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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thoughts

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I think the answer to this one is “maybe, but some reserve the right to not meet them”

A few would like to reserve the right to castrate them without anaesthetic and a few don’t mind at all, so I’m taking an average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes....especially if they're not getting the good stuff at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anyone who is over 18 who sticks to rules is entitled to be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also why only married men and married women?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Also why only married men and married women?"

Exactly ... socksy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also why only married men and married women?"

Did you not know it’s ok for married women to be on here as it’s hot? But if you're a married man you’re a cheating scumbag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also why only married men and married women?

Exactly ... socksy "

See im not just a pair of socks.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Also why only married men and married women?

Exactly ... socksy

See im not just a pair of socks. "

Well no, there are feet in them also

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also why only married men and married women?

Did you not know it’s ok for married women to be on here as it’s hot? But if you're a married man you’re a cheating scumbag. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you mean...married and sneaking around behind their other halfs back...cause I'm married..and we are both here..with a joint profile and solo ones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also why only married men and married women?

Exactly ... socksy

See im not just a pair of socks.

Well no, there are feet in them also "

Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course they should. How else would anyone who's married be able to swing it is a swingers site after all! Its practically a site made for them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, they should. It's not our (as in fab members) job to say what married people can or can't do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well OP I'm getting married (when he finally gets round to asking me)

So should I be allowed to stay but he has leave?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Everyone has a right and their own reasons for being here which shouldn't be subjected to judgement. Do your own thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called choices!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Also why only married men and married women?

Exactly ... socksy

See im not just a pair of socks.

Well no, there are feet in them also

Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning. "

That's not the first time I've heard that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the answer to this one is “maybe, but some reserve the right to not meet them”

A few would like to reserve the right to castrate them without anaesthetic and a few don’t mind at all, so I’m taking an average "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also why only married men and married women?

Exactly ... socksy

See im not just a pair of socks.

Well no, there are feet in them also

Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning.

That's not the first time I've heard that "

I nearly spat my coffee out then.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Yes.

Have a nice day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. They should be fixing the car.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes of course they should. How else would anyone who's married be able to swing it is a swingers site after all! Its practically a site made for them "

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Also why only married men and married women?

Exactly ... socksy

See im not just a pair of socks.

Well no, there are feet in them also

Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning.

That's not the first time I've heard that

I nearly spat my coffee out then. "

My work is therefore done ... again ... not the first time ice said that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ironic how you query married men when your tagged as "Wife Teaser"

So who's wife are you teasing then? So it's ok for Wives to be here then.

People are here from all kinds of backgrounds... Not our place to judge I don't think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. They should be fixing the car. "

What if they don't have a car?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ironic how you query married men when your tagged as "Wife Teaser"

So who's wife are you teasing then? So it's ok for Wives to be here then.

People are here from all kinds of backgrounds... Not our place to judge I don't think"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here? "

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. They should be fixing the car.

What if they don't have a car?"

Then they should find a car that needs fixing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here?

Nope "

Yes of course they do but only to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes.

Have a nice day. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. They should be fixing the car. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ironic how you query married men when your tagged as "Wife Teaser"

So who's wife are you teasing then? So it's ok for Wives to be here then.

People are here from all kinds of backgrounds... Not our place to judge I don't think"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here?

Nope

Yes of course they do but only to themselves. "

. Although a lot even struggle with that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here?

Nope "

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, are you married? Are you looking for validation from the punters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge "

This, this is one of the places where people should be able to be themselves without being judged, so long as were all honest with each other which I grant doesn’t always happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge "
exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By banning married men you are encouraging even more dishonesty. How many would join as a single, how would you prove otherwise?

I am a married 'scumbag' playing without wife's knowledge, but I dont hide that fact from people on Fab I contact... maybe that's why I am not chosen very often .. Fab is a hobby, it's fun exciting and quite often challenging.. much better than going to play snooker or any other mundane hobby..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that "

I dont judge. I don't live their life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah its fair as their wife is probaly out getting filled by me lol

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Why not? Unless you are going to ban the married women as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"By banning married men you are encouraging even more dishonesty. How many would join as a single, how would you prove otherwise?

I am a married 'scumbag' playing without wife's knowledge, but I dont hide that fact from people on Fab I contact... maybe that's why I am not chosen very often .. Fab is a hobby, it's fun exciting and quite often challenging.. much better than going to play snooker or any other mundane hobby..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah its fair as their wife is probaly out getting filled by me lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. "

This

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"OP, are you married?"

Fourth line on his profile

And the last line actually

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, are you married? Are you looking for validation from the punters?"
I’m married but I don’t think it sits well on here tbf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they should, just like married women can be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. "
we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. "

Neither do I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do "

Exactly. Wrong of me to say I don’t judge as I’m bloody queen judge privately! If it affects me personally or I’m meeting someone then yes I judge! There’s plenty people on here I wouldn’t meet for lots of reasons so I suppose that is me judging. As for judging in public or saying who should or shouldn’t be on here then no, nobody has the right to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is their choice to be here. But it is the choice of the person they are contacting as to whether they meet. Many (not all) see this site as "dial a fuck" (in our own personal experience) and take rejection badly.

We do not judge and are not anyones moral compass. Yes they should be here but shouldn't be offended if their situation, whatever it is, is off putting to other people

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"OP, are you married? Are you looking for validation from the punters? I’m married but I don’t think it sits well on here tbf."

At least you are upfront and honest about it OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do

Exactly. Wrong of me to say I don’t judge as I’m bloody queen judge privately! If it affects me personally or I’m meeting someone then yes I judge! There’s plenty people on here I wouldn’t meet for lots of reasons so I suppose that is me judging. As for judging in public or saying who should or shouldn’t be on here then no, nobody has the right to do that. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, are you married? Are you looking for validation from the punters? I’m married but I don’t think it sits well on here tbf.

At least you are upfront and honest about it OP "
why not be ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do "

I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of married men and married women in here so swings and roundabouts we all have our reasons

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of married men and married women in here so swings and roundabouts we all have our reasons"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do

I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!"
ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:

married..... block

face pic..... block

cock pic...... block

doesn't accom equals married.... block

distance..... block

argumentative..... block

harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do

I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:

married..... block

face pic..... block

cock pic...... block

doesn't accom equals married.... block

distance..... block

argumentative..... block

harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here

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correct ))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well morally cheating is wrong of course, but everyone is different depending on their situation not saying it’s right at all just not my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do

I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:

married..... block

face pic..... block

cock pic...... block

doesn't accom equals married.... block

distance..... block

argumentative..... block

harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here

"

Well, I call it natural selection!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless wife or husband is aware..they're all cheating scumbags

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By *azz26Woman
over a year ago

wrexham

Morally cheating is cheating and if married or in a relationship should not be here (but we all know it happens).

I am aware of both male and female friends on here who shouldn't be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless wife or husband is aware..they're all cheating scumbags"
I value your opinion x

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

What about married women?

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about married women?

Jo x "

It's not gender specific, or is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like guys that pretend to be single when they’re not actually single. Bit of digging and it comes out though.

Can’t really comment on women as I’m not looking to meet them but I don’t really agree with any kind of cheating or deceit and I certainly don’t want to enable anyone to cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What about married women?

Jo x "
that’s up to them if they want to be on here just like me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my partner knows all about my desires. I've been trying to encourage her to swing for years as i'd love to see her with another guy or couple, or even just know that she's done it.

I think she's incredibly sexy and a bit wasted on just me but she isn't interested.

We've spoken many times at great length and in depth but nothing doing. We had cam sex a couple of times with a couple after adding a profile on another site but most people who contacted us were too pushy, rude or just ignorant of what we wanted so she got put off it all.

She has said if i want that kind of fun then she will let me but she doesn't want to know anything about it. She would speak to the couple to confirm she knows about it but that's it.

So my question is am i a swinger or a cheater? Without knowing the person's full circumstances you can not comment, we are not all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my partner knows all about my desires. I've been trying to encourage her to swing for years as i'd love to see her with another guy or couple, or even just know that she's done it.

I think she's incredibly sexy and a bit wasted on just me but she isn't interested.

We've spoken many times at great length and in depth but nothing doing. We had cam sex a couple of times with a couple after adding a profile on another site but most people who contacted us were too pushy, rude or just ignorant of what we wanted so she got put off it all.

She has said if i want that kind of fun then she will let me but she doesn't want to know anything about it. She would speak to the couple to confirm she knows about it but that's it.

So my question is am i a swinger or a cheater? Without knowing the person's full circumstances you can not comment, we are not all the same."

No. You’re not a cheater

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales


"Also why only married men and married women?"

Because married women arent his competition

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"anyone who is over 18 who sticks to rules is entitled to be here. "

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I haven’t got the energy to read this repetitive topic anymore. I’ve probably read every answer up there ^^ 100’s of times before. As you were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think ANYONE should be able to be on here and feel welcome, and equally that applies to the OP, so perhaps ppl should ask themselves if they've made the OP feel welcome today with their "inclusive approach", innit......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also why only married men and married women?

Because married women arent his competition "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think ANYONE should be able to be on here and feel welcome, and equally that applies to the OP, so perhaps ppl should ask themselves if they've made the OP feel welcome today with their "inclusive approach", innit...... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course, why not? We've met married guys, they don't get clingy and just like to fuck n go... perfect

(Ps 90% of 'single' guys on here are married shhhh )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there wife knows they’re here sure. If they’re cheating on them? No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my partner knows all about my desires. I've been trying to encourage her to swing for years as i'd love to see her with another guy or couple, or even just know that she's done it.

I think she's incredibly sexy and a bit wasted on just me but she isn't interested.

We've spoken many times at great length and in depth but nothing doing. We had cam sex a couple of times with a couple after adding a profile on another site but most people who contacted us were too pushy, rude or just ignorant of what we wanted so she got put off it all.

She has said if i want that kind of fun then she will let me but she doesn't want to know anything about it. She would speak to the couple to confirm she knows about it but that's it.

So my question is am i a swinger or a cheater? Without knowing the person's full circumstances you can not comment, we are not all the same."

Based on the information provided, I wouldn't go behind her back to sleep with another woman. Said that, I wouldn't call you any names. If I was in a relationship, I would be fully committed to that person. Swinging and FWB'S are not my thing. I am not you and you are not me. So, the question I would ask myself is, what would happen if your partner finds out you are on here. Would she be hurt? Would you be able to live with that guilt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im married and on here? Dont get what your asking really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes of course, why not? We've met married guys, they don't get clingy and just like to fuck n go... perfect

(Ps 90% of 'single' guys on here are married shhhh )"
thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im married and on here? Dont get what your asking really"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends.

If they’re on here and their wife knows and is fine with it, then I don’t see any problem.

If they’re on here and cheating on their wife then I don’t like it, and think it’s wrong, however there is nothing in the rules to say married men who cheat cannot join, they’re within their rights to.

And those of us who don’t want to meet them, can simply delete message and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here? "

No. But many do unprovoked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that

I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do

I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:

married..... block

face pic..... block

cock pic...... block

doesn't accom equals married.... block

distance..... block

argumentative..... block

harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here

Well, I call it natural selection! "
naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Well OP I'm getting married (when he finally gets round to asking me)

So should I be allowed to stay but he has leave?"

Why wait for him to ask? Call today a belated February 29th and ask him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts "

If they have permission from their partners then fine.

Otherwise surely it is cheating not swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless wife or husband is aware..they're all cheating scumbags"

Honesty, always the best policy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'm wondering why you're asking the forums? Would the unanimous response influence your decision or maybe ease some difficulties in your conscience?

The choice is yours like most things in life. Just dont expect everyone to agree with your choice regardless of your situation. Take responsibility for your choices, good or bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op - in the wider swinging world i.e. clubs, parties etc you will find most people wont even ask if you're married because most swinging couples couldn't care less.

On the fab forums you will get a different view because some here dont meet much and a lot are vanilla singles who wouldn't dream of swinging if they had a partner because that would be cheating .

Just do you're own thing, visit clubs when they reopen and meet people who just want to fuck with no hang ups or strings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they can do what they like, same as anyone else on here

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If they are over 18 and they have decided that they want to ........ why should they not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner told me i should find another couple and wouldn't want to know about my times with them. Course she might be hurt but she knows i have needs and we are both OK with them being met if it means our relationship is less disrupted by me not pestering her to swing. It is only sex, not love that's the difference. A type of sex some simply aren't into and others are.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

AND............. why have you only asked about men ?

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We dont judge..and sometimes meet hitched guys....no rules ..no hassle meets from guys who seem to know how to play the game ...

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

PLUS.........

If you had asked a different question I'd give you a very different answer.

Are you a married man looking for others to salve your conscience ?

What married people do , they must work out for themselves and not try to say 'someone' told me it was okay when they are found out.

( im not talking about those with accepted liberties....... just the low down cheating gits. )

ooops......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also why only married men and married women?"

Because it’s obviously only blokes that are cheating bastards..... obviously

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Yes why not? And women and whoever else.

If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes why not? And women and whoever else.

If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere. "

^ this lady speaks the truth.

My 2p - disclose your true status then let people decide for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, are you married? Are you looking for validation from the punters? I’m married but I don’t think it sits well on here tbf.

At least you are upfront and honest about it OP why not be ? "

I’m not judging, tbh people’s marital state is their business, not mine, but I was curious with you saying why not be, as read a post where someone says you mention it on your profile so I had a look... where exactly? If it was on there, why remove it? If there’s no reason not to be honest x Viv

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think that yes they should be. I also think that some people won't like it because of their own personal morals and that's absolutely fine. As long as a person is honest and allows others to make up their mind, it's really rather subjective.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Yes why not? And women and whoever else.

If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere.

^ this lady speaks the truth.

My 2p - disclose your true status then let people decide for themselves "

Absolutely

Am I agreeing with you Dan? That needs to stop right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes why not? And women and whoever else.

If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere.

^ this lady speaks the truth.

My 2p - disclose your true status then let people decide for themselves "

This. I don't want to meet people cheating (no judgement, just my choice due to being badly burnt...) Anyone is entitled to be here but respect other people and be honest about your situation if asked. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a free country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do we know they are happily married men? Maybe they come here to escape an unhappy marriage, although they should be separated men by that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. They should be fixing the car. "

That answer made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no it's disgusting. No matter what excuses you have, sob stories or just plain bored, don't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, no it's disgusting. No matter what excuses you have, sob stories or just plain bored, don't do it "

Well said.

Tell the wife otherwise it is cheating not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, no it's disgusting. No matter what excuses you have, sob stories or just plain bored, don't do it

Well said.

Tell the wife otherwise it is cheating not swinging. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they admit they are, fine.

Although, I'd personally hate to be the poor wife who's husband is out having sex behind her back.

So, I don't really know. Morally, it's wrong but then it happens.

I met someone years ago from fab who I found out was married after we met. He said he was single. That was pretty horrible.

Honesty is the best policy IMO

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

They can be on here but they should be honest about it up front so people can decide whether to meet them or not, this goes for women as well.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

There's no way to police anyone's relationship status on a site like this, so married and cheating people will come on and will lie about their status. In my view it's ridiculous to say such people should be honest. They're lying to their nearest and dearest. They're hardly likely to care much about lying to strangers on the Internet.

Having said that, women are less likely to lie because they know most blokes on here don't care about marital status (a function of the rarity of women) whereas most blokes will lie because they know many women won't meet married men.

I appreciate some blokes do fess up to being attached. Hats off to them, but they're the exception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way to police anyone's relationship status on a site like this, so married and cheating people will come on and will lie about their status. In my view it's ridiculous to say such people should be honest. They're lying to their nearest and dearest. They're hardly likely to care much about lying to strangers on the Internet.

Having said that, women are less likely to lie because they know most blokes on here don't care about marital status (a function of the rarity of women) whereas most blokes will lie because they know many women won't meet married men.

I appreciate some blokes do fess up to being attached. Hats off to them, but they're the exception."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way to police anyone's relationship status on a site like this, so married and cheating people will come on and will lie about their status. In my view it's ridiculous to say such people should be honest. They're lying to their nearest and dearest. They're hardly likely to care much about lying to strangers on the Internet.

Having said that, women are less likely to lie because they know most blokes on here don't care about marital status (a function of the rarity of women) whereas most blokes will lie because they know many women won't meet married men.

I appreciate some blokes do fess up to being attached. Hats off to them, but they're the exception."

A few do to be fair. Or at least they do once you start chatting. It’s usually the first question I ask. Maybe they’re honest with me as I had on my profile that your relationship status is irrelevant to me. To lie about it is wrong though and that would really piss me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With permission of there partner YES

Without permission

No

Cheats shouldn't be allowed anywhere or given the time of day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah everyone should be allowed as long as they’re honest. It’s up to other people to decide for themselves if they want to get involved with a married person.

Personally I don’t like cheating and wouldn’t facilitate it but what others do is not my business

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask "
what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op? "

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Of course they should be.

There are many reasons why a married man may join here. Some will be here with their wives permission, some won't. We try to reserve judgement.

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By *oupleforxtrafunCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"With permission of there partner YES

Without permission

No

Cheats shouldn't be allowed anywhere or given the time of day"

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

not my place to comment! Their life, their choice ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not my place to comment! Their life, their choice ... "

Hey gorgeous. Nice to see you around!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op? "

Trust you to think of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op?

Trust you to think of that "
oh well I've time on my hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op?

Trust you to think of that "
you should see my tan

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op?

Trust you to think of that you should see my tan "

Yeah yeah yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op?

Trust you to think of that you should see my tan

Yeah yeah yeah "
well I'm not getting my holiday on 26th damnit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts "

No, just the wives

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