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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walked by a river earlier and I thought I wish I had a canoe, walking is for suckers, might look into getting a Kayak.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I do. I am single and pay all my bills even when I lived with a partner I still paid all my bills and rent etc and sometimes his share of the rent as well.I don't see why anyone male or female who works shouldn't be responsible for their own bills etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too. "

So do I

But thats another thread Fiddles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I walked by a river earlier and I thought I wish I had a canoe, walking is for suckers, might look into getting a Kayak. "

No Kayaking hurts your arms - youre better of with a motorboat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do. I am single and pay all my bills even when I lived with a partner I still paid all my bills and rent etc and sometimes his share of the rent as well.I don't see why anyone male or female who works shouldn't be responsible for their own bills etc. "

I agree - but I guess a lot of women have children and their partner or the government pay their rent etc ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I walked by a river earlier and I thought I wish I had a canoe, walking is for suckers, might look into getting a Kayak.

No Kayaking hurts your arms - youre better of with a motorboat "

I should have gone on Bullseye when I had the chance

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do.

There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.

My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month

Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff

It's fucking tough

P

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I do, since I was about 24

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Yes I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done since my first bedsit at 19.... as said above its tough at times but the independence makes it worthwhile

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes, I do.

Just!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m totally self sufficient, although I wouldn’t say no to being a kept man to a hot sexy woman

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Before I left home home, I used to hand over half of my wages to the household.

Since leaving I’ve paid my own bills and rent, with no help from family, parents or government. Even when I lived with someone, he could afford to cover our household expenses, but that’s not me and I paid my equal half

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too.

So do I

But thats another thread Fiddles "

Is that the thread where I get to motor boat your boobs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I do.

There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.

My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month

Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff

It's fucking tough

P"

I know how you feel Peachy

I live off of credit cards that never get paid off.

I was so much better off financially in the shit relationship I was in.

But I'd rather be broke and independent than with a control freak!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Yes, of course.

I grew up in poverty and I've tried my best to protect myself against ending up back there.

I've also seen money used as a tool to exert control in relationships, so I would always want to make money for myself rather than have a partner hold the purse strings.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true "

I have a SUP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find it alien now if someone “helped me out” I’ve always stood on my own two feet but I never had any other choice anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not a moment was going start in new job in april but due current events so i have job but not started yet and not getting paid for it so signed up for uc guy on phone said pretty unique said yeah tell me about it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do.

There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.

My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month

Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff

It's fucking tough

P"

Wow that is crap can you not get any help at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do. I always have. Not a stich of maintenance from my boys dad ever either.

However it doesn't make me any better or worse than anyone else. There's no shame in people getting the help they are entitled to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would find it alien now if someone “helped me out” I’ve always stood on my own two feet but I never had any other choice anyway x"
off topic i bowed at your pics and your profile weird i know but lockdown got me in heat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do.

There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.

My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month

Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff

It's fucking tough

P"

I hear you. Although I have a relatively good job, I need a second job on top just to cover all the bills and keep us in food.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"I do. I’ll help my daughter paddle her canoe occasionally.

It feels great! "

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Yes I do. I'm a single mum and work damn hard for it!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I dont have any help from anyone ..... I’m financially independent no Gov help ... work and have a couple of pensions .... mortgage paid off and other house to be sold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do. I'm a single mum. One in uni. One at home. I'm the only wage earner. No benefits. Never gotten maintenance either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would find it alien now if someone “helped me out” I’ve always stood on my own two feet but I never had any other choice anyway xoff topic i bowed at your pics and your profile weird i know but lockdown got me in heat lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have done since my first bedsit at 19.... as said above its tough at times but the independence makes it worthwhile "

It's so worthwhile!

I won't let anyone control my life ever again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would find it alien now if someone “helped me out” I’ve always stood on my own two feet but I never had any other choice anyway xoff topic i bowed at your pics and your profile weird i know but lockdown got me in heat lol "
sorry haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true

I have a SUP "

What is a SUP?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true

I have a SUP

What is a SUP?"

Nothings up ??? You ok hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do.

There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.

My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month

Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff

It's fucking tough

P

Wow that is crap can you not get any help at all "

I don't think so, and to be honest even if I could I doubt I would. When I was off sick (remember when I had the breakdown a few years back) one of my sick notes ran out on the Friday and I couldn't get a Drs appointment til the Monday so a 2 day gap. Work thought they'd do me a favour so I didn't lose out and paid me holiday for those 2 days.

Holy fuckballs, caused a right shit storm and I had to pay back £886 in housing benefit for earning whilst claiming even though it was clear to see what had happened. It's completely put me off claiming any kind of benefit in the future. It can so easily go tits up and leave you in a worse position than you were.

P

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By *lackCherry...Woman
over a year ago

North East

I'm a single mum and pay everything out of my wages but we're stretched very thinly and I couldnt do it on a lower wage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do.

There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.

My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month

Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff

It's fucking tough

P

I hear you. Although I have a relatively good job, I need a second job on top just to cover all the bills and keep us in food. "

I've thought about a second job for ages, shit bit is I never know what shifts I'm on from one week to the next, so planning is non existent, plus I'm the "reliable" one who covers shifts so I'm regularly getting called in, or asked to swap at very short notice. I could look for something else and make my current job my second job I guess, but they'd have to work round me not the other way round. It's scary, I've been at my place 11 years now.

P

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I have done in the past.

I was the main wage earner when with my ex and for many years with husband.

This does still seem to be relatively unusual.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true "

Yes I am

Yes I do And still enjoy a comfortable lifestyle

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By *onglegs888Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true "

Yep - I (Mr) have been financially independent since I left home at 16. Worked since I was 16 and never claimed a penny from the state. Have been through tough times but worked damned hard, have a good job and now enjoy a very comfortable lifestyle. And I put a large amount of being where I am now financially down to having to be independent and get through some tough times alone.

I’m drilling into my teenage lad now work hard, educate yourself, get qualifications, fill your CV and take the odd risk. From

The earliest age possible be responsible for yourself and you’ll be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I am a single parent to 3 children, work full time and have no debt other than my mortgage.

I am fully self sufficient, live a comfortable lifestyle but have made huge sacrifices along the way to do so.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true "

I paddle what sometimes seems like a barge against the flow of water with a tooth pick

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Yep, totally financially independent. House, car, bills all paid for by me. Only income I have other than my wage is the basic child benefit. Never claimed for any other benefits although fairly sure that there have been times I would have been entitled to.

Sometimes it is hard to make ends meet but we manage & it is satisfying knowing that everything I have I have earned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Canoe....its more of a short body board really....

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do and have done for a long time, no plans to change wouldn't like to be dependent on anyone else.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

I most definitely paddle my own canoe.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I been financially independent for 4 years now. Saved up and went on an Asia tour by myself. Love solo travelling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had to start over aged 53, will be working forever, c'est la vie!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I pay my half of all our bills. Neither of us would be able to afford it alone though. If we split up I think we'd each have to look for somewhere to rent in shared houses or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do.

There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.

My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month

Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff

It's fucking tough

P

Wow that is crap can you not get any help at all

I don't think so, and to be honest even if I could I doubt I would. When I was off sick (remember when I had the breakdown a few years back) one of my sick notes ran out on the Friday and I couldn't get a Drs appointment til the Monday so a 2 day gap. Work thought they'd do me a favour so I didn't lose out and paid me holiday for those 2 days.

Holy fuckballs, caused a right shit storm and I had to pay back £886 in housing benefit for earning whilst claiming even though it was clear to see what had happened. It's completely put me off claiming any kind of benefit in the future. It can so easily go tits up and leave you in a worse position than you were.

P"

Jeez that's a fucking piss take xx

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh


"I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too.

So do I

But thats another thread Fiddles

Is that the thread where I get to motor boat your boobs. "

What does that mean ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

I am a single parent to 3 children, work full time and have no debt other than my mortgage.

I am fully self sufficient, live a comfortable lifestyle but have made huge sacrifices along the way to do so."

No debt other than a mortgage and three kids is impressive

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

I do. I made a conscious effort to buy a house that I really like rather than live in something I despised because it’s cheaper, and have since paid off everything I owe other than my mortgage. It’s a huge pressure that’s disappeared and I don’t want to end up having to borrow unless I really have no other option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true "

Do you get child benefit?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Financially independent, no help, and actually have to provide some assistance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im pretty selfish, so I much prefer to be independent.

Live alone (with my dog)

Bring in just below 2 bags a month

Zero debt

Exceptionally rare I use my credit cards or store accounts (i'd rather pay outright)

I'll be buying & running a car in the next 2 months when my ban finishes

Then i'll probably think about buying my house

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?

Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?

I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.

And most people have help.

Surely this isn't true

Do you get child benefit?"

I don't have children.

I don’t get any benefits - I'm not judging anyone that does - it was just a conversation I had that I was curious about others circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too.

So do I

But thats another thread Fiddles

Is that the thread where I get to motor boat your boobs.

What does that mean ???"

I dont know what it means either

I think it means he's a perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, I have a sailboat these days, but it's not really something that ever bothered me about a person. I'm not worried by the state of your finances unless you take too much of an interest in mine and then I'm just ever so slightly cautious....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been luck in life, not always easy but I get there. Mortgage, bills, two though education etc. Are all covered by myself. I just hope it stays that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I paddle my Partners bottom when she doesnt pay the bills...does that count? lol

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh


"I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too.

So do I

But thats another thread Fiddles

Is that the thread where I get to motor boat your boobs.

What does that mean ???

I dont know what it means either

I think it means he's a perv "

Hahahaha. Thanks for that x

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Guess so, own my property outright and retired last year, I have more disposable income than when I was working just nothing to spend it on at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, totally financially independent. House, car, bills all paid for by me. Only income I have other than my wage is the basic child benefit. Never claimed for any other benefits although fairly sure that there have been times I would have been entitled to.

Sometimes it is hard to make ends meet but we manage & it is satisfying knowing that everything I have I have earned. "

Why wouldn't you claim benefits that you thought you were entitled to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not yet but working to get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, financially independent. I don't have to work, but I can do more fun things if I do. Also, with more time on my hands I would just do stupid shit....

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have my own canoe and I paddle it myself. I consider myself to be fortunate. I’ve seen a lot of people struggling at this time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Financially independent and feel very lucky to still be that way especially in the current climate. I work very hard but also been very lucky in life

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