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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Sorry to hear.

Hug of support.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Sorry to hear that, what will cheer you up, football back? Meeting allowed again, pubs open again

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

Hugs to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep positive fella, while it doesn’t help you there are lots feeling similar right now. Things will improve! keep smiling

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm so sorry.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Sorry to hear this.

I wish for better days for you. I know life can a challenge, but tomorrow is a different day. One that will hopefully bring you closer to feeling better xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

You need time to grieve, it was a big shock to you yesterday hug your dog and have a good old cry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey folks....just thought I'd share some news with you all.

After being so excited to come home yesterday, I got back to the news that my older sister had passed away last week after contracting Clovid 19. She was a retired NHS nurse who had gone back to work to help out a few days per week in some of the nursing homes where she picked it up.

Clearly I'm devastated but I'm more worried about my dad than anything else. Hes already had to bury my brother due to suicide, his grandson (my son) due to an accident and now his only daughter. He still has a step daughter, myself and another son as well as my mum.

In the past 12 months, I've lost my son and now my sister. My head has been scrambled for a while now and I dont know how muh more I can take. My dad is in his 80's but is relatively healthy.

My counsellor has vanished since this pandemic has kicked in and I cant get ahold of her. Thank goodness for antidepressants just now and 2 weeks off work.

Look after your loved ones, give your closest and dearest a call tonight and tell them you love them and please please plead with them to follow the guidelines and to stay as safe as possible.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am truly sorry about your loss. Your sister and your son both in such a short space of time.. that must have hit hard. Can you contact your counsellor and ask for zoom sessions? Or whichever organisation she is working for? Possibly call your GP and ask if there is any bereavement support in your area? Meds are all good to balance the chemicals in your brains, but they dont fix the things long term.. as I am sure you know. Just maskig the symptoms. You deserve better care. Look after yourself x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

That is so awful for you and your family and my heartfelt best wishes go out to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear your news. You and your family are having a very bad time. Love and best wishes to you all. I am sure everyone reading your post will to send you love.

Take care xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through.

I'm thinking of you xxx

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Hey folks....just thought I'd share some news with you all.

After being so excited to come home yesterday, I got back to the news that my older sister had passed away last week after contracting Clovid 19. She was a retired NHS nurse who had gone back to work to help out a few days per week in some of the nursing homes where she picked it up.

Clearly I'm devastated but I'm more worried about my dad than anything else. Hes already had to bury my brother due to suicide, his grandson (my son) due to an accident and now his only daughter. He still has a step daughter, myself and another son as well as my mum.

In the past 12 months, I've lost my son and now my sister. My head has been scrambled for a while now and I dont know how muh more I can take. My dad is in his 80's but is relatively healthy.

My counsellor has vanished since this pandemic has kicked in and I cant get ahold of her. Thank goodness for antidepressants just now and 2 weeks off work.

Look after your loved ones, give your closest and dearest a call tonight and tell them you love them and please please plead with them to follow the guidelines and to stay as safe as possible.xx"

I'm so sorry and wish you my heartfelt condolences. I hope things get better for you soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very sorry to hear this news. May you and the family get over what has happened as best you all can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to read this

There’s probably not much any of us can put into words to help you right now but what I can safely say is that there are a lot of good people on here if you need them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your kind words and messages.

Believe it or not, this forum has helped pull me out of a dark hole before from just getting involved in some of the random chats on here and by having a laugh. I'm confident that it can happen again. So expect me to still give out some cheeky banter and jokes as it's what keeps me smiling!

Love this place!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost for words...big love to you that’s so sad... xxx

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

So very sorry, one of many sad stories but you seem to have been hit worse than most.

Better times will come so don't despair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for your kind words and messages.

Believe it or not, this forum has helped pull me out of a dark hole before from just getting involved in some of the random chats on here and by having a laugh. I'm confident that it can happen again. So expect me to still give out some cheeky banter and jokes as it's what keeps me smiling!

Love this place!x"

The forums can be a truly wonderful place especially in dark times stay safe OP xx

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

So sorry to hear this big hugs to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sending lots of love xx

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm truly sorry to read that and you have my deepest sympathies.

Cruise have a helpline you can call if you need to speak to a counsellor. It's not as good as speaking to your normal counsellor who knows you and your background, but perhaps might offer you some support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from Cruse, you could also try contacting Mind charity infoline who do signposting to your local services. Hope this helps. I know you didn't specifically asked for it, but I'm worried that your counsellor is MIA..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bants

I like you.

Hope you feel better knowing this.

Yours sincerely.

From

Sam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to hear of you loss OP. I dont know if its of any help but some counselling is available via skype type of thing, maybe, you could look into that.

As for grieving- well there are no rules, but my inbox is open anytime, sending heartfelt virtual hugs xx

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

So sorry to hear your sad news.

Massive hugs to you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you folks! Was a hard thread to type up but it's nice to have so many messages of support. There truly are some fantastic people on here and only a small handful of trumpets! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for your loss, it’s not easy losing family especially so close together x

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By *ip2Man
over a year ago

Near Maidenhead

Oh, dear, I'm sorry...

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I am so sorry for your loss. This is very sad xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to read about your loss; it will bring to the fore past sorrows. There may, in the future as you look back, be some small consolation in that your sister died doing that for which she trained, caring for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah sorry for your loss op. Sending you positive hugs and thoughts. Even though can be crappy here at times. There are people who are genuinely nice and care and even just one person reaching out can brighten up someone's day or even make them realise they not alone.

Xx

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Sorry to great about your sister.

Sending you love and best wishes and stay safe vibes to all of your family xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is so sad to hear! Is there anyone else you could talk to? Any mates? Any family m_mbers you are close to? Stay strong bud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

Our condolences to you, your family and friends at this sad time.

Continue to reach out on here, continue to enjoy the distractions in whichever way helps you.

Take care

C and P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you folks! Was a hard thread to type up but it's nice to have so many messages of support. There truly are some fantastic people on here and only a small handful of trumpets! xx"

Onwards and upwards. It takes courage to do what you just. Men wont normally do that. Thank you for being a role model to others!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Sorry for your loss x

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

So sorry to read of your sad loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear this x

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By *ouch69300Man
over a year ago

beaconsfield


"So sorry to hear this x"

Chin up. Bad things never last forever. Years to come we’ll all look back on this period of time and have a laugh over some drinks obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So sorry to hear this x

Chin up. Bad things never last forever. Years to come we’ll all look back on this period of time and have a laugh over some drinks obviously"

Did you read the post?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Sending love as always

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I am so sorry to hear of your loss Mr Bants, there are few words anyone can say to make things easier for you at this time but you do have friends on here, genuine friends and people who care.

I'm happy to lend an ear if you ever need a chat.

Take good care of you and yours x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to read this , I wish I could say something useful but send love to you and your family x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So sorry to hear this x

Chin up. Bad things never last forever. Years to come we’ll all look back on this period of time and have a laugh over some drinks obviously"

I think you should read what he wrote before commenting.

It will NEVER be laughed about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So sorry to hear this x

Chin up. Bad things never last forever. Years to come we’ll all look back on this period of time and have a laugh over some drinks obviously

Did you read the post? "

Just the title it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good wishes to you OP. There will come a time when the happier memories of your loved ones will be more than the sad memories.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Good wishes to you OP. There will come a time when the happier memories of your loved ones will be more than the sad memories."

Well said xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok can people just report idiotic posts rather than quote and replying to it, it will be removed as soon as it is seen

Also if you posted and mentioned the persons name I have had to remove those too so you will need to re post

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By *ouch69300Man
over a year ago

beaconsfield

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By *ug2334Man
over a year ago

newmarket

Sorry for your loss ?

I lost my wife last year from cancer, all I can say is be strong and there is always people to help..

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

My heartfelt condolences to you Mr. Bants.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Very best wishes to you OP. Some excellent suggestions on this thread and I can't offer any more than has been said already other than to give my support.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Gosh, that's such a lot to deal with. Sometimes it's good to pick up the phone and talk to someone not directly involved. Look after yourself

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Wow that is a lot to take in for you so sorry to hear that devastating news.

Keep talking on here, I know it’s not counselling but it helps to keep chatting. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That is so sad to hear! Is there anyone else you could talk to? Any mates? Any family m_mbers you are close to? Stay strong bud! "

Yes I have many friends and family that I can chat with thankfully. Sometimes it's nice to chat with people who are impartial too though. Thank you for your words pal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry.

Sending love xx

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in


"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]"
not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my I'm so so sorry. Sending strength and hugs. Take care of yourself.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Omg what a horrendous time you've had..I'm so sorry.

I can't even begin to imagine how you're dealing with all of this but I have to say, your ability to talk about this shows amazing strength & courage. I have huge respect for you. I'm sending you a big socially distanced hug. I will be thinking of you & wishing you peace in your heart & mind xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat "

I messed up the original post but I did post it further down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some useful text and phone services you can use if you feel the need for professional help.

All the best to you

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in


"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat

I messed up the original post but I did post it further down."
ohhh gosh just read it , so so sorry , can't give you enough hugs for that and say enough, you've had a lot of crap to deal with the last 12 months so sorry for you, as I say my inbox is open it is horrible life can be really crap at times and you just feel there is no end to the dismay, massive massive man hugs xxx

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

So sorry for your loss xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat

I messed up the original post but I did post it further down. ohhh gosh just read it , so so sorry , can't give you enough hugs for that and say enough, you've had a lot of crap to deal with the last 12 months so sorry for you, as I say my inbox is open it is horrible life can be really crap at times and you just feel there is no end to the dismay, massive massive man hugs xxx "

Thanks pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give your dad a huge hug. xx

You probably both need a good cry on each other, manly back slaps and a single malt raised to toast your lovely sister. What a heroine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear your loss. X

But great you are shouting out and talking about it.

There is support... Many apps/gp/good friends and time.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in


"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat

I messed up the original post but I did post it further down. ohhh gosh just read it , so so sorry , can't give you enough hugs for that and say enough, you've had a lot of crap to deal with the last 12 months so sorry for you, as I say my inbox is open it is horrible life can be really crap at times and you just feel there is no end to the dismay, massive massive man hugs xxx

Thanks pal "

Pleasure , not empty words , I know a little of how you feel I've lost my auntie, a very dear friend of mine, and now my nephew is poorly with a virus as well, also not had a good year myself with health issues , so seriously if you ever want to talk I'm a good listener, but also you're telling it on here is a good step at least you're not bottling it all up

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"That is so sad to hear! Is there anyone else you could talk to? Any mates? Any family m_mbers you are close to? Stay strong bud!

Yes I have many friends and family that I can chat with thankfully. Sometimes it's nice to chat with people who are impartial too though. Thank you for your words pal. "

Yes that is very true, massive {{hugs}} to you. You have some difficult times ahead and I wish you and your family strength at this time xx

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Theres a big soft heartfelt hug beaming over to you.

Nothing can take the pain away,I know. I can only wish that you can know you are held in your grief xxxxx

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Jesus. Life isn't fair. Nothing I can say can even begin to heal the pain you have had to go through. I can't imagine how hard it must be. Look after your dad and yourself.

Sorry for your loss. And although it may be hard, your sister is a hero.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

So sorry

We have not really spoken and I cannot imagine the pain you are going through

Take care

Inbox open if you want to offload to a stranger

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here for you. Ill be a brother.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks again to everyone who has commented and/or sent me private messages! You've no idea how much you have all helped to perk me up.

It wasnt easy for me to start this thread but I'm glad I did and I'm grateful of the love tonight.

These times are difficult for anyone and everyone right now but I'm glad I reached out. You lot really are a top bunch.

I'm off to my bed now and hoping to wake up and get back to my usual piss taking self!xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Love and hugs stay strong

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks again to everyone who has commented and/or sent me private messages! You've no idea how much you have all helped to perk me up.

It wasnt easy for me to start this thread but I'm glad I did and I'm grateful of the love tonight.

These times are difficult for anyone and everyone right now but I'm glad I reached out. You lot really are a top bunch.

I'm off to my bed now and hoping to wake up and get back to my usual piss taking self!xx"

It takes courage to do what you just did! Words can be used to lift people up or put people down. Glad to see many believe in the former!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear man, stay strong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry love. Sending you some dragon strength from Wales x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks again to everyone who has commented and/or sent me private messages! You've no idea how much you have all helped to perk me up.

It wasnt easy for me to start this thread but I'm glad I did and I'm grateful of the love tonight.

These times are difficult for anyone and everyone right now but I'm glad I reached out. You lot really are a top bunch.

I'm off to my bed now and hoping to wake up and get back to my usual piss taking self!xx

It takes courage to do what you just did! Words can be used to lift people up or put people down. Glad to see many believe in the former! "

Thanks pal. Feeling better for posting it now and reading the responses I received.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

X

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Big hugs x

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