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"I'm curious to know how other people on here go about ending a conversation/message thread with someone. For example, been messaging back and forth for a day or two trying to gauge if things would go well/enough chemistry etc. Say they come out with a very strange comment/something to put you off completely. How would you tell them it's a no, or would you just stop chatting and block etc" awwwww what did i say damnit ![]() | |||
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"Just ignore and then if they pester, block" This tends to be my strategy. I get put off pretty easily and quickly so I don't feel bad about it | |||
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"Just ignore and then if they pester, block This tends to be my strategy. I get put off pretty easily and quickly so I don't feel bad about it " This is me completely. I tend to form connections fast but I also lose them even quicker. One off remark and they're a gonner, I just wasn't sure if there was a nicer way around it other than ignore | |||
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"Just ignore and then if they pester, block This tends to be my strategy. I get put off pretty easily and quickly so I don't feel bad about it " Same x | |||
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"Just ignore and then if they pester, block This tends to be my strategy. I get put off pretty easily and quickly so I don't feel bad about it This is me completely. I tend to form connections fast but I also lose them even quicker. One off remark and they're a gonner, I just wasn't sure if there was a nicer way around it other than ignore" You could always say ‘sorry but I’m just not feeling it’. I’ve used this a few times. If they pester then I block. Most take it ok though. Xx | |||
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"I'm curious to know how other people on here go about ending a conversation/message thread with someone. For example, been messaging back and forth for a day or two trying to gauge if things would go well/enough chemistry etc. Say they come out with a very strange comment/something to put you off completely. How would you tell them it's a no, or would you just stop chatting and block etc" Move country. | |||
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"I'm curious to know how other people on here go about ending a conversation/message thread with someone. For example, been messaging back and forth for a day or two trying to gauge if things would go well/enough chemistry etc. Say they come out with a very strange comment/something to put you off completely. How would you tell them it's a no, or would you just stop chatting and block etc" How do they normally do it in Doncaster? | |||
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"I’m struggling with this. Sometimes the chemistry seems there and then I see a face pic and lose interest. Sounds harsh, but sometimes the body and chat doesn’t match the face. " Eeek if I sent a face pic and then someone ghosted or blocked me that would be scarring. ![]() | |||
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"I’m struggling with this. Sometimes the chemistry seems there and then I see a face pic and lose interest. Sounds harsh, but sometimes the body and chat doesn’t match the face. " Always ask for a face pic early on, it's less awkward. One of my private notes says 'face doesn't match the body' ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Just ignore and then if they pester, block This tends to be my strategy. I get put off pretty easily and quickly so I don't feel bad about it This is me completely. I tend to form connections fast but I also lose them even quicker. One off remark and they're a gonner, I just wasn't sure if there was a nicer way around it other than ignore" I can understand the temptation to simply ignore in the expectation (or hope) that they'll go away eventually, but that doesn't sound entirely considerate to me even if they've said something you don't like. Two discourtesies don't make a right - it fosters unnecessary ambiguity (on both parts) and just lowers you to the same level... sorry to be so blunt but that's the truth of it. At least send a polite and succinct 'no thanks' to make things crystal clear from that point on. If they persist then block and hold your head high. | |||
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"I’m struggling with this. Sometimes the chemistry seems there and then I see a face pic and lose interest. Sounds harsh, but sometimes the body and chat doesn’t match the face. " That's because you are not focusing on biology! | |||
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"I’m struggling with this. Sometimes the chemistry seems there and then I see a face pic and lose interest. Sounds harsh, but sometimes the body and chat doesn’t match the face. Eeek if I sent a face pic and then someone ghosted or blocked me that would be scarring. ![]() I don’t want to scar anyone!! So how would you have someone deal with that? | |||
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"You tell them you have changed your mind! It's hardly rocket science. ![]() ^ this. I've done it plenty of times. | |||
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"I always say something! I find ghosting or ignorance very rude to be honest and its not nice to behave like that especially after you had few days of conversation. Simply say ,I don’t think I’m feeling your vibe and don’t want to waste much of your time either. sorry x ![]() ![]() This goes for me too. | |||
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"I wish people would just be amicable and say look I’m not interested thank you for your time" ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I wish people would just be amicable and say look I’m not interested thank you for your time ![]() ![]() If only hey | |||
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"I wish people would just be amicable and say look I’m not interested thank you for your time ![]() ![]() Why not ...? | |||
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"'Ive appreciated your messages, but I'm letting you know Im not interested in taking things further. Bye x' Then block so you can't see their response ![]() Exactly this, it's absolutely fine to change your mind, it's best to block, but mean to leave someone hanging. | |||
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"I stop replying and ignore. If he's not thick, he will get the hint." i tried but the draw was just too much ![]() | |||
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"I stop replying and ignore. If he's not thick, he will get the hint.i tried but the draw was just too much ![]() Well you went to school with the fishes, what can I say ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I stop replying and ignore. If he's not thick, he will get the hint.i tried but the draw was just too much ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() true be bass in a minute ![]() | |||
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"I'm curious to know how other people on here go about ending a conversation/message thread with someone. For example, been messaging back and forth for a day or two trying to gauge if things would go well/enough chemistry etc. Say they come out with a very strange comment/something to put you off completely. How would you tell them it's a no, or would you just stop chatting and block etc" For me it depends, People's moods can change daily so if they come out with something which makes me question meeting them I'll give them another chance but if they do/say something similar again I'll decline respectfully. If they abuse me for that I'll see it as a lucky escape and move on ![]() | |||
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