FabSwingers.com forum: When you spot a profile you like the look of....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Send a message only to find the message hasn’t sent, as it has just been deleted.

Great. Looks like it was either fake, inundated by messages or blocked me for some reason.

Oh well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I probably scared her off tbh

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By *egalBeetleWoman
over a year ago

London

It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on."

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Yep one of those o/p...message someone else...good luck!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?"

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

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By *egalBeetleWoman
over a year ago

London

It's not a bar, again I'm still not obliged to say hello. If I want to ignore someone.. I have the right to.

Maybe that person makes me feel uncomfortable, I dont want to say hello, I dont like the look of them or I'm d*unk and dont notice.

But this isnt a bar, and maybe I've made my decision that I dont want to reply because I'm not interested and replying would be its own drama.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

A couple of times i have clicked onto a message to read only to delete it accidently as pressed wrong button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

‘I said you had nice tits it’s rude to ignore a compliment. Some people are so stuck up’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes when I haven’t been on for a while, I just do a mass delete of messages. Very refreshing to see all those yellow rows disappear. Maybe send one more message just to check?

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?"

Do you answer the junkmail put through your door?

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By *hatty GuyMan
over a year ago

The Borough of St Peter

Shit happens

Deal with it and move on

Don't pin all your hopes on one person replying, it's a two way thing, they'll have their reasons. If it's meant to be then it'll happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send a message only to find the message hasn’t sent, as it has just been deleted.

Great. Looks like it was either fake, inundated by messages or blocked me for some reason.

Oh well.

Maybe she isn't interested?

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

‘I said you had nice tits it’s rude to ignore a compliment. Some people are so stuck up’ "

I can't believe you still remember our first IRL words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Joy's of auto deletion and blocking. Dont worry about and get used to it. You will finally chat to someone with manners and with the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?"

Depends.

Sometimes we would ignore them, sometimes we wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine its totally different men to women on here. Girs must have literally hundreds of messages.

Its a bit like life, you need to stand out from the crowd, catch there eye, and work at it.

Girls like effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

‘I said you had nice tits it’s rude to ignore a compliment. Some people are so stuck up’

I can't believe you still remember our first IRL words

Hard to forget the 278th person to say hello to me in a bar with their penis out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

I reckon if I handed out three hundred pictures of my cock in a bar I could get at least ten people interested...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

Yes! This!!

Or just came to you and said : 'will you suck my cock', ' I want to cum on your tits', will you piss on me ', can I fuck you then your sister' or any of the other shit that is deemed appropriate to send!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes when I haven’t been on for a while, I just do a mass delete of messages. Very refreshing to see all those yellow rows disappear. Maybe send one more message just to check?"

I have done this before. Send another message to check if it had been received, to them get ‘fuck off, stop hounding me’ as a reply. I sent one message then one more three days later!

I get some may get hundreds of messages a day, but why not just cut and copy a ‘thank you but not interested’ message to those who you are not interesting on that have actually bothered to write a proper message to you.

From personal experience, if I have actually taken the time to write a personal message without just saying ‘fancy a shag’ then I do think that out of courtesy the recipient could at least just say they are not interested.

Again. Personal opinion and I guess I don’t have to reply to hundreds a day either lol

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

Hate to break it to you OP, but not everyone will like you...

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

This guy gets it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate to break it to you OP, but not everyone will like you..."

Everyone likes me though...

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Sometimes when I haven’t been on for a while, I just do a mass delete of messages. Very refreshing to see all those yellow rows disappear. Maybe send one more message just to check?

I have done this before. Send another message to check if it had been received, to them get ‘fuck off, stop hounding me’ as a reply. I sent one message then one more three days later!

Again. Personal opinion and I guess I don’t have to reply to hundreds a day either lol "

Some only come on here for a short while and they'll be damned of they're going to spend an hour or more opening each message to copy and paste any kind of reply.

Also to reply is to open a dialogue where they can get through your filters regardless if they change them to block say men for instance....what's the point then?

As fab rules will tell you, take no reply as a polite 'no thankyou' and move on.

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

"Hate to break it to you OP, but not everyone will like you...

Everyone likes me though..."

Ah, but you aren't the OP.

You're obviously the exception that proves the rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?"

Yes but imagine if 500 men all said hello to us at that bar,all at the same time. Do you really think a woman would reply to each one then? That's what it's like on fab for girls x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

Yes but imagine if 500 men all said hello to us at that bar,all at the same time. Do you really think a woman would reply to each one then? That's what it's like on fab for girls x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes when I haven’t been on for a while, I just do a mass delete of messages. Very refreshing to see all those yellow rows disappear. Maybe send one more message just to check?

I have done this before. Send another message to check if it had been received, to them get ‘fuck off, stop hounding me’ as a reply. I sent one message then one more three days later!

Again. Personal opinion and I guess I don’t have to reply to hundreds a day either lol

Some only come on here for a short while and they'll be damned of they're going to spend an hour or more opening each message to copy and paste any kind of reply.

Also to reply is to open a dialogue where they can get through your filters regardless if they change them to block say men for instance....what's the point then?

As fab rules will tell you, take no reply as a polite 'no thankyou' and move on."

True. It is disheartening though when you spend time to write a personal message to find it’s just been deleted. But I guess that’s the way it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on."

Just common manners isnt it.

Nobody likes anybody who thinks they are superior for having a fanny..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha, some genius responses on here guys.

Tbh I can handle anything life throws at me, I was just bored and thought I would make a talking point about it. Everyone has a type and gets rejected from time to time. It happens, then you move on.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

I reckon if I handed out three hundred pictures of my cock in a bar I could get at least ten people interested...

7 of them would be the bouncers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

Yes but imagine if 500 men all said hello to us at that bar,all at the same time. Do you really think a woman would reply to each one then? That's what it's like on fab for girls x"

500 men saying hello at a bar? Fuck me all I want is a drink and who are all these numpties I’m stood behind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?

If 300 people said hello to you in a bar with their penis would you ignore them?

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

Just common manners isnt it.

Nobody likes anybody who thinks they are superior for having a fanny.."

I try and politely reply to messages even though I get a lot (and I don't get as many as some on here), but when someone send me a message telling me what they want to do to me before they've even said hello or introduced themselves, then yes, I do delete it, I'd they are going to be rude then so am I.

It works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

Just common manners isnt it.

Nobody likes anybody who thinks they are superior for having a fanny.."

What if the message hasn't been seen. I currently have 357 unread messages. Most of those I can't see anymore because fab doesn't let me see them. So I may do a bulk delete. It's not about superiority it's about practicality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

Just common manners isnt it.

Nobody likes anybody who thinks they are superior for having a fanny..

It works both ways.

Yup!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

Just common manners isnt it.

Nobody likes anybody who thinks they are superior for having a fanny..

It works both ways.

Damn I was half way through writing one of those messages to you too.....

Lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

Just common manners isnt it.

Nobody likes anybody who thinks they are superior for having a fanny..

It works both ways.

Worst ones are when you try and be funny and its taken seriously lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 65 unread messages in my inbox, I will probably bulk delete them soon. Nothing personal I just haven’t got the energy or inclination to read them. I’m sure it’s the same for many others too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really do get the frustration. If people would only read profiles. I'm very clear about what I'm looking for, and if I only received messages from those who genuinely felt they were what I was looking for, I'd be able to read them all and reply, showing politeness and manners. But instead, people from all over the country message me and clog up my inbox, spoiling it for those people who I might actually connect with.

It's frustrating both ways, and I do understand OP's point of view, but it's not because girls are being rude. Far from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes when I haven’t been on for a while, I just do a mass delete of messages. Very refreshing to see all those yellow rows disappear. Maybe send one more message just to check?

I have done this before. Send another message to check if it had been received, to them get ‘fuck off, stop hounding me’ as a reply. I sent one message then one more three days later!

Again. Personal opinion and I guess I don’t have to reply to hundreds a day either lol

Some only come on here for a short while and they'll be damned of they're going to spend an hour or more opening each message to copy and paste any kind of reply.

Also to reply is to open a dialogue where they can get through your filters regardless if they change them to block say men for instance....what's the point then?

As fab rules will tell you, take no reply as a polite 'no thankyou' and move on."

(Whispers sweetly) wink at me Sophie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also guilty of reading a message and then seeing something shiny and getting distracted, and now of bulk deletes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been sent-probably deleted quickly.

Why not?? Why do men/OP feel they are entitled to a reply?

Its part of life, everyone has rejection at some point and we move on.

If someone said hello to you in a bar would you ignore them?"

No, but I might want to

here we have the option to do so.

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