FabSwingers.com forum: Distance when messaging?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Usually check if it’s for a potential meet. Sometimes we message because of forums or status so we don’t check then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they’re from the forums, nah. Outside the forums, aye

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I like road trips and weekends away...plus there's not really anyone I'm interested in locally

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Not really bothered where they are

the type of meets we are interested in are based on a weekend away so it really doesn’t matter as we will happily travel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Geography is just a function of time and interest...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If it's for a potential meet, and they are over 300 miles away?

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Depends on how you think you'd get on face to face and what for.

A quick fuck then distance is an issue, properly enjoying time together as well then I'm happy to travel.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Distance isn't overly an issue plus most of my conversations start off the back of forum posts so distance isn't a factor at that point

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Dont bother me either I like road trips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's for a potential meet, and they are over 300 miles away?"

They can fuck right off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why someone winks when they are miles away... I anyone that winks just didn't bother reading my profile tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to meet locally so I set my postcode elsewhere as I like to travel. I've had long term fwbs live 3 hours from me a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's for a potential meet, and they are over 300 miles away?"

Thats too far. My furthest was 150 miles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like to meet locally so I set my postcode elsewhere as I like to travel. I've had long term fwbs live 3 hours from me a few times. "

That can't be all that easy to sustain for a long period of time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer regular meets with someone, so if they are over 300 miles away it's not going to happen regularly is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll look but I might not be messaging for a meet; sometimes it’s purely to compliment them on a nice/hot pic or video.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they’re from the forums, nah. Outside the forums, aye"

Same. I'll travel to meet people I've made friends with on the forums.

But I wont go searching for people more than 30 miles away

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested....."

Some people travel to different areas of the country with work (under normal circumstances)

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested....."

No idea but apparently the Scottish and irish are extremely friendly and chatty

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested....."
Its a small world theses days ..we have met people from Spain..Bournemouth ...London...and we live in the North West ..you never know .....

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'd say it depends on the person and the connection I had with them through messaging. If it's one of the site lotharios with women constantly after him, I probably wouldn't make too much of an effort unless I felt a REALLY strong connection, as the likelihood is he'll just move on to the next in line once we've met. But hell yes if it's someone that I've really clicked with over extended messaging - at the very least I get to see a different part of the country and a stay in a nice hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do look but it’s not really an issue for us as we like a weekend away and it seems the couples we speak with tend to travel too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I only meet locally or in clubs, although I've formed connections from the forum and may yet travel for some of them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only meet locally or in clubs, although I've formed connections from the forum and may yet travel for some of them."

I would agree with this. I've connected with people on the forum and then met them, but that's because we clicked on here, but I don't understand why people message looking for meets from so far

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

It depends really. I have few travel plans when this all over so started chatting few couples from places I’m planning to visit.

Also few couples contacted me as they are planning to have weekend breaks around the country and could come closer whenever happens.

However, it would be a concern, if you are not into one-off meets as they likely to end up like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t look at distance but that is because work takes me pretty much everywhere regularly so that suits me.

I would feel awkward about someone I had not already met travelling a long way to me however. Unless it was a person I already knew.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"I’ll look but I might not be messaging for a meet; sometimes it’s purely to compliment them on a nice/hot pic or video."

And that one as well

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I have a local fwb already so I tend to play further afield and tie it in with a weekend away or arrange to meet at a fab social party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distance has never been an issue for me. In the new world order we will find ourselves in then it may be forced upon us not to do so much travelling.

But in if someone has engaged me in many levels and piqued my interest have car will travel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested....."
because i don't care how far i travel simples.......... what happened to pic challenge thingy?

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

I would and planning too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distance doesn’t really matter if the connection is there, this is an occasional as opposed to daily thing for us so why not make it special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make sure im at least 2 metres away before i message just to be on the safe side

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It all depends what you are looking for, regular / weekly then you need local.

Personally, distance doesn’t matter because if you click you’ll travel. I’ve not dismissed anyone I talk to because of where they live

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I'd say it depends on the person and the connection I had with them through messaging. If it's one of the site lotharios with women constantly after him, I probably wouldn't make too much of an effort unless I felt a REALLY strong connection, as the likelihood is he'll just move on to the next in line once we've met. But hell yes if it's someone that I've really clicked with over extended messaging - at the very least I get to see a different part of the country and a stay in a nice hotel. "

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested....."

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

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now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message people from all over the country, have made some great friends who I wont ever meet but it's great to have a conversation. I dont see a problem in messaging as long as you have read the profile first and respect their wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It dont really matter to us x.we away most weekends meeting friends new or old in camper or at a hotel xx

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

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lol but that was very specific

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

Would you now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This could be Rotterdam or anywhere

Liverpool or Rome....

So could those with who we may feel whatever it is that connects us with another

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

lol but that was very specific

I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Can I watch?

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Oh the possibilities are endless

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Can I watch?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Can I watch?

Join in

Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Can I watch?

Join in

Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side "

That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Can I watch?

Join in

Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side

That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha "

Well that went well hahaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll chat to anyone, regardless of where they are. Wouldn’t be interested in meeting them though but I make that quite clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

lol but that was very specific

I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous

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lol no a 150or 200 miles is ambiguous a 160 is specific

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

lol but that was very specific

I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous

lol no a 150or 200 miles is ambiguous a 160 is specific

163.247miles is specific.....work to 3 decimal places and it becomes close to exacting while still feasibly measurable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Can I watch?

Join in

Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side

That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha "

I've got no problem joining in. Just dont blame me when you're both unsatisfied afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least 2m apart for me.

All seriousness, I’d message anyone to chat but if you’re looking to meet, got to be local. I think some people like the one and done, ONS, boom boom ciao. So distance doesn’t bother them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like to meet locally so I set my postcode elsewhere as I like to travel. I've had long term fwbs live 3 hours from me a few times.

That can't be all that easy to sustain for a long period of time"

True its hard when you like regular meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes aa been let down a few times.

They always say "i love to travel" " i want to try such a such club" but in 2 years have only had 2 people actually come some distance so dont bother if more than 50 miles now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't always message in pursuit of sex, in fact most of the time it's not. I like making friends & connections first & foremost, then if the circumstances fit together, personality, chemistry,location etc, then sex can be included in the friendship.

I'd be quite happy having a friend 300 miles away to talk with that isn't just talking to me because they want thier hole - that makes me NOT want it haha

Mrs Shadow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

lol but that was very specific

I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous

lol no a 150or 200 miles is ambiguous a 160 is specific

163.247miles is specific.....work to 3 decimal places and it becomes close to exacting while still feasibly measurable

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no thats pedantry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes aa been let down a few times.

They always say "i love to travel" " i want to try such a such club" but in 2 years have only had 2 people actually come some distance so dont bother if more than 50 miles now"

50 miles?

Interesting

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

The things we could do with the time saved too

Can I watch?

Join in

Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side

That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha

I've got no problem joining in. Just dont blame me when you're both unsatisfied afterwards

Ohhhhhh well I'm sure you'll see just how unsatisfied we will look when we're all hot, sticky, grinning like Cheshire cats and gasping for breath.

Yep, that an unsatisfied look for sure

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We try to stick to around 30-40 miles around us, saying that we don’t bother with London as we are both not keen on the big city and the faf that comes with it.

Lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer local (up to 40 miles max) but if something special comes along there isn't really a limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like road trips and weekends away...plus there's not really anyone I'm interested in locally "

Is that so ??

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Geography has never dictated who I want to interact with, really.

Plus I have a private jet. I like to take it dogging to flex on perverts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

Oi! At least suggest we meet in the middle

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

Oi! At least suggest we meet in the middle

I'll pick you both up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More interested in the person, distance is irrelevant if the person is worth your time IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you look at where people are before messaging?

I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?

Do you check this before you message?

If you do then why message?

I'm interested.....

I could travel say around 160 miles each way

now who is it that lives 160 miles away?

Lots of people

It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie

Saves us both that 10 miles

Oi! At least suggest we meet in the middle

I'll pick you both up

Sounds fun

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

In the past I have enjoyed the odd road trip or two but I was always sure they were people I would want to spend a weekend/overnight with, I wouldn’t generally do it for one offs. I’ve had regular play partners who have been anywhere from 30 mins to 2 hours drive to see them, what else are weekends for

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Distance means nothing when love is concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distance isn’t a repellent for me either. If the person captivates then I will travel to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is worth travelling for....I don’t care how long I drive.... open road good music and fun at the end of it!!

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