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what things in a conversation turn you off?!

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By *adyJayne OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

So BDSM is a big thing for me, as I make clear in my profile. But the second someone calls it 'being naughty' or even worse 'being nawty' I'm out.

What about you?

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By *lapheadsiMan
over a year ago

southend

I normally scare people off when I say hi lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Calling the police is a real deal breaker for me

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There aren't specific terms or phrases, although I abhor text speak so that would be an instant turn off - it's more general attitude and approach or if I find a conversation isn't flowing that I lose interest quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently: how you have been holding up? As a chat up line.

It's different coming from friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In person, strange noises like sniffling or heavy breathing. In writing, bad spelling. In both, vulgar language. You can talk dirty and swear with class but most fail at it.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Arrogance or a big ego turn me off, if somebody plays any kind of mental games I'm straight out of there, apart from that the normal things.

I also like people to be extremely respectful of others and tolerant of differences.

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By *adyJayne OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Calling the police is a real deal breaker for me"

But... Handcuffs?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im hugly into BDSM too but when I get 'Hi Slut' its an instant block, they assume because im a submissive that I must be a slut and I hate it, 'whore' is another name they think I should be called

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Anyone who skips / ignores what I've said, or has almost total obsession over their needs without mine, has started to be saying goodbye.

Anyone saying anything that I experience as pushy or insensitive to me is also a no. A high proportion of men here are excessively pushy, lacking in social graces and finesse, almost as if they have spent their lives in prison, away from decent, respectful people.

Infantile talking is a turnoff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a woman once say "I dont care what you want am here for me" i understand we are all here to get somthing, but i think its fair to give and recieive so that ended my conversation ahah

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Single word answers when I’m trying to chat and get to know someone. I don’t get why you’d agree to messaging but then just reply to messages with a yes, no, maybe, guess, possibly or whatever single word they chose to use. After the 3rd single word reply I’ve been known to ask if they can say more than one word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate nawty/naughty, we're not in primary school. Heavy cummer, nope. VWE, nope.

Stop with the bravado.

Just be normal. It's not difficult

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By *ourney100Man
over a year ago

South East

When they actually live up to what it says in their bio! Nothing worse than a profile that makes the person who wrote it sound wild, fun and sexy but is just lies and pure fantasy!

I'll happily chat to anyone on here but all I ask is for whoever Im speaking to to be themselves.

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Im hugly into BDSM too but when I get 'Hi Slut' its an instant block, they assume because im a submissive that I must be a slut and I hate it, 'whore' is another name they think I should be called "

WTF is wrong with folk. We’ve chatted a fair bit and I still wouldn’t start a conversation with comments like slut n whore ffs

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By *adyJayne OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Im hugly into BDSM too but when I get 'Hi Slut' its an instant block, they assume because im a submissive that I must be a slut and I hate it, 'whore' is another name they think I should be called "

Oh god yes.

Actually the right person, in the right situations calling me slut or whore makes me a puddle. The wrong person is likely to get a broken nose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Castration talk is a bit of a mood killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone logs off halfway through without saying goodbye

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Anyone assuming they know exactly what I want and that I'll be putty in their hands.

Show, don't tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Castration talk is a bit of a mood killer"

Depends on your kink hehe.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Partner in crime". Consensual sexual activities aren't a crime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone logs off halfway through without saying goodbye

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Haha, yes, I've had this a couple of times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a grammar nazi, but I'd overlook any message content, if they have great tits

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Grown men that use 'hehehe'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im hugly into BDSM too but when I get 'Hi Slut' its an instant block, they assume because im a submissive that I must be a slut and I hate it, 'whore' is another name they think I should be called

Oh god yes.

Actually the right person, in the right situations calling me slut or whore makes me a puddle. The wrong person is likely to get a broken nose!"

In play with a Dom slut is tolerable but in the first message of fake doms is a definite no. The fakes really do stand out then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im hugly into BDSM too but when I get 'Hi Slut' its an instant block, they assume because im a submissive that I must be a slut and I hate it, 'whore' is another name they think I should be called

Oh god yes.

Actually the right person, in the right situations calling me slut or whore makes me a puddle. The wrong person is likely to get a broken nose!"

In play with a Dom slut is tolerable but in the first message of fake doms is a definite no. The fakes really do stand out then lol

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

People who are particularly sensitive about the use of certain words turn me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those war and peace efforts where they are describing what think they are going to do to you.

Yes never mind all that... No mention of dinner or breakfast and you've lost me

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Text talk ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those that send essays about what they want to do to me, without even asking what I like, all I think is..... erm no you won't!

I also just here "me me me"

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Any unimaginative ones, I need mental stimulation

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The minute a message starts "does she..." I'm off faster than a frightened rabbit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who are pushy or monosyllabic put me off. I do understand that some people don't want to get into long and tedious message tennis but a lack of manners and warmth tends to dilute my interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t stand stories, and people launching into a scenario before so much as a hello has been exchanged

L x

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

When the second or third message is "what are you wearing"? Like I sit here all day in sexy underwear??

And "what will you do to/with me"?

How the fuck do I know, it's a stupid question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that think they're weird and havnt come to accept their own kinks. Own yourself or go practice on someone else.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

It would depend on the conversation, time, place and person.

Anything to do the the three P's at anytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if anyone says the word "banter" I am out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when people say they are horny in the first few messages

I'm not some magical cure to your horniness

I also don't just fuck anyone

honestly couldn't care less about it

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Have you put the bins out?

Don’t forget to phone your Mom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone assuming they know exactly what I want and that I'll be putty in their hands.

Show, don't tell."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I agree with naughty and heavy cummer. Doesn't really do anything for me...

I hate the 'I don't bite, unless you ask me to' on profiles grrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who tell me when they have read my profile and it is amazing and they really want to get to know me when there is nothing but "I will be updating my profile later" so cut and paste is so obvious here it is unreal. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just when a girl says no to anything I suggest.....a bit like my ex! Hud on then, just you lay there like a sack of tatties till I'm finished!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who put Haha after a rediculous line as if it makes it sound better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short two or three worded messages. The worst are when they initiate it with interesting profile. Then you have to wait a few days to get a second reply with a couple words.

It makes me question why they messaged in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here when men message you there looking for a slut or better still there secret slut it’s an instant turn off for me & I block!

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