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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

This is something I've mused over before, but it's very difficult to put it into words without using sweeping generalisations. I'll try my best!

Why is it that, in general, men seem to be more concerned about willies than women? How big they are, whether other people's are bigger, what women are looking for, what size and shape is best.

I don't see the same level of interest in vaginas. Sure, some people like to see them, but I've never had anyone request a pic before they meet me to see if I fit their criteria.

Is this a fab thing, or a general thing?

Yours interestedly,

Mrs TMN x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Fanjinas are scary things

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

That gave me a chuckle but it’s true.

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Fanjinas are scary things "

Scary how?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is something I've mused over before, but it's very difficult to put it into words without using sweeping generalisations. I'll try my best!

Why is it that, in general, men seem to be more concerned about willies than women? How big they are, whether other people's are bigger, what women are looking for, what size and shape is best.

I don't see the same level of interest in vaginas. Sure, some people like to see them, but I've never had anyone request a pic before they meet me to see if I fit their criteria.

Is this a fab thing, or a general thing?

Yours interestedly,

Mrs TMN x"

Maybe the thousands of FAB profiles specifying "BBC/BWC/Hung only need apply" makes a few guys feel inadequate?

I'm average, would like an extra inch or 2 but ain't gonna lose any sleep over it as its way down my list of priorities. I guess maybe women wanting bigger boobs/getting boob jobs is probably a better comparison to guys obsessed with their tickle tackle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is something I've mused over before, but it's very difficult to put it into words without using sweeping generalisations. I'll try my best!

Why is it that, in general, men seem to be more concerned about willies than women? How big they are, whether other people's are bigger, what women are looking for, what size and shape is best.

I don't see the same level of interest in vaginas. Sure, some people like to see them, but I've never had anyone request a pic before they meet me to see if I fit their criteria.

Is this a fab thing, or a general thing?

Yours interestedly,

Mrs TMN x"

My knob is my knob I don’t want to know about anyone else’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ego.

Many don't seem to understand it really doesn't matter as much to others as it does to them.

For others it's a diversion from the fact they have fuck all to offer personality wise.

P

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By *risjaneCouple
over a year ago

swindon

I think with men in general it's a ego thing .in my own experience with my wife she enjoys bigger dicks that's one of the reasons we are on here.

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

Haha love this thread.

Im happy with my lot.... fuck all i can do to change it and more interested in ladies that catch my eye as opposed to the penis of other gents!

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

Think some guys worry about being the smallest guy in a group scenario.

I say you can't see how small it is when it's buried deep in a pussy

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Fanjinas are scary things

Scary how? "

Err ... I didnt expect a follow up question .

Scary because when you want one you can never find one , and when you least expect it they jump out at you from behind trees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d imagine it’s insecurity, size could be seen by men as a measurement of masculinity etc, the fear that they aren’t equipt to satisfy a woman breeds a need for reassurance. I’m no psychologist though.

Good sex is about so much more than Dick size, but on Fab it is kinda brought to the fore. Not a place for insecurity, unless you have a humiliation fetish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The penis is the physical embodiment of what it is to be a man.

Men are supposed to be big strong and potent.

So having a big strong potent cock is more manly.

If it’s small and floppy then this must mean your less of a man, at least in the minds of men.

We think we are civilised and that we have progressed passed the level of animals but the truth is even tho we don’t have to compete to survive we have to compete for other things. Education, jobs social status, perspective sexual partners.

Having a big cock is just another metric with which a mans manliness can be measured.

Along with the size of his car/house/pay cheque.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its driven mostky by porn I suspect, most guys have a massive wang.

Women on here asking for larger are in the minority in my experience.

It's also driven by some vile women who think it acceptable to take the piss out of the size of your cock. Always a good way to make you feel insecure

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"This is something I've mused over before, but it's very difficult to put it into words without using sweeping generalisations. I'll try my best!

Why is it that, in general, men seem to be more concerned about willies than women? How big they are, whether other people's are bigger, what women are looking for, what size and shape is best.

I don't see the same level of interest in vaginas. Sure, some people like to see them, but I've never had anyone request a pic before they meet me to see if I fit their criteria.

Is this a fab thing, or a general thing?

Yours interestedly,

Mrs TMN x

Maybe the thousands of FAB profiles specifying "BBC/BWC/Hung only need apply" makes a few guys feel inadequate?

I'm average, would like an extra inch or 2 but ain't gonna lose any sleep over it as its way down my list of priorities. I guess maybe women wanting bigger boobs/getting boob jobs is probably a better comparison to guys obsessed with their tickle tackle. "

So you think it's a fab thing, then?

I haven't seen very many women talking about boob jobs. Maybe it's because of the ratios on here I'm more aware of the penis chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a fab context, a ladies interest in size maybe why they mention it, not because it's explicitly stated on your profile in any way. But it could be through pure innocence of wanting to please you and you not being disappointed on a meet. At the end of the day, the mutual attraction is what makes meets so good. For not all men it's ego, it's about wanting to please you, I'd take it as a compliment more of them having an interest in your wants. I share cock pics when asked for only or if the convo is hinting for it, but I agree some may fire them your way a little prematurely (pun intended). X

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"The penis is the physical embodiment of what it is to be a man.

Men are supposed to be big strong and potent.

So having a big strong potent cock is more manly.

If it’s small and floppy then this must mean your less of a man, at least in the minds of men.

We think we are civilised and that we have progressed passed the level of animals but the truth is even tho we don’t have to compete to survive we have to compete for other things. Education, jobs social status, perspective sexual partners.

Having a big cock is just another metric with which a mans manliness can be measured.

Along with the size of his car/house/pay cheque.

"

Ah, you said "at least in the minds of men" - is that why it's so prevalent on fab? Men jostling for position?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This organ wasnt designed to play in a cathedral!

I guess asking for specific dimensions for a vagina would be seen as a little odd? Whereas it's perfectly acceptable to request dimensions of a penis and case aside those who dont meet them?

Phallic obsession isnt a new thing as you well know!

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now "

I find it fascinating. Yes, there are people who specify. Is it the majority, though, or is it just the case that those who shout loudest are heard the most?

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


" This organ wasnt designed to play in a cathedral!

I guess asking for specific dimensions for a vagina would be seen as a little odd? Whereas it's perfectly acceptable to request dimensions of a penis and case aside those who dont meet them?

Phallic obsession isnt a new thing as you well know! "

Why, though. Why?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think as it's a prominent (as in it sticks out) part of the anatomy then it's an instinctive thing to compare sizes, or make note of a particularly prominent one, in the same way as we might notice someone with a big nose, or sticky out ears etc - and that's something that usually starts at school - can certainly remember the changing room jokes and sniggers about a friend of mine who was particularly large.

The thing is though, as we mature and realise that size really doesn't matter most of us move on and just accept what we have and that there is nothing we can do about it - which is what I have pretty much always done since those early school changing room moments.

Trouble is, for some, especially on a site like this, it's easy to fall into the trap of believing they are somehow inadequate when they see something that they perceive as bigger or better than their own - same as a lot of guys get hang ups about performance because so many on here talk about how they can go all night without cumming or repeat at will etc etc

A lot of it comes down to typical male ego or bravado rather than appreciating we're all different and the vast majority of women really couldn't be bothered what size it is, or how long it lasts etc.

Personally I have an average sized cock, that doesn't always work how I'd like it to BUT I accept that, know I can't change the size, find ways to work around the other issues I have with it and am generally happy with my lot, and think those that meet me are too.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Its driven mostky by porn I suspect, most guys have a massive wang.

Women on here asking for larger are in the minority in my experience.

It's also driven by some vile women who think it acceptable to take the piss out of the size of your cock. Always a good way to make you feel insecure"

Yes i agree with the porn thing.

Porn has a lot to answer for!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now

I find it fascinating. Yes, there are people who specify. Is it the majority, though, or is it just the case that those who shout loudest are heard the most? "

This is true, they do stick in your mind more.

Like women will care a lot more about their stretch marks for example, where I've yet to find a bloke who gave a monkeys about them, even though I think they will. Is it just a perpetual myth that we then all tend to adhere to? Because it's what we see in some porn or some magazine?

Or is it a part of toxic masculinity? Where it's acceptable to take the piss about the size of a man's penis size. So that it becomes a symbol of strength?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Could say the same about tits..constant threads about who likes big tits, who likes small tits, real tits , enhanced tits, pert,saggy etc etc etc

I'm sure those threads probably make some people feel insecure too..

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I think as it's a prominent (as in it sticks out) part of the anatomy then it's an instinctive thing to compare sizes, or make note of a particularly prominent one, in the same way as we might notice someone with a big nose, or sticky out ears etc - and that's something that usually starts at school - can certainly remember the changing room jokes and sniggers about a friend of mine who was particularly large.

The thing is though, as we mature and realise that size really doesn't matter most of us move on and just accept what we have and that there is nothing we can do about it - which is what I have pretty much always done since those early school changing room moments.

Trouble is, for some, especially on a site like this, it's easy to fall into the trap of believing they are somehow inadequate when they see something that they perceive as bigger or better than their own - same as a lot of guys get hang ups about performance because so many on here talk about how they can go all night without cumming or repeat at will etc etc

A lot of it comes down to typical male ego or bravado rather than appreciating we're all different and the vast majority of women really couldn't be bothered what size it is, or how long it lasts etc.

Personally I have an average sized cock, that doesn't always work how I'd like it to BUT I accept that, know I can't change the size, find ways to work around the other issues I have with it and am generally happy with my lot, and think those that meet me are too."

Thank you, GM. Very interesting! I genuinely don't understand it, but I guess it's pretty hardwired, particularly on such a visual medium as fab.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Could say the same about tits..constant threads about who likes big tits, who likes small tits, real tits , enhanced tits, pert,saggy etc etc etc

I'm sure those threads probably make some people feel insecure too..

"

Excellent point well made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is something I've mused over before, but it's very difficult to put it into words without using sweeping generalisations. I'll try my best!

Why is it that, in general, men seem to be more concerned about willies than women? How big they are, whether other people's are bigger, what women are looking for, what size and shape is best.

I don't see the same level of interest in vaginas. Sure, some people like to see them, but I've never had anyone request a pic before they meet me to see if I fit their criteria.

Is this a fab thing, or a general thing?

Yours interestedly,

Mrs TMN x"

It’s a basal identifier; it’s one of the most unique differences between the sexes so to the primal part of our minds the bigger that difference, the more male we are and the greater our sexual prowess.

It doesn’t work like that with the developed part of our minds; that seeks the emotional and intellectual connection levels we each prefer.

That basic part still remains however and it will always be triggered whenever penis size gets questioned, either by the owner or an observer.

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now

I find it fascinating. Yes, there are people who specify. Is it the majority, though, or is it just the case that those who shout loudest are heard the most?

This is true, they do stick in your mind more.

Like women will care a lot more about their stretch marks for example, where I've yet to find a bloke who gave a monkeys about them, even though I think they will. Is it just a perpetual myth that we then all tend to adhere to? Because it's what we see in some porn or some magazine?

Or is it a part of toxic masculinity? Where it's acceptable to take the piss about the size of a man's penis size. So that it becomes a symbol of strength? "

So "what we think other people care about" vs "what most people actually care about"? Media representations of beauty and virility leading to insecurity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I became aware of the relative size of cocks as a teenager at school. One lad who had an unusually big cock was ridiculed for it. I was conscious about mine and felt it was relatively small. I made sure I always hid behind a towel.

It was definitely a case for me of feeling less of a man. Thankfully I don’t feel like that now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is all about sex isnt it. Willies play a big (or small) part of that. Its about sexual confidence maybe. Id like a cleavage and could get a bit obsessed with push up bra's to try and create one. Willy obsession is sex obsession and we all like that

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Life is all about sex isnt it. Willies play a big (or small) part of that. Its about sexual confidence maybe. Id like a cleavage and could get a bit obsessed with push up bra's to try and create one. Willy obsession is sex obsession and we all like that "

Oh don't get me wrong, I love willies! Just musing. As I do sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same goes for fajitas I guess...

Big flaps.. little flaps..

Big clit... invisible clit...

Tight... Bucket...

We are who we are...

When this lockdown lifts most blokes on here will fuck anything with a pulse anyway

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now

I find it fascinating. Yes, there are people who specify. Is it the majority, though, or is it just the case that those who shout loudest are heard the most?

This is true, they do stick in your mind more.

Like women will care a lot more about their stretch marks for example, where I've yet to find a bloke who gave a monkeys about them, even though I think they will. Is it just a perpetual myth that we then all tend to adhere to? Because it's what we see in some porn or some magazine?

Or is it a part of toxic masculinity? Where it's acceptable to take the piss about the size of a man's penis size. So that it becomes a symbol of strength?

So "what we think other people care about" vs "what most people actually care about"? Media representations of beauty and virility leading to insecurity? "


"Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now

I find it fascinating. Yes, there are people who specify. Is it the majority, though, or is it just the case that those who shout loudest are heard the most?

This is true, they do stick in your mind more.

Like women will care a lot more about their stretch marks for example, where I've yet to find a bloke who gave a monkeys about them, even though I think they will. Is it just a perpetual myth that we then all tend to adhere to? Because it's what we see in some porn or some magazine?

Or is it a part of toxic masculinity? Where it's acceptable to take the piss about the size of a man's penis size. So that it becomes a symbol of strength?

So "what we think other people care about" vs "what most people actually care about"? Media representations of beauty and virility leading to insecurity? "

This is what I think it is personally. If we think how much the body positive movement has told women to embrace their bodies for what they are in the last few years. There hasn't been that equivalent drive for men, you've only got to see the cover of men's health to see what is deemed the ultimate man according to the media.

I may be talking utter nonsense though mind, I just think men are under more pressure about their appearance than us women give them credit for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is something I've mused over before, but it's very difficult to put it into words without using sweeping generalisations. I'll try my best!

Why is it that, in general, men seem to be more concerned about willies than women? How big they are, whether other people's are bigger, what women are looking for, what size and shape is best.

I don't see the same level of interest in vaginas. Sure, some people like to see them, but I've never had anyone request a pic before they meet me to see if I fit their criteria.

Is this a fab thing, or a general thing?

Yours interestedly,

Mrs TMN x"
more men and a lot of mens brains are in it, it only gets air when released and talked about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is definitely a thing and I’ve had a few traumatic experiences of men obsessing over my dick, its size and what all that has to do with my race.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Whatever you all think mine is wonderful not in it’s size but it’s beauty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a cock. What's so special? As long as it does the job. No need to see the preview

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The penis is the physical embodiment of what it is to be a man.

Men are supposed to be big strong and potent.

So having a big strong potent cock is more manly.

If it’s small and floppy then this must mean your less of a man, at least in the minds of men.

We think we are civilised and that we have progressed passed the level of animals but the truth is even tho we don’t have to compete to survive we have to compete for other things. Education, jobs social status, perspective sexual partners.

Having a big cock is just another metric with which a mans manliness can be measured.

Along with the size of his car/house/pay cheque.

Ah, you said "at least in the minds of men" - is that why it's so prevalent on fab? Men jostling for position?

"

This thread is about why it’s such a big issue for men isn’t it.

Fab is no different from anything else in this world, it’s all about men jostling for position, why would fab be any different.

The world has limited resources there will always be competition

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By *risjaneCouple
over a year ago

swindon

Even now I'm concious of my dick it's small and have all my but at the same time I love it when my wife humilated me in front of a guy shes with, it affects everybody differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now

I find it fascinating. Yes, there are people who specify. Is it the majority, though, or is it just the case that those who shout loudest are heard the most?

This is true, they do stick in your mind more.

Like women will care a lot more about their stretch marks for example, where I've yet to find a bloke who gave a monkeys about them, even though I think they will. Is it just a perpetual myth that we then all tend to adhere to? Because it's what we see in some porn or some magazine?

Or is it a part of toxic masculinity? Where it's acceptable to take the piss about the size of a man's penis size. So that it becomes a symbol of strength? "

I think you nailed it with your last sentence

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Interesting question Mrs TMN, agree with some of the above. I've yet to see a males profile stating he wants a wizards sleeve etc. But see plenty of women's staying they want girthy, not too big or average etc. So is it men who are obsessed or is it actually us women? Bloody confused myself now

I find it fascinating. Yes, there are people who specify. Is it the majority, though, or is it just the case that those who shout loudest are heard the most?

This is true, they do stick in your mind more.

Like women will care a lot more about their stretch marks for example, where I've yet to find a bloke who gave a monkeys about them, even though I think they will. Is it just a perpetual myth that we then all tend to adhere to? Because it's what we see in some porn or some magazine?

Or is it a part of toxic masculinity? Where it's acceptable to take the piss about the size of a man's penis size. So that it becomes a symbol of strength?

I think you nailed it with your last sentence "

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By *risjaneCouple
over a year ago

swindon

Yes I guess it right

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