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Is it worthwhile winking

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By *ax_uk_2009 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wilmslow

I quite like receiving winks, it’s quick and lets you know someone is interested. However, I don’t think this is generally what people like. I would like to ask for the wisdom of FAB. What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at my winks, and very rarely at my friend requests.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It can work.

Think that more couples take notice of them than singles.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Some don’t like it not sure why apparently it’s lazy I wink but if they clearly state it that they don’t then I don’t personally I think it’s a way to get noticed as I always look at who’s winked at me although I’m in hiding at the moment

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

ramsey


"I never look at my winks, and very rarely at my friend requests. "
I can't message so they were wasted lol

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London


"I never look at my winks, and very rarely at my friend requests. "
same here.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Yes, it’s fun and a good lead In to conversion.

Kind of sorts out the pillow princess too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also I good shock when I get one back or some gives me one first

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

We spent almost a year with a lady who started by winking at us. If the profile doesn’t mention it, you just never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you can wank on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh. Wink

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

The best Fab meet i had started with a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best Fab meet i had started with a wink "

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yesterday I replied to a wink I missed a month ago .... I do try

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

As is the case for most questions on here, some do and some don't. We like winks, because if we like the winker we wink back and then it's up to them to send the first message and vice versa from us. Saves all the complaints about folks receiving unwanted messages and guys complaining about writing a message that gets ignored. It's still all about the profile,pics and that first message as to whether things go any further though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If in doubt have a walk first and then see how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink generally let’s people know you’re interested, still can’t beat actually taking the time to write a decent message though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at my winks, and very rarely at my friend requests. I can't message so they were wasted lol "

It's your own fault you're so young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pay attention, and think they're for lazy people.. or those who can't message because of your filters, so I ignore them

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

ramsey


"I never look at my winks, and very rarely at my friend requests. I can't message so they were wasted lol

It's your own fault you're so young "
how's that my fault lol fucking parents why couldn't they wait!! Selfish!

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By *r_N_MrsCumslutCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

We dont mind them but when you send a nice little message back and they read it but don't reply its like what's was the point then sending a wink if your not interested

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London

I never think to check them to be honest so they’d be wasted on me, but I’m sure lots of people do find them useful

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By *adyH and GrissomCouple
over a year ago

Llantarnum

Winks can lead to a connection, the ones that puzzle me is when someone winks us I respond with a message and that's the end of any communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never think to check them to be honest so they’d be wasted on me, but I’m sure lots of people do find them useful "
check em now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If in doubt have a wank first and then see how you feel"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I quite like receiving winks, it’s quick and lets you know someone is interested. However, I don’t think this is generally what people like. I would like to ask for the wisdom of FAB. What do you think?"

We can't stand winks.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Never look at ours tbh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're pretty useful on the whole, I think perhaps for single girls they'll have too many messages to go through. But for us the winks work nicely between us and other couples to start things off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people ignore winks. If you're interested in someone you should message them, you can then explain what your interest is and it gives them a look at your personality.

Winks come across as the easy option but have no substance.

I see them as useful only when you're outside their messaging allowance and you might be a exception of there range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it and also answer any if the person interests me...I treat them as a hi..I think sometimes it avoids the possibility if sending a message that may or not be well received..if that makes sense

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Don't mind a wink. Some great meets came from a wink first. I'll sometimes send a wink if I like someone.

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By *D125Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

I'm not that fond of winks, it seems....lazy to me.

If someone actually is interested, winking seems a lazy way of expressing it.

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By *iger1980Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Shyness isn’t disinterest and winking isn’t always laziness I don’t think.

Sending a wink is a baby step to gauge interest for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told a lot that I'm a right winker, well that's what it sounded like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ever check my winks.

I think guys do so it may be worth sending a guy a wink but I wouldn’t bother sending winks to women. Hard enough to keep track of your inbox.

A few weeks ago there was a thread on winks and I had over 20 thousand before I clicked on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at my winks, and very rarely at my friend requests. "

This

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By *noop Doggy DoggerMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"Op you can wank on me"

Dont mind if I do

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By *D125Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"Shyness isn’t disinterest and winking isn’t always laziness I don’t think.

Sending a wink is a baby step to gauge interest for me

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Sorry, I don't mean to come across as biased to those who like it or do it.

Me, though, I don't.

Plus, there are likely 100 single men for every woman/ couple on here so winking isn't really setting yourself up for success if you're a man.

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By *iger1980Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Thanks for the advice.

Fairly new on here so I didn’t realise how few winks were noticed or looked at. Maybe I am naive, too simple and just need to go balls out and send more messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at mine at all

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By *iger1980Man
over a year ago

cambridge

That’s ok I didn’t send you one yet

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

we appreciate winks but mainly reply with a thank you to couples and female's, occasionally a single guy but its rare x the wink definitely serves a purpose, we also send a wink if we like what we see, no harm in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I notice I have a new wink I'll have a look to see who has sent it

98% of the time it's a single guy sending them

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By *D125Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"Thanks for the advice.

Fairly new on here so I didn’t realise how few winks were noticed or looked at. Maybe I am naive, too simple and just need to go balls out and send more messages?"

Go for it, try to come across as classy & not sex-deprived (like most men are in their msgs) & if you don't get a reply, fuck them, move on to the woman, there's plenty on here.

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By *D125Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"we appreciate winks but mainly reply with a thank you to couples and female's, occasionally a single guy but its rare x the wink definitely serves a purpose, we also send a wink if we like what we see, no harm in that "

You reply to couples and female's, but not single guy's?

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By *elleshellsCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

Love a good wink!!!! Winkers welcome here!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to get one.. I've only had one from a woman since I've been here and she didn't reply when I messaged her, so I guess it was sent to me by mistake lol.

Personally I haven't sent many at all because I don't think there is much chance of them getting seen.

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

ramsey

Its what it's there for! Its all fun getting them

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I dont get many... and those i respond to rarely message back... seems a waste haha

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Depends what it says in the profile if it says not to then don’t

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters


"I never look at my winks, and very rarely at my friend requests. "

I do try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is always worthwhile wanking, if you can't get the real deal!

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