FabSwingers.com forum: Am i overthinking it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A girl I used to lets say fool around with when i was 19/20 has randomly messaged me today. We haven't spoken for 9 years and we are both married and living miles away from each other. She said that she saw my name on a friends fb profile and thought she would message me and has started telling me that she feels really bad about things ended between us, she loved me at the time but didnt know what she wanted.

Is there something else at work here or I am overthinking things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and block.

The end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your imagination is running riot

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Definitely, it will never even well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it’s her way of an apology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete and block.

The end"

Kinda what he said, plus ask your wife for advice innit....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete and block.

The end"

Totly this. Sounds like a lot of drama brewing

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Maybe she's having a tough time, many are. Saw you and now is being all nostalgic about what may have been.

Forget it, move on. Don't let it play with your head x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Don’t read too much into it, sometimes they just need to say how they felt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t read too much into it, sometimes they just need to say how they felt. "

Babs I love your boobs and I feel bad for never having told you

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Don’t read too much into it, sometimes they just need to say how they felt.

Babs I love your boobs and I feel bad for never having told you

Nippy my lovely that is very nice of you to say

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

"A girl I used to lets say fool around with when i was 19/20 has randomly messaged me today. We haven't spoken for 9 years and we are both married and living miles away from each other. She said that she saw my name on a friends fb profile and thought she would message me and has started telling me that she feels really bad about things ended between us, she loved me at the time but didnt know what she wanted.

Is there something else at work here or I am overthinking things?"

You’re both bored and locked down, nothing more in it than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there something else at work here or I am overthinking things?"

Sounds like a case of mind fucking but then it will keep you thinking about things for a week or so and alleviate lock down boredom.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Maybe there is, maybe there isn't.

Don't let it mess with your head though. Memories are sometimes best just left in the past.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Allow her, her closure, nice to hear from her, wish her well, then close off the conversation

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Just sounds like her after some closure and reminiscing. It's ancient history.

I had an ex contact me on Facebook years ago, told me she was sorry with how things ended, said that she'd got married, showed me a picture of the wedding dress then blocked me

I just figured it was her way, albeit a little strange I thought.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Maybe she's having a tough time, many are. Saw you and now is being all nostalgic about what may have been.

Forget it, move on. Don't let it play with your head x"

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t read too much into it, sometimes they just need to say how they felt.

Babs I love your boobs and I feel bad for never having told you

Nippy my lovely that is very nice of you to say

Please feel free to read all you like into that my love

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"Maybe it’s her way of an apology "

A few years ago I received a letter (this was pre email/text days) from someone I vaguely knew, apologising for how she once spoke badly to me a few years previous? I had no recollection of the event..

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By *lowersandcarsCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

You don’t know what’s going on in her life. Read and respond but without flirting. Don’t instigate chats

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Everyone's on lockdown, some will have more time to think (and over think). Take that into consideration. It could genuinely have been bothering her how it ended.

Was she the type of person who had agendas for doing things? People don't change much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that avenue is closed.

welcome to dumpsville baby.

population YOU!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete and block.

The end"

Best advice here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is there something else at work here or I am overthinking things?"

Nothing more to it than she feels bad. If you want to, reply and say you forgive her, wish her well and then forget it. There's a lot could go wrong here.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

We all have a lot more time to think at the minute so a think a lot of people with be reaching out, when under normal circumstances wouldn’t. What would be different though to talking to this woman than someone off fab? X

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Everyone's on lockdown, some will have more time to think (and over think). Take that into consideration. It could genuinely have been bothering her how it ended.

Was she the type of person who had agendas for doing things? People don't change much."

Some people can dramatically change over time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I give wise advice. This is on of it. Leg it mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there something else at work here or I am overthinking things?

Nothing more to it than she feels bad. If you want to, reply and say you forgive her, wish her well and then forget it. There's a lot could go wrong here."

This

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