FabSwingers.com forum: Have you ever used a safe word?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If so what made you do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

G here. An ex was interested in exploring consensual non-consent, and we set a safe word in case either of us became uncomfortable with things along the way, since she wanted to be able to say “no” and “stop” without meaning them as part of the play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never used as I forgot

We were meeting a couple for the first time and chose two similar words to mean, yes- proceed or no- run away.

Anyway forgot which word was which.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

I asked for one once... he said I didnt deserve one

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

No I haven't, I've been pretty close on occasion but M has stopped at that moment, before I've would have said it.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I just say stop or no. Never really seen the point of any other words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it was Mom. When my Dad used to chase me around the garden with a cane in his hand.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

"I just say stop or no. Never really seen the point of any other words."

It's easy to say no, and not really mean it, because it's such a natural reaction when something is borderline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"G here. An ex was interested in exploring consensual non-consent, and we set a safe word in case either of us became uncomfortable with things along the way, since she wanted to be able to say “no” and “stop” without meaning them as part of the play. "

Try and say 'consensual non-consent' very fast.

Sorry finding my own entertainment here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More of a safe look as they usually had a ball gag on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, as I was getting 60 of the best and I needed a pause

It was a big thing for me, as using my voice can be something I struggle with at times

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Yes. No.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Yes but very rarely needed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines my ex husbands name, cause I’m never gonna say that it the heat of enjoyment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had one, but rarely ever used it.. Obviously he knew when i was reaching it, took it down a level until I was ready for more.

regardless if its a word/look/hand signal/whatever.. communication is so so important!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't have one with my partner because he knows if I say stop I mean it. I've only done it once when things got too intense and I just went off in to space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Banana

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Yes

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I just say stop or no. Never really seen the point of any other words.

It's easy to say no, and not really mean it, because it's such a natural reaction when something is borderline. "

When i say no i mean it. No will always mean no to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Someone once told me to say champaign if I wanted out. I never needed it though.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone asked me if I would use a safe word. I didn't know why I'd need one surely my body language will tell you whether I'm enjoying it or not?

No, not always , he said.

I'm sure when I kick you in the face you'll get the message.

Didn't meet him

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