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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

After reading few posts on the forums, I couldn’t help but wonder. Is porn changing our society?

Without being biased, I read this thread regarding the so called “BBC”, “MILF” “BBW” etc...

Are these examples of healthy stereotypes or are we going too far with the categorisation?

Ultimately is porn changing our perception of the world? What’s your thoughts?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"After reading few posts on the forums, I couldn’t help but wonder. Is porn changing our society?

Without being biased, I read this thread regarding the so called “BBC”, “MILF” “BBW” etc...

Are these examples of healthy stereotypes or are we going too far with the categorisation?

Ultimately is porn changing our perception of the world? What’s your thoughts?"

Great questions. Yes, I think it is.

One of the issues I have relates to young boys (8-12) that I have worked with. Porn has normalised for them: anal sex, strangling, cumming on the face.

Not that those things are wrong, in and of themselves. However, boys I've worked with wouldn't dream to even seek consent for those things. Their definition of "vanilla" is very different to mine.

Don't get me wrong. I watch and enjoy porn. And I'm a kinky freak. I just think it's quite telling that no one ever seeks or gives consent in porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love porn and think its incredibly healthy, its been around many years. We all got so many different tastes now so the more categories the better x

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

So you have no issue with the categorisation but more the normalisation of the lack of consent? I agree with you though, there is this undertone in porn that consent is unspoken, essentially not accurate in real life. What’s your thoughts on the extremism in porn? I.e the gradual increase of the deviousness in porn.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

I understand where you coming from but isn’t the want to different categories an open door for very extreme fantasies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand where you coming from but isn’t the want to different categories an open door for very extreme fantasies? "

Yeah but I’s that not a good thing ? Push boundaries?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I once found a copy of Razzle under a hedge when I was about??

I still like ( . )( . )

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I get often as an opening line or in first conversation, can I squirt... Surely that's from the boom in that type of porn? But tbf, only fabbers ask me that. In my vanilla world, they don't. But I once went on a date with a guy who couldn't keep a hard on without watching porn. I knew he was an porn addict but didn't think it would affect his own sex life... Very sad

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Well, there was this interesting article I read about the effect of porn on some viewers. Don’t get me wrong I sometimes watch porn myself, but they found a correlation between the want for extreme pornography and child pornography which is scary.

What tends to happen according to their research and interviews, some men or women in their search for more sexually arousing kicks would “stumble” across hardcore CP websites without even wanting to. Knowing illegal nature of it would still find pleasure in watching it although not having any attraction towards minors.

Same goes for Zoophilia and etc...

I just find it interesting when we say push boundaries because when do we say that too much?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

If you could change anything about now a days porn industry what would it be? Anything at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think porn is generally good. It can give people a sexual outlet and that’s always healthy however it can set an unrealistic and unfair image for both men and women to achieve that’s considered the norm in porn.

Also I think it can desensitise people, so if sex isn’t hitting all the unrealistic High-notes and fulfilling certain categories it doesn’t arouse people as much as it did.

I’m trying to cut back on it for that reason and it makes it much more enjoyable to watch.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Lmao, that that good old school mag

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

I completely agree with you, it is a form of release, it can promote an unrealistic aspect of sex and yes it does lead to sexual desensitisation at times probably due to that constant search for dopamine and serotonin release.

Would you say we are codependent of porn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not healthy no but its too late now, why do you think so many young people come here now, they can't just be happy with the liasons with people their own age, they want what the porn world has offered, we from a young age mimic what we see, innocence is no more and the desire to have all the categories that the porn world for them has made normal is prevalent.

The internet is progress or is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I completely agree with you, it is a form of release, it can promote an unrealistic aspect of sex and yes it does lead to sexual desensitisation at times probably due to that constant search for dopamine and serotonin release.

Would you say we are codependent of porn? "

You’ve nailed it, it becomes an endless search for the next high.

I’m more sure about everyone being coodependent but that’s prove to true of individuals and there’s enough to make it intk a societal movement. I fully admit I was addicted to it and have been trying to come away from it, I enjoyed it too much and it became the ‘norm’. A classic case of addiction.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I don't think porn is unhealthy, i do however think it gives young (teenagers) a false image of what sex with a person of the opposite sex is like. For instance the over acted orgasms, the noises etc. If i was a 16 year old boy shagging (too early in my opinion) a n other and they weren't doing all that the porn star does i'd probably think i was doing something wrong. Then of course we've got the limits in a sexual relationship, there are no limits so as a previous poster said "anal sex, coming on the face, strangulation" etc may well be normal, unless of course the other person isn't interested in doing these things..

Myself and my hubby enjoy porn for what it is, poor acting, nice tits and adults behaving badly

LMP

ps, i'm hanging this morning, that took some thinking OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porn is not healthy and not real. Let's be honest, sex is not pretty, unless there is passion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Porn is not healthy and not real. Let's be honest, sex is not pretty, unless there is passion!"
exactly sex is for a moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Porn is not healthy and not real. Let's be honest, sex is not pretty, unless there is passion!exactly sex is for a moment "

Words of wisdom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My moment usually lasts all night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Porn is not healthy and not real. Let's be honest, sex is not pretty, unless there is passion!exactly sex is for a moment

Words of wisdom!"
tooth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night "

With me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?"

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night "
cmon admit it you sleep like a log

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night cmon admit it you sleep like a log "

Not when I'm with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?"
thats what mom said but did you listen to her.......... no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?"

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night cmon admit it you sleep like a log

Not when I'm with someone "
omg you torture him dont you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!"
I'll be best man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night cmon admit it you sleep like a log

Not when I'm with someone "

Excuse me, I have a name!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night cmon admit it you sleep like a log

Not when I'm with someone

Excuse me, I have a name!"
she meant simon....... bloody spellchecker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man "

Don't you think I should know what a man looks like before I agree to marry him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man "

Cool, as long as you opening line is not "welcome back, everyone"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man

Don't you think I should know what a man looks like before I agree to marry him? "
who knows......... i mean conventions out the window here don't you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man

Cool, as long as you opening line is not "welcome back, everyone""
de ja vue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man

Don't you think I should know what a man looks like before I agree to marry him? "

You can inspect me naked before committing to it. As long as you don't touch my bum hole!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man

Don't you think I should know what a man looks like before I agree to marry him?

You can inspect me naked before committing to it. As long as you don't touch my bum hole!"
wheres food and beverage when you need him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man

Don't you think I should know what a man looks like before I agree to marry him?

You can inspect me naked before committing to it. As long as you don't touch my bum hole!wheres food and beverage when you need him "

Busy with his melons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My moment usually lasts all night

With me?

No sex before marriage. Rem_mber?

Damn! When do we tie the knot? Let's go to Vegas!I'll be best man

Don't you think I should know what a man looks like before I agree to marry him?

You can inspect me naked before committing to it. As long as you don't touch my bum hole!wheres food and beverage when you need him

Busy with his melons "
lol yes i wonder if hes ever tried it

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Back in the day when it was mainly top shelf porn I came accross such a mag.

There were glorious pics of womans bits. I was aged 11 at the time. It scarred me until I lost my virginity as I looked nothing like the women in the mag.

Thankfully, I'm all good now.

But porn, the consenting aspect is a concern.

I think the definition of vanilla has broadened.

As for labels, if someone uses them to describe themselves that is their choice. I think they can be useful for finding what you're into.

If I see BBC, I immediately know where I stand, just as BBW or bisexual. If another person has no issue in using a label then I'm ok with it...as a starting point.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Interesting question, OP. I vividly rem_mber having this chat with a colleague I used to work with. He told me that when one of his kid’s friends lost her virginity it was just anal and nothing else because that’s what the boy thought he should be doing. Obviously this went round the school like wildfire.

(For some context, the conversation we were having was regarding general parenting, children’s social lives with the addition of online technology, cyber bullying etc., and I rem_mber how sad this story made us both)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think porn has become increasingly more extreme and depicts sex as an act of almost aggression . Quite often I think it shows sex as something that happens to a woman rather than with a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think porn has become increasingly more extreme and depicts sex as an act of almost aggression . Quite often I think it shows sex as something that happens to a woman rather than with a woman "

Indeed x

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"If you could change anything about now a days porn industry what would it be? Anything at all."

Id make it alot more difficult for under 18s to get hold of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porn has a lot to fucking answer for

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

OP if you Google Sara Pascoe The guilty feminist pornography.

You'll find an excellent podcast discussing porn and how it impacts people.

I can obviously only comment from a female POV but I do think it has a huge impact on attitudes towards sex. I think you can tell men who watch a lot of porn, their expectations are often of rougher, louder (less satisfying) contact. Consent seems to be less of a concern, spitting, throat grabbing etc. As someone else responded it seems that unless you're screaming and over acting they think they're doing it wrong.

I'm not anti porn, although I choose not to indulge. That's not to say I wouldn't under the right circumstances. I have issues with the way women are often portrayed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U have brought up a good point, I think yes, it's clouded how we look at relationships, expectations and blurrs lines of reality.

It is way to easily assessable , darker and even heavily promotes in-cest in recent years, look im no prood but I stopped watching porn some time back, tbh I was a bit atticted, now that I don't watch it, I don't miss it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U have brought up a good point, I think yes, it's clouded how we look at relationships, expectations and blurrs lines of reality.

It is way to easily assessable , darker and even heavily promotes in-cest in recent years, look im no prood but I stopped watching porn some time back, tbh I was a bit atticted, now that I don't watch it, I don't miss it all "

I’m hoping to get to that stage myself. Well done mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grew up in a kids home and we all did weird sex stuff to each other. We were all monitored quite strictly so porn was hard to come by. I don't think banning it for under 18s would change much. Teens are always gonna try stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re gonna watch porn, don’t use porn hub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent thread.

I think porn has its uses.

These days all you get is snippets of it and not a full story. 12 minutes of just action! I personally am more turned on by sex scenes in films and tv than by porn.

I checked the history on my sons laptop (early teens) and discovered his porn searches so it was time for "the long chat".

Not all people who watch porn will become sexual morons who think that's how it should be. The same as people who play shoot 'em up video game will become killers.

There will of course be a small minority who cant distinguished between pornography and reality, the same with video games and horror movies. In their hands it could be dangerous. A vast majority see it for what it really is.

The ease of accessibility is of course a potential issue.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"OP if you Google Sara Pascoe The guilty feminist pornography.

You'll find an excellent podcast discussing porn and how it impacts people.

I can obviously only comment from a female POV but I do think it has a huge impact on attitudes towards sex. I think you can tell men who watch a lot of porn, their expectations are often of rougher, louder (less satisfying) contact. Consent seems to be less of a concern, spitting, throat grabbing etc. As someone else responded it seems that unless you're screaming and over acting they think they're doing it wrong.

I'm not anti porn, although I choose not to indulge. That's not to say I wouldn't under the right circumstances. I have issues with the way women are often portrayed."

I shall google this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don’t think porn is healthy. In relation to your question, it plays on a lot of stereotypes to do with race and race and gender, it’s usually incredibly misogynistic and it is also extremely fake. The way that it is mass produced and then ripped off and made available for free by people online is also terrible for sex workers. And our consumption of it is often unchallenged except in the context of ‘it creates false expectations’ which is absolutely true and that leads to real issues that people have to face, specifically women around many of the issues mentioned above by others. But also I think people consume porn sometimes too often and I think people use porn in unhealthy ways to cope with other problems.

The language thing and stereotype thing for me is the worst. Personal experiences aside, the use of words like ‘MILF’ and ‘BBW’ create unhealthy fetishising and objectification of people and you can see it on fab, the way that some men speak about older women or bigger women. The BBC thing I’ve exhausted on here so I won’t go into that but that’s also something that is used in porn in a gross way and the images of people of colour in porn are deliberately stereotypical.

And also, as said above by HMQL, don’t use PH.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk today. X

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Interesting question, OP. I vividly rem_mber having this chat with a colleague I used to work with. He told me that when one of his kid’s friends lost her virginity it was just anal and nothing else because that’s what the boy thought he should be doing. Obviously this went round the school like wildfire.

(For some context, the conversation we were having was regarding general parenting, children’s social lives with the addition of online technology, cyber bullying etc., and I rem_mber how sad this story made us both)"

That’s really interesting, should the education system be redesigned to include porn education and it’s dangers? I have younger brothers with who I’ve discussed that already but my surprise found out they had already been exposed to it without my knowledge.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I think porn has become increasingly more extreme and depicts sex as an act of almost aggression . Quite often I think it shows sex as something that happens to a woman rather than with a woman "

Do you think that represent in part the society we live in? The consistent afflux of violent media we are subjected to? Someone earlier made a good point by pointing out the level of desensitisation watching porn can bring.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"If you could change anything about now a days porn industry what would it be? Anything at all.

Id make it alot more difficult for under 18s to get hold of it."

Do you think 18 years old is the right age to watch porn? In UK you can legally have sex at 16 years old and some countries even younger.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Porn has a lot to fucking answer for"

What do you mean?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Excellent thread.

I think porn has its uses.

These days all you get is snippets of it and not a full story. 12 minutes of just action! I personally am more turned on by sex scenes in films and tv than by porn.

I checked the history on my sons laptop (early teens) and discovered his porn searches so it was time for "the long chat".

Not all people who watch porn will become sexual morons who think that's how it should be. The same as people who play shoot 'em up video game will become killers.

There will of course be a small minority who cant distinguished between pornography and reality, the same with video games and horror movies. In their hands it could be dangerous. A vast majority see it for what it really is.

The ease of accessibility is of course a potential issue."

That true and you’ve made some really good points here.

I do think the sexual nature of porn to be a stronger stimulus than games due to the fact that these are real people. What would your opinion be if in his history search you saw more extreme/illegal stuff?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man's not supposed to look at 347 cunts in one hour while the Doris is out at Aldi .

I saw that on the discovery channel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice one OP been an interesting thread to read.

Porn can be healthy, but addicted to it is not... if you rely on it heavily and need it to get aroused, shows perhaps been watching way to much.

I choose not to watch porn these days, but not against it as it can be healthy or even enhance sex life. Good moderation would be healthy.

I used to have few favourite categories years ago. I don't go out of my way to watch porn and get hooked on it. It is much more easier to access for younger generations these days. Porn industry as a whole just seems to be getting bigger and bigger. Demand is there for it!

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"OP if you Google Sara Pascoe The guilty feminist pornography.

You'll find an excellent podcast discussing porn and how it impacts people.

I can obviously only comment from a female POV but I do think it has a huge impact on attitudes towards sex. I think you can tell men who watch a lot of porn, their expectations are often of rougher, louder (less satisfying) contact. Consent seems to be less of a concern, spitting, throat grabbing etc. As someone else responded it seems that unless you're screaming and over acting they think they're doing it wrong.

I'm not anti porn, although I choose not to indulge. That's not to say I wouldn't under the right circumstances. I have issues with the way women are often portrayed.

I shall google this "

Her books are excellent to. Really easy reading on tough subjects.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"OP if you Google Sara Pascoe The guilty feminist pornography.

You'll find an excellent podcast discussing porn and how it impacts people.

I can obviously only comment from a female POV but I do think it has a huge impact on attitudes towards sex. I think you can tell men who watch a lot of porn, their expectations are often of rougher, louder (less satisfying) contact. Consent seems to be less of a concern, spitting, throat grabbing etc. As someone else responded it seems that unless you're screaming and over acting they think they're doing it wrong.

I'm not anti porn, although I choose not to indulge. That's not to say I wouldn't under the right circumstances. I have issues with the way women are often portrayed."

I will definitely have a look, you brought some very interesting points forward.

From personal experience I have encountered some women who had not really been exposed to porn and requested a heavier treatment during sex. It made think is porn just an art form expression of our own desires?

I personally did watch a lot of porn in my teens all kind of extreme but stopped because of the treatment of women behind the scenes. However I do find myself receiving requests for me to interpret the role of the Top Alpha so called BBC. This is where I wonder, has our society also needed to express our sexual needs?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"U have brought up a good point, I think yes, it's clouded how we look at relationships, expectations and blurrs lines of reality.

It is way to easily assessable , darker and even heavily promotes in-cest in recent years, look im no prood but I stopped watching porn some time back, tbh I was a bit atticted, now that I don't watch it, I don't miss it all "

That completely true, would you say porn enabled you to manage those thoughts? Or did porn bring on those thoughts?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I grew up in a kids home and we all did weird sex stuff to each other. We were all monitored quite strictly so porn was hard to come by. I don't think banning it for under 18s would change much. Teens are always gonna try stuff. "

That true, has kids we have that natural curiosity especially for taboo subjects? Do you think having the “porn talk” would make it less taboo if we had from an earlier age?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"If you’re gonna watch porn, don’t use porn hub "

Lmao why not? Pornhub does promote Amateur porn and has a strict level of filtering. Although there’s weird thing going on promoting in-cest.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I think porn has become increasingly more extreme and depicts sex as an act of almost aggression . Quite often I think it shows sex as something that happens to a woman rather than with a woman "

Like this business being mouth fucked. Men continually ask me if I do this, did porn start this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pornography is not some titillating feast for the eyes that gives a momentary rush of excitement. Rather it has the effect of damaging hearts and souls to their very depths, strangling the life out of relationships that should be sacred, hurting to the very core, those you should love the most!

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I personally don’t think porn is healthy. In relation to your question, it plays on a lot of stereotypes to do with race and race and gender, it’s usually incredibly misogynistic and it is also extremely fake. The way that it is mass produced and then ripped off and made available for free by people online is also terrible for sex workers. And our consumption of it is often unchallenged except in the context of ‘it creates false expectations’ which is absolutely true and that leads to real issues that people have to face, specifically women around many of the issues mentioned above by others. But also I think people consume porn sometimes too often and I think people use porn in unhealthy ways to cope with other problems.

The language thing and stereotype thing for me is the worst. Personal experiences aside, the use of words like ‘MILF’ and ‘BBW’ create unhealthy fetishising and objectification of people and you can see it on fab, the way that some men speak about older women or bigger women. The BBC thing I’ve exhausted on here so I won’t go into that but that’s also something that is used in porn in a gross way and the images of people of colour in porn are deliberately stereotypical.

And also, as said above by HMQL, don’t use PH.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk today. X "

Hahaha Ted Talk deeply appropriated. You’ve brought a very good and different sides to the argument here. At this point my question to you is why did we and do we create porn at all? For example why do some of us actually record ourselves having sex with our partners?

But yeah everything you’ve said is spot on, some of the term used enable a certain characterisation of groups of people which is normally negative.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Man's not supposed to look at 347 cunts in one hour while the Doris is out at Aldi .

I saw that on the discovery channel "

Is the discovery channel overly sexualised? Although in a relationship with someone why would still look at porn? What’s your op on that?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Nice one OP been an interesting thread to read.

Porn can be healthy, but addicted to it is not... if you rely on it heavily and need it to get aroused, shows perhaps been watching way to much.

I choose not to watch porn these days, but not against it as it can be healthy or even enhance sex life. Good moderation would be healthy.

I used to have few favourite categories years ago. I don't go out of my way to watch porn and get hooked on it. It is much more easier to access for younger generations these days. Porn industry as a whole just seems to be getting bigger and bigger. Demand is there for it!"

The very interesting and very correct, should we treat porn addiction to the same level as drug/alcohol addiction? Should put the government do more in terms of censorship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How else did i become a pro shagger?

Learn from the best x

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I think porn has become increasingly more extreme and depicts sex as an act of almost aggression . Quite often I think it shows sex as something that happens to a woman rather than with a woman

Like this business being mouth fucked. Men continually ask me if I do this, did porn start this? "

This Is interesting often find the opposite and women requesting this of me. But here is why I’m confused, is it because I would be seen as a so called BBC and that the behaviour expected of me?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Pornography is not some titillating feast for the eyes that gives a momentary rush of excitement. Rather it has the effect of damaging hearts and souls to their very depths, strangling the life out of relationships that should be sacred, hurting to the very core, those you should love the most!"

Would you say porn allows to maintain healthy relationships between individuals then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After reading few posts on the forums, I couldn’t help but wonder. Is porn changing our society?

Without being biased, I read this thread regarding the so called “BBC”, “MILF” “BBW” etc...

Are these examples of healthy stereotypes or are we going too far with the categorisation?

Ultimately is porn changing our perception of the world? What’s your thoughts?"

yes it is watching bbc porn has got me in to cuckolding now im a cuck wannbe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great for adults, bad for kids and teenagers. They're learning about sex all wrong, and from people who won't teach them the correct way to seek consent and treat a woman.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"How else did i become a pro shagger?

Learn from the best x"

Would you say you learnt it from porn or from practice? And is that self given feedbacks or is this what you’ve been told?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"After reading few posts on the forums, I couldn’t help but wonder. Is porn changing our society?

Without being biased, I read this thread regarding the so called “BBC”, “MILF” “BBW” etc...

Are these examples of healthy stereotypes or are we going too far with the categorisation?

Ultimately is porn changing our perception of the world? What’s your thoughts?

yes it is watching bbc porn has got me in to cuckolding now im a cuck wannbe"

That another I find interesting, why BBC in particular? Also how’s your day to day interaction with black men? Do you find that your views of them has changed as a result of your fantasies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great for adults, bad for kids and teenagers. They're learning about sex all wrong, and from people who won't teach them the correct way to seek consent and treat a woman.

"
agreed kids are seeing porn as the act of sex and its ruining their initiation to sex, they are then trying to emulate something that is simulated and when they cant achieve it as many can't what effect is that having on them mentally

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Great for adults, bad for kids and teenagers. They're learning about sex all wrong, and from people who won't teach them the correct way to seek consent and treat a woman.

"

Should we as adult introduce porn to our kids and have the so called “talk”? I’ll go as far as saying should we reduce or increase the porn age limit?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Great for adults, bad for kids and teenagers. They're learning about sex all wrong, and from people who won't teach them the correct way to seek consent and treat a woman.

agreed kids are seeing porn as the act of sex and its ruining their initiation to sex, they are then trying to emulate something that is simulated and when they cant achieve it as many can't what effect is that having on them mentally "

How could we resolve that issue? Introduce them to porn ourselves or should they be taught about it at school?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great for adults, bad for kids and teenagers. They're learning about sex all wrong, and from people who won't teach them the correct way to seek consent and treat a woman.

agreed kids are seeing porn as the act of sex and its ruining their initiation to sex, they are then trying to emulate something that is simulated and when they cant achieve it as many can't what effect is that having on them mentally

How could we resolve that issue? Introduce them to porn ourselves or should they be taught about it at school? "
i can't see how it can be reversed now, as long as porn exists and they can get access to it how can it be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Man's not supposed to look at 347 cunts in one hour while the Doris is out at Aldi .

I saw that on the discovery channel

Is the discovery channel overly sexualised? Although in a relationship with someone why would still look at porn? What’s your op on that?"

I let the Doris have girlfriends so i look at mature nl and occasionally she lets me join in with her girlfriend

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Like most things , fine in moderation. Not healthy kids have so much access to it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great for adults, bad for kids and teenagers. They're learning about sex all wrong, and from people who won't teach them the correct way to seek consent and treat a woman.

agreed kids are seeing porn as the act of sex and its ruining their initiation to sex, they are then trying to emulate something that is simulated and when they cant achieve it as many can't what effect is that having on them mentally

How could we resolve that issue? Introduce them to porn ourselves or should they be taught about it at school? "

It could be taught at home by responsible parents? School curriculum is jam packed as it is, and whilst they have a broad spectrum of input of child development they cant be expected to cover everything?

Early exposure of hardcore porn will desensitize youths to what healthy relationships are about fundamentally.

Alcohol can be both enjoyable and destructive hence we moderate access to minors.

Porn has its place of course, but I think over exposure has caused unrealistic expectations on some relationships? As said above...in moderation fine, but many an honest person will confess they access it way too much.

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By *evernmanMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Like a lot of things, some porn can be good and some can be bad.

As an inquisitive young teenager in the 60s I got hold of porn (god knows how!) when it was far more restricted and harder to find than it is now and I fantasised about things (like group sex) that I'd never experienced.

The best way of countering the effects of bad porn is good sex education, including helping people understand the difference between fantasy and real life. After all, we expect them to understand that murder films on TV are fantasy, not to be acted out.

We should teach kids that sexual arousal and pleasure are a valuable part of life, but only in the context of respect for other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally don’t think porn is healthy. In relation to your question, it plays on a lot of stereotypes to do with race and race and gender, it’s usually incredibly misogynistic and it is also extremely fake. The way that it is mass produced and then ripped off and made available for free by people online is also terrible for sex workers. And our consumption of it is often unchallenged except in the context of ‘it creates false expectations’ which is absolutely true and that leads to real issues that people have to face, specifically women around many of the issues mentioned above by others. But also I think people consume porn sometimes too often and I think people use porn in unhealthy ways to cope with other problems.

The language thing and stereotype thing for me is the worst. Personal experiences aside, the use of words like ‘MILF’ and ‘BBW’ create unhealthy fetishising and objectification of people and you can see it on fab, the way that some men speak about older women or bigger women. The BBC thing I’ve exhausted on here so I won’t go into that but that’s also something that is used in porn in a gross way and the images of people of colour in porn are deliberately stereotypical.

And also, as said above by HMQL, don’t use PH.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk today. X

Hahaha Ted Talk deeply appropriated. You’ve brought a very good and different sides to the argument here. At this point my question to you is why did we and do we create porn at all? For example why do some of us actually record ourselves having sex with our partners?

But yeah everything you’ve said is spot on, some of the term used enable a certain characterisation of groups of people which is normally negative."

I think one aspect of its creation is that you can easily profit off of it. Another is also the aspect of people enjoy being watched/watching which are society created desires but desires nonetheless. And that’s not raining for why people partake in the industry as it is today, just my own opinions on why we have it at all. I am no expert on this though and anyone that’s done reading I’d love to actually know what that says but yeah.

But the porn industry is just an exaggerated dramatisation of our desires usually. I think that how profitable it is has led to it being less about displaying fantasy and more about profit. Like with shutting though, the need for profit runs it and its consumers into the ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After reading few posts on the forums, I couldn’t help but wonder. Is porn changing our society?

Without being biased, I read this thread regarding the so called “BBC”, “MILF” “BBW” etc...

Are these examples of healthy stereotypes or are we going too far with the categorisation?

Ultimately is porn changing our perception of the world? What’s your thoughts?

yes it is watching bbc porn has got me in to cuckolding now im a cuck wannbe

That another I find interesting, why BBC in particular? Also how’s your day to day interaction with black men? Do you find that your views of them has changed as a result of your fantasies? "

no not of black men my obsession is with the snowbunnys or women who love bbc

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Man's not supposed to look at 347 cunts in one hour while the Doris is out at Aldi .

I saw that on the discovery channel

Is the discovery channel overly sexualised? Although in a relationship with someone why would still look at porn? What’s your op on that?

I let the Doris have girlfriends so i look at mature nl and occasionally she lets me join in with her girlfriend "

That nice, sound like you two have great communication and trust within your relationship.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.


"If you could change anything about now a days porn industry what would it be? Anything at all.

Id make it alot more difficult for under 18s to get hold of it.

Do you think 18 years old is the right age to watch porn? In UK you can legally have sex at 16 years old and some countries even younger. "

I think it shouldnt be under 18 no, regardless ive the age of consent. As much as i like porn i do think it can descentise people to things, and i think it gives boys the wrong impression of what to expect, and i think in the long run this can be quite damaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes porn is healthy

it stops incells going out and attacking people

but my cock after watching a lot of porn not so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re gonna watch porn, don’t use porn hub

Lmao why not? Pornhub does promote Amateur porn and has a strict level of filtering. Although there’s weird thing going on promoting in-cest. "

Google Rose Kalemba and Avri Sapir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re gonna watch porn, don’t use porn hub

Lmao why not? Pornhub does promote Amateur porn and has a strict level of filtering. Although there’s weird thing going on promoting in-cest.

Google Rose Kalemba and Avri Sapir"

It pretty much has no filtering. Honestly, google those names.

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

The category thing really bugs me, I don't think porn is unhealthy anymore than I think a gun is dangerous.. it's the people involved that make it good or bad. It makes me cringe Seeing BBW or BBC etc. I like a person that floats my boat, that I can enjoy similar interests too.. size and race aren't particularly a factor for me.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"Porn is not healthy and not real. Let's be honest, sex is not pretty, unless there is passion!"
is it not a case of ease of access to hardcore porn at a very young age is more the problem ? is it warping the youngs perception of sex and whats healthy and normal leading to them experimenting earlier than we ever did ?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Like a lot of things, some porn can be good and some can be bad.

As an inquisitive young teenager in the 60s I got hold of porn (god knows how!) when it was far more restricted and harder to find than it is now and I fantasised about things (like group sex) that I'd never experienced.

The best way of countering the effects of bad porn is good sex education, including helping people understand the difference between fantasy and real life. After all, we expect them to understand that murder films on TV are fantasy, not to be acted out.

We should teach kids that sexual arousal and pleasure are a valuable part of life, but only in the context of respect for other people. "

I see this with ex lovers. Most men I been just fuck... No real foreplay, passion or sensuality. I find men from other countries more sensual than the English. No idea why just my experience of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great for adults, bad for kids and teenagers. They're learning about sex all wrong, and from people who won't teach them the correct way to seek consent and treat a woman.

agreed kids are seeing porn as the act of sex and its ruining their initiation to sex, they are then trying to emulate something that is simulated and when they cant achieve it as many can't what effect is that having on them mentally

How could we resolve that issue? Introduce them to porn ourselves or should they be taught about it at school? "

They are taught about it at school, from a healthy relationships point of view, but it's obviously only brief and teachers aren't allowed to show any or go into too much depth. I totally agree parents should talk to their kids about porn.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I find Fake Taxi very disturbing. It frequently features the coercion of women into sex through black-mail. The opening sequence of their videos shows a woman hailing a taxi in the dark to scary music with the implication that they are about to be entrapped.

Fortunately consent and respect are built into me, but I know they are not with everybody. I dread to think what messages some young people get seeing these sinister setups.

Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think porn is unhealthy, i do however think it gives young (teenagers) a false image of what sex with a person of the opposite sex is like. For instance the over acted orgasms, the noises etc. If i was a 16 year old boy shagging (too early in my opinion) a n other and they weren't doing all that the porn star does i'd probably think i was doing something wrong. Then of course we've got the limits in a sexual relationship, there are no limits so as a previous poster said "anal sex, coming on the face, strangulation" etc may well be normal, unless of course the other person isn't interested in doing these things..

Myself and my hubby enjoy porn for what it is, poor acting, nice tits and adults behaving badly

LMP

ps, i'm hanging this morning, that took some thinking OP x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive gone right off porn the past few months. Literally lost pretty much all interest in it completely. Ive not lost any interest in sex though. Just looking at porn doesn't do much for me anymore. Anyone else get that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice one OP been an interesting thread to read.

Porn can be healthy, but addicted to it is not... if you rely on it heavily and need it to get aroused, shows perhaps been watching way to much.

I choose not to watch porn these days, but not against it as it can be healthy or even enhance sex life. Good moderation would be healthy.

I used to have few favourite categories years ago. I don't go out of my way to watch porn and get hooked on it. It is much more easier to access for younger generations these days. Porn industry as a whole just seems to be getting bigger and bigger. Demand is there for it!

The very interesting and very correct, should we treat porn addiction to the same level as drug/alcohol addiction? Should put the government do more in terms of censorship? "

Porn addiction is much more widespread and worse than drugs/alcohol combined. It often goes unnoticed till years later... it has almost become normalised so many don't see anything wrong with it. Younger generations nowadays have multiples devices. Sex/porn is number one watched/searched online. Always will be. Moderation and managing "screen time" in general is a good start to controlling it.

Gov - This cannot be controlled by the powers to be... I reckon better for individual households take necessary steps and have restrictions in place.

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By *unnoisseurMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Great topic.

Porn like most things can be good or bad. Depends on how it is consumed or used.

The lack of censorship and availability to those who are too young (in my opinion) to process it correctly.

I’ve learned a lot from porn. But at the same time it’s has normalised and desensitised me to things I once found very enjoyable and fascinating. Making it harder to stay aroused or even interested.

It now takes a special woman to keep me excited whereas previously ANY woman could!!

There’s so many directions we could go in regarding porn and mental, physical and spiritual health.

Thanks for posting OP

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Guys I would like to thank you for your amazing contribution to this thread. There has been a lot of good points and interesting explanations brought forward and they have enabled us to widened our understanding of porn.

In the end whether we like it or not porn will always have a place in our society.

We have all been exposed to it at various degrees and it affects us in different manners.

Whether through It is addiction, sexual liberation, sexual discovery, stereotypes, sexual expression we all have something to gain and to lose.

A reoccurring point which seemed to be a concern for the majority of you was the age of exposure to porn.

I understand, we fear the younger generation will build a distorted perception of what sex is because of the porn consumption and desensitisation.

Although I agree very much with this point I fear that kids are definitely ahead of us, I myself saw my first porn at 9 years old after somehow getting hold of my stepdad porn stash lol (naughty kid).

In conclusion, we live in a society lead by technology and consumerism. Sex is one of the main drivers and I feel like it’s our responsibility each one of us to educate, communicate and inform our peers and children whenever possible.

You’ve all been great so once again a massive thank you for your contribution!

Lastly just for arguments sake, at what age did you all watch/purchase/stole/found your first porno?

Happy Fabbing and til next time x

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I've never consumed porn in film format but I used to have a job for a family friend when I was about 13. I found his porn magazine stash and used to like reading the stories mainly although I did look through all of them I think.

I often wonder if he knew I was looking at them.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I've never consumed porn in film format but I used to have a job for a family friend when I was about 13. I found his porn magazine stash and used to like reading the stories mainly although I did look through all of them I think.

I often wonder if he knew I was looking at them."

For a while I was interested in the stories than the actual visuals, it’s crazy the power written words have over the imagination . But 13 years old that interesting.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Love porn ourselves , but as a father of daughters, access by kids, lads mags, and sexualisation of kids in media and fashion worries me. I saw one of my kids in WH Smiths once staring at a cover of a lads mag with a guy playing between two girls in BDSM gear. She was far too young for the explanation, Some things should be discovered more innocently! I found out about the Child Eyes campaign, which isn’t against porn, but the sexualisation and commercialisation of our kids.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I've never consumed porn in film format but I used to have a job for a family friend when I was about 13. I found his porn magazine stash and used to like reading the stories mainly although I did look through all of them I think.

I often wonder if he knew I was looking at them."

I’m not a fan to be fair, If I were to watch porn it would only be solo play, everything else seems fake (so does solo play but not as much) if they are getting paid, it kinda kills the vibe for me as it’s not self pleasure, it’s work so I stick to homemades

As a 13 year old I reckon there was more to be had from the stories! There is no way my 13 year old randy brain could have come up with them scenarios just by looking at pics

D.

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I've never consumed porn in film format but I used to have a job for a family friend when I was about 13. I found his porn magazine stash and used to like reading the stories mainly although I did look through all of them I think.

I often wonder if he knew I was looking at them.

I’m not a fan to be fair, If I were to watch porn it would only be solo play, everything else seems fake (so does solo play but not as much) if they are getting paid, it kinda kills the vibe for me as it’s not self pleasure, it’s work so I stick to homemades

As a 13 year old I reckon there was more to be had from the stories! There is no way my 13 year old randy brain could have come up with them scenarios just by looking at pics

D."

I hear what you’re saying, fake porn doesn’t do it. I believe we are really immersed into this ultra realistic life style and therefore just like our chicken, porn needs to be organic too lmao.

13 years old seems really to be the age of discovery for everyone I almost feel at odd here loool. Stories were definitely the way to go!

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Love porn ourselves , but as a father of daughters, access by kids, lads mags, and sexualisation of kids in media and fashion worries me. I saw one of my kids in WH Smiths once staring at a cover of a lads mag with a guy playing between two girls in BDSM gear. She was far too young for the explanation, Some things should be discovered more innocently! I found out about the Child Eyes campaign, which isn’t against porn, but the sexualisation and commercialisation of our kids."

I know, it’s really out of control and everywhere, as a parent do you find it challenging to shield them from this mass of information thrown at them?

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By *rEmmanuel8 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Love porn ourselves , but as a father of daughters, access by kids, lads mags, and sexualisation of kids in media and fashion worries me. I saw one of my kids in WH Smiths once staring at a cover of a lads mag with a guy playing between two girls in BDSM gear. She was far too young for the explanation, Some things should be discovered more innocently! I found out about the Child Eyes campaign, which isn’t against porn, but the sexualisation and commercialisation of our kids."

And what age did you discover porn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you google what I asked you to google?

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I think porn can be healthy and beneficial when consumed by the right audience (i.e. well adjusted and sexually understanding adults). For example it's possible to learn some things from watching others have sex (new positions and techniques for example) plus porn shows people of all sizes and races enjoying sex (see the popularity of amateur stuff). Also I do think porn has helped to take the stigma out of certain things, shown in the growing popularity of anal play and pegging amongst straight guys.

On the other hand it can be extremely damaging when viewed by people not mature or worldly enough to understand sexual relations already (kids and teens for example) as it can promote unrealistic body images and sexual acts as well as inspiring youths to expect certain things which could be damaging (the rise in sexting for example).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think porn can be healthy and beneficial when consumed by the right audience (i.e. well adjusted and sexually understanding adults). For example it's possible to learn some things from watching others have sex (new positions and techniques for example) plus porn shows people of all sizes and races enjoying sex (see the popularity of amateur stuff). Also I do think porn has helped to take the stigma out of certain things, shown in the growing popularity of anal play and pegging amongst straight guys.

On the other hand it can be extremely damaging when viewed by people not mature or worldly enough to understand sexual relations already (kids and teens for example) as it can promote unrealistic body images and sexual acts as well as inspiring youths to expect certain things which could be damaging (the rise in sexting for example). "

This is a more eloquently put version of what I was about to say

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By *evernmanMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I was once caught by my mother looking at the nude ‘art’ photo magazines in a newsagent’s window. They were the staple porn of the late 1950s. I don’t rem_mber my age at the time but certainly 10 or younger. She also stopped me looking at other things (Including one of her nursing books on gynaecology). Of course, that made me all the more interested and determined to find out what it was she was keeping from me. Nowadays, I’d find a way to use the Internet for that, so I would come across things she wouldn’t want me to see. She took exactly the wrong approach.

I think naturists have it right. If children are brought up seeing naked bodies in non-sexual way there is a chance to satisfy their natural curiosity and need for information when they get to an appropriate age. Not only that, they will understand that all bodies are different and will change with age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people, especially young men can become unhealthily obsessed with porn yes and it can create unrealistic expectations of what a relationship with a woman is actually all about. It think it can also pervert(bad word to use I know) a young persons sexual behaviour if that's all they have to learn from is hardcore porn. Like how many young lads shagging for the first time think the "normal" thing to do is to come in a lassies face for instance. Imagine being a lassie on your first shag and that happens. It'd kind of ruin it I reckon. I dont know, maybe I'm old fashioned. I cant be though? Im only forty six ffs.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"After reading few posts on the forums, I couldn’t help but wonder. Is porn changing our society?

Without being biased, I read this thread regarding the so called “BBC”, “MILF” “BBW” etc...

Are these examples of healthy stereotypes or are we going too far with the categorisation?

Ultimately is porn changing our perception of the world? What’s your thoughts?"

I think porn is toxic.

There is no discussion, no consent, and seemingly no boundaries.

It gives a totally false impression of a healthy sexual relationship, and is usualy skewed in favour of men.

In short, no, it is not healthy.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Excess in moderation

As long as it doesn't take over, and as you say negatively influence you or others, then it's good clean... Fun

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

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Meat and 2 veg every day, sounds like a healthy balanced diet to me

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"I've never consumed porn in film format but I used to have a job for a family friend when I was about 13. I found his porn magazine stash and used to like reading the stories mainly although I did look through all of them I think.

I often wonder if he knew I was looking at them.

I’m not a fan to be fair, If I were to watch porn it would only be solo play, everything else seems fake (so does solo play but not as much) if they are getting paid, it kinda kills the vibe for me as it’s not self pleasure, it’s work so I stick to homemades

As a 13 year old I reckon there was more to be had from the stories! There is no way my 13 year old randy brain could have come up with them scenarios just by looking at pics

D.

I hear what you’re saying, fake porn doesn’t do it. I believe we are really immersed into this ultra realistic life style and therefore just like our chicken, porn needs to be organic too lmao.

13 years old seems really to be the age of discovery for everyone I almost feel at odd here loool. Stories were definitely the way to go!"

I think the stories were quite tame really, the only one I can recall was spying on someone sunbathing topless. There was nothing extreme in there that I rem_mber.

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