FabSwingers.com forum: Scars

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you see someone that has a scar whether it’s a pic on fab or at the gym/swimming pool or just out, does it turn your stomach or it’s not an issue for you?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It's not an issue at all for us.

I do hate my own though.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not an issue. Although I won’t lie, I will look and wonder how they got the scar before giving myself a mental slap.

I’m just nosey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having scars myself from surgery and childbirth it would not bother me to see them on someone else.

Your scars are part of your history and anyone not liking them or making negative comments shouldn't be tolerated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No issue

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

No issue at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No issue at all. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you be inclined to ask how they got them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as it is not scars inflicted by someone they have met that I'd like to meet

... I don't mind

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

It's not an issue for me. I used to be quite self conscious about my C- section scar but it doesn't bother me now.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Certainly would not turn my stomach as i am not that shallow.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Not phased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not an issue at all. I will admit sometimes I'll probably have more than a glance but I never think anything bad. I think they're pretty interesting!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not an issue. I'm self conscious about some of mine, but I've never had a problem with other people judging mine.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Nothing wrong with them. we are just all perfect imperfections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, they show your battles and what you've overcome.. some can be a bit shocking at first.. but its human nature to notice things that are different

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Got a few on my back, but it’s a long grisly story

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I have an impressive fish bone scar down one of my calves, I just have an embarrassing story behind it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite proud of my few scars.

I have a nice one on my lower lip.

Chicks dig scars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars dont bother me at all x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Would you be inclined to ask how they got them? "

If I knew them well enough to know they wouldn’t mind me asking, then yes I would.

Otherwise no.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd be a bit of a hypocrite if I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re not an issue for me. I don’t think positively or negatively about them. Sometimes if they’re quite prominent or in an unusual place or shape then I might wonder how they got them but depending who it was, I probably wouldn’t ask.

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By *rad_ell12Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

I've got one on my arm and the story is amusing so can be a great story to tell. So I really don't mind, and then really don't mind being asked as well haha

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Depends on the scar and it’s location. If it looks like happened by being a gang member , yes. Others can be really sexy and intriguing so no, it doesn’t bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple of small ones and if people ever ask I’ll tell them. Doesn’t bother me, almost everyone has a scar or two.

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By *ig BapsWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I dont have an issue I scars and stretchmarks.

My ex had some scars from Rugby loved them! There a reflection of your journey!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"Depends on the scar and it’s location. If it looks like happened by being a gang member , yes. Others can be really sexy and intriguing so no, it doesn’t bother me

One of mine looks like a shark attack and I often tell people it is, especially if it’s at a beach when they ask, funny to see their faces when I say it happened on a reef just out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Misha’s caesarean scar is sexy because of what it represents

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"It's not an issue for me. I used to be quite self conscious about my C- section scar but it doesn't bother me now. "

Four years ago I was seeing a Brazilian woman who said she'd had a cesarian section. You literally could not see anything. I couldn't understand, as others I'd seen were clearly visible.

She told me in Brazil they do them differently to England & basically say they butcher you here.

I didn't know that.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

*caesarian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple of scars and a tummy of tiger stripes. Sometimes I'm self conscious of them. So when it comes to other people I know they may feel that way too. I wouldn't mention them. Some are actually rather beautiful because it's part of someone's journey in life

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Not got a c-section scar but years ago I think any wound that need stitching appeared to be a stitch you up quick job, where as now they are more conscious of the scar that will be left, maybe to do with people being more body conscious now and would perhaps look to have cosmetic surgery to correct if they thought unsightly. Nobody notices my throat scar from 5 years ago but I’m sure if it was done 20 years ago they would, they even told me the were going to cut along my crease before the op to disguise it, cheeky devils I said what crease haha

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

No issues with seeing scars here. Scars can be quite hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue for me

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Spooky timing. Tomorrow is the 3yr anniversary of my double mastectomy. I had some pretty bad scars- thick, purple and very noticeable. I was hung up on it for a long time. Ex husband refused to look at them

and i think he only touched them once.

Took someone special to help me get past it. And to be fair they've healed much better than i expected.

So no. I don't judge scars on others. I am curious to the back story but wouldn't put me off them. It's just packaging at the end of the day and some folk have a rougher journey than others. It's inside that counts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has scars if not physically then definitely emotionally. I think it’s a self confidence thing as I have a few scars on my stomach from surgery 18 months ago and I hate them. But no one should judge you based on scars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me at all, they are part of a persons history

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I have a number of scars below my waist and up and down my legs also because of what happened my right foot sticks out at about 2 o clock.

I’m self conscious as fuck especially the ones on my legs. They have always been painfully pointed out with people also trying to touch them.

I don’t care as much anymore but it only takes the attention on me and it comes back.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Have no impact on us either.

Mr M has about 20 and I have one very large one but it doesn't change who we are and are all part of our life story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the imperfections that make people beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am pretty heavily scared up from 2 major bowel surgery’s.I have a half zipper...I am just learning to embrace em...I think people stare more at my tattoos than my scars when I go swimming...it may put some people off or it may not but I am learning not to give a crap about it

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Perfectly imperfect

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"It is the imperfections that make people beautiful"

This

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Child birth scars have always made me feel a little insecure. It’s lovely seeing that it’s not an issue for everyone above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars are tattoos for the adventurous. The brave or people that have lived. I think they are alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars show you have lived. I have many myself and have no problems with others who have them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you see someone that has a scar whether it’s a pic on fab or at the gym/swimming pool or just out, does it turn your stomach or it’s not an issue for you? "

Not an issue at all. I have a few myself, never thought about hiding them.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Not an issue. Don't even notice them really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue for me. I used to hate mine, but a friend pointed out they’re there because of the surgery that saved my life, so now I can accept them x Viv x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No issue for us, we both have several , I can be quite nosy and ask what they are, occasionally when someone pauses and says they don’t know or can’t remember I feel a bit bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue but it does pique my curiosity as to the story behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't turn my stomach

But I don't find them particularly attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few scars. Not much I can do about them. I don't think I would be put off by someone's scars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely no problem for me whatsoever.

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

Not an issue for me, be a hypocrite if it was.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Doesn't bother me, I do ask before touching it though as some men don't like it

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

Having had surgery for cancer removal and 3 c-sections, I hate mine, but the Mr loves them as they are my history and with three fantastic children and the fact I’m still here to talk about them, he wouldn’t change them for the world. However, it still doesn’t stop me from hating them. So no they wouldn’t bother us on either men or women and they wouldn’t put us off someone either.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It wouldn’t put me off meeting someone at all. It’s part of who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love scars. I will usually check the person's sensitivity towards them before launching into tracing, playing, talking about them

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s part of life. They have their own story to tell. I love a story.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Would you be inclined to ask how they got them? "

That would be rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every scar tells a story.

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By *0NyorksMan
over a year ago

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I like scars.. they all tell a story and a part of a persons make up and personality.

More scars often means more interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue for me.

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

I've just acquired a scar on my tummy from having my appendix out.

I can't do anything to get rid of it so if you don't like it then tough!

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I really like scars, I love the way they look and like finding out the story behind them.

I have one of my own over my shoulder and like the way it feels when it's touched too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 c section scars and a birth mark that looks more like a burn.

They're part of my body. Not particularly fussed.

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

Self harm scars would concern me as it could be a reflection of their mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a problem with me. My scar does tend to get people talking at meets

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Would you be inclined to ask how they got them? "

No I don’t think I would ask. I would listen if they wanted to talk about it though.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Would you be inclined to ask how they got them?

That would be rude. "

Obviously I can't speak for everyone but personally I've never minded people asking about mine

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I have 6 scars and some wonky bits. Lots of stories.

I like scars and body stories, stretch marks and life's art.

Bad tatoos though!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not an issue for me. I used to be quite self conscious about my C- section scar but it doesn't bother me now. "

Your body is smoking so nothing to worry about there, Mrs C has a c section scar and I love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a scar on my stomach and a few light scars on my head. I'm not conscious of them though and if someone was to ask, I'd tell them. I would hope they didnt turn people's stomach!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few scars, so doesn't bother me if someone has them... it tells a story xx

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've a scar on my stomach and a few light scars on my head. I'm not conscious of them though and if someone was to ask, I'd tell them. I would hope they didnt turn people's stomach!

Hey scar twin

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

"When you see someone that has a scar whether it’s a pic on fab or at the gym/swimming pool or just out, does it turn your stomach or it’s not an issue for you? "
never an issue and sometimes intrigued on how They have got the scars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're kinda sexy

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Someones scars don’t bother me and I hope mine don’t bother them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turns my stomach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on the scar and the location

I have 2 from c-sections and of they turn stomachs then it says more about them than me

I think scars can tell a story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've a scar on my stomach and a few light scars on my head. I'm not conscious of them though and if someone was to ask, I'd tell them. I would hope they didnt turn people's stomach!

Hey scar twin

Hey there!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Spooky timing. Tomorrow is the 3yr anniversary of my double mastectomy. I had some pretty bad scars- thick, purple and very noticeable. I was hung up on it for a long time. Ex husband refused to look at them

and i think he only touched them once.

Took someone special to help me get past it. And to be fair they've healed much better than i expected.

A double mastectomy, I can't imagine going through that.

You and your boobs look great..I hope you don't mind me saying that..but they do.

I'm glad that you have come out the otherside and found someone special who appreciates and cares for you, the person. As you say it is just the packaging and it's what's inside that really counts x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Not an issue, all part of the person and I’m sure everyone has at least one

As for asking, I don’t mind If people ask, but I’d find it odd if someone asked me as part of the initial conversation, I personally think they may have a shallow side, which I don’t find appealing in anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m quite proud of my few scars.

I have a nice one on my lower lip.

Chicks dig scars

Chicks pecks seeds, surely???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind scars as long as they are made from scratch!

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Don’t bother me but as the owner of a foot long scar down the front of both legs I’d be a bit hypocritical if it did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and i think he only touched them once.

Took someone special to help me get past it. And to be fair they've healed much better than i expected.

Loving touch can be so healing. Glad you were lucky to find someone who appreciates you x

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

and i think he only touched them once.

Took someone special to help me get past it. And to be fair they've healed much better than i expected.

A double mastectomy, I can't imagine going through that.

You and your boobs look great..I hope you don't mind me saying that..but they do.

I'm glad that you have come out the otherside and found someone special who appreciates and cares for you, the person. As you say it is just the packaging and it's what's inside that really counts x

I don't mind you saying that at all. It's took 3 long years but now I can almost see my scars the same way I see my tattoos. They mean something. Like the ink, I earnt them and they helped make me who I am.

And I've been very lucky to find someone who helps me believe that. And believes in me. Did not expect to find it here on fab, a place I joined as a kind of therapy to get past my scars and confidence issues. I must have done something right at some point to deserve this

Thank fuck for fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont bother me. I have a fairly sized birth mark which I don't think is that different.

Some scars carry powerful history behind them...

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

and i think he only touched them once.

Took someone special to help me get past it. And to be fair they've healed much better than i expected.

Loving touch can be so healing. Glad you were lucky to find someone who appreciates you x "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and i think he only touched them once.

Took someone special to help me get past it. And to be fair they've healed much better than i expected.

A double mastectomy, I can't imagine going through that.

You and your boobs look great..I hope you don't mind me saying that..but they do.

I'm glad that you have come out the otherside and found someone special who appreciates and cares for you, the person. As you say it is just the packaging and it's what's inside that really counts x

Thank fuck for fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A negative comment was made about my stretch marks from a guy who I said no thank you to. Im proud of my stretch marks as they represent me being a proud mother. The marks are 20 years old but they are part of me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A negative comment was made about my stretch marks from a guy who I said no thank you to. Im proud of my stretch marks as they represent me being a proud mother. The marks are 20 years old but they are part of me !

They look amazing!

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim

I’m sometimes intrigued as to how people got their scars but obviously don’t bring attention to it unless it comes up in conversation or they openly tell me. Same as my own.

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

The only scars that would bother me are self harm scars because they make me question their mental health and the Glaswegian facial"chibs" because most folk don't get them for nothing, it's not been unprovoked or been caused a random stranger in most cases.

Most of my scars are pretty small, the biggest is covered by my hair so that just leaves my tiger stripes all over my bum & back of thighs from 19 years ago, none on my stomach though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only scars that would bother me are self harm scars because they make me question their mental health and the Glaswegian facial"chibs" because most folk don't get them for nothing, it's not been unprovoked or been caused a random stranger in most cases.

Most of my scars are pretty small, the biggest is covered by my hair so that just leaves my tiger stripes all over my bum & back of thighs from 19 years ago, none on my stomach though. "

So, most of your scars are from scratch?

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

Mainly welding burns & metal scrapes, yes. Only surgery I've had was keyhole so they are small too.

I got 2 dents in my leg but there are not scars, can't see them just feel them.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

A scar tell a story

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