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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Ex’s are ex’s for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ex’s are ex’s for a reason "

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By *ilkyladyWoman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Hmm, because we forget what split us up. My ex contacted me this week but I remained nice but aloof. No way fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I personally would never go back it rarely works they are an ex for a reason. But only you and her can decide if you think it can change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But would she go back?

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I know people who have got back with their ex partners and are still together happy ever after so far.

Everything happens for a reason. Just make sure it’s the right reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking from my own experience here. I did then eventually remembered why we split in the first place. So all it did for us was dig up all the pain and hurt that we had already been through and got over once before

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"But would she go back?

I think yes she would, been chatting for the first time in nearly 10 years.

Isolation makes your brain work over time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it didn’t work the first time around, why would it work the second time? Obviously have no idea of circumstances, but be careful is not just rose tinted glasses.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Guys are like 20 years later, she was so sweet , the way she played with her hair , I still miss her..... girls are like, that one I dumped last week, what was his name again ?

Move on, it wasn’t meant to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to try again why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been chatting with an ex lately. Met up a couple times for a socially distant walk too! It's nice but....I dunno like

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

Is it better the devil you know?

I am a different person now as well and I think she is.

It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?

I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it better the devil you know?

I am a different person now as well and I think she is.

It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?

I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex. "

.honestly only you will know the answer. Most ppl on here will tell you to not go but if you feel it worth a shot go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years is a long time so why not take things slowly and see what happens?

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"Is it better the devil you know?

I am a different person now as well and I think she is.

It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?

I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex.

.honestly only you will know the answer. Most ppl on here will tell you to not go but if you feel it worth a shot go for it "

A shot maybe, it’s the thing of going through hurt again if it doesn’t work out that is the scary thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it better the devil you know?

I am a different person now as well and I think she is.

It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?

I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex.

.honestly only you will know the answer. Most ppl on here will tell you to not go but if you feel it worth a shot go for it

A shot maybe, it’s the thing of going through hurt again if it doesn’t work out that is the scary thing. "

Well that is a risk to take. But if you see that it doesn't go well you can stop before getting really emotionally involved

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If you split for a legitamate reason and you now want to get back together then you need to fix that reason otherwise it will just be ground hog day.

Good luck OP

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By *itonmyfacebookMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

I posted a similar thread at the beginning of lockdown. I have always had dealings with my ex because of the kids.

She has and still seems to be more chatty and stuff since all this malarkey started.

Different to you as I'm thinking just sex. Certainly no getting back together. Maybe she would if I suggested, how about it?

Good luck to you in spite of don't do it seeming to be the consensus on here.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"I posted a similar thread at the beginning of lockdown. I have always had dealings with my ex because of the kids.

She has and still seems to be more chatty and stuff since all this malarkey started.

Different to you as I'm thinking just sex. Certainly no getting back together. Maybe she would if I suggested, how about it?

Good luck to you in spite of don't do it seeming to be the consensus on here. "

Thanks for the advice. I might just not make assumptions. Hopefully use my brain rather than my dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did you break up in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever works the connection finishes when a breakup happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will only work if at least one of you has changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with the ex is always the best x

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her. "

Your asking a question none of us can answer but you, reflecting can be positive in times like this, maybe use this to tone to find the answer that only you can answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.

I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"Sex with the ex is always the best x"

Only did it once when we split 10 years ago.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.

I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity. "

Is it a lockdown thing and you get thinking about the ex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather shit in my hands & clap than touch my ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather shit in my hands & clap than touch my ex "

Damn he should be an real ashore if you rather do that than to touch him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I built an awesome friendship with my ex we never had so much laugh before

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"I built an awesome friendship with my ex we never had so much laugh before

We always got on more drifted apart. Always had a laugh. Lots 2nd time works

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.

I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity.

Is it a lockdown thing and you get thinking about the ex?"

I think for me personally reflecting on those times, looking at the photos reading the diaries (and watching Normal People damn that show is so relatable). I have come to appreciate the they have had in shaping the person I am today and appreciate the time memories shared as well as hard times together.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.

I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity.

Is it a lockdown thing and you get thinking about the ex?

Yes think made me a different person. I don’t know if she will like me now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends why you broke up. I shagged my most recent ex the day before Easter Sunday. We flirt often and send each other naked stuff but I put it down to lockdown flirting/boredom. I will shag mine again at some point.

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By *evensnipeMan
over a year ago

Dinbych

I'm 62. Over the years I have 'gone back' with former partners. Once in my 20's for a mutual fuck fest weekend which we both wanted and agreed it would end there when she got on the train home. Second was an ex of 16 months who decided she didn't want to live in the area because of work but came back a few times for FWB type stuff; I was in my 40's. Finally a sympathy comeback by an old friend after my wife died. She had not long been divorced and had similar sexual needs to mine! I was 53. Lasted 15 months till she changed job down to the SW. I have learnt to try and remain friends and so for me it has worked. The sympathy shagging after five years without sex (because my wife had cancer) was bloody fantastic!! I'd say make sure you are both clear about what you want. Having said that there are some I would not go back to!

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

You take care, some good and some sad sides of your story.

Still not a clue of the decisions, been asked to meet for a brew.

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

"Ex’s are ex’s for a reason "

Exactly this

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"You take care, some good and some sad sides of your story.

Still not a clue of the decisions, been asked to meet for a brew.

Maybe tomorrow is the day.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"You take care, some good and some sad sides of your story.

Still not a clue of the decisions, been asked to meet for a brew.

Maybe tomorrow is the day.

Social distance still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got back with an ex a couple of years ago and big mistake, as much as you think things will be different they never are no matter how hard you try, some people just aren't compatible together.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

It's great you still love her .. I always think it's odd when people say they no longer care for their exes.. although I know it depends on circumstances.

Love sometimes works better in friendship if there are good reasons why you're not together anymore.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"It's great you still love her .. I always think it's odd when people say they no longer care for their exes.. although I know it depends on circumstances.

Love sometimes works better in friendship if there are good reasons why you're not together anymore.

X "

Yes we were best friends as well as lovers. When we split didn’t just lose my wife but my best friend as well. X

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her. "

Sometimes...love isnt enough

MsD

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her.

Sometimes...love isnt enough

MsD"

This. If you can't make it work. You can't make it work. It. I know that it May hurt but sometimes its for best of both parties.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her.

Sometimes...love isnt enough

Better than having no one?

MsD

This. If you can't make it work. You can't make it work. It. I know that it May hurt but sometimes its for best of both parties."

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

Better than having no one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Better than having no one?"

Not much of a compliment to be with someone just so you aren't alone. Wrong motivation.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Similiar situation..I've gone back twice and she broke my heart twice but when I was with her I've never been happier and it was the best sex either of us has ever has.Been back in touch the last few weeks and we are clearly not over each other but it's not going to happen.

It's so easy for someone to say just walk away .and even if your head is saying that..if your heart is saying the opposite thing..its the hardest thing to Do.

I'm terrified I'll never find that happiness again.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her. "

Don’t do it........!

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her.

Sometimes...love isnt enough

MsD"

You would think it would though wouldnt you?

So much for all you need is love.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Only u can decide wether to go back or not ....depends why you split in the first place,

I'm not a believer in going back always look forward into the future and never behind at your past things happen for a reason..

But ask yourself this if it wasnt for the lockdown would you be thinking this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you don't ask yourself 'why' after meeting with your 'ex'!

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By *ajorwetMan
over a year ago

poole

My ex is my best friend, we split 9 years ago and remained best buds, we occasionally end up in bed, or at a club.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"My ex is my best friend, we split 9 years ago and remained best buds, we occasionally end up in bed, or at a club.

That’s good you if you can do that it’s just not physically connection but also mentally.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Better to have loved and lost, than to not loved at all.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her. "
they are ex's for reason !!! Never look back

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her. they are ex's for reason !!! Never look back

Sometimes look back to look forward?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on whether the ex loves you OP.

But then even love might not be enough...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s never the same... you can pretend it is for a while and be ‘happy’ but deep down the reasons that split you up surface

We all feel like crap during lockdown... make the decision once it’s over and your head is in a better place

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"It’s never the same... you can pretend it is for a while and be ‘happy’ but deep down the reasons that split you up surface

We all feel like crap during lockdown... make the decision once it’s over and your head is in a better place "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't hold out an olive branch you may miss out. If you do and she rejects you, you can then get on with your life. Good luck with whatever you decide to do

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"If you don't hold out an olive branch you may miss out. If you do and she rejects you, you can then get on with your life. Good luck with whatever you decide to do"

Thanks been really thinking and not worth pursuing at this moment.

I think mentally at the moment I am in a good place and think would really break me to get back

And then all go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have a 2m cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.

I am unsure whether to ask her back.

I still love her. "

Don't do it.

Never go back..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok mate,you must do what you think is best for you. If it's really over put all thoughts of her out of your mind and get on with your life. Don't be looking over your shoulder or thinking what was or might have been.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"Ok mate,you must do what you think is best for you. If it's really over put all thoughts of her out of your mind and get on with your life. Don't be looking over your shoulder or thinking what was or might have been. "

Drinking makes you think what a perfect life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't do it...

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Don't....just don't. An ex should remain an ex and if I had a time machine and could go back and tell my younger self what lay ahead then I'd have saved myself from years of hell.

There are so many things I could tell you that would seem hard to believe so my advice is just don't, your life of it was like mine back then is worth too much to even consider it.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"Don't....just don't. An ex should remain an ex and if I had a time machine and could go back and tell my younger self what lay ahead then I'd have saved myself from years of hell.

There are so many things I could tell you that would seem hard to believe so my advice is just don't, your life of it was like mine back then is worth too much to even consider it."

Fuck it ?

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By *iggydog78Man
over a year ago

London

If she hurt u once she will hurt u again FULL STOP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still love and care for my ex. I'll always lover her. But I wouldn't want to go back down the same old road. Time has changed and so have the both of us. We're not the same person we were. Yesterday was a different person to today.

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