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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests?

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me "

You little winker you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fact I only check winks to bulk delete them..

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By *andymanstuMan
over a year ago

lovecum

I do to show interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In fact I only check winks to bulk delete them.. "

You may have missed a good winker!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone winks at us, we might wink back if they're of interest and they'll message. Lately we've had so many messages, they're like buses, so we have been less inclined to encourage any more via the 'wink system'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I view a new profile I'll usually wink anyway even if I don't message, just really as a way of saying thanks for letting me have a look and a read about you

(I'm usually on stealth and it feels a bit sneaky looking at someone new without them knowing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In fact I only check winks to bulk delete them..

You may have missed a good winker!! "

I prefer one great message over 100 winks. oops I just winked at you

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

If i'm interested I message. Men sending winks to women is useless. The other way around perhaps a bit more successful.

I don't respond to random winks anymore. I figure if the person is genuinely interested they should put some effort into messaging as I do.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I have occasionally winked people and I often check out who winks me sometimes it's turned into something great others it's just gone nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never use winks or hardly look at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I do. Very rarely get a response though. I always check mine when I get them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not unless it’s a winking thread or someone has winked me. If someone has winked me and I am curious as to what they’ll do next I wink back. I’ve never had a response from the wink back so I conclude they aren’t interested. I’ve sent a couple of messages on the back of a wink too and never got a reply back.

I now assume that winks are just mistakes or a nervous twitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink at folk I might be interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Never winked and always forget to look at them too

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian


"No. Never winked and always forget to look at them too "

That’s me screwed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In fact I only check winks to bulk delete them..

You may have missed a good winker!!

I prefer one great message over 100 winks. oops I just winked at you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

Only done it once or twice but with no success...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i'm interested I message. Men sending winks to women is useless. The other way around perhaps a bit more successful.

I don't respond to random winks anymore. I figure if the person is genuinely interested they should put some effort into messaging as I do."

So negative about “All” women. I assure you I am quite different!

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

We are winkers

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By *eet_n_two_vegCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Yorkshire

We usually wink back and then follow up with a message. Seems rude not to.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I rarely write to men. Occasionally i wink

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have occasionally winked people and I often check out who winks me sometimes it's turned into something great others it's just gone nowhere "
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Winks can be worth it then!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

No not really...... I don’t look very often

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"If i'm interested I message. Men sending winks to women is useless. The other way around perhaps a bit more successful.

I don't respond to random winks anymore. I figure if the person is genuinely interested they should put some effort into messaging as I do.

So negative about “All” women. I assure you I am quite different! "

Just a statement of fact. Women receive dozens of winks and potentially hundreds of messages a day. Time and patience is limited to be checking them. So as a man, I find the feature useless.

With regards to receiving them, while flattering, a message is far preferable to a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never look at winks, ever, never have in 9 years. Never send them either. I message if I’m interested.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk


"I have occasionally winked people and I often check out who winks me sometimes it's turned into something great others it's just gone nowhere .

Winks can be worth it then! "

They can be but not everyone takes notice of them I have messaged a few people in rely to a wink too only if they take my interest though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people with winking disability- it's a muscle twitch. They cant help it. It might have transpired into fab.

That's my excuse.

I am a winker and I cant help it.

I agree a message is worth a 100 winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to wink, if they wink back I'll send them a message.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

I often wink, but rarely does it develop into anything.

I do check each and every wink I receive, and usually say hello.

If YOU winked at me, GiantKitty, I would most definitely respond positively!

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

A wink is as good as a nod.. We only wink back if we are interested in the winker.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I quite like a wink as shows that someone has noticed you, I don’t reply to all and totally agree a Good message is worth more than a wink. But I’m shy (sometimes) so will send a cheeky wink.

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By *ongrod9Man
over a year ago

colchester


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

Of course. It is what it’s there for surely. It’s terrible when you wink and don’t get even a wink back. Like say a week later. Absolutely heartbreaking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get any or messages first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have 27442 new winks. That’s almost all the population online at one time on fab! Might have a look now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have 27442 new winks. That’s almost all the population online at one time on fab! Might have a look now "

I double dare you to reply to the top 3!!!

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Have 27442 new winks. That’s almost all the population online at one time on fab! Might have a look now "

27443

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests?

Of course. It is what it’s there for surely. It’s terrible when you wink and don’t get even a wink back. Like say a week later. Absolutely heartbreaking "

It’s hard to reply to a Dick pic winking at you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have 27442 new winks. That’s almost all the population online at one time on fab! Might have a look now "

27443 now!

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

I really like getting a wink, so underused!

Often they lead to very interesting things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have 27442 new winks. That’s almost all the population online at one time on fab! Might have a look now

I double dare you to reply to the top 3!!! "

I deleted them all. Can only see Mr Bants one now and he has enough messages off me.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

uxbridge

Me definitely

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

As a man we see all the winks and mails so we’d respond one way or the other ..

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Total winker. Not that seems to do much good lol

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By *ouisebottomTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

I use winks as a way of testing the water, I have spent hours on here sending messages for them to get deleted straight away with out even a courtesy message back. I read people's profiles first and if they state they don't like winks then I will message on that occasion if they have really taken my fancy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have 27442 new winks. That’s almost all the population online at one time on fab! Might have a look now

I double dare you to reply to the top 3!!!

I deleted them all. Can only see Mr Bants one now and he has enough messages off me. "

Can never have enough messages off of you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to use the wink feature on here, yep.

I normally let people know it was definitely a wink and that it was not something I have in my eye....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a man we see all the winks and mails so we’d respond one way or the other .. "

100% a man is a natural hunter, if he wants a woman she will definitely know.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Very rarely if u do it’s because I’m too shy to message. I never look at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink sometimes usually prompts a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at mine yesterday for the first time, couple of nice surprises.

I even winked someone back

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian


"I looked at mine yesterday for the first time, couple of nice surprises.

I even winked someone back "

Lucky guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at mine yesterday for the first time, couple of nice surprises.

I even winked someone back

Lucky guy "

Couple

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes I wink at people I like the look of and like when I receive winks.

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By *ongrod9Man
over a year ago

colchester


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests?

Of course. It is what it’s there for surely. It’s terrible when you wink and don’t get even a wink back. Like say a week later. Absolutely heartbreaking

It’s hard to reply to a Dick pic winking at you!!! "

It’s better it winks than spits lol. Thought was chest pic anyway ?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No. I mainly wink if someone says they dislike them because I'm childish like that. I think I've maybe winked a handful of times with any real intention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I mainly wink if someone says they dislike them because I'm childish like that. I think I've maybe winked a handful of times with any real intention? "

I dont like them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only wink it's a game or sometimes I wink at my friends. I tend to bulk delete winks same as friend requests

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I only wink it's a game or sometimes I wink at my friends. I tend to bulk delete winks same as friend requests"

I can see your knickers.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t think I’ve ever used that facility at all tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only wink it's a game or sometimes I wink at my friends. I tend to bulk delete winks same as friend requests

I can see your knickers. "

Damnit, did I forget to get dressed again?

Nice banana

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a wanker.

Sorry, typo (or was it)

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I wink a lot not many use it I find though

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I use the wink a lot. I find it a great way to show interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, then again its also ignored as majority of messages sent

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We often wink as a sign of interest.

Less formal than a direct message and just shows that we like them.

Strange really as we’d never wink in real life.

If we wink you, it’s because we could see ourselves meeting you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both being quite shy at first, we always send a wink. If we get one back, then we'll message. If not, it's saved us all a load of wasted time.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"We often wink as a sign of interest.

Less formal than a direct message and just shows that we like them.

Strange really as we’d never wink in real life.

If we wink you, it’s because we could see ourselves meeting you. "
That's how I see the wink function working too. A simple tool to initiate interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

I have done and have had it done to me, I quite often just use a message now...

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’ve had winks from women whose profiles are hidden. What’s the point of that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So out of this thread we have learnt that winks work from women to men, couples to other couples or men but the majority of women take no notice of winks being sent?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink at profiles I like. Like I say on my profile "I'm being economical with my time"

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

And they don’t return the compliment.. Jesus, if I got a wink off a swamp beast I’d wink back.. just so happens I don’t get many winks and the ones I do are from guys, when it say I’m not looking for guys.. but they are appreciated, if some one finds u sexy, never mind who, then it’s a compliment.... so hun if u wanna wink at me, I’ll wink back and say thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So out of this thread we have learnt that winks work from women to men, couples to other couples or men but the majority of women take no notice of winks being sent?! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is wink

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

Love a good wink....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do send a wink but I’m led to believe that most women ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spend a lot of time winking but hardly get any response,but always reply to a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely use them for all the reasons above, Mostly ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well!

Cheeky fucking site owners

I just went and looked and I actually have loads

I reckon because I’ve not paid to use the site they don’t show on the home screen as new winks.

This is a good day.

A good day indeed.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Yep I use winks all the time, 90% of my meets have originated with a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9/10 profiles that wink me never respond back to a return wink or a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done, but I'll be honest I get confused by them!

I was winked by two profiles on my hot list, replied then nothing(fair enough in normal circumstances but they showed interest).

Nice to be appreciated I guess.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I never wink and never check winks...maybe I should. You never know who you mau have missed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually message but do like receiving a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

I do, very very seldom works though! But I am a blank avatar!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink at profiles who have no pics as a first step - my view is why should I send pics if they can’t be arsed putting them up themselves- I love to get winks and I always send a thank you message to anyone who winks me - it’s just common courtesy

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests?

I do, very very seldom works though! But I am a blank avatar!!"

That's got to work against you.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Nope

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By *lderguy4uMan
over a year ago

wirral

I'm a winker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've sent winks... Why wouldn't I lol

Most have led to some great conversations which are still ongoing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a wink every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive sent a few but never had anything back off the men I wink so I very rare send any now x

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I love a wink. XX

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By *imbo2007Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Definitely winker

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By *ongrod9Man
over a year ago

colchester

Has everyone forgotten the winky wanky bird???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So often I tend to wink at a guy who I fancy and then nothing! If I’m lucky a wink back. Does anyone else use a wink as I way of communicating your interests? "

Will wanking count?

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We primarily use winks as 1st contact, if we wink we are interested, if you wink back we will send an opening message with face pics.

Peoples inboxes get overloaded, not using the wink system is in our opinion a big miss, yea ok some of you just delete them and so 1st contact may never be made, but we are winkers for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We primarily use winks as 1st contact, if we wink we are interested, if you wink back we will send an opening message with face pics.

Peoples inboxes get overloaded, not using the wink system is in our opinion a big miss, yea ok some of you just delete them and so 1st contact may never be made, but we are winkers for sure."

I am still waiting for my wank. I mean wink!

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