to be weird

No not at all. I’m just curious about ‘weird’ coping mechanisms people have. I have healthy ones, but I’ve also got ‘weird’ tells

Cleaning over and over

Even though I know its spotless

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ustlookingjessWoman
over a year ago

Hum

Tap my foot incessantly

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"Esctasy

Your a bit old"

Think your a bit opinionated..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tap myself mainly on my forehead or shake my legs and feet. "

The leg shake is annoying because I hardly notice it until someone tells me to stop because it’s annoying

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also sometimes pinch my forearm or literally bite my tongue. "

Ouch.

Saying that, I do like the trick with a band on a wrist and snapping it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Esctasy

Your a bit old

Think your a bit opinionated.. "

Do you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Coping with anxiety doesn't have to be weird

No not at all. I’m just curious about ‘weird’ coping mechanisms people have. I have healthy ones, but I’ve also got ‘weird’ tells

Cleaning over and over

Even though I know its spotless "

Ah that’s tough.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"Esctasy

Your a bit old

Think your a bit opinionated..

Do you"

No, or I wouldn’t of said it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Esctasy

Your a bit old

Think your a bit opinionated..

Do you

No, or I wouldn’t of said it "

Bless

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also sometimes pinch my forearm or literally bite my tongue.

Ouch.

Saying that, I do like the trick with a band on a wrist and snapping it. "

When I had long hair I used to do this with my hairbands. Helps.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tap my foot incessantly "

I do this too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm a scratcher and a picker. There's one patch of skin just above my right knee that I will scratch and scratch.

I find pimple popping videos help with the picking - they give me the same tiny release of tension.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a scratcher and a picker. There's one patch of skin just above my right knee that I will scratch and scratch.

I find pimple popping videos help with the picking - they give me the same tiny release of tension."

I’ve seen that they help. I can’t cope with them though I love picking.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a scratcher and a picker. There's one patch of skin just above my right knee that I will scratch and scratch.

I find pimple popping videos help with the picking - they give me the same tiny release of tension."

I am a terrible picker too! There is more of us.. if I recall from some previous threads. Have couple of pimples which I wont let heal fully. I organised someone to keep telling me off about it. Helps a little. And I so love watching blackheads squashing videos

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I twiddle my hair around my finger. If i’m really stressed it ends up in a knot

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is wanking!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I'm a scratcher and a picker. There's one patch of skin just above my right knee that I will scratch and scratch.

I find pimple popping videos help with the picking - they give me the same tiny release of tension.

I never had spots, even as a teenager, which is probably just as well.

I now have menopausal acne and I'm a bugger with it. One of my mates threatened to get me those scratch mitts you get for babies, stop me messing with it!

Thank all that's holy for Josefa Reina

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I twiddle my hair around my finger. If i’m really stressed it ends up in a knot

"
I used to love doing this.

I also love combing my beard out combing through it with my fingers but at really bad times I lose lots of it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tap myself mainly on my forehead or shake my legs and feet.

The leg shake is annoying because I hardly notice it until someone tells me to stop because it’s annoying

Yep I don't realise I'm doing it. But Once I'm told I suck my thumb instead and do it to sleep also.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mine is wanking!"

Walking is quite common actually. Can be tough to stop off it’sa coping mechanism do you think?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tap myself mainly on my forehead or shake my legs and feet.

The leg shake is annoying because I hardly notice it until someone tells me to stop because it’s annoying

Yep I don't realise I'm doing it. But Once I'm told I suck my thumb instead and do it to sleep also."

Ooo. I don’t have any that help me sleep actually.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a scratcher and a picker. There's one patch of skin just above my right knee that I will scratch and scratch.

I find pimple popping videos help with the picking - they give me the same tiny release of tension.

I never had spots, even as a teenager, which is probably just as well.

I now have menopausal acne and I'm a bugger with it. One of my mates threatened to get me those scratch mitts you get for babies, stop me messing with it!

Thank all that's holy for Josefa Reina

Haha! I wish there was something like the nail polish for biters to make me stop. I have been fairly good for last couple of days. It's just my chin. Hormonal spots. Before period usually.

There is something so satisfying about getting a hearty squeeze and knowing the bumpy surface it's gone even if its bleeding and oozing

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write my shopping list or pluck my eyebrows.

Sometimes I call my dad to discuss politics so I can replace anxiety with rage. Depends how masochist I’m feeling

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a scratcher and a picker. There's one patch of skin just above my right knee that I will scratch and scratch.

I find pimple popping videos help with the picking - they give me the same tiny release of tension.

I never had spots, even as a teenager, which is probably just as well.

I now have menopausal acne and I'm a bugger with it. One of my mates threatened to get me those scratch mitts you get for babies, stop me messing with it!

Thank all that's holy for Josefa Reina

Haha! I wish there was something like the nail polish for biters to make me stop. I have been fairly good for last couple of days. It's just my chin. Hormonal spots. Before period usually.

There is something so satisfying about getting a hearty squeeze and knowing the bumpy surface it's gone even if its bleeding and oozing

Those videos make me wish I had spots to pop

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is wanking!

Walking is quite common actually. Can be tough to stop off it’sa coping mechanism do you think?

Same same!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Write my shopping list or pluck my eyebrows.

Sometimes I call my dad to discuss politics so I can replace anxiety with rage. Depends how masochist I’m feeling "

Make sure you don't pluck too much from the top. You may look surprised!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Write my shopping list or pluck my eyebrows.

Sometimes I call my dad to discuss politics so I can replace anxiety with rage. Depends how masochist I’m feeling "

This is relatable. Someone said to me one that I was spending so much time learning and then ranting about specific social issues to do exactly that. It really is masochism isn’t it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I hum to myself my husband often says I do it when I’m sleeping also not all the time just when I’m going through a anxious time...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hum to myself my husband often says I do it when I’m sleeping also not all the time just when I’m going through a anxious time..."

Any specific or common tunes?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hum to myself my husband often says I do it when I’m sleeping also not all the time just when I’m going through a anxious time...

Any specific or common tunes?

Hush lil baby go to sleep...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Write my shopping list or pluck my eyebrows.

Sometimes I call my dad to discuss politics so I can replace anxiety with rage. Depends how masochist I’m feeling "

Gosh I used to get so much satisfaction about using my tweezers here and there haha. That stopped now though. Less anxious that I used to be few months back.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *emma HoldenTV/TS
over a year ago

Ramsey

"Are we talking about Halls Menthol?"

Had to happen with that thread title lol. Peach & raspberry please. If yer buying me some?

I could do with something to suck on to lubricate my throat.....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play with my bracelet. My auntie (2nd mum) got me it before she passed away from breast cancer. For me it's like she's part of me with the bracelet

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rishcowboy36Man
over a year ago

dundalk

I'm Irish and I pick arguments with everything

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Chewing my nails and pacing! I do some miles up and the living room! Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rishcowboy36Man
over a year ago

dundalk

And also the creeps on this site give the ladies a big head dont you agree lads

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rishcowboy36Man
over a year ago

dundalk

I say stop chasing the ladies boys like fuck it lets go for the easy life

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say stop chasing the ladies boys like fuck it lets go for the easy life

You just looking for an argument aren't you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

"And also the creeps on this site give the ladies a big head dont you agree lads

"
fair comment tbf

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we talking about Halls Menthol?

Had to happen with that thread title lol. Peach & raspberry please. If yer buying me some?

I could do with something to suck on to lubricate my throat.....

Lubricate my throat.. that is the phrase I'm going to adopt !

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I play with my bracelet. My auntie (2nd mum) got me it before she passed away from breast cancer. For me it's like she's part of me with the bracelet"

It’s interesting the things we use to soothe us

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chewing my nails and pacing! I do some miles up and the living room! Lol"

Ah of course nail biting. Took me ages to stop

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Write my shopping list or pluck my eyebrows.

Sometimes I call my dad to discuss politics so I can replace anxiety with rage. Depends how masochist I’m feeling

Gosh I used to get so much satisfaction about using my tweezers here and there haha. That stopped now though. Less anxious that I used to be few months back. "

It’s funny the things we do to just calm ourselves down a bit.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"I hum to myself my husband often says I do it when I’m sleeping also not all the time just when I’m going through a anxious time...

Any specific or common tunes?

"
I have been know to hum cwm by ya my lord which is strange as I’m not remotely religious and also three little birds by bob Marley I can explain that song as it’s a song that always makes me feel happy ...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I used to recite in my head a long road trips directions to a favourite place.

I don't get much anxiety now that I am meditating at the beach once a week when we have our yoga class

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to recite in my head a long road trips directions to a favourite place.

I don't get much anxiety now that I am meditating at the beach once a week when we have our yoga class"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hum to myself my husband often says I do it when I’m sleeping also not all the time just when I’m going through a anxious time...

Any specific or common tunes?

I have been know to hum cwm by ya my lord which is strange as I’m not remotely religious and also three little birds by bob Marley I can explain that song as it’s a song that always makes me feel happy ..."

Excellent choices. Bob is soothing for me too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

None of this is weird to me btw

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"None of this is weird to me btw"

Thank you!

Although the biting clothes thing I’ve been told is weird by a few people

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"None of this is weird to me btw

Thank you!

Although the biting clothes thing I’ve been told is weird by a few people

Judging other people's coping mechanisms is weird

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ottielayWoman
over a year ago

by the bay

I smell my hair

Always have done since I was little

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biting clothes is an self stimulatory behaviour or sign of oral fixation..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always twirl my hair into a loop and hold it to my eye like a monocle.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None of this is weird to me btw

Thank you!

Although the biting clothes thing I’ve been told is weird by a few people

I used to do this, particularly the bottom of the sleeves on hoodies! My leg shakes, I chew pens and I tend to whistle when I’m anxious, I know it annoys some people but it’s involuntary!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I smell my hair

Always have done since I was little "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Biting clothes is an self stimulatory behaviour or sign of oral fixation.."

I just had a google. That’s so interesting. Thank you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always twirl my hair into a loop and hold it to my eye like a monocle. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"None of this is weird to me btw

Thank you!

Although the biting clothes thing I’ve been told is weird by a few people

I used to do this, particularly the bottom of the sleeves on hoodies! My leg shakes, I chew pens and I tend to whistle when I’m anxious, I know it annoys some people but it’s involuntary!

YES!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I plug in my earphones and listen to ASMR on youtube to get to sleep...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread