FabSwingers.com forum: Jealousy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s negative. Whereas envious I think is different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it’s negative. Whereas envious I think is different. "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

For me it’s felling crap about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy? "

Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s been an influx of Lamborghini’s driving through my town and also seen an F12 Berlinetta, I *think* one of the boys I know is opening his gym illegally and letting these out of towners use it cos I’ve seen them parked outside it.

Listening to these cars and seeing them I get jealous, it’s more than envy, it’s like fuck I wish I had that.

Motors make me feel jealous.

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By *nnnikCouple
over a year ago

Walsall

Jealousy an emotion common amongst the insecure...nik

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy an emotion common amongst the insecure...nik"

yes. I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a valid emotion I think. People don't always act negatively on the basis of it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My penis is something I hide, the five inches gives me no pride, it would make no women zealous, nor other men jealous. And I'm ashamed that it's only that wide!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Jealousy is a fear emotion, so I would say no. But being envious is a good emotion to drive someone one to better themselves

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"Jealousy an emotion common amongst the insecure...nik

yes. I agree"

second that!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need a bit of everything sometimes! It depends how you handle that emotion!

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

D."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

D."

I read this as if Jo had chest hair and you were jealous hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?

Yeah that makes sense. Jealousy being toxic form of envy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience of jealousy has always been very negative and destructive

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature..."

And yet envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, weird innit

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By *aptain Pugwash1000Man
over a year ago

CRNW

I think being jealous isn't healthy at all.

It's better being happy and content with what you are/have.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I'm not sure if it is desire, jelouse, inspiration or just me dreaming, but being a transvestite I put a lot of effort into being (looking) feminine .

When I look at people like yourself OP my heart melts because I know I will never look that good.xx

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

I read this as if Jo had chest hair and you were jealous hahaha"

If she had two I would be

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature...

And yet envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, weird innit

Yeah but the church doesn’t want you to be competitive. Just well behaved and accepting that you have nothing and they have everything.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

D."

Please don't!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature...

And yet envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, weird innit

Yeah but the church doesn’t want you to be competitive. Just well behaved and accepting that you have nothing and they have everything."

Sounds about right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature...

And yet envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, weird innit

Yeah but the church doesn’t want you to be competitive. Just well behaved and accepting that you have nothing and they have everything.

Sounds about right

Ooooh. Work mellowing you out now?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

Please don't!

smooth all the way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a relationship many years ago with a girl who played with my jealousy, using it to manipulate me. I realised through this that it was a weakness in me and I have vowed to never feel it again. It was a very destructive force and ultimately only made me feel bad.

I do still feel envy. There are always other people doing things and have things I would also like, but I also accept there are reasons I don't have them. If to achieve what they have I need to be more like those who have, then I probably don't want it after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is negative.

Any kind of comparison also if not managed properly can lead into negativity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is negative.

Any kind of comparison also if not managed properly can lead into negativity."

Morning lovely. But it’s part of human nature isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is negative.

Any kind of comparison also if not managed properly can lead into negativity.

Morning lovely. But it’s part of human nature isn’t it?

Morning. It is. I am not saying it's easy to control or avoid.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm not a jealous person but I do get envious of people. It doesn't make me anger or bitter which I think for me is the difference. I feel envious a lot on here

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?"

Yes it does have value into people improving themselves.

Jealously isnt always a negative it can also be a positive,it really goes on who's jealous and to the extreme it's taken to and that goes on the person who jealous

But we are all human at the end of the day and jealously is a emotion like any other, so jealously can be turned into a positive like anything else

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Oh and to answer your actual question OP I do think that it depends on the individuals as to whether they can use their jealousy in a positive way to improve themselves. I think some people definitely can if that's what drives them

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Having experienced jealousy and the terrible things it does, I can't see how it can be used as a positive tool. Envy sure, that can be a driving force but jealousy has only ever shown itself to be ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Envy can be a motivator.

Jealousy on the other hand can lead to sneaky sneak sneak behaviour and underhanded actions, where people show devious tendencies to get what they want, regardless of the destruction it may cause. In my mind it's where they put themselves at the forefront and screw everyone.

Jealousy is a huge umbrella term which covers a massive amount of feelings actually, most of them stemming from insecurities. But a nasty personality and jealous tendencies it's the perfect storm for a big ole clusterfuck.

We often say we're jealous, of food someone is eating or their new puppy when in fact we're not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s negative. Whereas envious I think is different. "

This!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It’s a useless emotion that only emanates negative energy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair

that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!

Please don't!

smooth all the way?

D."

Smooth torsos and backs make me smile. A lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not hairy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Not hairy

Huh?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think emotions are morally neutral. How you act on them is a choice, and can be positive or negative

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?"

Purely negative I think Queenie....I mean some are jealous of me being a guy in a dress and say nasty things instead of being nice

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By *ink-KameraMan
over a year ago

Livingston

The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is the emotion of coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else. Neither are particularly attractive.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I think it’s negative. Whereas envious I think is different. "

I agree with this.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?

Very well put. I see envious as "oh, that's nice, I would like one of those", and can be a driving force to motivate you to get it.

Jealousy is more "you have that and I want it, so I'm going to do whatever I can to take it off of you"

Personally, I think it's a very negative emotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s been an influx of Lamborghini’s driving through my town and also seen an F12 Berlinetta, I *think* one of the boys I know is opening his gym illegally and letting these out of towners use it cos I’ve seen them parked outside it.

Listening to these cars and seeing them I get jealous, it’s more than envy, it’s like fuck I wish I had that.

Motors make me feel jealous. "

You’ve always been hot, but now you’ve been able to identify a Lamborghini and a specific model of Ferrari, you’ve just flown off the scale.....

Expect many marriage propositions.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm not a jealous person but I do get envious of people. It doesn't make me anger or bitter which I think for me is the difference. I feel envious a lot on here

I agree on that being the difference. I think it's possible to be happy for others while being envious but not when feeling jealous.

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By *wickermanMan
over a year ago

Staines

"The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is the emotion of coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else. Neither are particularly attractive."

Neither of these is negative for a person with strong sense of self-worth. But to those who do not they can both be toxic.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?

Very well put. I see envious as "oh, that's nice, I would like one of those", and can be a driving force to motivate you to get it.

Jealousy is more "you have that and I want it, so I'm going to do whatever I can to take it off of you"

Personally, I think it's a very negative emotion "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both jealousy and envy were considered Deadly Sins for good reason, as the story goes that Cain murdered Abel because God favoured Abel’s sacrifice over his.

Personally I saw envy damage my relationship with my younger sister, because she thought I always got favourable treatment from my parents. That envy has lasted nearly 50 years and is still there. So much so that she deliberately did things to hurt me and my relationships because of it. It nearly destroyed my relationship with my parents because I confronted her about aspects of her behaviour and she made up up a pack of lies that my parents bought to try to damage my relationship with them. They were always trying to make up for the favouritism she accused them of and believed her despite solid, witnessed evidence to the contrary. It took a long time to heal that rift and for them to see her from a different perspective and take off the tinted glasses. Thankfully I found a way to help the family relationships to operate in a more healthy way, but my sister still hasn’t forgiven me really, so it’s always a bit weird.

The French though use the term ‘Emulation’ which literally means jealousy or envy, but they use it often in a positive way as a process to inspire greater achievements by learning from the best. We see it so often in all walks of life from Sport, to how to handle Covid effectively, to how to develop yourself etc..etc..

So in that sense it can be healthy.

However our use of the words jealousy and envy are more imbued with dark emotional meaning.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Jealousy is a negative emotion and can be very bitter and destructive. There is no place for it as far as I am concerned.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It depends on the nature of either I guess and how they manifest themselves, but I don’t think either are a particularly endearing quality.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Depends how it manifests.

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